I got distracted while posting earlier and I forgot something about colors.

There's a strong influence with pride and colors. Red/white/blue have been taught to us to equal national pride. The colors of one's flag of origin usually brings forth pride. With the superbowl as an example, there's even a song on the radio RIGHT NOW depicting the link between color and pride...."Black and yellow"...about the Steelers and Pittsburgh pride.

I did not experience the eating after a funeral until I came to America, where I came from the body layed out at the family home, people came to visit, bringing food, drink, candles, and herbs and dried plants to help with transition. Occasionally a live chicken made an appearance, but it wasn't for dinner.:|

The food was brought the family could do body vigils, pray, etc. without the family having to worry about that task, laundry was done by the ladies in the neighborhood.

In other words word... I dunno:seeingstars:

Congrats!!

:hangloose:

Yes, my love, I can see and understand that. I've attended many wakes - Puerto Rican's wakes are no different from Irish wakes - lots of food, liquor and reminises and jokes. What the closest of us to the 'dearly departed' will never regain, is the love and warmth, and yes, the bad aspects of them we will miss...

s
Do you know why we eat after funerals?

Thank you.

Because we can...? We're still alive and able to do so. Not so much for those we've buried.

You have definately been to a clone family of mine. :|

Cajun's lay the body out a love oned, stay up all night (hence the term *wake*) fasting and having rituals (bring your own chicken style)... . bury the dearly departed the next day and then have a huge buffet style free for all feast. Everyone brings some yummy dishes to the feast and tends to the mourning family for a while doing chores and errands... and of course lots of drinking..

What a sendoff :)

My big question? I am falling for a beautiful mature lady.
She is smart and attentive. Oh and did I mention Sexy as all heck I need to wear my :fireman: hat because there is fire in the house. LOL My question is will she want me as her guy for keeps?

it's funny, i was just talking about the rituals surrounding death & funerals recently.... when i was young, the body was brought to the house (and in the case of my uncle, a soldier who died in Vietnam, a soldier came with the body and stayed there at the house, beside the casket the entire time).

Everyone, whether they knew the family or not, brought food. So much that a lot of it was thrown out eventually.

i think that some of it is that, at least in the culture i grew up in, you offer food at any & all occasions, happy or sad, as a way to socialize, show respect, love & either sympathy or congratulations. i remember more than one occasion when a family member would say something like, "i have to fix something to take with me before i can go over there", and also, "did you see that so&so didn't even bring a store bought cake?!" It just wasn't done, especially store-bought stuff!

my granny fed us til we couldn't eat another thing & then kept trying to push food on us... it was her only way of showing love.

I hope so tickets are bought!! Good luck and congrats!!

i wonder if this is drived from sin eating in other cultures?

link

and we do this today, in America, in the body and blood of Christ...at communion...a small ritual revolving around a funeral

Sunday Feb 27
 

Question 2/27

What's the fine line between seeing that your needs are met and being selfish?

I am not sure if that fine line can be identified because it seems both those things would be in a constant state of relativity with each other. I guess finding a balance between both would be a start.

QUESTION 3/11

Would you like to know the precise date of your death?
Why or why not??

I would want to know so it would be clearly out there and I could plan accordingly as well as ready myself emotionally for it (insomuch as one can ready ones self for the end of being). Not to mention it would take the pressure off about oh say worrying about parachuting or base jumping or simply driving in Houston rush hour traffic. I don't think I would want anyone to know my date but me until it got close because it would cause a change in the dynamic of the relationship.

I would love to know then I can plan not to show up that day.

not sure i'd like to know when. it's more like how?

Would you like to know the precise date of your death?
Why or why not??


NO. I try to live my life as best I can all the time. I might spend money I don't really have seeing someplace magnificent if I knew it was soon, but life, for me, is really about relationships and I work at keeping those current.

Not sure I'd like to know how or when. I think that would change the dynamics of many of my relationships. Especially my relationship with me.

I think money can be a great magnifier for one's internal self (values, beliefs, hang-ups, intellect, life experiences, and shortcomings, ect.)

If you have it, why would you wish it?
Isn't the definition of a "wish" to desire something you don't already have?
It doesn't have to mean that you don't appreciate what you have. You may be grateful and happy with what you have and still have wishes... (in my opinion)

Personally, I would focus too much on that if I knew. I like to live knowing my time is limited, in a way that this may be my last day. But, if I knew exactly when, I would live differently, I think, and not necessarily in a positive way.

:moonstars:

I wish Blade would ask big questions...

Great question!
 

I think the "correct" reply would be to say no; because I already live each day as though it were my last. However, that would be disingenuous. [I do try to be mindful, though!].

So, yes; I would absolutely like to know the day, but not the how. Having an exact date has a way of putting everything into proper perspective. I believe it would give me the strength to say and do the things I need to but cannot bring myself to for whatever reason....

http://i1306.photobucket.com/albums/...ps078db23d.jpg

In my opinion....
 

The fine line lies in knowing the difference between actual "needs" and "wants." It is never selfish to insist on having legitimate needs met. It may or may not be selfish to have all of your wants met depending upon how you go about it and whether or not you do so with a sense of restraint.

lmao; you're not kidding! :shocking: