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Make promises you keep.
Make yourself easy to love. Make the one you love feel safe and secure. No matter what, make the one you love know she is a priority. Talk about everything, and be brutally honest, even if it's difficult. Treat her like a queen, and love her in all ways , always. Build a bond together that noone or no thing can come between . Apologize for your mistakes, make amends and do better next time. Then make amends again. Take responsibility for your actions . Validate her feelings by listening, stop what your doing, even when you're busy and pressed for time. Always make time for her needs , even if your tired ,injured or bored. Just a few things I always try to do when I love someone. It doesn't guaranty she won't still choose to walk away, but I don't think it hurts anything. |
Always assume good intent ... and have it yourself too.
Say "I love you" and mean it...frequently. Be faithful...not just physically, but also emotionally, verbally...and especially in your own head and heart. Talk it out...and if you find yourself shouting, take a breath, and keep talking. Do the little things that show your love to your partner...in our case it's jello and foot rubbing (not together :giggle: ) Spend time together....just the two of you. It doesn't have to be a fancy date....take a walk, go to the garden center, sit outside and enjoy the day. Remember that they're human and make mistakes....and the same goes for you. Remember why you got together in the first place. :stillheart: |
I disagree. I have to sometimes have time to process. I need a night for my internal soul to talk it out to my silly self. I actually wake up and understand it all and can work it out at the breakfast table with smoothness. But I need that night to process in my sleep....
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Bathe regularly.
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other than the basics of love respect honesty...
never make tv the only thing that stays on in the bedroom
keep alcohol and drugs to a minimum in regard to intimacy. Its an issue if its the only way you can face being who you are and being with who you are with (meaning, the same sex) keep your own house clean. I mean that literally. I dont want to hear one more time about how bad a butch is about keeping up a house. Bullshit. I am not interested in becoming someone's house slave and then having a white glove judgement determine my femininity. You want me to keep your sink clean? Show me how well you keep it clean yourself. Tit for tat. if you plan on loving me, dont tell me later you didnt understand what I meant when i said I love horses and big dogs. At this point in my life, that is grounds for skinning you alive and wearing you for chaps (oh wait..is this one for the other thread?) |
Create together...
Date nights... Dance in the living room... Prepare meals together... Remember it is okay to disagree but it doesn't need to turn into a full on war... If you find talking about something hard right a letter... Notes... Appreciate the person you are with... Respect one another... Remember that every day isn't always a good day and that is okay... The little things... They matter... |
Sing your favorite songs together :)
Take long drives Be considerate of each others thoughts and feelings Share your thoughts and feelings Be honest Don't use their past against them Schedule at-home date nights, cook dinner together and then cuddle and watch a movie Buy flowers Never go to bed angry Kiss in the morning, before bed, and as many times as you can in between Hold hands in public Always ask them how their day was, and honestly and sincerely listen Laugh Love with an open heart Don't be afraid to take a chance Understand the difference between needing them and being needy Dance along to the radio Have some alone time away from home (cabin on the lake, camping) |
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Exactly what JAGG said! I would also add, Take time to understand what she's trying to say even if the words are not perfect sometimes to emotions and feeling make it hard to get em all right all the time... (well for me) assume the best, if you can't then just ask. Commitment is putting her first above anyone else except for a child. If it is best for you then it should be best for both of you. |
Sometimes you just say it loud for all to hear
so I will hijack this for a moment cause I know desd will thread stalk me SHANNON I LOVE YOU NOW AND ALWAYS:cowboihorse: |
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I love you too baby, always and forever xoxox (f) |
Work for it.
Not that a relationship should be something that you toll at, nor is it something that you clock in and out for, but it's not something you can opt to show up for either. You're in it 24/7 or not at all. Be present. Take into consideration the consequences of your actions (or lack thereof) on your partner and adjust your behavior accordingly. Breaking it down biblically, do unto others. Treat him or her as you would like to be treated. Show respect. Earn respect. It's a mutually beneficial cycle. LISTEN and HEAR what is being said, whether it's about an opinion on where to hang a picture or whether it's about future goals for the relationship. Clean up after yourself. Chances are, you don't live with your mom still. Don't make your partner your parent. Give yourself and your partner some leeway. Neither of you are perfect. Allow for idiocyncrasies and mistakes and adjust your behavior accordingly. Never say no to requests for sweets and/or junk food. :blink: |
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Great thread, Sassy!
~Give Your partner respect. ~Give Your partner space. ~Give Your partner the best of Yourself. ~Give Your partner time. ~Give Your partner the benefit of the doubt. ~Give Your partner the last piece of pie. ~Give Your parnter consideration. ~Give Your partner safety. ~Give Your partner Your friendship. ~Give Your partner spontaneity. ~Give Your partner emotional support without being suffocating. ~Give Your partner advice in a loving way. ~Give Your parnter unconditional love. ~Give Your partner Your ferocity. ~Give Your partner Your open mind. ~Give Your partner Your heart of hearts. ~Give Your parnter forgiveness....whether they ask for it or not. ~Give Your partner laughter. ~Give Your partner peace. ~Give Your partner Your energy. ~Give Your partner Your word. ~Give Your partner honesty and Your truth. ~Give Your partner heart protection. ~Give Your partner Yourself. |
oh yes you can so...you committed to your horse..so quit bellering..if you can commit to a horse, you can commit to a girl.
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Laugh together.
Be willing to compromise. Be willing to negotiate changes in your relationship if needed, if you want to stay together. Never let your partner forget you love them. |
Try to see things from your partner's point of view. Try to respond to and anticipate her needs. Love her as she is and not how you would like her to be. Love her for WHO she is and not how she makes you feel. Celebrate all the amazing and beautiful things about her. Give her the space she needs. Give her the time she needs. Love her enough to let her go if that is what is best for her.
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