hi im new here
 

i just joined here. im in buffalo, ny. single. looking for a 35+ femme within maybe 250 miles of me. there are no femmes in my area, at all. i am not into bdsm. im romantic, i express my emotions. i love the arts. im handy. i can cook too. also looking for freinds. franki

New Member :)
 

Hi Folks!

Well, as today's my 40th birthday, I guess I'm a newbie to your thread!
Glad to be here :) Guess I'll hang out & lurk awhile to see what you're all about.

Take care!

DressyFemme

Happy Birthday your still young !

Chiming in
 

Hi! I'm a (very) newcomer to the site, having joined just today. However, I have been warmly welcomed by so many people, and I feel as if somehow I have stumbled into something I may have been wanting for quite some time....a warm and welcoming community.

Having just turned 50 last November, I'm sitting solidly in the middle of the '40s, 50s, 60s' qualifications! I'm letting my silver hair grow in (after years of coloring it). I've taken up yoga, become a vegan (vegetarian if nothing vegan is available), and am absolutely reveling in being a Fierce Fifty-something Femme. :)

Hoping everybody is getting at least a taste of the long-awaited springtime.....here in NM, that means ~~WIND~~ in a big way, but at least it's getting warmer.

Looking forward to many conversations and perhaps friendships!

Hey,DressFemme,
I know you and your gal. I use to go to Open arms in Roch. This is a very nice group of people on here. I'm sure you will like it here. We care about each other here.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!,
blueeyes226_l

Happy Birthday and Welcome to the new people. It has been quiet in here too long. Beautiful day here and I have to repot some plants when it cools off a little more. Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend. I miss hearing about all of your days, but hope you are all just very busy having fun.

unexpectedly lonely
 

greetings, everyone! i am new to this thread, will be turning 50 in May. while i do not mind getting older, i find myself getting enexpectedly lonely for company, specifically for that of a special butch in my life. i had thought to be perfectly content in the company of my room-mate (a lesbian friend, not B/f), my dog companions, and a newfound Elder Grandfather (not blood-related). lately i have found myself wishing for that someone who found me special, charming, pretty...who would send me good morning emails (for the relationship would probably have to start online,due to my relative geographical isolation), call me just because Hy wanted to hear my voice and knew i would want to hear Hys. Someone, who when we met, would have old-fashioned manners and treat me like a lady. i find myself missing the touch of Hym, even just the brief brush of my back as Hy pulls out my chair. the promise of more intimate contact in our eyes as we gaze at each other during our conversations, getting to know one another...
at this time in my life, i had thought to be concentrated on my inner studies, finding a Taoist or Buddhist community to join. i had not thought to missing...Hym. i had-or thought i had-relinquished romance to the first half of my life. now these feelings are coming unbidden back into my life. i didn't even want them. but here they are now, not to banished or fought against, but accepted. funny as i'm turning 50.
i realize that this is not much of an introduction. i will come back to this thread and do that at another time. thank you, whoever reads this, for joining me briefly in this surprising place of the heart in which i have found myself.
namaste,
DamselFly (though at 50, i really should be DameFly, LoL. i've always liked dragonflies and found the name of the female dragonfly to be lovely, hence my nick.) (w)

Good Evening. So glad to see more posting here. Welcome Damsel. It's never too late for love. Good advice Luv. When I finish school and pay off all these bills, I'll be able to get out and join the dating pool. It feels like a long way off right now,but where there's life there's hope. For now I'm just going to enjoy the journey and the online company of you lovely femmes and butches. Have a wonderful week everyone.

Welcome Damselfly. Your name is beautiful. I'm not very active on this thread but I do keep up with the posts. Your entry strikes a chord with me today. I'm in the same space as you right now. I'm surprised that I still long for that special butch to be in my life. However, I seem to have drifted toward those who are emotionally unavailable. I want a different kind of lover in my life now as I get older. I turned 60 in January and am retired. Recently, I've had to deal with helping to care for someone in my family who has been very sick, my older sister. It's been a life lesson on aging. It's hard because I feel as though I'm not finished with the lessons of youth and middle age and now I have to start to learn even more and different stuff. It's inevitable, I know, and hopefully will get easier. Betty Davis gave us what I now think is the wisest quote: "Old age, it's not for sissies." Hang in there Damsel, there's more to come.

Not alone
 

Hey everyone, as we get older I think 40 is the new 20 :), so we are all in good shape right? I will turn 57 next month and I can say my two little one certainly keep me from worrying about it, however it would be nice to share the "grown up" things with someone special for sure. I am an eternal optimist and know it will happen....keep the faith everyone :).:bunchflowers:

If 40 is the new 20, then I will soon be 40:-) LOL, I really would not want to go backward in age.

Last year, a few weeks after my 59th birthday, I realized that I wanted and needed to make some personal changes if I plan on staying healthy in my third act (as Jane Fonda calls life after 60). The biggest change would be to get a grip on my eating so I could loose the 90lbs. I gained after I quit smoking a few years ago.

Now, here I am about 2 1/2 months away from my 60th B-day, 50lbs lighter and dancing every day. Now, I am not doing any fancy exercise type dancing, and I am not a "dancer" in the sense of having studied ballet or modern dance. No, I just dance. Thanks to a young Queer man I know (young as in 18), I now have a long YouTube playlist of some of the hottest Top 40 pop music vids, around. Admittedly, some of the vids Michael sent me links to, are not in my playlist because the lyrics are a bit too raunchy for me. However, the ones I've kept are not exactly tame and I don't really care. It is the beat I'm after. The beat that makes me jump up out of my seat and dance.

Try it, it is rejuvenating:-)

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