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The power of a Femme is simply amazing!
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A little girl femme: Carefree and truly adoring of rainbows... butterflies... rainbows... pink... unicorns... and eating lucky charms for breakfast at work much to the dismay of my special-k and kashi-crunching coworkers. ;) A professional femme: A would-be workaholic intent on maintaining work-life balance and mostly succeeding, an office mouse and not a corporate climber. I'm most content in the guts of the business, working the business not watching it and have no interest in stepping into middle (or upper) management. A pagan femme: My spiritual path lies mostly on the shores of Avalon with my like-minded Sisters but it also is on my Yoga mat and in dharma and meditation and a good old fashioned full moon circle. A believer femme: I believe. I believe in people, I believe in the people I love. I believe in things that people tell me I shouldn't believe in - like Unicorns and fairies and dragons and true love. I'm not afraid to believe. I've been hurt like crazy for believing, and I will never stop. A kinky femme: I am a submissive and a masochist but my masochism is never really just physical, there is always an emotional link or need or connection with the experience. I have had transformative experiences on the cross or over a bench or up on a rack and I continue to have transformative experiences every time I dive deeper into my submission and commitment to my Owner (who is also my Wife). A shy femme: I'm an online socializer and am shy or timid (or ridiculously babbly and unfocused) in person. It's hard for me to make friends in person because I feel awkward and I trust people too easily and am too invested in their opinion of me. I am raw and real and this makes me vulnerable. But I am authentic and so the friendships I do make are genuine ones. A romantic femme: I know I am a walking stereotype in some ways. I like to be the nurturer and the cook and the homemaker and the child-rearer and the white-picket fence gazer. I love old fashioned chivalry. I love romantic gestures. I'm that girl that swoons over hand picked daisies and a surprise picnic and thinks romance isn't about money but about heartfelt gestures that make me feel appreciated. I thrive on finding ways to let my one and only know how appreciated and adored she is as well, and this is part of the romantic thrill for me. A mothering femme: Parenting is a part of my identity now, because it has - in so many ways - changed my outlook on life, my priorities, and my ability to deal with life and to accept responsibility for myself, my actions, and their consequences. Being a parent to these boys (young men now) has been and is one of the most rewarding things about my life. A questioning, seeking femme: I'm always learning, growing, evolving and becoming. I fit best with others who are also on this path. Being on a growth path/journey in this life can be challenging... and it can be hard to make friends and then lose them as your paths go different directions or one moves on while the other has to stay a while. Growing hurts, but it's worth it. A silly femme: no explanation required. ;) |
I am my own self, who I know I am and who I love.
I do not fit into the traditional girly girl, I do not fit into an andro description - I am myself. Very femme in that I love my feminine self, sparkles, glitter, dresses etc. Very myself in that I recognize that I love all the feminine things but do not love to take the trouble to wear them. I am comfortable in myself, my non-made-up self, in jammies or torn up shorts and tshirt. And I don't have to wear dresses or makeup to be recognized as a professional, strong career woman. But I love to be dressed up and made up and feeling very lovely and fancy. (but I look and feel weird in makeup) I love the power of myself, knowing I can manage and rock my own life, from career, leadership, finances and owning my own home -- and am strong enough to let the right butch in to be a partner in my life, helping, contributing and creating a shared life. I am learning the power of handing over some of that power and control and letting myself depend on another, even though I don't NEED him - but I WANT him. I am also learning the depth of my traditional girl as I plan a wedding and discover how deeply rooted my love of all of those little girl Barbie dreams are, even though I never recognized them before. I used to scoff at them - now I recognize the joy and power of them and embrace them. I am powerful and I own myself in my own femme-ness. I make myself more powerful by allowing my butch to have a role in my life and sharing some of the power with him as my partner. And I am very silly. And smart. And funny. And good at math. And a hater extraordinaire. |
I am the femme who will create a five star meal yet light the dish towel on fire because I wasn't paying attention.
I am a lover not a fighter, but mess with someone I care about and I will take you OUT. Game Over. End of Story. No Sequel. I am an insomniac. I will take apart the toaster and anything else that catches my interest to see how it works. I am an adreniline junky. I am the Energizer Bunny. I am lazy. I am beautiful and fierce whether rocking a mini dress and stilettos or torn t-shirt and sweats. If you carry my bags, it's because I let you. I am the angel you see on the street in a pink sundress and the devil tied the bed at night. I wear my heart on my sleeve. No matter how hard I try to pry it loose and return it to the safety of my chest, it will not budge. I am a safe harbor. I am a hurricane. I've been to hell, yet still managed to keep my rose-colored glasses. I am stronger than I look. Though not as strong as I act. Trouble happens when I get bored. I am smart and self-educated. I am a walking bundle of contradictions. |
I joined after the last post, so I hope it's okay that I add my self-description.
As far as labeling my sexuality, I use the terms Femme and Lipstick Lesbian. I like them both because they are complex and express two aspects of me - my femininity and my love of women. I am very feminine in appearance - I wear make-up and love red lips. I currently have short hair, but wear it in a gamine style. (An ode to Audrey). I prefer wearing skirts and tops, but like dresses that flatter my hourglass figure. I wouldn't say I am modest, but I don't wear revealing clothes. But I wear loose t-shirts pants and boxers when cleaning or gardening. I like Victorian Lesbian fiction and vintage erotic photos, along with reading Anne Rice and Jane Austen. I drink tea and collect tea pots/tea for one sets. I love vintage hats, clothing, and jewelry. I like lots of pillows on the bed and fluffy comforters where I snuggle with my cats while listening to Sarah Brightman, Sarah McLachlan, Dido, and Nora Jones. I watch British comedies, Bones, the L Word, and Arrested Development. I enjoy musical and try to see them when I can. My favorite is The Phantom of the Opera. I am really spiritual. I pray to the Goddess and meditate - a lot. I study Her many different guises - such as Mother Mary, Medusa, Athena, and Tara. I don't worship a male deity. I'm a witchy woman with Native Guides and have an affinity to Shamanism and Native Culture. I'm a Reiki healer, tarot reader, and truth teller. I read the stories of the Goddess and watch Pushing Daisies, Moonlight, Buffy, Charmed, Bewitched, and Xena. I collect crystals and study their uses and properties. I love plants and flowers and have several gardens. I hope to be a Certified Master Gardener one day. I like cooking vegetarian and vegan and have a number of cookbooks. I study herbalism and make herbal medicines. My favorite herbs and flowers are in the mint family and include roses, mints, and lavender. I am a ginger addict! I have several chronic illnesses and blog about living with them. I love learning and constantly read. I have degrees in PR and Writing Arts. I have worked as a Freelance Writer and in Acquisitions for a Bookseller. I'm interested in Law and plan to go back to school to get my Paralegal Certificate. I enjoy classical studies and want to see the new Cleopatra exhibit at the Franklin Institute. I also have a tomboy side. I enjoy watching Professional Wrestling and still attend live events. I've been to Wrestlemania. I love old NWA, Attitude Era WWE, and ECW. The ECW Arena in South Philly is one of my favorite places. I like Owen Hart, Shawn Michaels, Chyna, John Morrison, Awesome Kong, Tommy Dreamer, Chris Benoit, and RVD. I collect wrestling DVD's and have a nice little collection. I also love horror. I'm a huge Clive Barker fan and love his Books of Blood. I enjoy Friday the 13th the Series, Dexter, Saw, Hellraiser, Nightmare on Elm Street, Dead Silence, and the Evil Dead. I even have a blog dedicated to examining the horror genre. Sorry if that's a bit long. Something I like about this thread - is that everyone her has defined herself and has taken the time to look within honestly. It's important, along with not letting others define who or what we are. When we do it, we give away a bit of our power. |
FemMe
I am femme. Strong in my weakest places. Strong enough take care of myself. Strong enough to relinquish control.
I am femme to your Butch. An old-fashioned, dress-wearing, 50s femme. I am proud to be seen on your arm in a world that does not know who or what we are. I am the one who hears you cry when your family/your job/your world rejects you for being who you are. I am the one who knows your fierce determination not to let them break you. I one who walks with you past the stares of the people who would like to knock you down. I am the one who walks into the lesbian bar, you in your Butch attire made more obvious by my feminine dress. I am your partner in the Dance. I am femme who would kill for my femme friends. We have been there for each other in the gentle rain of the good times and the thunderstorms of the bad. We have cried on each others' shoulders, laughed at each others' stories, talked for hours on the phone. We have seen each other through the mind-bending of initial love and the heartbreak of its ending. We are the ones we turn to in our joy and our hurt. Who else but a femme really knows me! I am femme. I amable to live happily alone yet run happily into your arms when you get home. I can open my own doors, carry my own groceries, and unclog my own sink. I can also let you do those things for me! I can ward off the creep next door who leers at me each time we pass. I can let you run him off for me. I can run my own life with ease. I can give over that control to you. I am femme. I have looks to kill with an attitude to match. I have my own sense of style, with dresses past my calf, librarian glasses, and funky little flat shoes. I can walk past you in a bookstore (my natural habitat) and make you look once, twice, then you're following me around the store. I can be found in the GLBT section looking for that odd Butch/femme title or in the Philosophy section with my nose in the book of an obscure Chinese Author. I can accidentally drop my books at your feet and have you pick then up and shyly ask me to join you for coffee. I know that you know that was no accident. I am femme. I can shop for hours with a femme friend for just the right purse. I can lecture a class on Early Greek Skepticism. I can simplify my life til I own very little. I can cook a vegetarian jambalaya and buttermilk pie dinner that has those cooked for coming back for thirds. I can make the perfect cup of coffee. I am all of these things and infinitely more. I am a lady, after all. And a lady is so much more than than mere words can convey. And has so many more talents than words can tell. I am femme. Lady_Wu |
at this moment I am short-nailed (can't be arsed with the gloves and cotton wool any more), ripped men's ribbed undershirt, black jogging pants.
I wear make up spectacularly and artistically (usually deep end glam) when I feel like wearing it. 5 days a week I have a scrubbed and lotioned face and spikey, short, bleached hair with very long lashes. I love cosmetics but in a pallet/paint way - it's joyful art. I wither with no real backwoods camping. England makes me very spirit sad this way. I love all animals and the spiders in my flat are honoured pets. I love cooking, especially with my partner. I love to create. boxes, collages, painting, make up, cooking... building things makes me feel purposeful and skilled and I want to get back into furniture making. I also love beading and stitch-work. I am loud laughing, swearing, confrontational, vunerable, independant, co-operatively dependant with my partner and very happy about it. I am quiet, inverted and overly stressed I like dinner parties and when I can pull it off, the rare dance all night and go out for breckfast before going home. I love living in big cities but need a regular escape route to the trees and the lakes and skinny dipping. cats are my happiness and can't wait till we can finally get two. It's been very empty with them. I am exploratory and science orientated. I am continually learning. I love certain frames of specific religions though and like picking and choosing of things I want to bring into my own special kind of... lack of word for what I am. I am devoutly feminist. I owe them everything I can do/am. I will continue their work. |
femMe Redux-where I am now
I am still the femme I described. Let me be more specific now.
I am short-haired, like a bikkhuni and studying to be a Roshi and Taoist priest. My nails are long and I wear dresses but little make-up. A little lipstick and nail-polish for special occasions. Perfume everyday, though. I have 3 scents I wear: Romance, Green Tea, and Inner Realm. I live more like a Taoist monk than anything else. I take care of the sick, clean house and prepare meals like a good Chinese taitai. I study when I have time. But the above leaves me little time. I am not as healthy as I used to be. MS and other illnesses have taken their toll. My spirit is still strong. I will have pain. Pain will NOT have me. I would love to be pampered and have someone take care of me. That is not my lot in life right now, though I have hopes that one day that could change. Right now I just want a peaceful home. I would also like a few friends. I have accepted that that is just not possible here. Meeting people is impossible in a town that has no gay community: no bar, though that is not my scene; no bookstores, and no cafes or coffee houses. I love these mountains but the people in WV are unlike any I've ever known. Unless you are from here, you basically do not have any way to be known. No-one speaks to each other in the grocery, unless it is to talk to others related to them. Sigh. I'm used to exchanging recipes with strangers in the vegetable section. And having no-one be a stranger. Then again, I come from the deep South. The cold is killing me as well. Again, it is gorgeous but hard to maneuver in. So I live the life of a Taoist monk, trying to do good and study. I have my dreams still but have found that happiness comes in small doses. Contentment is the best I hope for. Lady_Wu, Taoist monk femme |
Thank you Lady_Wu for sharing. I admire your strength and determination. I am curious though - What is a taitai? I've never heard that term before.
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I am soft like a cactus--- I am femme. I am Mother, sister daughter but not lover---to someone.
Once I love you ... I love you forever.I dont love quickly. I am a strong and powerful woman when I need to be. I am not a good housewife-- I hate to cook and clean the house. I am passionate and loving and will bring you caugh drops at midnight. I am a BBW and I love myself. I have long nails and short hair yet do not wear makeup. I love being a woman who loves woman---and hyms and hys... I have a "thing" for shoes... high heels... I love them. Can't wear them...I like to people watch and the beach is a perfect place to watch. I am a Cancer---ruled by the moon. I am bitchy and demanding and loving and giving in 0-5 seconds. I forget. But when I do rememeber--- beware!!! I am content with myself. |
I'm so inspired by so many of you. It's like reading bits and pieces of myself in each post.
Hmmmm. How to put this into words... I am in love with my femininity and my girlie parts. I love my curves and I like to show them off. But I do it for me and no one else. I am smart. Education is important to me. I use my brains to navigate a largely male-dominated profession and I excel at it. I'm not hell-bent on titles or labels. I am Femme, but I am so much more and so much less. It is one tiny facet of my multi-dimensional person. The moment I begin to take myself too seriously, I question why and move in another direction. The Femme I am is bossy, independent, strong, opinionated, passionate, caring, loving, affectionate and sometimes I need more than I am willing to let on because I don't like appearing weak. Being a woman is a gift the likes of which I cannot describe (and yes, I think women are better than men because of the magic they can create and nurture within their bodies...LOL). I am not a mother and I'm not sure I want to be. Strength is vital to me, but I weep at the thought of an animal suffering for any reason and I cry at the drop of a hat at the movies (but don't point it out or I'll get embarrassed). I love being touched, I think laughter is not only the best medicine but the sexiest trait about a person, and I try to live as close to compassion as possible...but I fail often. My confidence rarely wavers and when it does I won't admit it because I'm stubborn. It's rare that my feelings get hurt because I don't take much personally, but when they are hurt it cuts deep. I forgive easily, I trust readily, I love frequently, and I try to appreciate the people around me every single day. I am loyal to a fault, I protect everyone around me. I put everyone before myself which makes the people in my life feel nurtured and cared for, but often leaves me exhausted and without any energy to care for myself. I am a work in progress and I love the lessons I learn every day, even the ones that hurt a lot. My sexuality and identity are fluid. I change and grow every single day and I try not to ever get stagnant or content. I smile. A LOT. A LOT. LOL. I squeal when something startles me, I'm super ticklish, I love cute shoes and low-cut tops but I don't mind getting dirty and getting my hands into something messy. I want to learn as much as I possibly can about the world and other cultures. Though I would never admit it out loud (EVER), I sometimes need protection from the world and I'm too proud to ever ask for it. I am me and I love being complicated and messy and fun and crazy-passionate. I love being pretty and sassy even though it's totally impractical. I've been wounded deeply more than once in ways that are unforgivable, but I am never a victim. I don't believe in feeling sorry for myself or in using something from past as an excuse for my behavior now. Strong women and kind men inspire me. Spirituality is super important to me but I am not religious in any way. I am Laerkin. |
Damn. This is a beautiful thread. Thank you all for just being. For expressing both grace and power.
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Prime Lesbian Femme Feminist Submissive Amazon Dyke Riot Grrl... kind of says it all !
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I'm many different femmes!
Sometimes I am feisty and have quiet an edge Sometimes I am a tomboy gutting a fish in cutoffs and tank tops Sometimes I am a girl, in a pretty frock, waiting for Daddy to get home Sometimes I am submissive, and restrained to Sir's bed Sometimes I am a hard worker and get the job done Sometimes I am a writer, a photographer, an artist and a deep thinker. Mostly I am just me. |
I am the femme that was told I wasn't.
I am tomboy and girlieboi. I rarely wear make up or perfume. I shower before chatting with my crush, to make sure I am feeling pretty. I have an amazingly sexy voice. I don't believe I'm beautiful, but I'd like to. I'm not a "what you see is what you get" girl. I'm a grown ass woman. I'm a little girl. I am tougher than most. I am strong physically, emotionally and spiritually. I am a survivor of life. I am a middle school drop out with a Good Enough Diploma. I struggle, daily, to love myself. I am loved, cherished, respected, praised. I am the devil's advocate. I am a provider. I am a co-parent. I am protective, intimidating, fierce. I am painfully shy in person. I am flirtatious without trying to be. I have been broken, dropped, forgotten. I am putting myself back together, remembering my truth. I am my own worst enemy. I am partially deaf. I am a home chef, a nurturer, a baker, a babysitter, a friend. I am disowned. I am fighting the good fight. I am healing, changing, evolving. I am and always will be fat. I enjoy being a fat chick, even though I am working to be a less fat chick. I am healthy. I am bipolar. I am every woman you've never known. I am becoming my own friend. I am FEMME by my own damned standards! |
I am a lesbian femme, in awe of the strength, beauty, and depth of all women. I am a feminist femme, claiming the power of who I am, and supporting the rights of women and men. I am an older femme, finally coming into my own. I am a bedroom femme, loving the dynamics of the butch-femme mystery.
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By describing the woman that I am emerges the femme that I am.
Breaking it down- I am full of dichotomies. I am so comfortable being a woman. I am soft with some rough edges. Feminine yet love to wear sweatpants, slippers and *her* shirt over my choices of many dresses, skirts and heels that fill my closets. I will wear just her shirt while wearing lipstick of crimson red and my best perfume. My nails will be done and my feet will be soft with my toes polished. Then again I may wear a beautiful flowing skirt with no make up on in my bare feet to an afternoon picnic. What I wear does not define who I am. I define who I am. I have an open mind and I am trisexual. I will try almost anything at least once. I like pain at times. I like letting my inner little girl out at times. I like being submissive. Don't judge me and I will not judge you. I raised myself well. I came from a dysfunctional family yet I turned out pretty functional. I am compassionate, kind, thoughtful, creative, empathetic. I value not someones degree, but what they have learned from life itself. How many hours someone has spent in a classroom has never impressed me but I admire their ambition. I must have consistancy in my life. I will show you my friends and you will see me. I have many aquaintences but very few close friends. They are my friends for life. I love animals but especially cats. They are the children I could never have. Not having children has never defined me as a woman. My cats have taught me responsibility, gentleness, patience...Patience is one of my weaknesses. I don't like to wait for things. I am spontaneous! I mean what I say and put great value on other peoples words as well. I am spiritual but not religious. I am a larger woman. But I love pretty clothes. I asked at a VS store employee why their PINK collection does not go past a size L? I told them to e mail me when it did. It was Christmas time in a long line and you could just feel the smiles from the customers and the sales womans face was priceless. I do speak up for myself and others quite often. I am learning to love the body I am in. I take many medications that put weight on. So I will never be a petite woman again. Acceptance of myself as living, loving, being who I am without any appologies...That is one of my biggest lessons I am learning as a woman. I am the best femme that I can be. And I only look forward to getting better as I age. I almost forgot to add...Butches make me weak in the knees and they compliment the femme that I am so well. |
OK. I'll take my turn.
I'm a kick-ass, self sufficient and resourceful, strong in every way, fierce and fiercely loyal, hippie lesbian feminist, pagan biker-dyke femme. I'm a sexually submissive, masochist leatherdyke, stonefemme bottom femme. I'm a work clothes that stand up by themselves because they are covered in dimensional gak that would disgust a homeless person femme. I'm a play clothes that monopolize ALL your attention, and heels so high that only drag queens and I can wear them femme. I can run in them, too. I'm a please buy me power tools for my birthday femme. My sculpture studio is packed to the rafters with tools and projects, so perhaps I don't really need more power tools, but I'll think you're super cool if you bring me a useful tool that I don't yet own. I'm a too shy to make the first move femme. I want to be courted. Some day my prince will come, but I will not be happy if said prince assumes that she will be paying for dinner. I'm a femme with a backyard full of motorcycles which I ride and repair. I wear make-up sometimes, but no nail polish unless my nails are irretrievably filthy. Deep red hides best, but metallic blue matches my best bike. I'm a DO NOT cross me femme, and a DO NOT EVEN THINK about hurting my friends if you want to live femme. I'm an urban and urbane NYC femme. I listen to obscure and difficult music, go out to exquisite NYC performances and have erudite conversations with overeducated friends. I garden naked and swear at the raccoons that dug up my blueberry bush and continue to threaten my cats that I will turn them into hats just as soon as I get my hands on them. Deer and Canada geese look like dinner to me. Hell, if I'm hungry enough even a well fed squirrel looks like dinner to this urban barbarian femme. I'm a feline femme who purrs, plays and cuddles like a kitten, and fights the good fight like a pride of lions, after which I want nothing more than to fall to my knees in front of a big, strong, butch top. There are many facets to my femme-ness, indeed. Even I can't command enough words to adequately describe them all. |
I am a complex being. I am healing and healer. I am Momma and lover. I am fierce and bossy. I am tender and malleable. I have sheer skin, easily hurt and deep wounds that will never heal. I miss people deeply. I do not miss people at all. I am in love and in loved back. I am not simply who I love but I am also deeply who I love. I am strong with an amazing heart. I am strong enough to give it away again. I am dichotomy and harmony. I am contradiction and congruence. I am fully human and simply femme.
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I'm a girlie geek in silly knee socks, black cats eye glasses, and Chucks. I'm also the curvy girl with killer cleavage and cute undies.
I like my door opened for me, whether we're dressed up or not. I wear my hair short & textured because it's baby-fine, but I'll take twenty minutes to make sure it's tousled properly. I wear the make-up, the heels, and carry the purse; no exceptions. I know the different between lip stick, gloss, and stain. And I have them all. I'm your knock-out candle lit dinner date and your running partner. I'm sweet, funny, caring, and giving. I'm also the first one to have your back if you need it. I have class, poise, and great manners. And I watch 'Tosh.O.' I'm well versed in both beer AND wine. And I can cook. I'm terrified of bugs & spiders. Like, wide-eyed terrified. And I can't fix a damn thing. But I can knit and crochet and repair the rips in your clothes. I'm proud of and pleased with my femininity, even if it's not always on display, and no one makes me feel more feminine than a strong butch. |
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This is difficult but I'm so impressed by everyone else's posts that I want to attempt at least a provisional kind of self-description. It's a femme's prerogative to change her mind so here we go...
I'm a ''fat'' feminist, femme dyke. I'm not into re-rehearsing old scripts or shoehorning myself into pre-determined roles but neither am I under the illusion of being able to completely transcend them. Nor am I prepared to deny their continued erotic and socio-political valence- in my life and in the lives of others. No one has the privilege of only ever having to answer to their own name so I take the names that I have been given, imperfect instruments as they are, and use their imperfections against them and those who would wield them. In a culture in which femininity (and masculinity) are constant and uncertain achievements I am a more or less unproblematically feminine dyke who loves butches and transmasculine people. I am the kind of femme who's charm arsenal is much more formidable and explosive than she could ever imagine. Who doubts herself and usually rationalizes it away when she senses she's being cruised. I am a compulsive and obsessive reader of books (self-confessed bibliophile here) but also of bodies and mind. I'm the kind of femme others use as a mouth-piece for or decoder of their own unexpressible emotions. I am a femme who feels (and who is sometimes afraid of the force of her emotions), who listens. Words come easily to me. If I worship at the feet of any goddess it's Doubt. I'm a femme who is constantly learning, interrogating my own assumptions, forming, dissolving and reforming opinions,forever curious. I'm the kind of person who is adept at seeing all points of view but struggles to fully adopt one or tow the party line for more than five minutes. The negative face of this trait is indecisiveness...and sometimes self-loathing. I'm also skeptical. I am a femme who values justice- but who's brand of justice is not especially punitive. I'm the kind of femme who dislikes shopping (especially for clothes) and has little more than a cursory interest in depilation, make-up, jewellry, weight-loss diets, shoes, handbags, ''cleanses'', facials, manicures or anything that reeks of ''girly"- but who still takes an enormous amount of time and care in choosing an outfit and is the most overdressed person at any given occasion from an early morning trip to the supermarket to a night on the town. I am a vegan femme. I am a femme who over-intellectualizes things at times. I am a femme who feels more comfortable in a dress or something resembling one (like a skirt or a long tunic) and likes to show rather than disguise the sillohuette of her hips, the shape of her breast, her thighs... I am a physically strong femme who does most of the heavy lifting, who's not phased by spiders, snakes or other creepy crawlies or getting dirty...most of the time. I am a foodie femme who loves to feed and cook and look after other people. I am a near technical (and technological) illiterate- home handiwork or basic motor mechanics are not my forte. I'm a femme who appreciates a dry wit and tends towards having a more sardonic, black sense of humour. I'm a sensitive, introverted femme. I'm the kind of femme who abhors most institutions and forms of authority and regimentation-including ''organised fun'' (so don't take me on a cruise ship unless it's an exercise in observing/trying to make sense of the human condition!) I am a femme with a dirty mind, who's mother always told her to close her legs, who's usually inappropriate for her own kicks rather than because she doesn't know the correct way to behave. I'm a cynical femme and a self-deprecating femme and a disorganized femme. I am femme who needs her own space. I am a greedy femme. I am an even-tempered, calm, competent femme who often feels out of control. I am a thinking butch's femme. I am all of these things and yet still haven't exhuasted description... |
I just wanted to thank all of you sweet, passionate,intelligent femmes for opening your hearts and sharing what makes you the unique individuals you are! My heart beats strongly for all of you and I wish you the nothing but the best life has to offer, you deserve it and then some......cheers to all of you that make our warm butch hearts beat endlessly.....Thank you!
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bouncing this thread..so everyone sees it..smiles
This is such an incredible thread..I had to bounce it so others who haven't seen it, will know it is here.
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I am a mouthy, lefty, flirty, geeky, punky, crafty Queer Femme. My feminism is central to who I am and how I define myself. I believe passionately in sisterhood, in respecting my Femme sisters and listening to their voices and their stories.
I'm tattooed, pierced and always outrageously brightly dressed. I love vintage, 50s clothes, puffy skirts and teensy cardigans, mary-jane shoes and brightly coloured tights, liquid eyeliner and red lips. Red defines me, red lips, red nails, red hair. I walk with a wiggle, even in Birkenstocks (which I often wear because my tootsies like them) but I seldom totter. I'm vegan, I bake, wearing floral aprons, face generally smeared with cake batter, glasses dusted with flour. Baking is an escape, it gives me time to meditate and create. Needless to say, as a result of all this baking, I am delightfully chubby. I'm a babygrrrl, a bottom, not quite submissive but somewhere on that spectrum. I love my Daddi and feel so safe when she holds me. It's a connection, a relationship that I can't quite explain, so much of it is absolutely innate. I am often little, I feel safe to be that way with her. Being little with her helps me to be as big and as strong as I need to be to walk through the streets as a Femme, feeling at once invisible to the people I want to see me and visible to those that I don't wiggle and strut for...I should add at this juncture that I wiggle and strut for myself first :) I was and am still a riot grrrl. My feminism and sense of myself as a Femme didn't start there but both were informed by and evolved through that movement. To this day shouty, feminist punk fires me up and I firmly believe that no outfit is complete without a feminist badge. I'm a Femme. |
Here, there, everywhere
I am woman, hear me roar! (dates me, for sure ;) )
I am daughter, sister, cousin, aunt, mother, grandmother I am tough as nails, can get you through anything I am soft, emotive, compassionate, passionate I am Scorpion I am unique I am witty, intelligent, grounded I am late coming to the party :o I am creative, musical, artistic I am lover, caregiver, nurturer, teacher and friend I can cook for a crowd I can make a party out of nothing in a moments notice I can make a silk purse out of pigs ear I can haul a load of horses I can put up 500 bales of hay I can drive a tractor, and love doing it I can fish, I can row I can sew, I can mow I wear jeans, I wear scrubs I wear boots, I wear clogs I wear chap stick, I wear lipstick I wear matching underwear on special occasions I wear a long skirt with cowboy boots if necessary, (fun things can hide under said skirt) I have good teeth, good skin I have brown eyes, brown hair with wisps of gray I have lines around my eyes from laughing lots, from life I will always smell good I am low maintenance I am laid back and slow to anger I am slow to anger, but can simmer, and will ignite I laugh out loud I cry at parades I will wipe your tears I will hold your hand I will follow your lead I have a thing for sharpies, white shirts, and funky socks I have a key holder size WD-40 with a sharpie I have a screwdriver, tire gage, bag of mints, and potpourri in the door of my truck I love old things, especially barns, books, leather, black and white photographs I love my family, I love women, I love my animals, I love my girly truck I love that I don't really fit a single label I am just me Lola |
I am a passionate, lustful, jealous, Latina :)
I was born in Mexico, speak fluent Spanish, and am in love with my culture. I love the arts, reading, writing, and admiring beautiful architecture. I am terribly clumsy but what I lack in common sense I make up for :) I am a girly girl that isn't afraid to get her hands dirty and is obsessed over the way I smell! I like wearing sexy lingerie even when no one is around because it makes me feel sexy! Every now and then I will even dance in front of the mirror... I am 100% independent!!! I love the idea of being lustfully in love! Music is my first love and sometimes dictates my emotions! My favorite word is Serendipity :) |
I am a sassy flirt. I like to whisper sweet nothings and I like to talk shit. I am caring and always want to take care of those in my life, but when used and abused I will leave.
I love wearing skirts and showing cleavage. I adore the 50's era, classy and subtle, self sufficient caretaker. And just because I like to dress up and wear makeup does not mean I won't crawl under the car or in the bed of the truck to get something done. I love being clean as much as I like being dirty. I am giddy and giggly, but I have depth. You will rarely catch me with out a smile on my face or sitting still do nothing. I am not like everyone else. I love being creative in the simplest of ways. I over analyze and under emphasize. I am pixie. |
I love this thread! That being said:
I am an Old School Femme who had Joan Nestle as my role model and mentor; I "knew" her long before I recognized that I was a lesbian. I bleed and hurt when others bleed and hurt. I am always ever ready with "bandaids" but recognize when to back off too. I feel that when everyone in this country is truly equal it will finally be a true democracy but until then it is a country where the "haves" hold power and control over the "have nots" and I will continue to do everything I can to level the playing fields. I am strong, very opinionated, independent but yet I love to be held, protected and made to feel safe and loved by my lover. I learned a long time ago when and how to pick my battles; when hackles rise sometimes it is ok to stay out of the fray. I also learned that to be a good person, mother, friend that I must take care of me first. I have learned to think more logical than emotional with knee jerk strong reactions. It is healthier this way. While I enjoy being at home; doing projects around the house, using the occaisional power tool when needed, gardening, reading, hanging out with my furr babies I still get excited at the prospect of getting ready to go out and enjoy the process of making myself look stunning. I also learned it is very possible to have fun without alcohol. I am a little shy and love to dance. Years ago, I had to get pumped up with a little vino or mixed coctail in order to be the first one out there on the dance floor. Not anymore though. I do not like being told what to do, what to buy and how to live my life. I would perfer if someone used pull words rather than the push style all too prevelant. I can be pulled along well as long as there is logic and honesty behind those words. But when pushed my back gets up and the ole rebellious me surfaces. I admit I am a clothes hoarder. I love golf shirts and Levis as much as I love something frilly and ultra feminine. I hoard shoes as well and once owned 75 pair of shoes mostly high heels in every color under the rainbow. And I love make up. I used to wear it every day, but when I "retired" I soon tired of it and now use it on special occaisions. If I could help every child, animal, adult person in the world who is/has been abused and neglected I would. As a Pisces, I am a dreamer; dream of a better life for so many people. But it is balanced with cold hard reality too. And even after all these years; the site of a well groomed and "gentlemanly" butch can make this heart beat fast and loud! |
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Great thread....
I'm a Femme.
I'm Femme~a~licious. I'm a babygirl and I'm a woman. I'm an angel and a whore. I'm a singer, an artist, dedicated and a procrastinator. I'm Femme. I'm fierce and loyal. You go after mine and You're goin' after me, too. Watch Your step. I love my home and I'm a nester. I love fixing up my home & making it my own. I'm enjoying the process. I like rough & dirty and I like slow & romantic. I like to make love and I like to fuck. I'm Femme. When I love, I love deeply....and I don't stop. I'm a Mom, a daughter, a chosen one (I was adopted) and one who was booted out (when I came out). I've sung in Carnegie Hall and at my Mom's & Dad's graveside in Barksdale, Texas. I love children, animals and some adults. I'm Femme. I've been called an Alpha Femme & scary smart. I'm a submissive. I'm strong and I ain'cho mama or Your doormat. I'm Femme. I'm probably one of the most patient women You'll ever meet until I'm not. From my Mom, I learned that patience. I miss my Mom. My daughter's death taught me just how much inner strength I have. I'm a Democrat. I hate injustice on every level. I like chick flicks and Star Wars. I've worn perfume and a baby's throw~up. I'm Femme. Give me a magazine and I can make a collage. Give me a pencil and paper and I'll write some erotica. Give me a cup of sugar, flour, milk and a can of peaches and I'll make You a cobbler. Give me a spanking and I'll follow You around forever. :eyebat: I'm Femme. I like make~up, but don't wear much. I like earrings, but I forget to wear them sometimes. I like dresses, but I'm not opposed to wearing slacks. I like sequins and denim. (But not at the same time...) I like heels, but I can't wear them anymore. (I choose comfort.) I love socializing and attention, but I appreciate my solitude. I'm Femme. And I just scratched the surface...................because that's the way THIS Femme just IS. The rest, You have to discover on Your own. |
I am girl
I am an old soul I am old fashioned I am passionate I am a free lover I am Cajun I am safe where confined tightly I am happy and sad I am angry and use that sexually I am an endorphin junkie I am a Domestic Diva I am not perfect I am learning I am a Treasure! |
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i am an old soul going through the 12th house
i laugh at the absurd and chaos of life i accept that suffering is i started my incarnations on this planet as a tree i do not believe that "positive thinking" is THE answer i play with language so to some i seem cynical and sarcastic i enjoy philosophical humour which does get cynical and sarcastic i endeavour to be kind to all, esp those whom society has thrown away --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- i believe in myself as FEMME i am queer as a 3-dollar bill i enjoy pleasure as pain and pain as pleasure i want to be restrainted so that i might be free i give so that You might receive i know that receiving is your pleasure i am stone femme but NOT passive i want to be f*cked hard and held gently in your arms afterwards i am Lady in the streets and wild in the sheets ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- i wear jeans and fix things that You would if You were here i wear pants b/c i must i wear dresses long, beautiful, deeply coloured dresses because i love to do so and they complement You i shave, moisturize, and use perfume for myself as well as for You i feel beautiful in whatever i am wearing but esp in my dresses with belts made of stone i decorate my cane with flowers, butterflies, candles and words: butch, femme, queer to be both decorative and subversive i want all to know who i am i am FEMME i am QUEER i am ME Lady_Wu |
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I have loved this thread since it began. It is awesome to witness each one of you, and your sense of self, through your expressions. You move my heart, your such beautiful femme sisters.
I am a high femme, as in highly feminine. I have always been this way. I am feminine from the inside out. Raised as a ballerina I learned at a young age that there are magical worlds interwoven into what many call "reality". It's a matter of what we choose to see and create. Who's to say which is better, or "more right"? I find an incredible amount of freedom in looking at the world this way. It makes me a wicked muse, shameless actually. I believe in the mystery of femininity and the art of seduction. I believe in true love. I believe in choosing to be happy, and loving myself and others fiercely. I believe in poetic hearts and laughter, kindness, compassion and delicious tenderness. I believe in healthy living, for humans, animals and the earth. I believe in sensuality as a way of life. I believe in taking beauty and painting life passionate. Living in vivid colors. Walking between flesh and spirit, with creativity in one hand, and belief in the other, we create our realities. |
i am a femme....
who dresses and in blue jeans and pants, though that's mainly b/c of the weather. i prefer long, coloured dresses that both cover my figure and define it at the same time.
who remains modest, even in these times. who studies many things and has many interests. who can talk about anything. who can fix nothing but is perfectly willing to hand you your tools. who doesn't like to see bugs and other sentient beings killed. i'll call for you to take them outside. who has both a spiritual side and a sensual side. who meditates and chants. who keeps herself shaven and rubs moisturizer into every place. who uses tinted lip balm. who has baby-fine hair and therefore keeps it short. who adores butches and all that they are. who adores butches and all that they do. who loves being femme and all that means! pres :moonstars: |
Looks like I'm the first to post on here in awhile... here goes...
I'm a rocker lesbian, which means I wear band t-shirts, go to shows, and have mass amounts of black eyeliner in my bathroom. On the other hand, I'm the girl who adores the way I look in a button down dress shirt and slacks ;) I wear lip gloss and perfume, but I'm in no way high-maintenance. I'm very clean and always have perfect hygiene - girls have actually complimented me on the way I smell, haha. (TBC)... xoxo. |
I am blessed and loved.....
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