Hi everyone! I'm over 50 and live in Toledo, Ohio. Looking to make some new friends.

afternooners strangers .. :)
its been a long long time.
its nice to see all of you here.
and wow a 2015 get together ?? i wish i could make it to that :(
im in the process of saving $$ for a trip to Dallas texas next april.... working on getting booked into the deep alum art fest. :) for next april.
........
in other news guess i have a lot of catching up to do :) heh

Lofters
 

Hi Lofters!

I hope everyone is doing well. It is Friday night my favorite night of the week.
I hope that we have a good group of Lofter's at the Vegas PARTY!

See you there,
Chad

Helllooooo,,,,,,,??

Anyone still drop by here these days ?

I have chocolate ! :chocolate:

Hi Daisy Chain. I rarely ever come post here, and haven't seen much activity here either. Try the singles thread, they seem to post more actively there.

Hi Daisy Chain!

A threads only dead if no one posts...and here we are.

TruTexan, this is for all folks getting up there in age..lol...not a singles thread!

Soooo, anyone have a topic they want to throw out? Hot flashes, retirement here/near?

Thank you for the reply, hadnt thought of going there as I`m not on the market as it were !

Hello !! I notice a lot of the threads seem quiet other then the fun ones.

MMmmm hot flashes ! Here we call them flushes but either way they are hot and take some getting used to !

On the topic of getting older I have noticed of late I`m starting to question my choices in things, I`m a traditional classic kind of woman anyway but I keep hearing this little voice in my head asking, am I too old for this nail polish colour or is this necklace more for a younger woman. I know a lot of women older than me that dress far younger, mostly successful at pulling it off so I dont know why I should worry over it. I guess I have a new number in my head now and somehow feel the world views me differently !

DC

It seems the threads eb and flow...we have some really thought provoking threads here, but it seems people get busy and just want to have fun most days.

I haven't been able to carry off a "hip" or "younger" look for most of my life...i was born an old soul, and that comes across in my fashion and other choices. I always wished i could carry off the trendy looks, but i only wound up feeling like a clown.:rainbowAfro:

I have found one thing to be true through the years...if i don't feel fabulous in it, i don't buy it or wear it.

I'm here for chocolate

I recently turned 50 and am questioning my fashion choices once again. I seem to do that pretty regularly with each decade.
20th birthday - decided clothing was about more than jeans and t-shirts
30th birthday - dyed my hair red and started wearing makeup
40th birthday - changed my makeup and started a strict skincare routine, also got my first tattoo
50th birthday - I'm not sure yet

People have been telling me for years, "Oh, when you're such-and-such an age, you won't care what people think about you any more." I have found this to be true in some ways and not in others. I still care what people think about how I look; maybe it's superficial, but it's how I feel. On the other hand, I don't care if people think I'm superficial. ;)

Amen! Right on.

When i hit around 45 i realized i didn't give a flyng fig what people thought of me anymore. I still won't leave the house without my hair fixed, and the small amount of make-up i wear every day. Oh and since i moved to the desert, moisterizer is my consant companion; But, those things make ME feel good and keep my confidence level up.

I'm 46 and I feel old!!! Going shopping for a new dress tomorrow and I hope it makes me look younger and skinnier!

Yes I`ve had a few clown moments myself ! Thats a great philosophy, I should ask myself `does it make me feel fabulous?` more often.

I seem to have chocolate on the brain these days ! I always had a savory tooth but as I`ve gotten older I crave the sweet things !

I`m 50 too. I dont think its superficial, I think what I wear makes a statement about myself to the world and I too care about what people draw from that. I feel more comfortable in myself now in many ways than ever before but when I buy new stuff and my eye is drawn to more trendy things, colours, patterns....thats when I hesitate. Staying current and still looking classy for your age is a challenge I`m finding !

Oh no dont feel old ! Enjoy those `still in my 40`s years` !! Good luck with your shopping.... Ask yourself the MsTinkerbelly question...does it make you feel fabulous?!......Keep us posted !

Thank you all for sharing your thoughts. :flowers:

DC

My hair is medium-long; when I turned 40 I dreaded the over-40 short helmet hair that was de rigeur for so many years. I told my hairdresser, and he said, "Oh, honey, nobody does that any more." Whew! I feel like I barely slid under the wire. I've had short hair before, and I just don't feel, well - sexy! - without it.

Happy Birthday Gemme!!! You make 40's FABULOUS!!!

I know exactly what you mean I`m afraid, I had shoulder length hair but after having chemo its just starting to grow back, maybe 2"s long now. And I have to say I hate it !

Yes I`m happy to have survived this far of course and my hair shouldn't matter but healing is about trying to get back to normal {maybe a `new` normal}...and short hair for me...well, isnt me.

I know some Femmes rock short hair and are sexy and sassy just as some butches are as butch as butch can be with long hair. But I saw my hair as part of my femininity, Femmeness. I wont feel like me again until it has a little length.....I miss it !!

Yes I understand about chunky jewelry, I love it on others but fel too weighed down to wear it comfortably myself.

Cant go wrong with a LBD ! I love clothes with a 40`s feel too, pencil skirts and kitten heels.

Your hair sounds gorgeous by the way !

DC

I hear 50 is the new 40... that puts me right around 45... cool.. I like it.:pirate-steer:

Oh, and what is LBD?

Little black dress ;)

oh..oh..oh.. good to know! thank you!

You're allowed to hate it! Fortunately, it will grow. I'll cross my fingers and hope it grows fast for you!

Me too! I love the 40s hairstyles too, although I'm glad I don't have to do one every day. I did victory rolls and a 1940s outfit (including pencil skirt) for Hallowe'en last year.

I like it too - I'll sign up for that philosophy!

I bet you looked fantastic !! Such a stylish era....though as ya say, hardwork !

On the plus side my hair is coming back much thicker and better condition, gotta look on the bright side !

DC

Daisy,

I don't think you have to worry about your age in regard to clothes. I bet that what feels good to you and looks good in the mirror, looks good period. Really I'm just seconding the 'buy what feels fabulous' theory. I'm so glad your hair is growing back thicker and healthier. And that you got through the chemo!

I'm going through a similar time. I had open heart surgery in September and now have a big old scar where I used to let a bit of cleavage show time to time ;-). It's been driving me crazy and sometimes I feel ridiculous because I survived scary, painful surgery that fixed a defect I would have died without getting fixed and I'm worried about a scar! I feel a little better because I went to a play party last weekend and when I wear a corset the cleavage is big enough that the scar is NOT the first thing you see ;-)

However, I agree that part of getting back to normal is wearing clothes I feel good in. So in addition to getting exercise and sleep, I'm going to prioritize buying a bunch of tops that don't show the scar. AND a couple of sexy items worn in certain company which scream "Damn the damn scar - full forge ahead!"

I'm all in favor of corsets :D

Thank you for sharing.

I`m glad to hear you are healing,

I`m beginning to think part of the healing process is finding new `smaller` stuff to sweat other then the life and death stuff. Its hard to explain unless you`ve fought that kind of fight eh ? You have to get to know and love the new you.

Enjoy the days we are blessed to have is what I remind myself of....though I also allow myself the right to grieve my `before` life once in a while.

Stay strong and beautiful :rrose:

DC

Thanks to Daisy Chain, GeorgiaMa'am, and Clay for the sweet support. It's so nice to read! Gemme, you are so right. I will try not to make my story one that keeps people away.

That sounds like you`ve been unfaithful to us !!

Daisy :bouquet:

Welcome to all the folks who have aged gracefully!

I don't know about gracefully. I'm not dead.

Ha Ha I`m hanging in there too honey ! Though its very quite around here.

Daisy :bouquet:

i'm baaaaaack
 

Hey everyone ...long time no see