You're easy... ;)

My place is an expression of me... so of course it is charming...

I have made my own soap for years now so yes, you will get fresh soap just for you!
I also make my own trailmix which all seem to enjoy.
I have an organic garden which provides tasty goodies for our meals.
I do keep my space reasonably clean as I never want to be embarassed to bring home a guest... LoL
Zima the wonder dog (with one eye and half of one ear missing) is always a hit with everyone! I call her the Snuggle Smuggler as even people who don't like dogs find themselves petting on her and doting on her.

Then best of all - in my space - you get ME and my sunny, cheerful personality!

Peace and Blessings,

David

what kind of soap?
what do you grow in the garden?

Glycerin soap with only natural oils and scents. Haven't tried adding any dried herbs yet, but thought I might this year.

Garden is small and simple. Heirloom tomatoes, green beans, cukes, putting in an asperagus bed and some blackberry bushes this year. I am in a new space so am just getting it going - I know - a little late but it will be better than nothing... and great for next year!

Why settle for just one? ... If they don't have a puppy in their home for me to love, they must have a love of puppies!


I do love photos of family and their favorite landscapes like sunset at their favorite lake-get-a-way (and photos that show their personality), YES we LOVE Dino!!, and I'm the Weber Grill Queen so I would certainly LOVE a deck... but you can keep the hammock, I might get sea-sick? LOL

Only if you make really awesome blueberry pancakes!! :awww::raspberry:

different women (do you mean femmes, Andrew?) respond differently to things that I have in my house. These are the things that garner a response:

• books - they are everywhere and shelved in library sized bookcases
• music and videos (I am an audiophile)
• a big kitchen (it is big enough to dance in) that is well stocked
• wine selection
• critters, including a "puppy" (well, she is 7, but will always be my puppy)
• photographs that I have taken and those others have taken (particularly of the Middle East)
• they seem to like the decor and the way the rooms are laid out
• I don't have anything to do with it, but the way the morning sun illuminates the kitchen.

I don't think that I managed 10 things <shrugs>, but these are the things that come to mind as I recollect comments made by women who come to my house.

:threadneedspics:

You are such a stinker! Massive? Can't you do something about your woman? :whip:

this is all just heresay
 

when one is invited into my home:

drool towels..not for them to use because they drool, but to protect them from the infamous newf drool. Lay it in your lap and wait..especially when they come to tell you how good the water tasted out of the toilet bowl...and dont think I havent tried everything to keep them from doing that...I have...they win. Love me, love my newfs...

really nice long towels if they are staying overnite

their own bedroom..because at this point in time, I am not sharing beds.

reading material in the bathroom of his choice...I have three baths. Pick one and the material will appear...

a lint brush that will also remove cat and dog hair...

coffee in the morning made as they prefer it, in a cup that will be designated as his whenever he comes to visit and one I will use in the mornings sometimes when I am particularly missing him

a throne. This doesnt happen overnite. It takes him time to feel at home and to chose his place of honor. Some like to sit at the head of the table. Some like the end of the sectional. Some prefer a recliner. As long as its not MY throne, it becomes theirs when they come back.

beside his throne, a place of altar...things he needs...specific to him. Perhaps the tv guide and the remote. Or his favorite book he is working through on his visits to me. Or a bag of lemon drops and horehounds because he cant find them where he lives. Something, anything that says that I lovingly meet his needs

quietness. My house is very quiet. I dont often watch tv. I dont listen to alot of music. Even my appliances run quietly. It is a way of surrounding myself in the Present and keeping myself there. In the quiet of my home, he would find himself Present with me and I with him. In the early times of wooing, this is especially important. In order to build knowledge of the soul of another person, you really need to be Present with them in the Stillness so that you know you are meeting their Core and not their surroundings.

and in between the times of quietness, there will be times of his and her pleasures...does he like to watch Bruce Willis movies and tv shows (Moonlighting was wonderful!) Will he watch SeaBiscuit with me? Will we put on some country music and dance slow and close, as someone put it once, buckle rubbing music? Does he want to pop in a video game (horrors! I wouldnt know what to do if this happened!) or spend time on the computer? moments of activity to please him and myself, beyond and outside of the other...

Damn you are very accommodating Girl!

I'm with you on the sleeping. I prefer to sleep alone. They would get their own bedroom, towels, etc.

BUT I'd show them where the coffee is and how I like it. I'd then give them a list of chores to do around the farm and if all went well I'd cook an awesome meal, wear something very pretty and he's be rubbing my feet whilst I perch on that throne! lol

Slow dancing sounds nice. If he was a really good boy I might even dance for him. (wink)

I love candles, nag champa, I like my space to be eclectic and have a nice spiritual feel about it . I am the Goddess of my domain and anyone who enters does so symbiotic with everything here. He must approach with great care, respect and compassion. I'm totally in no nonsense mood these days. Notice the hoops at the entrance of my long driveway.

hmmm ...

Deck .... check
Jacuzzi .... check
HD screen with video game systems ..... check
Fuzzy little people ..... check
A house She makes a home no matter what's in it ....... check (and frankly, the aforementioned doesn't compare to that).

:)

When we were visiting back and forth, all I needed was a clean bed, a working shower, and a big, clean towel. Some breakfast food in the fridge and a working TV somewhere in the place were also nice. All the rest was icing on the cake.

For ll the things I have in the house,its all just stuff..nice stuff but stuff just the same.I would be just as happy liveing way out in the country in a log cabin with a pot bellied stove and a home made bed.I do really live a more simple quiet life,the tv I watch is more to the tune of discovery,national geo,syfy,hallmark ect.I dont care to watch anything with blood n guts or things that are cruel and distasteful...keeps my mind at a calmer pace..use to horror shows were like u knew it was just a show but a bit scary ..now they are just to real for me to watch,I dont care to much for tear jerker movies either.
I have one lonely fern hanging is a basket that is well taken care of,but as im not good at growing thigs...black thimb hear..I would like to plant some fruit trees in the yard.I do have a small herb guarden growing in a large kids wagon in pots so if the weather isnt good I can take them out of harms way.
I haved always taken care of others but really have no idea how it would feel to have someone do that for me.

**Just a notice**
 

~looks around~....huh...
:glasses:

I do have plasma tv, in both living room and bedroom / I prefer tv in living room, be warned, closed captioning is permanently On, touch my captioning, we'll have issues...If the show or channel Lacks CC access & I have the remote, it gets changed...or I just find somethin' else to do {-eg-}

I have 2 different types of Coffeemakers, 3 si eres boricua como yo....

I like different types of Tea stocked in my Kitchen, I'm not fond of herbals..

I also like picking out Unique coffee mugs & Cups in small stores, so...take a pick...

I don't bother with spice racks, whatever spice I need, it must be accessible, and of course Functional...

I do stock up on scented candles *in case the Electric fails*, my preference is citrus n Sage, or whatever grabs my attention at the time of Purchase {I avoid fruity/food smells because that just makes me thirsty/hungry}
It's not very often I buy "incense", for 2 reasons, a} I'm asthmatic b} There has to be a compelling reason to buy it {prayer/ritual}...

I very rarely smoke, for obvious reason, if the visitor does, I'll explain and kindly show them to a part of the house where they *can*{outside, by the tree, if it's a pleasant day}...

I haz deh Ferrets, love me, love my fuzzies...

Books...Everywhere, in every room, of almost every subject, Books, drive-you-nuts-at-every-corner...Books.

My bathroom is small, but very clean[a mandatory, a MUST, borderline OCD!!!!] and comfortable, when on the phone with my boi, we refer to it as My "office"...And yes, I'm also picky about the TP....

There's no plants INSIDE, cuz of ~points to Ferrets, and Dog~ and I'm working on figuring what to plant above ground outdoors {my landlord has a stupid policy, if u Do get permission to plant anything, it has to stay there}

Same deal with my Hammock {fits 2 people, max weight 350 pds}

My food pantry stocks whatever tickles my fancy at purchase time..IBC root beer is a must, or creme soda, as is Pepperidge Farms orange Milanos...

Like Toughy, I don't use sanitary pads of any kind...Walking thru that aisle in itself is a very awkward experience for me, so...I'll happily visit the home improv. section while u browse kotex...

I'm still working on my Deck...
it shall be ....eventually...my magnum opus -strut- {if i dont skip town}

Andrew
No problem buddy,like popeye I am what I am,just butchere that all get outs.

Keeping the lid down???

you would think keeping the lid down would fix it. But a big knows no barriers, and they (the newf breed) are so genteel and honest of a personality, that they dont understand that it is wrong to drink from the inside watering hole. In fact, they come up to me and thank me for giving them such fresh cold water..as it drips out of the flews of their mouth. I have watched my newfie slide her nose under the lid and just slide her face down to drink. She didnt even bother to lift it up to stay. She figures if I want the seat down, the least she can do for such an accomodating Missus, is to slide the lid back down when she is done.

The newf is a water dog. Puppies fall asleep with their heads in water bowls. Adults join kids in their wading pools. Unlike finicky little dogs who cannot stand to step in water puddles, mine walk and plod right in them.

I have even tried to duct tape the lid and seat down. LOL. Oh no...they just have to work a little harder at it. And Story lays down in front of the bowl until its fixed so she can drink. Patience is her middle name and she can sit there for hours.

When I clean the bowl I literally have to lock her out of the bathroom. I could do that all the time, but the bathroom floor is the coolest tile there is. Being a long haired double coated breed adapted for weathers from Newfoundland Canada, cool tiles are cherished ground...

So i leave the seat and lid up and they drink. People who find a problem with this, well, sorry. Thats why I live alone...I wont let anyone tell me they love me and then turn around and berate my newf. Love me. Love my toilet drinking long tendrils of drool, smiling newfies!

Wow. Interesting. I learned something new today!! :)

I'm just kind of curious about something. A couple of femmes have used 'he' and 'him' when talking about what they might do for butches who come to visit. Since, at least for the most part, 'he' is not the default pronoun for butch folk on this site, I have a question.

Does the use of 'he' in your posts mean you are talking about a transman and/or a male id'd butch? I have to assume that, because you certainly can't be talking about what you would do for a butch woman while using male pronouns. I must also assume you don't date butch women. If butch women are also in your realm of dating, you might try s/he as an inclusive way to use pronouns.

(and S/He is also a great book by Minnie Bruce Pratt.........a kick ass femme who has written some great stuff)

My sweetie hasn't yet been to visit me at my home, as much as I would like that. Because of work and child commitments, I'm the one logging the frequent flyer miles. :flying:

There are some sweet things she does for me when I'm there....and some I try to do for her...

:rrose: She always has diet coke and doritos...my two big weaknesses

:rrose: She is my chauffeur to the beach :beachkids: ...not in the house, but still a biggie :)

:rrose: scented candles

:rrose: and more important than anything else....her attention, affection and love

And for her....I try to make her a home-cooked meal (when she lets me :) ), bake some brownies or cookies...and give her a massage.

:awww:

Ohhhhhh.....let's see...

I don't know that it was any different for a lady caller than it would have been or has been for guests in general.

I always started out by finding what she wanted to have in the house (bathroom products, drinks, breakfast items). I made sure she had access to whatever she needed in the bathroom and that clean, fresh towels and linens were ready.

I once read that having, for example, towels out and ready for the guest was a big way to show her that she was welcome (could be him or her, obviously).....a guest shouldn't have to ask for things such as towels, toothpaste, etc... It should all be easily accessible.

I would have an extra blanket in the room, water beside the bed, a couple different shampoos and soaps... I learned the hard way (getting shamed once by a lady) to make at least one drawer available, plus room in the closet.

Really, it's the same as I do for guests we have in our home today.

I remember........a gazillion years ago......that a lady came to visit me (local situation...just a day visit). My best friend roommate at the time waited a good amount of time before finally offering the girl something to drink.

Because I never did!!!

I sucked at that sort of thing and didn't know the first thing about being a host. I think I was about 22 or 23. That incident was seared in my mind forever, and I made sure I did what I could to be a good and welcoming host.

You're always at a disadvantage when not on your home turf, so it's really huge for the host to do every possible thing to make the guest feel at ease and welcome. ...whether the visit is for "romance" or friendship or family.

Me, too. <packin' my bags> (I know The Lady won't mind....I'll cook & bake when I get there! ;) )

C'mon then!!!! You are both most certainly welcome!

for today...
 

power tools
books
porn
booze
shoes
fabulous kitchen ware
dogs
and of course...

ME!

If I am involved with "someone"...
 

Ipod compatable stereo
Some neat posters
Over stuffed bookshelf
Comfy bed

He/She Pronouns
 

...or you might use he... or she... depending on how your own personal construct theory runs.

I certainly use "he" for all butches... if they tell me that they prefer "she" I will use the title out of courtesy, but to me butch is "he", femme "she". This has held true for all of the butches and transguys I've known/dated, including those that identified as women. And in the case of the female identified butches I've known/dated, they understood and were comfortable with the fact that the "he" pronoun to me, and to them themselves in their interactions with me, honoured their butchness rather than their feminity.

Also not sure that we can assume that we know what the default pronoun is for all of the butches on this site.

Each to their own, diversity does make the world go round.

Cheers,


Ms V

Whichever you two prefer... Neither I nor the lady drink wine. We can put away some cookies though!!!