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SweetJane 01-03-2012 06:06 PM
Princessbelle, that's exactly what I meant. That statement came from someone I've known for a while. So I guess knowing it means more just has to come with time I guess.

Oneofakind, yes text flirting can be a game of wits and very clever.

Sassy 01-03-2012 06:41 PM
The approach depends on the individual I guess... I'll volunteer two texts I've used with positive results in the past...

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Subtle: Sitting alone at the bar of my favorite restaurant I snapped a pic of a tall glass of chardonnay and texted it to her. No words.

Direct: "Dinner. I'm buying. You're drinking :))"

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HoustonHuny 01-03-2012 06:59 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by UofMfan (Post 497277)
Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.
ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins. :cheesy:

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

betenoire 01-03-2012 07:26 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by HoustonHuny (Post 497486)
ummm UFO Man
UofMean really hates it when people type her name wrong.

Hack 01-03-2012 07:34 PM
I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

HoustonHuny 01-03-2012 07:37 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by betenoire (Post 497491)
UofMean really hates it when people type her name wrong.
Perhaps "U" should not have created a name where it was so easy to transpose. :cheesy:

disclaimer: I have very naughty typing fingers

princessbelle 01-03-2012 07:43 PM
Speaking of flirting...

I personally see it like this..

It is individualized. Everyone does it his or her own way. No one is right or wrong when it comes to everyone's personal style. To each his/her own. Just go with the flow. Not only do people flirt differently but they may flirt differently with different people.

The question was about texting and IMO it's easy to read too much or not enough in what may seem to be a flirty text. Whether you text something out of the blue or plan it for just the right time, just like most things in life, if your interested, give it a shot.

Last i looked, there are no rules for such things.

It's pretty easy to figure out if it's working or not.....eventually.

twist of lime 01-03-2012 07:43 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by SweetJane (Post 497422)
A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

If it makes you blush, or you feel all tingly and giddy...

*I read my meter and thought I'd share ;)

Rockinonahigh 01-03-2012 08:47 PM
All this about flirting is very intresting cause somehow I missed the ablity to flirt very well,my son said mamy years ago that I need to stop working so much and learn to smell the roses,unfourntunatly bill had to be paid.Now hat I have the time I still for some reason havent managed to learn to flirt with out hopeing I didnt stick my foot in my mouth or sound off the wall.

apretty 01-03-2012 09:31 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by UofMfan (Post 497277)
Lines are lines.

Flirting should be natural.

Be yourself, do whatever comes natural and forget about lines and such.

The best flirting is that which comes from the moment, inspired by the person whom you are flirting with, it is not planned.
This.

(I'm not a fan of the contrived)

apretty 01-03-2012 09:36 PM
I hope this isn't your flirting.

Quote:
Originally Posted by HoustonHuny (Post 497486)
ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins. :cheesy:

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble

twist of lime 01-03-2012 09:41 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by HoustonHuny (Post 497486)
ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins. :cheesy:

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble
how delicious, I feel a challenge brewing.

princessbelle 01-03-2012 09:43 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by twist of lime (Post 497569)
how delicious, I feel a challenge brewing.

Nope. Not from me. I didn't start it. Leave me out of this. I'm just an innocent bystander.

Unless of course money is involved.

:|

UofMfan 01-03-2012 09:51 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by HoustonHuny (Post 497486)
ummm UFO Man, so why is the "best flirting" not planned? Because you say so? See that's what happens when you throw your "shoulds" out there like they "should" be everyone else's "shoulds." Well they are not my "shoulds." As a femme who has spent a lifetime "flirting" with boys and bois, I can tell you that the best "flirts" are well-planned, researched, rehearsed, with a few well chosen, memorized "lines" as Ms PrincessBelle quoted. To have the most effect, they "should" be devious, designing, coquettish, planned, creative, ingenious and with the most "tried and true" lines available. (There are some great ones on google). Being a good flirt is hard work and does not come natural. (Femme handbook, page 351)

Let's pit your flirty texts against Ms. Belle's flirty texts and see who wins. :cheesy:

disclaimer: This talent can get one in big trouble


Besides the fact that my name is not UFO, and I find that to be a little dismissive, I have three things that stick out from your post.

1. Boys and bois, perhaps there lies the difference.

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

3. I am too much of a gentleman to engage in childless competitions. Ms. Belle is a dear friend of mine and I would not disrespect our friendship by saying anything more than that.

These are all personal preferences and opinions and we are all entitled to express them respectfully.

I will respect yours and kindly ask you to respect mine.

kittygrrl 01-03-2012 09:57 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by UofMfan (Post 497575)
Besides the fact that my name is not UFO, and I find that to be a little dismissive, I have three things that stick out from your post.

1. Boys and bois, perhaps there lies the difference.

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

3. I am too much of a gentleman to engage in childless competitions. Ms. Belle is a dear friend of mine and I would not disrespect our friendship by saying anything more than that.

These are all personal preferences and opinions and we are all entitled to express them respectfully.

I will respect yours and kindly ask you to respect mine.
I agree, let it happen..if someone digs your chemistry..they feel it..you don't have to be super clever or out there to get someone to notice

Queerasfck 01-03-2012 10:13 PM
I like the direct approach. I just texted my gf "I need to get my freeeek on."

Sweeping her off her feet again!

:|

Kent 01-03-2012 10:22 PM
Off the top of my head flirting:
 
I have never rehearsed or even thought of rehearsing to flirt with a beautiful woman. It just happens. We either feel each other's energy or we don't. I'm just not one to rehearse flirting. It flows or it doesn't.

So, go ahead and be yourself and take a chance. The world is at your fingertips and you might just get the girl or guy of your dreams.

I realize some may want to rehearse and go over all their moves before hand and that is perfectly okay. Do what you like. Do what feels good and right. Believe me the person on the other end of the text will either reciprocate or not. It's not the end of the world if they don't respond the way you want. The point is to at least try. Lighten up and flirt a little. It may just be the best thing you've ever done.

Let the flirting continue.. rehearsed or off the cuff...

Random 01-03-2012 10:29 PM
I think my best flirt went like this...


*I know you took my keys, I don't know what kind of game you are playing, but I need my keys back... I can't afford to replace the keys to my apt and the building... I'm NOT even kidding!!!!*

followed up with...


*I found my keys... I'm the psycho not you... you want to go out again?*

Worked like a charm..

*Cheesey Grin*

betenoire 01-03-2012 10:29 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by UofMfan (Post 497575)

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.
Stop flirting with me, UofMean!


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