Hi MS!!

I am no princess I assure you. So I stand pretty good, not hard to get someone's attention. It's sometimes as simple as a hello, my name is..



and sometimes it's just about a look and then just wait.

orrrrrrrrrrr sometimes a girl has to do what a girl has to do an just flat out say.

Hi I'm ______ you're cute, I'm cute buy you a cup of coffee?

The worse thing that can happen is they are just not into you.

That's ok though, cause out there someone is.

Really now, no one should be getting offended about anything out here in this realm. We are all posting about our own point of views and answering honestly as we perceive it. Honestly, their are stereotypes of some sort regardless of our individuality. If you can't embrace them and find humor in them and brush them off, perhaps you should crawl under a rock and stop visiting sites where real people have real opinions. I'm a Boi/Butch/Daddie/Master and I look like a Guy and act Masculine. My Femme is a Baby Girl/Femme/Slave. She acts like a Femme, looks like a Femme etc. No one would guess she is a Lesbian. Hence the Names we give ourselves, hence the Stereotypes otherwise their wouldn't be these labels, yes? Smile and be happy and get over it.:readfineprint:

*s*

I am ok with calling out stereotypes.

I am not fond of sexism either and ok with calling that out as well.

:)

That wasn't directed at anyone in particular. Just I have seen too much whining about "...don't use stereotypes, I'm offended..." So I was just nipping it in the butt before too much whining occurred. Whiners are one of my pet peeves. This entire site is full of so many different people and lets be honest, some of us can be lumped together under labels, but yes admittedly some of us can not be, we are exceptions to the rules and categories. I love all my brothers and sisters equally and enjoy all of our craziness and differences. Our lives are complicated enough and we don't need whiners and complainers to drag us down. So I was just making a point....If you can't stand the heat get the F out of the kitchen.

I suppose you can slap another "label" on a word all you want but the action remains the some. So okay, my evolved word for "stereotype" is "label."

*s*

Good thing I never have liked the kitchen!!!

I am still ok with calling out stereotypes and pesky lil isms

:)

Thanks for the dialogue

Excuse me, but would you people please stop arguing for a few minutes and light my cigarette?

Thanks!

Welcome to BFP, CausticPrincess.

:vigil: There you go bete...:) I couldn't find a lighter one.

again i wasn't directing it at femmes. but yes it did happen. i mistook a straight lady for a femme and got hit with a purse and yea it hurt. not sure how saying something that actually happened is stereotyping O.o

Thanks.

Now I feel insensitive for talking about smoking. :(

I was hit with a purse once, felt kinda good actually.

I don't understand your logic and you don't understand mine. Can't it just left at that. And my original point was why start with someone for using a so called stereotype if that is what we choose to do? So me expressing wanting to use them and you telling me it offends you is no different than you telling me I can not tell your offense to my stereotyping is offensive. It is a vicious cycle. So needless to say if you want to have at it. Call me old fashioned, but I have better things to do like fight for our rights as I have since high school and not waste any more of my energy on this

Caustic P if a cute Butch is sitting in your chair go for it. You are in the proper line of work for it and as Kim said just use a neutral line of questions.

Absolutely, Hair Dressers actually have a lot more freedom than some other lines of work depending on the salon. Being in a mall on your breaks or before or after work you have a lot of people around you as well. Good luck in your search! :byebye:

We call out stereotypes because some of us do not fit them and it makes it difficult and frankly it's offensive to be cast into something we are not.

I am still ok with calling them out even though you think it is not ok.

:)

Snow~A Masculine Femme Top Leather Daddy who hates the kitchen and leads her household.

Dirty!

I think the OP should try the greyhound station. No exaggeration, but I've met several Butches at greyhound stations. I don't know what that's all about. The cutest one EVER was in Detroit - but I was attached at the time so I just chatted and smoked and left.

Seriously. Greyhound.

Kumbaya!!!!!!!! :praying:

CP welcome to the planet. I hope you enjoy....:)

I do love it here and I enjoy it here with all of my brothers and sisters. :)

And awayyyyy we go ...

Seriously, you wouldn't find me or SOME other butches at the mall. Just saying. Then again, unlike the other posts, I haven't any other real useful suggestions :giggle: Perhaps a concert or other musical event. A dance? Then again, library? Lol. I have a few butch friends who are librarians, if you like that stereotype. Lol. Why limit yourself to one location? If you persist, as was suggested on the first page, you'll do fine.

what wax said. you can't limit yourself to one specific place. you kind of have to put yourself out a little more. if you live in a large lgbt community check for local events coming your way.

It should be a red marker. I saw an American Dad episode where Stan took his son, Steve, to a war re-enactment. They used red markers instead of weapons. I think it could catch on. :blink:

That's classified.

So, YOU'RE the one......:thinking:

You should be.

My lungs are offended at the very mention of it.




:welcome: to BFP, CausticPrincess!

Just be yourself and those who you are meant to meet, you will. :)

You would find ME at the mall, jus sayin'

uses a barber..

Hmmmmm.....lots of great advice....a few slams......a comment about my name.....and some heated discussion......wow......and I just had a simple question.....no fear friends...I FEAR no one and dont run away from opinions or opinionated people.....its all good.....we are all here for the same thing.....friendship...comraderie....support.....a nswers......and if one is really lucky....LOVE......

Kisses and hugz to all....

K

*Tip Hat*
All princess and non-princess types are looked at...sometimes stared at... ;)
I don't remember who said it because I am not good at quoting, but it is true the more you put yourself out there, the better chances you will have...the worst anyone can do is say no (that goes for all of us, butch and femme).
It is interesting tho that a lot of us are very flirty in here and not so much in person...so establishing a connection in here is one way to go about possibly more, and if it doesn't work out I bet you get some pretty great friends from it. You'll be surprised how much you learn about a person when you actually "have to" talk to them...lol *teasing, sarcasm*
:bunchflowers: Have a gret Sunday, what's left of it...& good Luck!

And just so we're clear - I wasn't kidding about Greyhound stations. They're a fucking GOLDMINE.

But, really. I find if you want to meet people in general, you go to where your type of person would normally hang out.

Like 'em smart? Start lurking around independent bookstores. Like 'em pretentious? Start lurking around coffee shops (not starbucks). Like 'em nerdy? Start lurking around comic book stores. Like 'em to completely forget you exist for weeks at a time? Start lurking around video game stores.

And GO TO THE BAR. That's the whole reason that queer bars exist. So we have somewhere to drink, dance, and meet other queers. And if dance clubs are too loud/obnoxious/meat markety for you (and, believe me I understand that. oy)...it doesn't have to be a dance club. You said where you live has a pretty big community - so USE that community. I'm sure there has got to be at least one sit-down Dyke bar - go there and sit down. Does your city or a nearby city have a gayborhood? Yes? GO THERE. Walk around. Get a latte and read a book. Pet strange people's dogs. Say hello to strangers. SMILE. Stare back.

Edit!!!

Get in touch with your nearest LGBTI centre. Sign up for some stuff - I bet they have stuff. Take a self-defense class for Queer Women. Volunteer for Queer events. Go to book launches. See live bands. Participate in protests. Eat alone at sidewalk cafes. Just GET OUTSIDE.

I certainly hope you find what you are looking for. There are plenty of good butches out there that are looking for someone. My last relationship was 9 years and I met her at her job. I met my Baby Girl I am with now online and she is wonderful. You never know when love is going to blind side you.

Awww...Julie....THANK YOU.......HUGE HUGZ......I can be TRULY Caustic...hence the name.....but no reason here.....everyone has bad days....good days.. long days and absolutely glorious days......and they all come and go....I just roll with the punches (when I can)...I took NO OFFENSE to your words.....Its all good darlin......
I am a Princess...a Diva....but with a WICKED tough skin....and a bit of a big ego ...LOL.....So lets have some coffee and solve all the worlds problems !!!

K

:tea: How bout some tea...(or T ;) )lol
Sorry...that is my mood today...
so great that you just put it out there and made the rest of us think..
I really like actually having to think about a topic and in the process put myself out there for whatever comes to be...("caustic" or not...sometimes it is a friendly reminder to get burnt)
Have a Great Week!! & Welcome again! :rrose: