Be kind. Recognize me.

oh absolutely. As the friendship develops and we start to value each other, by being shown I am very valued in way important to that person - and in ways I can understand and recognise (I like to feel safe, above all things).

If we are talking about what impresses us in the way they go about showing us they are interested, rather than dating?

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Self depricating humour, crusty, gritty banter, give a good playful insult and able to take a good comeback.

I think because we are all so very different it's going to be hard to find any kind of one style fits. Respect is not a universal understanding. it's very relative.

It's interesting reading, that for sure.

It's surprising to me how many people do this. They often do this early, before the first date. So . . . you know, no first date. But it's common. *rme* So funny.

really? I hope I'm not in for an annoying suprise when I move home... or is this purely an on line thing?

Unfortunately not.

I have to say I have encountered it more in CA than I did in Michigan. And Canadians have the rep of being more diffident.

right.....i know i too am in Ca

Takes a bagillion notes.. Needs more paper ...scribble scribble

*puke*

Instant turn OFF!

Why don't people get this? I am from California as well and have encountered this a lot too. As soon as this is brought up, they immediately fall off my radar![/QUOTE]

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RIGHT???

I dont get it either, low self esteem perhaps? self inflated ego's perhaps? over zealous perhaps? who knows but it certainly is most annoying.

RIGHT???

I dont get it either, low self esteem perhaps? self inflated ego's perhaps? over zealous perhaps? who knows but it certainly is most annoying.[/QUOTE]


Since several people on the thread have said they've encountered this behavior (declaring one's own hotness on a first date), I don't doubt it's out there, but I just wanted to say, no one I've ever dated has ever talked about how hot they are on on a first date or any date.

(Shaking head)

(Chuckling)

? Probably the same way butches do? I'm not big on someone opening the door for me or bringing me flowers, but I do like to hold hands or wrap my arm around theirs. Physical displays of affection are way better than all the other bells and whistles. Although, I suppose that would happen after you have established a connection with someone you are dating.

Oh fuck it. Bring me flowers and hold the door open for me, dammit!

since I don't date butch folk and none of my butch friends would say how 'hot' they are to anyone they are on a date with.........I'm a bit shocked this happens........

it's kinda icky and creepy just hearing about it.........

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Thank you ladies. I have been reading this post and im sorry some of you havent been treated so nicely. I believe if you ask a woman out you should treat her with respect,be kind,compliment her, and be attentive to her. I even say thank you for spending time with me. Good luck ladies!

on a date i am all about the B&F dynamic ~ this would be a given ~ if a date was already accepted. flirting w. eachother ~ enjoying a convo ~ kiss' ~ lots of kiss'

I have to say, i'm baffled that some people would choose to discuss "hotness" as if that's a valid topic of conversation. I can't wrap my mind around it! I prefer to poke around until I find the things they are passionate about. I love seeing the way a person's face lights up when you get them talking about something they care about very much. :)

She probably was just nervous and blurted it out in that way we blurt out stupid shit in stressful situations like first dates—but "low mileage lesbian" is creepy. You're not a vehicle, vessel or carnival ride and you don't have an odometer except maybe metaphorically.

I guess I'm saying No, I wouldn't make it my handle (were you kidding?), or maybe Yes, if it appeals to your sense of humor.

Or as I think about it more, maybe yes, you should use it as a handle if you want to present your low number of relationships out front and center because you think it will appeal to people.

(I don't personally consider it a plus, but it's not MY handle we're talking about...)

That is the funniest thing I have read in a while and never heard that before!

Low miles and gently used?!

Would keep that for a chuckle, not a handle:)

OMG, yes I was kidding, :blush::giggle:

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