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Mom's exray was good, no broken bones. She has her leg up and iced for the swelling. I am relieved. |
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I took mom to the psychological exam today and I charmed the doctor into shortening the visit by half the time. I think mom passed her test and is elligible to move forward with the pain treatment.
For me, I worked 2.5 hours and drove 6 hours round trip to take mom to her appointment. We did have a little time for lunch. Back to work tomorrow for another 12 day. Ugh |
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It looks like my mom is going to get the procedure to give her some pain relief. I will take her to the hospital for the surgery.
Funny thing, she called last night to ask me if I would take her to a birthday party in southeast Texas. The party is for her old hair stylist from Houston. My mom used to spend 4 hours every Saturday getting her hair done. I guess the bouffant hair style took that long. Haha! Her friend will be 100 years old. I said of course I will take you to her birthday party. :cowboy: |
my mom has done a complete 180. i’ve recently had some long talks with her, and wanted to tell her about Mel and my plans to move. i’ve been bracing myself for months.
She said she is so super happy for me, to RUN to Cali and not waste time. She said the fam will have to get over it, that i am entitled to a life, just like they have. (Easier said than done). We were on FaceTime and she looked away fighting the tears saying not to live a life like her, she regrets not doing things that she wanted to. i think my mom is a closet case, she’s been without someone in her life for over 25 years, and the two marriages she had were horrible. Now she’s fighting COPD and having a hard time breathing. i want her to live so i an have many more talks with her. Now i’m being selfish. She is about to move herself back the same facility she hated a year ago, and moved herself to without thought. She’s been in a black hole of misery since. 79 and still trying to find happiness, moving her meager belongings from one government run housing facility to another. Her Social Security payments are a joke, so it’s all she can do. She’s been so so miserable and unbearable, i’ve not always wish for her to live a long life, i just want to see her at peace. Now i want her to stick around, i’m enjoying being the daughter. |
my mom is not doing well. Her COPD is bad and my sister reports that she can’t get up out of her chair at this point. When i talk to my mom it sounds like she’s run a marathon.
i hope it’s just the stress she has put onto herself. If so it will settle down. my sister said she’s worked herself into a tizzy over her move and looked like she was about to have a heart attack. i’m checking in each morning and evening, and trying not to get sucked into the drama that’s she’s created with my sister. |
Professional caregivers can also experience emotional trauma. I have been out on disability several years. It's been awhile since I have been at work, but was a RN at major trauma centers in their Surgical ICUs for 30 years. Thought that any nightmares or situational flashbacks would be long past, but not the case.
Over the past year, nightmares have resumed with a vengeance. Have been having what feels like half awake nightmares. I come out of the bed in a panic yelling being in some life death situation and needing to get there right away. Yell that I should be at the bedside doing some emergency procedure. My thought at the time is that I am being extremely guilty about not being with my patient. I will actually rise out of bed with a start rushing around the bedroom trying to take care of the situation. A few times, my Partner had to work at calming me down and trying to convince me that I am at home in my bedroom. That I am not at the hospital in this terrifying situation. Once it took Her about an hour to accomplish this. These dreams have me afraid to fall asleep. I lay in bed with my muscles tense staring at the curtains fearing another nightmare. This is the worse stress related experience I have had, and could imagine having at this point in my nursing career. Traumatic nightmares occurring years after leaving patient care. |
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One counseling center and no psychiatrists here. We have a prescribing nurse practitioner. This is the first position for most staff and they move on. My Partner and I are trying to save money to move. |
My mom called 911 in the middle of the night, unable to breathe. They gave her some heavy duty meds.
They are keeping her in the hospital overnight to monitor her. She’s in heaven, she loves being in the hospital. She’s been sending pics of her meals and saying she wants to stay there. :blink: |
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I'm sure you already know this, but just in case and if others don't, find out if she has been admitted or if she is there for observation. Hospitals love to play the observation game, high profit for hospital retail. I went through this with my mother about 9 months ago. Admitted=covered by medicare, observation=out of your pocket. In my mothers town observing is $5k per day and they want her for 3 days/2 midnights. In our case they "observed" her so well that she was too dehydrated to kick out (4 hours notice/8pm before the 3rd midnight) they had to admit her and the bill got covered, but it was a close call. They admitted her for a broken rib which she did not have. :blink: The bill was $21k, after all her insurances we paid about $400. |
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My mother has taken a turn for the better physically and a turn for the worse mentally, I am once again making decisions that make me feel like some kind of ogre even though I know it will be for the best. Mom is taking this better than I am. |
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Kelt, a point of clarification here. Admission is covered under Medicare part A. Observation is paid under Medicare part B. Medications may not be covered under observation with part B but they are under Medicare part D. Insurance is a game. You have to understand the rules to play it well. :) One of the biggest things to remember is the billing portion is often decided after the fact by coders who may or may not know what they are doing. Another thing to keep in mind are the multitude of rules regarding readmissions/reobservations within certain periods of time. The "re" part says to Medicare you were not treated properly to begin with. That is an internal billing issue between the facility and medicare. If a facility tries to make it your problem, dont buy into it. Never pay a hospital bill that doesnt sound or look correct. Call and ask questions. Billing cycles do not always coincide with reimbursement cycles meaning bills get generated erroneously simply because of timing. If the issue is still not resolved, call and double check what you were told with medicare itself - every state has an organization that administers medicare. They can interpret the bill in conjunction with the rules. This usually resolves issues and makes bills disappear. The center for Medicare advocacy, completely separate from the actual insurance process is the best resource if you need to know the route to dispute a bill if the above doesnt solve the problem. Another avenue is to call your congressperson for help. Their offices have differently avenues to circumvent the game of insurance. Plus, it helps to keep them aware of the unintended glitches in stuff they approve. The bigger thing to watch for is the 3 day rule for admission to a skilled nursing facility. You have to have been billed as admitted for this is work. Otherwise, the nursing home/rehab is not covered. That is a different set of headaches but also not insurmountable. Just an aside, facilities cannot charge you a separate fee for a private room. They still try but it is an illegal practice. The reimbursement for your care is based on diagnosis not accommodations. This stuff was the most fun part of my job. There is something nice about being able to say.....you know that is illegal right? |
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I have only my own experiences and the bits of reading about some of these situations experienced by others to go on. I should have said upfront that I am certainly no authority on the subject. It's reassuring to know that Medicare part B helps with this as I'm sure it won't be my last rodeo in "observation". My mother has parts A, B, D, and medigap as well, this has been so good that there have been no significant bills over these last couple of years by the time things get processed. Something I have found is that even though there is little to pay, I do want to examine the bills in detail to check for errors, and to find out what is actually going on. Her town hospital has taken to sending bills that say "IP Inpatient" half a dozen times with differing $ figures for each line. So even though most of the bill is paid and I just get the little remainder I have established with them that I will not pay any bill until I get the detailed version, I have to call them for every bill, but they can look up the account and have accepted my terms. Thank you also for the information on the Medicare advocacy center as I am trying to see if there is recourse for another situation involving skilled nursing this last go round and you are right, that's a whole other kettle of fish. Two years ago I couldn't get my father out (he had a crappy physicians directive), and two months ago I couldn't get my mother in costing her 100 days of room and board benefits she should have been entitled to during rehab, we are out of pocket right now. She is in a private care situation that does not accept insurance of any kind, it is very good and she will now stay there going forward, it would be nice to get reimbursed for what she should have been eligible for though. The whole town was full beds and the hospital wanted her out but there was nowhere to go. Fortunately, I spent quite a bit of time with a lawyer crafting a medical proxy that is extensive and covered every situation I had so far experienced and some others recommended by the geriatric care manager I have on retainer in case something happens to me so that she can take over. I have had to confront the hospital twice with this so far and the roadtest has worked. I now have the same proxy in place for myself. I know you say this is not insurmountable and I agree IF you have someone with a clear head helping with or doing this part of it. This scares me for the elderly in general and myself in particular. My mother has dementia and there is no way she could even comprehend the maze much less deal with it. For myself I wonder about if I were to be badly injured or very sick, maybe drugged, and not understanding and maybe missing some deadlines or such. I am looking into maybe bringing a conservator onboard to handle my finances if I am disabled/incapacitaed with the accountant as a check/balance in that situation. This is all damn complicated and underscores the phrase "Gettin' old ain't for sissies"! |
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