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~ocean 06-06-2012 07:42 PM

seduce them , pamper thir ego... submitt .

girl_dee 07-27-2012 07:22 PM

Keep it real! Playing house won't get you anywhere.

scootebaby 07-27-2012 07:35 PM

communicate...by any means necessary..be it face to face,email,text...just TALK!!!

be yourself always(unless ur roleplaying ;) )

let them know they are appreciated everyday

laugh together--loud and often

DamonK 07-27-2012 07:42 PM

Forgive yourself for your faults
Forgive them theirs
Admit it when you screw up
Try to fix it

girl_dee 07-27-2012 07:44 PM

yes! be yourself for crying out loud!

i don't want someone who agrees with all of my beliefs and ideals.

i respect someone who has their own set of beliefs and ideals.. it always makes me shake my head (and feel sad) when i see someone dive head first very quickly into the belief system (like religion) of someone else and within a day claiming that as their belief system too. It would creep me out actually.

Maybe that is how someone can appear to be so completely compatible ..... Yup that could be how that happens

Greco 07-27-2012 07:46 PM

touch
 
scootebaby right on!

I want to add to touch each other often, make love, f*ck often,
but touch every day. Hold hands, touch, kiss her hand, fingers,
kiss her deeply, hold her like its your last day on earth, hold her forever.

Take one day a week to be together and enjoy each others' company, talk about your goals for your life together...cook together, or wash the dishes if your not into cooking.

When you go to bed, look into her eyes, hold her, and tell her how much you do love her...I miss doing all of these things with my wife. So, enjoy your life together, you never know when it will be the last moment.

Greco

girl_dee 07-27-2012 08:01 PM

Goals, yes Goals, have a future!

thedivahrrrself 07-27-2012 09:08 PM

LISTEN... I can be terrible at this one sometimes because I have the attention span of a 3 year old, but it is so nice to actually be listened to! Makes me feel very lucky.

Look in the eyes often. Watch your friends sometimes. You'd be amazed how many couples can go a whole day talking without looking in each other's eyes.

Be appreciative and never take the other person for granted. Be supportive of their endeavors.

Like Greco said, TOUCH. You cannot underestimate the importance of it. For those of us not yet to the point of being together all the time, it's the thing you miss the most. Even better than sex (if there's any such thing ;) )

jac 07-27-2012 09:13 PM

What TO DO in a relationship...


Be present and in the moment

Listen with your heart as well as with your head

Drop the ego and admit you screwed up

Apologize with conviction

Dream your dreams together

Ginger 07-27-2012 09:37 PM

Don't get lost. Rely on your own center, not the relationship as your center. Put your oxygen mask on first, then help her with hers.

dixie 07-27-2012 10:03 PM

Laugh...often... :)

starryeyes 07-27-2012 11:11 PM

Hold hands, look into each others eyes, be grateful for each moment and just be happy! Don't sweat the small silly stuff because it jut takes away from the fun stuff.

One thing that my partner does that no one has ever done for me before is to make me feel whole. I don't know how to explain feeling "whole", but I can describe it as feeling 100% loved, protected, cared for, adored, cherished, honored and worthy. I think anyone in any relationship would want that, and I hope I make her feel the same.

ONLY 07-28-2012 07:38 AM

She knows you love her so don't just tell her , let her know why you love her.....

SS (f) I love you for the woman that you are.....the way you give of yourself to make others happy ( just remember you have to be happy :) )....you don't just hear what is being said, you listen..I love that you encourage me to go out and have fun and not be jealous...I love that you are into the mysteries of the world, the unknown ( and now I get to explore with you :) )....I love your love of travel....I love the way you smile, how your eyes smile....Okay I could go on and on but I think everyone knows, can see how much I love you (f) You are My Rare Beauty (f)

Ginger 07-28-2012 10:08 AM

Be clear in the difference between "settling" and "accepting."

In one, you compromise on things outside of yourself. In the other, you compromise your self.

I know the difference, and that feels good—but it wasn't easy getting there, to that understanding.

girl_dee 07-28-2012 01:07 PM

Wow that is SO true!

i feel we all have our own dealbreakers. Each time i ignored them things
went bad. Can't blame someone else because i ignored my own boundaries.

Sometimes i feel (especially in the internet world) when people know your boundaries they can hide those behaviors rather well beause they want it to work.

i don't mind compromise but the settling i cannot do.

Hollylane 07-28-2012 01:59 PM

If you miss them, or you're thinking about them...tell them how much.

Blade 07-28-2012 02:11 PM

Look both ways before crossing the road. I know this doesn't sound like it goes in this thread, but it does. If you look both ways before you cross the road you won't be blind sided

Mr Nice Guy 07-28-2012 03:45 PM

Treat your relationship with the respect you both deserve. :)

girl_dee 07-28-2012 06:54 PM

i got an awesome rep that was dead on.... if starting off online make sure you know what you are getting into because once the honeymoon week is over and the real life starts things and people can change in a heartbeat!

i want to evolve not dissolve!



princessbelle 07-28-2012 07:03 PM

Laugh about things together until you both lose your breath.

Don't take things so seriously, there is always something to smile about.

Meet in the middle, financially and emotionally. :hangloose:

Remember that sometimes, the deepest conversations happen at night after the lights go out and all there is to focus on is each other's voice. :)

Rockinonahigh 07-28-2012 07:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ~ocean (Post 598257)
seduce them , pamper thir ego... submitt .

I will defanatly second this.

BullDog 07-29-2012 08:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by princessbelle (Post 622637)
Laugh about things together until you both lose your breath.

Don't take things so seriously, there is always something to smile about.

Meet in the middle, financially and emotionally. :hangloose:

Remember that sometimes, the deepest conversations happen at night after the lights go out and all there is to focus on is each other's voice. :)


Develop strong stomach muscles so you can hold up to all the laughter :D

Okiebug61 07-29-2012 09:00 AM

Love each other for the now and for the changes that will come in the future.

girl_dee 07-29-2012 06:04 PM

Work out in the yard together!

girl_dee 11-03-2012 06:21 AM

have your own passions. As much as i miss Syr i am glad she is doing what she loves.

Absence really does make the heart go fonder! :heartbeat:

Hurry home Daddi!

SelfMadeMan 11-03-2012 01:39 PM


* Say please and thank you
* Leave your ego at the door
* Share household chores
* Talk positively about them, even when you're mad
* Be their biggest fan
* Always have their back, regardless.
* Be honest
* Be faithful
* Communicate
* Always remember why you fell in love in the first place


girl_dee 11-04-2012 08:11 PM

eat meals together, like at the table, without electronics. One on one company is lots of fun!

Greco 11-05-2012 10:28 AM

buds
 
Have fun with your "Buds", give her space, then return and let her enjoy seducing you.

Greco

Sachita 11-05-2012 10:43 AM

Build a garden together

cinnamongrrl 11-05-2012 10:54 AM

Have date nights whenever possible...even years down the road....

And ALWAYS make time to snuggle.....

:moonstars:

StrongButch 11-05-2012 11:03 AM

What to do
 
Dont only tell her you love her. Show her!

Teddybear 11-05-2012 11:22 AM

Remember they are JUST as important as u are if not more so. Know that every day could be ur last so make sure they KNOW u love them and cherish them and yall as a cpl
I have the honor to be in a different type of relationship then I have ever been in and I'm so happy that she values our time together also

Julien 11-05-2012 04:32 PM

It is so important to listen to what the other person has to say not just hearing their words, but to listen to and be tuned in to what they are telling you. With that being said, it is important to be honest and build trust with the other individual. :praying:

Soon 11-05-2012 04:36 PM

give each other space
laugh
let some things go--not everything needs to be *discussed*

girl_dee 11-05-2012 05:02 PM

don't let them make a fool out of themselves!!

Scottish MacDaddy 11-05-2012 05:26 PM

Be mad at all times.....

Give mad love, mad respect and mad honesty... the rest will follow

girl_dee 11-06-2012 08:02 PM

support each other's passions!

:perv:

Fatale 11-06-2012 08:30 PM

Challenge each other intellectually.

*Anya* 11-06-2012 08:33 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Fatale (Post 693916)
Challenge each other intellectually.

Triple amen to this. So very important.

girl_dee 11-06-2012 08:41 PM

don't agree with everything each other does and says.

Have your own set of ideas, goals, religious beliefs, truths, wants, desires.

Otherwise you're just selling yourself out, and that's kinda sad.


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