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Soft*Silver 12-01-2010 08:58 PM

fear of not getting a job or not getting approved for SSDI. I either want to be declared fit to work or unfit to work..just for gods sake give me some income. I am scared how much longer I can go on living on what I have been living on..and I am scared to death of reaching the point of not being able to...

fear of my dog dying...we are kinda holding each other up right now

fear of getting kicked of medicare. Holy shit. Now that would be a nightmare.

Rockinonahigh 12-01-2010 10:15 PM

At the moment the one thing I fear is the doc's not being able to fix my back in some way I can live with or haveing a procedure done and it becomeing worse.

dixie 12-01-2010 11:00 PM

Anything vehicle related. Driving, being a passenger in a car especially at higher speeds, those concrete barriers on interstates....Every time I get in a car I have an odd fear that I will die... *shudder*

Heights. I have to be very careful of even standing near a window or balcony if it's on the second floor or up, because I will pass out. I think that's also why I am afraid to fly. I went to the airport when I was younger, watched a plane take off, and passed out cold.

Modern funeral/burial options. I have this weird phobia that I will be in some strange coma that lowers my heart rate to where they will think I am dead, then try to bury me or cremate me alive. I would much rather be buried at sea, because I love water and don't fear drowning.

Large crowds and meeting new people.

Some days I have anxiety issues on even going into the grocery store. I don't like going places alone, but it is something that I'm getting better at. I will not eat in a restaurant alone. Ever since childhood I have this weird thing about people watching me eat. I'm getting over the watching part, but not so much the alone part. If I'm by myself, I will go to a drivethru and eat in the car.

I am more comfortable in small rooms and sometimes I will sit in my closet and meditate, but I am petrified of the confined space of medical equipment. I am scared of any kind of medical equipment actually, or medical procedure.

My biggest fear: I am terrified of any harm coming to my son, whether it be from car wreck, illness, weird accident, other people, etc...




I will probably be back, because I have more. Odd how fearless I was until I had my son almost 13 years ago. Since then, even things I used to love I am now terrified of... :(


LipstickLola 12-01-2010 11:13 PM

My greatest fear, is what will become of my disabled daughter when I am gone......

I also 'fear' being in the midst of very large, over-powering crowds, the kind that carry you along *shudders*

Heights? I fear them too without railings, or something to hang on to. Zip lining wasn't for me :(

Gentle Tiger 12-01-2010 11:15 PM

That I didn't make a difference but only took up space.

Passionaria 12-02-2010 12:19 AM

:praying: The safety of my loved ones. I have very adventurous children. Especially my son. Sigh. He has epilepsy. I can't tell you how many times I have found him battered and bruised, bleeding from going face first onto the pavement while having a seizure. Any time any where. Sometimes when I look at his beautiful face my mind tells me love him while you can there are no guarantees you will see him again, and it scares me because I don't know how I could go on with out him, I love him so much. :praying: :rose:

bigbutchmistie 12-05-2010 09:19 AM

Never having the love of a woman

Deborah 12-05-2010 09:26 AM

That the ones I love will not find peace and happiness with themselves or life in general....I would do anything to give them this but as awesome as I am, I cant fix everything....huge sigh

weatherboi 12-05-2010 09:41 AM

I fear that fear itself will keep me from achieving/experiencing something amazing!!!
:mohawk:

little_ms_sunshyne 12-05-2010 12:20 PM

I fear-

heartache

feeling helpless

not being able to help when I am needed the most

my imagination after watching a SCARY MOVIE!!!

letting someone down

HoneyedChrysanthemum 12-23-2010 09:11 AM

not fear exactly....
 
i am not AFRAID but i don't care for the paranormal shows in general. the one dealing w/weres and vamps and their relationships to humans i don't mind. it's the ones w/TAPS and Paranormal State, etc that I dislike. i've watched them and have come to the conclusion that their soundtracks are what I don't like.
i, like some above, also have auto-related dislikes. the one thing in my life that i would call a fear, even a phobia, is driving w/someone else in the car. the idea that some mishap be it my fault or not might take MY life doesn't bother me, but taking PASSENGERS lives does greatly! i've had my one auto accident, not my fault. that took no-one's life but ended up w/me in severe chronic pain.(yet another reason i vehemently oppose talking on cell-phones while driving. the driver who hit me was talking on a cell phone and going 60 mph with small children in the van.) since i do not drive anymore, that fear is now moot.
i don't like killing bugs, b/c they are on some level sentient beings.
i don't want to act w/o compassion.
that's about it.

Gina 12-23-2010 10:21 AM

SPIDERS
 
Any kind of spiders....also, I am afrad of puke - I can watch someone bleed out - but barfing freaks me out...

lipstixgal 12-23-2010 11:22 AM

NOt meeting someone and falling in love with someone...also spiders yuck and cockroaches, had when I lived in NY

Kenna 12-23-2010 01:25 PM

I have ALWAYS been afraid of cracking up during at interview. I am EXTREMELY talented at performing under HIGH stress, production demands, under very tight time lines and with very limited resources....multi-tasking and running several HUGE Programs and Projects comes natural to me.... I can facilitate HUGE board room meetings bringing together various Agencies and make clashing personalities mesh like they are best of friends... I can run "A Well Oiled Machine" and have pulled off some of the biggest Health Care Program Management accomplishments known to Medicaid......

Why do I crack up during an interview is beyond me. But I'm always afraid of it, no matter how much I'm prepared and "cool" before I enter that room.

LeftWriteFemme 12-23-2010 02:10 PM

abandonment, I fear abandonment above all other fears

lespere 12-23-2010 02:11 PM

Fears
 
My real - deep down fears:
  • Losing everything and being homeless
  • Being trapped in a small space I can't stretch out in - especially something where I am bent or folded over

My anxiety triggers - not quite the same for me:

Too much noise / stimulation
Being in a space with too many people
Getting yelled at without being able to leave the situation
Family "womens gatherings"

julieisafemme 12-23-2010 05:01 PM

Meat. Chicken in particular. Ground beef as well.

Especially the steak on Grey's plate right now!

Gemme 12-23-2010 08:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by weatherboi (Post 241816)
I fear that fear itself will keep me from achieving/experiencing something amazing!!!
:mohawk:

I do believe that fear of things...of fears...is what really does us in. I'm reading a book right now called The Fear Book: Facing Fear Once and For All by Cheri Huber that I'm enjoying.

It's not your usual book that blathers on and is dry as rye bread. It's designed to engage you and is almost cartoonish with the graphics but I find myself nodding over and over as I read it.

If you get a chance, take a peek at it. You might like it too. :)

JAGG 12-23-2010 08:38 PM

ok
 
Heights. But I don't let it stop me from anything. I don't let it get in my way.

Gentle Tiger 12-23-2010 09:20 PM

dying alone

little_ms_sunshyne 12-23-2010 11:07 PM

Living life always thinking the dreaded two words..."What if"

ravfem 12-24-2010 03:20 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by little_ms_sunshyne (Post 252115)
Living life always thinking the dreaded two words..."What if"

i had to nod at this.... i have a habit of playing the "what if" game, and i really hate it.

But, after going through some of the what ifs in my head, i have occasionally taken a chance that maybe i wouldn't have normally taken, so though it's a bane, it has helped once or twice.

little_ms_sunshyne 12-24-2010 01:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ravfem (Post 252176)
i had to nod at this.... i have a habit of playing the "what if" game, and i really hate it.

But, after going through some of the what ifs in my head, i have occasionally taken a chance that maybe i wouldn't have normally taken, so though it's a bane, it has helped once or twice.

I need to take a chapter out of your book lol

Gemme 12-24-2010 02:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Gentle Tiger (Post 252050)
dying alone

Many wise folks have said that we all die alone, but I understand what you mean. It's comforting to know that someone will be by our side during that time.

For myself, I don't want to be in a situation where I'm trapped in my own body....vegetable state....and not be able to communicate what my desires are. I don't want someone to keep me alive because "they" think it's the "best thing" for me. They don't know. It's my body...my life...and it's mine to live as I see fit.

Once the quality is gone, I'm perfectly fine with letting go. Heaven knows, I've tortured myself enough over the years. I'm good. I'm solid. The medical community can torture someone else. Use what you can of my body and then let. me. go.

I've already had this conversation with Organic and, when we can, I'm going to work on getting the documents in order to prevent this circumstance.

girl_dee 12-25-2010 05:22 AM

ending up bitter and cold like my mom, I wish she was not such a downer.

SouthernStud 12-25-2010 05:48 AM

NEVER finding another love that makes me truly happy....

sylvie 01-07-2011 08:10 AM


i fear putting myself out there at times, because there is a fine line between extending yourself to help someone sincerely, and getting yourself involved in something that just drags you down..

Jet 01-13-2011 12:20 AM

Dead-pale little girls in black who ask, "would you come out and play with us?"

Nightshade 01-13-2011 01:01 AM

That I will never know what true security feels like.

That there is something deeply, inherently wrong with me and not only will it prevent me from having love term love in my life, but I will never ever get to know what that intolerable thing is.

Miss Scarlett 01-13-2011 05:14 AM

Unemployment

sylvie 01-13-2011 08:55 AM


- the dark..
i've a real fear of the dark, especially when i'm all alone..
at night, i don't feel safe and it interferes with my sleep..
even if my children are here, i feel responsible for them, so i don't feel a sense of safety..
and yes,i even run and jump on my bed so the boogie man doesn't grab me from beneath!
:blink:

Chancie 01-13-2011 09:00 AM

I have a deep fear of losing the security of my own home.


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