yea what he said

I have a question to ask.

Do you really hang upside down from trees and pound your chest?

I'm a femme, with some age and I have to say I have never

EVER experienced this when dating or trying to get a date from a butch.

Is this how you see femme's?

I won't even go into the whole purse thing.

I have to all this oogey stuff being said about how femme's are or are being perceived to be is

rude and oogey.

I've been really struggling with how this thread seems to be all about perpetuating tired, and not so true, stereotypes.

I'm really sort of all about evolution.

I was joking. and what i was telling caustic is that sometimes femmes and straight ladies are hard to separate. so it would be easier for her to approach a butch so they know where she stands. and yes i mistook a straight lady for a femme once and got hit with a purse

*s*

straight women and femme's are two different animals.

and thank you for explaining.

I will be honest the stereotypes being thrown are offensive to me as a *femme*

I thank you for the dialogue.:rrose:

In my purse I carry whatever I happen to be reading at the moment, my new Nintendo DSi (woo!), a black magic marker, and my cigarettes.

I do not carry a lighter. Instead I just stand around holding my cigarette to my lips and looking helpless until some drooling masculine type rushes up to light it for me.

:blueheels:

I would say eye contact and a smile is good. At work it may not necessarily register to the Butch, some of us are oblivious. I agree that since we are more obvious, then it is easier for the Femme to approach. However if the Butch has some spirit then asking is an option. As a Boi I have asked a woman if she was seeing someone, pretty safe question. Or the, "I would like to take you to coffee." That is usually a safe neutral.

Hey *darlin'* let me get that for you.

Oh swoony swoon swoon!

I forgot to mention that I also have no money in my purse and I expect you to pay for stuff. 'kay? 'Kay!

melikes when Snow uses the word oogey. <g>

Your name is caustic princess? hmmm, that might explain the lack of attention right there. caustic and princess, wow. I am not putting anyone down for the name they find to use online but the word caustic doesn't exactly make one think, hmmm, easy going femme, I want to meet her. Or of course this could just be me.

C'mon now butches we all know that 75% of us are guilty of needing to be hit over the head with a two by four (not a purse, that would be too subtle) to give us the message a femme is interested or even looking at us. Nice smile be damned---come at me with at least a "hello" and a smile or I do just assume you're not smiling at me, you're possibly a straight woman, ETC.

Rope--

No. It's just sometimes I come across things that need to be edited.

obviously what i said was misinterpreted. i certainly didn't mean to offend anyone, especially the lovely ladies. while i am old school and believe in opening doors and pulling out chairs i don't perceive femmes in a certain light because each person (be it femme or butch) is a unique individual.