Even though my first sexual dream was about a woman, i started out straight, which was not satisfactory. Like many dykes, i couldn't see what all the fuss was about. i mean men were fine. The sex was good, but i'd rather be with my friends. Finally figured that one out.

For a few years i was a happy dyke. Then my libido went sorta flat. Meeting a hot butch who knew the dance changed all that. From there, i ID'd as femme as well as lesbian.

My mid-life crisis changed a lot about my life. i moved, changed careers, etc. i also dated a couple transmen in a row and rediscovered femmes. i am a dyke and a femme. But my sexual orientation isn't all about butches anymore. Currently, i am in service to a butch-femme couple.

Rediscovering femmes has been a joy. i dated one maybe five years ago who made me feel butch. That didn't last. But the two i have been in service to made me feel more feminine and more like a girl, not less. i can't do without that. i have the privilege of serving the feminine body and spirit. It's hot. Damned hot. i still like butches too. Life is good.

Queer Femme

that's what fits me best.

Chazz - Contact you for a "walk" on the DL? Wow. How objectifying. *shakes head*

I was gonna say what Chazz said here, not about str8 women - lol, but that being a lesbian is more than my romantic/erotic/sexual orientation. It's about the community and history I resonate with, the issues & politics I embrace, its part of my identity.

Heart

i am culturally a lesbian too, but it's such a generational thing. Young dykes do not know the history, musicians, and books i do -- for the most part. i do not know their references.

i was on chat a while ago, and several of us older dykes were made to feel like fossils when the younguns had never heard of Rubyfruit Jungle.

i do have shared life and cultural experiences that make me a lesbian, but mostly with other lesbians of my generation.

Queerer then queer duck

What Tura said.