I agree- so very heteronormative. And I think connected to the whole male ego garbage. Firstly, I am female and lesbian. Secondly, cock as sex toy or accessory is not gender specific. As I have said before, for me it is about clit extension and celebration anyway. My orgasms are products of my clitoris- no matter how and with what might be part of the stimulation that sends it into glory.

Fergoddessakes, in heterosexual sex, the guys penis was just part of the stimulative configuration. There are aspects of every human sense being excited during sex which all work quite well together, each doing their part to promote pleasure.

I really appreciate femmes wanting to talk about femme cock and take their rightful ownership of cock usage as femmes. In fact, it is refreshing.

I would also honmor a femme lover's feelings about not wanting to use or explore femme cock as I would any kind of sexual boundary.

For me, femme cock is not a sex toy. Nor does it need to be renamed clit extension. It is cock. Femme cock. And it makes my mouth water.

i appreciate that people are speaking from their own experience, but i do not like even the slightest sense that femme cock is being disempowered or considered a toy or an extension of a clit (love the clits). It is cock. Big powerful, throbbing, hot red meaty nasty delicious FEMME cock. To me.

i do not need to explain it away or any sexual response away to feel like i am avoiding being respectful to myself or others as a woman.

Sex is not politically correct. i am careful and loving with others and myself. But i can do that and maintain an outrageous non-conforming, hot to the bottom of my being sex life. And the femme cock i interact with is COCK. i worship it. And it is FEMME, which means female etc. But it is equally COCK.

A lot of good information. Thanks everyone for sharing.

Although you didn't attach this to my prior post, it is obviously in response to it. I would really appreciate your not bringing your personal animosity toward me on the site. In fact, this does fall under the TOS- passive-aggressive posts.

So don't rename it or refer to it as a toy. And I will call it, experience it as I desire based upon my own paradigms thank you very much. And all "cock" is clitorially based for me. Sexual freedom includes each person expressing sexuality and sensuality as they view it, including terms they prefer. No, sex has no political correctness- but it sure has individual preferences no matter what a person desires. Your statement is absurd and personally judgmental! Interesting as you would (and others, rightfully so) fly into quite a tizzy if anti-leather and D/s posts were made.

There is absolutely no disempowerment in femme cock nor is there any judgment in joining the center of female sexual response and pleasure with the use of what most commonly is used within this community and called cock. It simply is not what I like to call it in terms of myself or a partner. Many posting in the thread have some of the same feelings- we all are just not the same.

I have received several messages about your post as a rude response to what I was expressing. And every one of us has a right to express our personal feelings and attitudes in these forums.

I personally didn't find Martinas post rude. I assumed she was posting from her experience with Femme cock.. :|

I think I would buy my femme this one.

http://cdn2.edenfantasys.com/250x250...s_SE024904.jpg

I love the pink but CIJS, no offense to anyone but I just have to have mine ball-less.

Reminders of experiences not good for my own mental health. That's all.

Do love the thread.

If that is what your femme prefers, that would be a lovely gift.

I am the same way...for the most part...for a different reason. I find that, during vigorous sex, the surrounding tissues of whatever orifice is being fucked tends to get very, very tender and not in a good way when using a cock with hard balls.

Now, I've used a cock before that had much softer balls...I think it was one of the cyberskins....and that wasn't as bad.

Sometimes I just want to be fucked hard and, in that case, the balls work.

I'm complicated.

:blink:

Hmmm
 

This particular phallus is not appealing to "me" cause of the suction cup thingy, that and the see through reminds "me" of jellyfish.

you can still use it with an O ring.

It's a cool looking jellyfish.

I'm liking the double entendre.

Maybe its a good idea to shop for one together since they can't be returned.

I always consult with my partner before buying one.

Let me start with saying that I can rock my opalescent blue cock I call "Blue Thunder" like a hurricane. No one has even not taken me seriously with it. lol. xoxoxoxo

Not into the balls. Kinda creepy.

The pink one is pretty, but gotta go w Snow, the clear part? I don't know.

There is nothing quite so hot as getting a blow job! Swoon.

and shopping tohgether is foreplayyyy

I like the above cock for the symbolic content. The pink represents the femme. It's shaped like a screw - notice the large threads. It looks pretty yet quite powerful at the same time.

my thoughts (I am not speaking for Snow :)) Is that even if you use the O-Ring - that suction cup is going to push (rather hard) against something... the wearer. A lot harder and forceful than one without the suction cup. It's been my experience that this results in the not good kinda pain.

Hmm..
 

As a Femme I gotta say kannon that the color pink does not represent me AT ALL!! Matter of fact I can't stand the color pink unless Hello Kitty is involved. I dunno who the hell though up this whole

Pink=Femme

I do like pink, but it does not represent me...

But it may represent Femmes to some people. Whatever works. lol

I always have pain from the friction on my pelvic bone. I've never used one with a suction cup. I'm not familiar with them. How does it cause pain? Is it the rim?

Yes, for me the rim rubs and hits me wrong.

mmmhmmm the rim for the pain - and then also for me it felt... distant and sloppy compared to a non suction dildo. where as with a standard dildo you have about 1/2 to maybe 3/4 of an inch between your o-ring and you - with the suction cup base you add another 1/2 to 3/4 of an inch. Doesn't sound like much but it can be.

Depending on what type of harness you're using and the type of fucking you're doing - this can cause the dildo to be less controlled and depending upon the person - it could cause them to not... hmmmm... feel as connected as with a non suction cup dildo.

Color Meaning

Red
Red is the color of fire and blood, so it is associated with energy, war, danger, strength, power, determination as well as passion, desire, and love.

Red is a very emotionally intense color. It enhances human metabolism, increases respiration rate, and raises blood pressure. It has very high visibility, which is why stop signs, stoplights, and fire equipment are usually painted red. In heraldry, red is used to indicate courage. It is a color found in many national flags.

Red brings text and images to the foreground. Use it as an accent color to stimulate people to make quick decisions; it is a perfect color for 'Buy Now' or 'Click Here' buttons on Internet banners and websites. In advertising, red is often used to evoke erotic feelings (red lips, red nails, red-light districts, 'Lady in Red', etc). Red is widely used to indicate danger (high voltage signs, traffic lights). This color is also commonly associated with energy, so you can use it when promoting energy drinks, games, cars, items related to sports and high physical activity.

Light red represents joy, sexuality, passion, sensitivity, and love.
Pink signifies romance, love, and friendship. It denotes feminine qualities and passiveness.
Dark red is associated with vigor, willpower, rage, anger, leadership, courage, longing, malice, and wrath.
Brown suggests stability and denotes masculine qualities.
Reddish-brown is associated with harvest and fall.


Orange
Orange combines the energy of red and the happiness of yellow. It is associated with joy, sunshine, and the tropics. Orange represents enthusiasm, fascination, happiness, creativity, determination, attraction, success, encouragement, and stimulation.

To the human eye, orange is a very hot color, so it gives the sensation of heat. Nevertheless, orange is not as aggressive as red. Orange increases oxygen supply to the brain, produces an invigorating effect, and stimulates mental activity. It is highly accepted among young people. As a citrus color, orange is associated with healthy food and stimulates appetite. Orange is the color of fall and harvest. In heraldry, orange is symbolic of strength and endurance.

Orange has very high visibility, so you can use it to catch attention and highlight the most important elements of your design. Orange is very effective for promoting food products and toys.

Dark orange can mean deceit and distrust.
Red-orange corresponds to desire, sexual passion, pleasure, domination, aggression, and thirst for action.
Gold evokes the feeling of prestige. The meaning of gold is illumination, wisdom, and wealth. Gold often symbolizes high quality.


Yellow
Yellow is the color of sunshine. It's associated with joy, happiness, intellect, and energy.

Yellow produces a warming effect, arouses cheerfulness, stimulates mental activity, and generates muscle energy. Yellow is often associated with food. Bright, pure yellow is an attention getter, which is the reason taxicabs are painted this color. When overused, yellow may have a disturbing effect; it is known that babies cry more in yellow rooms. Yellow is seen before other colors when placed against black; this combination is often used to issue a warning. In heraldry, yellow indicates honor and loyalty. Later the meaning of yellow was connected with cowardice.

Use yellow to evoke pleasant, cheerful feelings. You can choose yellow to promote children's products and items related to leisure. Yellow is very effective for attracting attention, so use it to highlight the most important elements of your design. Men usually perceive yellow as a very lighthearted, 'childish' color, so it is not recommended to use yellow when selling prestigious, expensive products to men – nobody will buy a yellow business suit or a yellow Mercedes. Yellow is an unstable and spontaneous color, so avoid using yellow if you want to suggest stability and safety. Light yellow tends to disappear into white, so it usually needs a dark color to highlight it. Shades of yellow are visually unappealing because they loose cheerfulness and become dingy.

Dull (dingy) yellow represents caution, decay, sickness, and jealousy.
Light yellow is associated with intellect, freshness, and joy.


Green
Green is the color of nature. It symbolizes growth, harmony, freshness, and fertility. Green has strong emotional correspondence with safety. Dark green is also commonly associated with money.

Green has great healing power. It is the most restful color for the human eye; it can improve vision. Green suggests stability and endurance. Sometimes green denotes lack of experience; for example, a 'greenhorn' is a novice. In heraldry, green indicates growth and hope. Green, as opposed to red, means safety; it is the color of free passage in road traffic.

Use green to indicate safety when advertising drugs and medical products. Green is directly related to nature, so you can use it to promote 'green' products. Dull, darker green is commonly associated with money, the financial world, banking, and Wall Street.

Dark green is associated with ambition, greed, and jealousy.
Yellow-green can indicate sickness, cowardice, discord, and jealousy.
Aqua is associated with emotional healing and protection.
Olive green is the traditional color of peace.


Blue
Blue is the color of the sky and sea. It is often associated with depth and stability. It symbolizes trust, loyalty, wisdom, confidence, intelligence, faith, truth, and heaven.

Blue is considered beneficial to the mind and body. It slows human metabolism and produces a calming effect. Blue is strongly associated with tranquility and calmness. In heraldry, blue is used to symbolize piety and sincerity.

You can use blue to promote products and services related to cleanliness (water purification filters, cleaning liquids, vodka), air and sky (airlines, airports, air conditioners), water and sea (sea voyages, mineral water). As opposed to emotionally warm colors like red, orange, and yellow; blue is linked to consciousness and intellect. Use blue to suggest precision when promoting high-tech products.

Blue is a masculine color; according to studies, it is highly accepted among males. Dark blue is associated with depth, expertise, and stability; it is a preferred color for corporate America.

Avoid using blue when promoting food and cooking, because blue suppresses appetite. When used together with warm colors like yellow or red, blue can create high-impact, vibrant designs; for example, blue-yellow-red is a perfect color scheme for a superhero.

Light blue is associated with health, healing, tranquility, understanding, and softness.
Dark blue represents knowledge, power, integrity, and seriousness.


Purple
Purple combines the stability of blue and the energy of red. Purple is associated with royalty. It symbolizes power, nobility, luxury, and ambition. It conveys wealth and extravagance. Purple is associated with wisdom, dignity, independence, creativity, mystery, and magic.

According to surveys, almost 75 percent of pre-adolescent children prefer purple to all other colors. Purple is a very rare color in nature; some people consider it to be artificial.

Light purple is a good choice for a feminine design. You can use bright purple when promoting children's products.

Light purple evokes romantic and nostalgic feelings.
Dark purple evokes gloom and sad feelings. It can cause frustration.


White
White is associated with light, goodness, innocence, purity, and virginity. It is considered to be the color of perfection.

White means safety, purity, and cleanliness. As opposed to black, white usually has a positive connotation. White can represent a successful beginning. In heraldry, white depicts faith and purity.

In advertising, white is associated with coolness and cleanliness because it's the color of snow. You can use white to suggest simplicity in high-tech products. White is an appropriate color for charitable organizations; angels are usually imagined wearing white clothes. White is associated with hospitals, doctors, and sterility, so you can use white to suggest safety when promoting medical products. White is often associated with low weight, low-fat food, and dairy products.


Black
Black is associated with power, elegance, formality, death, evil, and mystery.

Black is a mysterious color associated with fear and the unknown (black holes). It usually has a negative connotation (blacklist, black humor, 'black death'). Black denotes strength and authority; it is considered to be a very formal, elegant, and prestigious color (black tie, black Mercedes). In heraldry, black is the symbol of grief.

Black gives the feeling of perspective and depth, but a black background diminishes readability. A black suit or dress can make you look thinner. When designing for a gallery of art or photography, you can use a black or gray background to make the other colors stand out. Black contrasts well with bright colors. Combined with red or orange – other very powerful colors – black gives a very aggressive color scheme.

Truth be told, I only LET you all think I'm passive.

:eyebat:

I'd say I'm a little bit of every color.

The original intent of the suction cup dildo is for solo sex. Suction cup to table. Insert. Enjoy.

If you really like the cock, you can take a heated knife and just cut the suction cup off, as well as balls if you don't like them.

I've done that to a few and they work perfectly fine. One has been performing well for five years now that I altered.

And personally I think that cock is funkay! I like it.

I've got an inflatable one that is covered in tiny bumps and looks like a lumpy cucumber. But jesus, it feels great. And it looks *hot* in someone else, especially when I'm inflating it...

http://www.regulation-london.com/att...actus_2_v2.jpg

this is where I get most of my dicks
http://www.regulation-london.com
but I do find the odd one here and there in het shops that are ok. The dyke one in london is a bit crap. Most of their silicone ones have heart shaped bases and I'm really not into that kind of kink.

I do miss shopping at womyn's wear in vancouver and toys in babeland in seattle, back when those shops really were for dykes.

And! I had this one for a while, but I lost it in a break up. I had this one in disco gold too...

http://divine-interventions.com/imag...sPurpleMed.jpg

This looks badass HB. It looks like a dagger. Cool.

I was gonna suggest removing them. Although I like my girls to have BIG balls. I'm speaking figuratively. No preop trannies for me.

Thanks for posting the info about the different colors Gemme.

Red and its varying shades have always been one of my fav colors.

I especially love it in it's purest form - RED.

Maybe we need a Femme dagger thread?

Or a Femmes who rim thread?

Helllllo!

Stay out of the thread for a while and you never know what you are going to walk back into, lol!

:)

Woot!
 

Or Femmes who are rimmed..

Makes me all squirmy thinking about it either way lol.....................

Awe...to rim or to be rimmed. What about tossing salads with daggers?

Tossinhg salads? Depends on the toss-ee.

Daggers?

Bull Daggers? definitely....but not only

Daggers with blades?...only with the handle....or the handle in my hand

Gotta have boundaries.

Kannon-

We need to be super careful about stating our preferences in ways that "other" people in a dehumAnizing or derisive way. I think if you said "I prefer..." and then stated what you like, there wouldn't be a problem. Being that we have some transfolks on this site who are pre-op, we need to be sensitive about language here because we aren't having any ugly transphobia here.

Thanks!