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Discrimination laws....................& the future...
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My girl hasn't felt good today, serious BOO to that! One of my employees is having a really hard time right now, seeing this big burly guy cry breaks my heart. I'm having a GREAT season, my crew totally ROCKS. July is almost OVER, wheeeeee! Life is GOOD! So much to look forward to. Seeing DEAR friends and a silly brown dog in a couple days, can't wait! Damn I'm tired,lol.
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WTF why am I wide awake....
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Labor day weekend....all weekend long
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This article.
"It is amazing how many uncomfortable situations people get into and stay in because they are unwilling or afraid to admit that they've changed their minds." ~ Brian Tracy Sometimes the hardest thing to do, and the thing that can make a huge difference in your life, is to say "I changed my mind."
Do you know one of the main reasons people lose money in the stock market? They don't have an exit strategy. They don't know when to cut their losses and get out of a bad investment. They think that if they just hang in there, the stock will rebound and they'll make their money back. It seems to go against our nature to face up to a loss or a situation that is going badly and to make a change. Sometimes, one of the best things you can say is "I changed my mind." We stay in circumstances that are uncomfortable, unprofitable, unfulfulling, sometimes even dangerous, rather than taking the steps to make a change and improve the situation. We find it too hard to say "I changed my mind." What is keeping you from changing? Is there an area of your life where a change could do you good? Are you in a dead end job? Are you facing an empty nest or contemplating retirement and unsure of how to move on to the next phase of your life? Do you have a relationship on life support that desperately needs to be revived? Do you want to start doing or stop doing something? To get in or get out? There are all sorts of ways we keep from changing. Some are external constraints, some are internal. If I were to make a guess, I'd say at least 80% are internal. Which is really good news, because you have complete control over the internal barriers. Let's take a look at some reasons we don't change and what we can do about them. The comfort zone. The first barrier to change is our old friend, the Comfort Zone. The force of Habit is a powerful force to keep us in the status quo. Or as the old saying goes, "The devil you know is better than the devil you don't know." Often it is easier to put up with the situation than it is to change . . . or so it seems. But little by little, small things add up until suddenly you are faced with CHANGE in capital letters, forced on you by an emergency situation that could have been avoided. To replace a bad habit with a good one, take advantage of the comfort zone. Find ways to make it harder to do the old familiar activity and easier to do the new one you want to habitualize. Put the candy or the cupcakes in a plastic bag inside a covered container in the back corner of the top shelf in the cabinet. Put the fresh veggies or other healthy snacks at the front of the refrigerator where they are easy to grab. Bring home fruit instead of chips or cookies. Put the TV remote in a drawer in another room where you have to get up and walk to get it. Keep the book you want to read next to the sofa, where the remote used to be. If you want to quit smoking, clean all the ashtrays and put them in a bag in the back of a closet and throw away all your cigarettes. If you want to exercise first thing in the morning, sleep in your (clean) gym clothes. You get the idea. "Things will get better." This is a lie the Comfort Zone frequently whispers in our ear. Truthfully, sometimes things do get better. But if they aren't better by tomorrow, or at least by next week, seriously consider if you really believe things will get better on their own. This thought that things could be better can actually be your first step towards making a change for the better. At least you've acknowledged to yourself the fact that things ain't all that great. Now, visualize what could make things better. Get in a quiet, comfortable space and really see in your mind's eye the way you want the situation to be. (By "see", I may mean "hear" or "feel" or "think about" -- however visualization works for you.) Do this for about 5 minutes, at least once a day. Again, make it easy to do until it becomes a habit. "Change is too hard." Indeed, we usually perceive change as difficult -- that's what the Comfort Zone is all about. And because our perception is our reality, change becomes hard for us. However, if you change the perception, you change the reality. One way to do this is to dispute this negative belief. Here are 4 questions you can use to dispute negative thinking: What is the Evidence for the belief? What are Alternatives to the belief? What are the Implications of the belief? How Useful is the belief? Ask and answer these questions about your belief that change is too hard. Keep telling the truth and see if your perception that the change is too hard changes. "My wife / husband / family / friends / boss / employees / co-workers, etc. etc. might not like me if I change." With this statement, you are basing current behavior on a future outcome that may or may not be true. The fact is that some people may prefer the "old you", especially if the change makes you more independent, or gets you out from under their control. But consider that for a moment. If this is the primary reason for their interest in you, what kind of relationship is that? If the other person is mainly interested in what they can get from you - be that money, time, or love - then this is a one-sided relationship and it would behoove you to consider the effects of continuing this relationship as it is. The people who have your best interest at heart will become your cheerleaders as you take steps to change. "A change may make things worse." That may be true. But it may not be true. You can't say with 100% certainty, either way. A change may make things better. That may be true, but it may not be. You can't say with 100% certainty, either way. But . . . which statement serves you better? Usually, it's that "a change may make things better". Now, since you can't say with 100% certainty that either statement is true or not true, why not pick the one that best serves you? "I don't know what to do." Well, you now know 5 things to help you get started on your road to change. ======================================== “Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever.” ~ Keri Russell ======================================== Copyright 2011, Steven Huskey, Excelerator Coaching Services. |
I feel like I've been kicked.
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Just thinking how its amazing when a person changes and not necessarily for the better ~ yet when push comes to shove and they know exactly what they are doing, well, that just baffles Me even more :blink:
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Yikes.
I gushed about my great job yesterday and then ended up working until 5am this morning. :| We had 2 server crashes and my brain is completely fried from the deep level research. :seeingstars: Twenty hour shift? NOT. SO. MUCH. |
money......... im broke and have bills to pay, food to buy for my lil dog and no money
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Hmmmm...
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Leaving tomorrow for a two night camping trip. Just me and my tent in the woods. Much painting, meditating, and thinking will be done. This is so needed, and long past due. I am more then excited.
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THIS is on my mind...
I saw this and figured it would be something interesting to read. Then I read it. Then I read that they view domesticated animals (pets) to be outside of nature, therefore one of their goals is to "kill off" as many of these unnatural animals as possible. I'm reading more things now, trying to see what is truth and what is not. Wow...just...wow. If these things are correct, then I need to do more research on the organizations I donate money to. :(
In 2000, when the Associated Press first noted PETA's Kervorkian-esque tendencies, PETA president Ingrid Newkirk complained that "actually taking care of animals costs more than killing them". "PETA claims it engages in outrageous media-seeking stunts "for the animals." But which animals? Carping about the value of future two-piece dinners while administering lethal injections to puppies and kittens isn't ethical. It's hypocritical -- with a death toll that PETA would protest if it weren't their own doing." Pets Killed By PETA Year......Received......Trans-ferred......Adopted.............Killed 2010......2,345...............63...............44 = 1.86%........2,200 = 93.8% 2009......2,366...............31.................8 = 0.34%........2,301 = 97.3% 2008......2,216...............34.................7 = 0.32%........2,124 = 95.8% 2007......1,997...............35...............17 = 0.85%........1,815 = 90.9% 2006......3,061...............46...............12 = 0.39%........2,981 = 97.4% 2005......2,165...............69.............146 = 6.74%........1,946 = 89.9% 2004......2,655................1..............361 =13.60%.......2,278 = 85.8% 2003......2,224................1..............312 =14.03%.......1,911 = 85.9% 2002......2,680................2..............382 =14.25%.......2,298 = 85.7% 2001......2,685..............14..............703 =26.18%.......1,944 = 72.4% 2000......2,681..............28..............624 =23.27%.......2,029 = 75.7% 1999......1,805..............91..............386 =21.39%.......1,328 = 73.6% 1998........943.............125..............133 =14.10%..........685 = 72.6% Total...29,823..............540...........3,135 =10.56%......25,840 = 85.9% http://graphjam.files.wordpress.com/...ta-u-scary.gif |
Moments that turn to thought processes that turn into wonderings that turn into future endeavors/dreams.. ..
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Our son, Garrett(19), married *J* just over 2 months ago, in Michigan, because she claimed she was pregnant. He did/does care about her, but stated he did not want kids nor would he have gotten married. He was trying to do the right thing he claimed.
Once married they relocated here with us. this was for Garrett to get a good job, save, and get a place of their own. Since they've moved here this girl has been nothing but an emotional roller coaster. She supposedly is bipolar or BPD. Totally disruptive. Regardless of the amount of assistance and resources you give her she fails to do anything with them unless you call her out. Then she will temporarily appear to be getting her poop in a group, usually long enough for you to be distracted/forget, and then the cycle repeats. we have had so many conversations, family meetings, etc. it goes nowhere, but in a circle. Lies, blame, snarky, temper tantrums, truly seems like she is 5. Garrett knows she had lied on more than one occasion about circumstances, but the pregnancy and emotional side put it over the top. He called MI and they stated he would have to discuss with an attorney to even find out if he qualified for an annulment or if he would have to get an attorney for a divorce. He wants to send her back to Michigan relatively soon. Soon isn't fast enough for me. |
I just don't get people sometimes, I really don't :seeingstars:
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Figures it's going to rain today .... guess it's going to be a relaxing movie day. (We did have plans to continue my birthday...)
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I confess I can't sleep - I'm too used to going to sleep knowing what my future was.
Now I'm uncertain where my future lies, so of course worrier that I am I can't sleep :| Maybe I'll take up :cigar2: and see if that will deprive me of enough oxygen that I'll sleep :blink: Ugh - wish I could take Nyquil, I'd sleep then lol |
wondering why workers comp is messing with my pay so much...wondering if i wanna go thru the whole ordeal of getting a lawyer....wondering if just bc i share everthing i do,people i talk to,things talked about,if its too much to expect the same in return...wondering if things are ever gonna get better---or does it even matter....wondering if the colonoscopy and endoscopy is gonna be a good thing or a bad one....
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I hate money.....just saying....
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Its scary to think of what the future might hold, but I can't wait to find out :-)
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My dad,
He's not doing well. He has Pneumonia, and has been in the hospital since Wednesday. Today they told us he had congestive heart failure and his heart was operating at about 65%. Saturday morning, he went into a very confused state that they say was caused by having a low sodium rate, he took his IV's out, unhooked his heart monitor and left the hospital on foot. He thought he was at a hotel, and he was going for a walk. They found him a couple blocks away. It was very scary. He is a strong willed stubborn man, and I have never seen him like this....my heart aches and I am scared. |
While I am thrilled that children aren't being injured or getting sick as much in TN for the last month-and-a-half. I neeeeeed more overtime and LESS calling off.
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Wishing I could come up with a rational reason to call out sick lol
alas I cannot, therefore I shall grace the buying public with my presence ;) |
I am about to move to Florida.
I am leaving the life that I have known for 6 years now behind. Scared doesn't even begin to touch how I am feeling. The relationship here is so unhealthy and abusive but it is known and has somehow become my normal way of life. My friends shake their head as they see the damage he has done to me on the inside. Never mind what is done on the outside all of that will go away in time. The inside however they worry I have become cold and hard with my heart. Yes I sound nice on screen and I am respectful and I still have that little grrl part of me that holds onto hope but I know they are right I know my heart is cold and callased over now. It will take a strong person to melt the ice away and get me to trust again. I know leaving is the right thing to do the only thing to do. He doesn't know yet I havn't told him in fear of what will follow. I will tell him the night before and well... I know I will be fine. I am leaving the beautiful lake house that I love, the big fancy bank account, fancy car, clothes, furniture... the hardest part is leaving Ridgid my dog that I have loved for 6 years. I can't take him with me it would be such a huge fight with the ex that well.. i just can't take him. People don't understand its not easy to just walk out the door and leave a life that is full of anger and hate. It is tuff it is really hard and really scary. I tell myself "you can do this you are one tough chick" Funny thing is I don't feel so tough. I want to curl up in a ball and hide from what has become my own life. I know I will make it failure is not an option. As many times as he has told me I will never make it and that without him I will be nothing. I know I can stand on my own two feet and make my life happen. I will find work one maybe two jobs to make ends meet. I will have my own tiny place probably far from the lake or ocean, and I will struggle but... I will be free. I will be free of hate, anger, fighting, hitting, and the emotional pain that goes with all of that. I will be free to find the one I am supposed to be with. The one who will see me for who I am and love me the way I should be loved always. I cry I sit here and cry watching Ridgid sleep knowing in just 7 days he will no longer be mine. In 7 days I will walk out the door and never return. I am tough enough I tell myself. I can do this. I am one mean chick. My heart is cold and callosed so it shouldn't hurt. I shouldn't be afraid of anything. I can do this. |
On my mind...
I'm taking PDO for the next couple of days while Jack and I redo the guest room. We need to paint the whole thing and lay new carpet so that we can finish laying the hardwoods in the hallway.
I love working together like that. We have redone so much of our home together, painting and scraping and patching. Moving stuff around, crawling in the attic and under the house. Making it ours. I look around at the rooms and see the colors we picked and the furniture we have placed and am happy that it's ours. All ours. |
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That is one concept I have never understood. Why can some people want their home spotless and yet they that their - obviously not spotless - garage/shed/workspace has everything just where it needs to be? |
I am wondering why my once sweet puppy has turned into a jealous dog (he's a 1 yr old yorkie). I have a cat and he plays with her all day but when shes cuddling with me he gets jealous and attacks her. He has started doing that with other dogs too, and he knows the dog so im not sure why all of a sudden hes this vicious little beast. Not sure what to do. I dont like aggressive animals. :/
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I am SOOOOOOOOOOO happy to announce the aforementioned daughter-in-law is currently in route back to Michigan. Our home is so peaceful today. I sure have missed our home.
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I keep running through My mind everything that has happened over the last week or two, including what may be coming up in the next few weeks. I've never been good with relationships and all I've ever wanted is to have one that lasted for longer than just a few months .......... something more serious and long-term. I'll admit that I've been the first to rush into a relationship simply because I wanted to be with someone, but as I've gotten older and even with beginning My transition, I can honestly say that I don't seek out being with someone now just because I don't want to be alone.
I'm 31 years old now and I've gotten to the point where I'm wanting to spent My life with that someone special, not just find someone for abit and then pursue someone else. I'm not perfect and I've made many regrettable mistakes when it comes to being with a partner; I've often been a lousy one and it hurt those that I truly cared about. I'm tired of running, avoiding and hurting ~ I'm ready to give My heart a chance to be happy and to love someone without fear of running. I'm taking things slow and giving love a true chance to blossom, knowing that no matter what the future brings atleast I took a leap of faith and didn't back away ........... its taking charge of My life and My heart, which feels pretty good :-) |
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