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jenny 09-19-2010 06:42 PM

I think there's lots of potentially good relationships out there for most people, and that it's mostly a matter of chance and timing as to who you end up with.

Tcountry 09-19-2010 06:50 PM

My take on ppl...
There comes a point in your life when you realize:

Who matters,
Who never did,
Who won't anymore...
...And who always will.
So, don't worry about people from your past,
there's a reason why they didn't make it to your future...

AtLast 09-20-2010 01:30 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MaggieBluIze (Post 194334)
It really should not take that OB
(you have been pushing that in my head for a while my friend) ...
And yes, unfortunately,
that is sometimes what it takes to get you guys to look our way
(not even trying to push and ask for an approach, just a look and we can take over from there, if needed).
*thinking I need to seriously make a trip to Home Depot*
:kissy:

LOL...

Yanno, some butches are simply shy and well..... a little nudge is needed.

Soft*Silver 09-20-2010 01:48 AM

I have met and coupled with, at two seperate and different times in this life, a set of brothers who have travelled lives with me.

I have been in love more than once. And I intensely remember loves from other lives.

I do not believe in Once.

I do believe in soul mates.

soul mate, in my definition, is someone who impregnantes your soul and gives birth to a contination of the Infinite that we left behind when we came to this earth.

They inflate who you are simply by being who they are.

like the clap of a bell

or the fragrance of jasmine outside your door

the moment it arrives and presents itself to you, your Self responds

Soft*Silver 09-20-2010 01:54 AM

and soul mates do not mean forever in regard to this life. When met upon in a life, there is work to be done.

in the course of eternity, a lifetime or two working on evolution together does not take away from love

it is the very thing love is all about....

someone says there is no such thing as forever.

really?

no matter where I go, there I am

it doesnt matter who I am with, I am forever.

who I share that with is part of my life journey

I change partners alot in this life. There is reason for it and difficult to explain nor should I try in public forum.

I know each person brought to me more tools I needed

and since the universe wastes nothing, I too, brought many things to them that they needed

I can be quite the earth monkey, playing around and throwing bananas at the passerbyes

but really, I work hard spiritually on this earth

HARD

and I am never lost for love.

DamonK 09-20-2010 02:31 AM

Yes.

You can have more than one. Everyone that is brought into your life is there for a reason. There is something for you to learn from them and vice versa. When that is done, things change, and you part ways.

There are cases, though, that the lessons that were supposed to be learned are NOT learned, and though you've parted ways, you keep re-entering each other's lives.

However, soulmates don't necessarily have to be romantic.

Thus far, I've been fortunate enough to have 2.


pajama 09-20-2010 03:30 AM

Wow! Lot's of great responses here. Really enjoy reading what folks believe and why.

I think I have to agree most closely with Softness.

I do believe in soulmates, as the complement to who I am. But just because they're a soulmate doesn't mean there's no work involved.

Also, to me, the love with a soulmate feels different. I have loved and been in love with many people. I have only been in love to the depth that I identify as soulmate twice. Once with someone that I have been with over many lifetimes.

I do not follow the beliefs, however, that soulmates are the soul seperated, or even that the soulmate completes the person. More a complement, but mostly it is a depth of feeling.

But yes, I believe in them. And yes, I believe you can have more than one. Get out there and meet people, date, fall in love, and maybe if your lucky you will come across one, maybe two, that will make that unique connection.

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girl_dee 09-20-2010 03:38 AM

my soul doesn't need a mate.

I prefer to think of partners as lifemates.. some come for a short time in life.. others a lifetime.. I find the term *soulmate* so overused it has no meaning.

there is no right or wrong but I don't believe in mating my soul.

I think some people have a *lustmate* and confuse this with *soulmate*...




AtLast 09-20-2010 03:45 AM

I am a fortunate person. I learned from two people that were indeed, soulmates, my parents, that this is possible. And from a relationship of my own. Now, that doesn't mean that give and take isn't needed, or that it all is smooth all of the time. And we have to want to take this journey and nourish it.


MysticOceansFL 09-20-2010 03:59 AM

Yes I strongly believe that there is someone out there for everyone and maybe you just haven't met yet but I was in a six year relationship the love of my life so I had thought . But things happen for a reason and now I've been single for quite sometime and I am sure one day I will meet another who will share my life through good an or bad times. :glasses:

Trinity3 09-20-2010 06:08 AM

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Originally Posted by sweetbutch26 (Post 194226)
I was wondering how many of you believe in soulmates. that there is that one special person for everyone out there. that there is someone everyone is MEANT to be with. i'm kind of on the fence. just wanted to get opinions from others please and ty :)

I absolutely believe that there is one person, that is the other half of your soul...I believe that they are your Twin Flame, one soul split into two bodies. Soulmates are people I believe that you have had been involved with in past lives (if you believe that, I do) that you have not yet completed the lesson with them and you will continue to cross path with soulmates until you learn that particular lesson intended.

However, twin flames, I believe is the exact other half of your soul and when you meet that person that the two half immediately know and feel it, it goes beyond chemistry, beyond that initial "Wow they're hot!" attraction. I believe it shows itself like the world stops for a split second when you see each other or moves in slow motion. It suddenly and without explanation feels as if you have become complete, like a void has been filled. You know what the other is thinking, say what they were about to say etc. There is a balance between you that just seems to fit in all ways.

So yes, I believe in *Twin Flames*

Tcountry 09-21-2010 04:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sassy_girl (Post 194583)
my soul doesn't need a mate.

I prefer to think of partners as lifemates.. some come for a short time in life.. others a lifetime.. I find the term *soulmate* so overused it has no meaning.

there is no right or wrong but I don't believe in mating my soul.

I think some people have a *lustmate* and confuse this with *soulmate*...




I do respect your opinion...however I have to disagree...
*soulmate* is the one person who knows you all the way down to the core of your being...
Your smile, your voice tones, your secrets, your flaws...& loves you Because of them...
The person with whom you can communicate with (without words) no matter where you are or what situation you are in, be it alone in the bedroom or hosting a wonderful party with all of your friends...
They know when you need to be alone or when you need a hug and everything in between, & do and say just the right things at just the right moments...
& the only person who can make you smile when you really want to cry...
YES...it is rare to have someone know you so well...and you know them that well in return...but definitely someone who really makes you FEEL complete, not just happy or full of lust...but complete! *soft smile*

skeeter_01 09-21-2010 06:39 AM


I absolutely believe in soulmates! and I also believe that you can have more than one in your lifetime...

i was with my ex for 12 years...she was the love of my life...my soul mate...she knew me better than I knew me and she loved me anyway...

right now I'm single and I believe that someday I'll have that kind of love in my life again..and I won't settle for less!! and I would hope that the lovely lady in question wouldn't settle either!

MaggieBluIze 09-21-2010 07:55 AM

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Originally Posted by AtLastHome (Post 194567)
LOL...

Yanno, some butches are simply shy and well..... a little nudge is needed.

Well, some femmes are shy too ... But try to get over shyness and start the nudging ... How about y'all start looking for the looks and the nudges and help us out a little! :)

Tcountry 09-21-2010 09:34 AM

AND of course....being 90% of the comments on their CP page in one day...really helps :flowers:

naturlover_52 09-21-2010 11:55 AM

TC
 
I don't understand what U meant

sweetbutch26 09-22-2010 12:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MaggieBluIze (Post 195407)
Well, some femmes are shy too ... But try to get over shyness and start the nudging ... How about y'all start looking for the looks and the nudges and help us out a little! :)

i would nudge but half the time i'm clueless. sometimes we butches need a good whack to the back of the head.

Tcountry 09-22-2010 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by naturlover_52 (Post 195504)
I don't understand what U meant

Well natur...if a femme dominates your reputation comments page...u may want to make some moves on her...that's all I am saying! ;)

ravfem 09-22-2010 12:18 PM

i do believe in soul mates, and also that there can/will be more than one in a lifetime.

i also believe that even if you've found a soul mate, it doesn't mean it's going to work out romantically. And....just because one of you feels that the other is a soul mate doesn't necessarily mean that the other feels the same.

Others have said nothing lasts forever. i think that no romantic relationship lasts forever, but i do know that for me, my first (and so far only) soul mate started out as a friendship and tried to move to a relationship that sooooo did not work.

She & i have had our ups & downs over the years...and i think (though i hope with all my heart i'm wrong) that we wont be speaking again because of a huge, huge misunderstanding... but that doesn't change the fact she is my soul mate. She always will be.

Like others, i believe all relationships, whether romantic or not, no matter the length of time you interact with them...are brought to us to learn and grow. There is meaning to everything important, whether we grasp the meaning or not.

girl_dee 09-22-2010 02:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tcountry (Post 195351)
I do respect your opinion...however I have to disagree...
*soulmate* is the one person who knows you all the way down to the core of your being...
Your smile, your voice tones, your secrets, your flaws...& loves you Because of them...
The person with whom you can communicate with (without words) no matter where you are or what situation you are in, be it alone in the bedroom or hosting a wonderful party with all of your friends...
They know when you need to be alone or when you need a hug and everything in between, & do and say just the right things at just the right moments...
& the only person who can make you smile when you really want to cry...
YES...it is rare to have someone know you so well...and you know them that well in return...but definitely someone who really makes you FEEL complete, not just happy or full of lust...but complete! *soft smile*


Thanks for your thoughts and words here.. I love all the interaction around this sort of thing...i love deep thinking and it's very hard to come by!

I just see this person you described above ( very nicely put and I believe we these people do exist for us) as my "lifemate", my partner, my forever (and I have found just this person so I do feel so fortunate,) but I just don't see a person as a *soul*mate..maybe it's the way the term is tossed around so easily that it really has no substance for me.. .to me this person you have described this is someone I have chosen to share my life with, but my soul is deeper than a human relationship. I've thought about this subject many times and I *think* that i feel that if my *soul*mate and I were to divorce, ( to believe this could not happen even in the best of relationships is not realistic to me) my soul would be damaged forever, that my very spirit would just curl up and die.. I just can't comprehend that.

I suppose this probably makes no sense ..LOL. Maybe at the end of the road, after we have been together for 100 more years, I will look back and say yes.. This was my soulmate, but I doubt it. I want my soul independent of a partnership. My head, my heart my body is all theirs, but my soul is not coming out to pair up LOL. I just can't bring myself to allow my soul to be that vulnerable,, its my higher self.... I mean how do you know this person IS your "soulmate" until after the lifetime has passed?

Maybe we all have a different opinion of what a *soul* is? And this is a great thing...I view my soul as my spirit, my mind, my I AM, it makes me who I am, and hopefully my spirit is loved and embraced by my partner ( I sure love his!) , I just feel that no matter what happens with my partner, my soul would be in tact (however deeply heartbroken ) and would continue to steer my spirit through life.. and I would hope theirs would too. In other words I guess I see a soul as a driving force that brings us to each other.. for the happily ever after. Relationships are formed and the the individuals embrace each other's spirits.. I don't see them as combined spirit/soul. . does that make any sense to anyone? LOL


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