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What I have learned !
I have learned that your words can break a heart . I am not all the mean things you called me ! But , I already knew that .. When you omitted information it always came back at us. Nothing is ever perfect but that's ok. You are your own worst enemy . No amount of love is enough sometimes . If you want real communication you need to listen to WHAT the person is saying . A BROKEN HEART is like a broken promise. But that's ok because what doesn't kill us will teach us very Valuable Lessons . Thank You ! Xoxo |
Learned
1) You will love again.2) Walk away and wish them the best.3) Never look back.4) Take care of yourself.5) Give yourself time to heal.
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~ that I can choose to focus on the good or the bad. Focusing on the good seems to come from a position of strength. Focusing on the bad, from a position of weakness. ~ every woman has taught me some important things about living, loving, communication, and the art of relationships. ~ that different people bring out different parts of me and discovering new and unknown things is kind of exciting. ~ actions still speak louder than words ~ setting limits and boundaries still comes from love and caring |
Listen to friends
Don't put so much of urself out there Try to be understanding Don't forget that your are important too Don't count on promises Stay independant Remember there were good times Focus on new beginnings Forgive~ |
love what you have, learn to look at things you consider negative in a different way..love doesn't necessarily mean you are bookends..the universe gives each of us what we need..find your destiny
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I have learned that sometimes becoming isolated is what you need to really understand who you are and what is important to you in your life.
I have learned to always always embrace who you are completely and find time for the little things to indulge in. I have learned that you simply cannot please somebody and giving them contol will only result in losing yourself. I have learned to be free and to trust in my confidence and ability to follow my dreams, to float above my path. I have learned that life and love goes on. |
My most recent epiphany is that one reason being apart a better part of the last 3 yrs of our relationship before it ended was that I could have Love without compromising my time...I was able to keep my life intact.undisturbed
I recognize this because when anyone upsets the current delicate balance I am used to I tend to become easily irritated and feel like their being invasive. Its honest...Oh course part of that may be taking 6 six classes and working and any distraction takes me from what I need to do then I get anxious... Hmmmm dilemma's OH and Its ok to block or restrict access to her and her family until I am ready to not.. |
When you stop trying to control, change, or fix people, and simply love them right where they're at miracles happen.
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There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go...
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Great thread topic!
I've actually learned quite a lot from past relationships. One, if I'm attracted to you, you're probably in desperate need of being fixed. lol! *shrugs* Maybe that's not fair but it is a pattern with me. Alright, let's see...I have learned from past relationships:
That last one is the most valuable lesson an ex has ever taught me. That my family, despite the fact they didn't understand me in childhood, would defend me with their lives and actually missed me when I was gone for over 2 years. Up until recently, I thought I was merely tolerated. I've never had a stronger bond with my friends and family as I do now and I'm grateful for every moment with them. I've learned priorities. I've also learned I'm very much a loan wolf. I've always functioned better out of a relationship than in one. Perhaps some day that will change but for now, I'm very content right where I am. |
Anytime anyone is kissing your ass when you have'nt done anything for them yet, you should be very suspicious.
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People can lie about who they are because they don't know who they are. We are all at different levels of self-awareness. BIG LESSON.
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I've learned to ask myself, Does it really matter?
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that anything less than 100% honestly will end in disaster.
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That i was a control freak..and needed to learn patience. Thank you! wherever you may be. :) lesson learned.
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That shared values and a commitment to team work are the foundations of a successful relationship.
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let there be peace after an argument~
don't put so many demands on me ~ too much makes me run ~ say positive words ~ not negative thoughts ~ don't repeat and repeat your demands ~notice I am covering my ears ~ notice if treating u right is a HUGE effort ~ ultimatum's belong in business ~ not when romance should be expressed ~ both partners have something to say ~ so listen ~ |
I think this poem says it all
After a while you learn
The subtle difference between Holding a hand and chaining a soul And you learn that love doesn't mean leaving And company doesn't always mean security. And you begin to learn That kisses aren't contracts And presents aren't promises And you begin to accept your defeats With your head up and your eyes ahead With the grace of a woman Not the grief of a child And you learn To build all your roads on today Because tomorrow's ground is Too uncertain for plans And futures have a way Of falling down in mid flight After a while you learn That even sunshine burns if you get too much So you plant your own garden And decorate your own soul Instead of waiting For someone to bring you flowers And you learn That you really can endure That you are really strong And you really do have worth And you learn and you learn With every good bye you learn. Veronica A. Shoffstall |
I've learned anger isn't always founded in hurt and when it's present, it's not a good fit. I see that I'm capable of losing my identity and ... I shouldn't write poetry. Most importantly, the manner in which I walk away is as important, maybe more so, as the manner I walk towards. I don't get a second chance to do that right.
On the flip side, I've learned I can choose what I react to. I am capable of giving what I want in return. And ...I want to give. |
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