Great thread, btw...
 

"*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?".

I did not answer this one, so here goes.

There are all different levels of dating. If a friend of mine had a very, very casual dating relationship and when it ended-it was mutual, I would still ask her if it would be OK and how she would feel about it. I am very intuitive and if I even had a sense ut bothered her, would never do it. Friends come first to me. I am never going to lose a friend over a date, no matter how attracted I might be to the butch.

If they had had a much more serious relationship & it ended, I would never consider it. There is too much emotion left when a serious relationship ends. She would need my friendship more than ever!

Separate issue: I do not call online interactions dating. I call that getting to know someone and there are also many different levels of that, too.

The online interactions can and do, range from casual, brief, superficial chit-chat, to much more intimate verbal sharing.

When one gets to the much more intimate sharing stage, then I would want to meet that person; in person. If we meet in person and all the feelings, thoughts, hopes and shared dreams that we had online, bonded us and there was genuine physical and emotional attraction (and not just a projection of what we thought the person or wanted the person to be) then, I would call that dating.

Before that, I am getting to know them on a deeper level than even an actual casual, physical date.

I agree about not discussing people you have dated or slept with with others. What goes on between me and someone else, is our business. I never, ever share a confidence either. That is an important value of mine. I do not betray trust.

Have a great day everyone!

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)

Yup I would and have on several occasions both local and long distance and had some rewarding and long relationships from it. For myself now as I grow older and wiser and been around dating for a few years, I do not want to get attached to someone online until I can meet them in person and get to know them better. I just do not see the point in rushing it now since I've been single for over a year and am enjoying me time and figuring out what I want in life. I want Ms. perfect for me and I will wait. *smile*

*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)

Yes I have and have found some great friendships and was in one long relationship due to a blind date. I would do it again.

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?

Depends, but more than likely I would as long as it's upfront, honest and no one is ill about it.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?

I say either. Just meet them first before you commit to more than just dating. I find most of my dates nowadays online and it's easier to get a feel for someone and chat and see if there are any interests there.
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*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)
I met several people on line in the past...until...2 different people pretended to be someone else to talk to me. They made up entire personas to mess with my head...so unless someone has good references from people I know in person, can't do it.

*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
I would, but have only ever done it a couple of times. It was fun.

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
Sure, in a town like Nashville it is hard to avoid.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life? Real life has worked better for me in the past....or maybe not? Since I am single now. Who knows?

I can get some of this, but the speaking not more than a paragraph in 3 years?? .. and argued?

Sounds like one of those sex sites or maybe second life.. oh hell yeah those types of relationships are bomb. Is this what you are referring to?

I thought you said the "best relationship I never had." :/ Please explain how this is possible if you don't mind or are you being silly?

Julie, if JAGG don't want the virgin, I'll take her
I'm not afraid to explore the unexplored
I think teaching is a wonderful thing
Heck, who knows, I could learn something, too

No virgins for me thanks!

I value experience in a lovah.

I actually knew someone who would do this to "test" their prospective others... It's crazy...

1. I have, so I guess that implies that I would, and they always seem to be not in my local area.
2. I have gone on blind dates, it normally doesn't work well.
3, I would date someone who dated someone I know if they are cool with it, and the person wasn't insane.
4. I think dating online and dating RL both have their pros and cons, so its 6 to one, half dozen to another.

Jess :hangloose:

What if you passed on a virgin that could've been your soul mate?

What if that virgin took direction and turned out to be a great lover?

Things you'll never know if you pass one up

And as for experience, a virgin is only as good as the teacher, but can sometimes pass the teacher easily

Just a few things to ponder

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I did not include this but yes, some semblance of sanity is definitely on the top of my criteria for dating someone!

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)
yes I have and would again date someone I met on a dating site or online forum
*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
No have never will never
*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
I'd date someone who had dated someone I know. It's doubtful I would date someone who had dated someone I consider a friend.
*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?
I actually like meeting people online first, building a friendship, meeting in RT and if something develops that is great if not then you have a great friendship. That said I don't do LDR's so an online meeting and pending relationship would be with someone in fairly close driving distance. Don't get me wrong, I like meeting in RT too but it seems less stressful to build a online relationship to start out. Less distractions.

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)
I would definitely go out with someone I met online if the mental attraction was there, but I find irl is where I have met my dates, felt that energetic attraction and gone for it.

*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
This just sounds like a BAD idea. Finding connection is such a subtle art. How would anyone else know what makes us hot? I do think a social gathering with no pressure is cool though.

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
Yes as long as they were not a friend (i.e. acquaintance only) and there were no bad "political" repercussions. It hasn't happened so far and I'm in a small Butch/femme community. Mind you I was in a long term relationship too.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?
I think in this day and age it happens all kinds of ways and I try not to evaluate it. Online does afford you the opportunity to see how the person thinks.

Oh and as for LDR's, after having one recently end because my partner could not take the distance piece (it was a first ldr for me) I'm really gun shy about the person being more than a few hours drive away. It was heartbreaking to have the distance be the deal breaker. Then again, I was okay with it because I'm more about the person and the type of connection when we could be together than things that kept us apart. But everyone is different.

Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)
Yes i have. They key is both people MUST be honest. i've had LTR and made very dear friends from online. my best friend and i met in a chat room over 10 years ago, she is my soul sister and i hers. Although the LTR didn't last my friendships have. :)
*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
Oh Hell to the NO..i detest the "i have a lesbian friend that.." well i'm sure we've all heard the rest..oh lawd just because they are lesbian don't mean we're a match.lol bless their hearts they mean well. But NO.
*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
Although i never have..i guess it would have to depend on the circumstances.
*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?
Eh, six of one, half a dozen of the other..i think it's just the way society is leaning towards the computer and electronic ages..i'd prefer old fashioned wooing and courting myself..either way as i stated before HONESTY is a must when getting to know anyone in any kind of media/social situation. *sigh* whatever happened to the days of taking your time and getting to know one another??

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)
*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?



1. Yes, I have and would again.

2. I've never been on a blind date. I'm afraid who my friends would hook me up with.

3. Ebon dated one of my best friends before we got together. Before taking that boat, I spoke to both of them until *I* felt comfortable progressing with our relationship. Both were fine with it. If one had not been, that would have been the end of things.

4. There are pros and cons to both. Here, it's much easier (for me) to type the things that I need and want in a partner. That lets the person know upfront, who and what I'm looking for. IRL, it's a giant crapshoot. You may meet someone and you like them, but they aren't compatible with you in some major way and it's very sad when that happens. It can happen online too, if someone ignores the deal breakers of another or if someone plays the 'she obviously didn't mean ME/that/all the time' game, but I think it happens less often.

This is very true. On one hand I say no but the truth is that if you have chemistry then everything else goes out the window. Someone is going to know someone, some where. If I had serious chemistry with someone that use to date someone I knew well then I would talk to my friend and ask them how they felt. I would discuss it first. If I knew of them, just someone I knew but we were not good friends I wouldn't really care.

In our community we often don't have a choice then to network and pursue people online. I've always used this venue to meet people, however I won't engage in a relationship online. I might get to know someone but soon after I want to arrange a meeting. If someone is long distance I need to know they can afford the time and money to come visit me to pursue the relationship. I will do the same. If that goes well after a while I think we need to sit down and decide how we will merge.

Lol, I haven't ever dated anyone on this site and I have but a single ex living in this town or even within thousands of miles of here. It would be more probable that I would date someone who doesn't know anyone I know than it is the opposite.

I once dated one of my best friends ex partner and didnt know it,they were together when they both were way younger wich was ovr ten years before.Then we met (all 4 of us ) for dinner one night...OMFG! When they saw each other I thought I was gonna need the popo..but it works out ok,but u bet we didnt doubble date again.

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)

I once drove to Greenville Indiana to meet a woman I had been talking to from another chat site when she lived in Ohio. We ended up being together for 7 years, so the answer is yes, as long as I feel comfortable meeting them face to face and dont think anything "hinky" is going on lol.

*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)

I have never been on a blind date, but I might be open to the possibilty if the person or persons setting it up knew me well enough to know what I was looking for.

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?

No I kind of agree with the other posts I have seen where you just dont want to deal with the gossip that is sure to accompany it. That and if someone tells you all about the person, there is nothing there to learn on you own.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?

I think both are full of endless possibilities! But having a real hard time finding people where I am lol.

Any other comments on this subject would be great.....these are just questions off the top of my head. :deepthoughts:

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*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)

Yes, I have and I am currently. We met here in BFP

*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)

I did once on a dare, it was more of a prank set up by her friends. If ya want to know the story I started a thread about Blind dates a while back.
As for now, I would not do a blind date. It's just not my style.

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?

I try to stay away from those situations. I'm not one to date a friends heartbreak.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?

There are some PRO's to dating long distance. One is all you have is communication so it forces you to get to know each other which is so important. If you are honest with each other you learn how to work out differences or if you can't then you know that person is not for you. You have to remember that when you see each other if it's once a month or a couple months before seeing each other that it's still some what of a vacation, it's not everyday living. If you can't live without them... DON'T MOVE THEM IN, if you can live separately (in the same city) for even a few months if not a year.

On the CON side of things, not having that person with you once a week or even more for that matter does suck. If you are the type of person that has to or can't live with out the sight and touch of the other person this may not be for you.

I can't say if online or in person is better? If you meet someone from your own city. Do you really get to know them the way you get to know someone online (yes and no) if you were to go out on your first date (in person) you may not ask the "questions" you really need to know. Such as Top. bottom, Sub, Dom or the many questions that people are a bit shy to ask right away to see if there is even that dynamic you are looking for. Online makes it much easier to ask those hard questions. I think it teaches you to communicate right away. Learning to talk to each other is so important I can't stress enough.

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)

Of course, it's too hard to find a good butch just anywhere...;-)

*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)

Hate 'em. Everybody has an opinion as to what you need, usually doesn't include you in any way, shape, or form.

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?

No, probably not. That is kinda creepy.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?

I guess any way you can find someone who compliments you is a good thing. Online can be a great way to meet someone (and have fun) but IRL is important eventually.

I have had a couple of bad experiences and a couple of good experiences with on-line...people can easily be what they want to be, not what they truly are. Sometimes, dangerously so.

Sorry, just coming off a bad one...

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)

I would and have. I've had two long term relationships that began online from a gaming community. Even though they ended I still think online dating is a great way to get to know someone. Usually both people feel comfortable enough to let their guard down and open up.


*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)

No. They aren't going to know what it is I'm really searching for.


*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?

I'd have to have more information to answer this. Was it a brief fling and the person I know is totally cool with it? Just hard to answer that one.


*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?

I think both have their pros and cons. I don't think one is better than the other but I do know that online dating is harder!

Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)

Yes, I have done so and think that this is perfectly normal and healthy. However, I wouldn't / couldn't "date" someone online. Rather, via online media, I've been able to meet (in real-life) some interesting people and date.

Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)

Have done so and have had some very enjoyable and fun nights out as a result.

Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?

Yes. I wouldn't have a problem with this at all in most circumstances. The only difficulty I would have would be where my friend had been in a full blown relationship with the other person and still had strong feelings for the person or was feeling hurt emotionally. Likely, I'd still be happy to date this someone but it woukd create an unwelcome complication.

Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?

I think that either can be great in that you can meet what become fantastic friends or fantastic partners via online or in real-life. However, generally, real life can be better in terms of initial interaction as, for me, it's so much easier to get idea of who someone is and what they are by interacting with them in the flesh and looking in their eyes.

In my experience, a person's online persona is typically different from their real-life persona. In most cases, there's nothing disingenuous about that - it's just that we are much more multi-layered in real-life, for good and bad, than we can be online. Of course, there are those who are rather disingenuous online and, in addition, some crazy people can appear normal online. Therefore, the real-life method is a better filter mechanism for me.

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)

You try living on butchless island 2400 miles from anywhere and see just how long you won't do long distance..... Luckily I like frequent flyer miles a lot.. :)

*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)

I did and omg I have some ammmmmmmazing stories....Like the hobbit......

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?

really.small.swiming.pool - nearly everyone I know has slept with or seen everyone else naked... sooooooo...

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?

I've done both and in all reality I'd have been just as crushed out on my ex's either way.. And besides - assholes can hide behind a drink glass as readily as they can hid behind a computer screen!

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*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)

Yes, I have and fell in love and I think it is a great way to meet people.

*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)

I met my first husband that way and am open to it.

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?

Yes, because the person you know would be a great reference.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?

Both are great. I am open to any way of meeting new people.

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)
Yes I would and yes I have


*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
I have, but......not working out so well.

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
sure, unless it would create hard feelings w/my friend.


*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?
What's the difference really? In the end, you meet.....maybe gives you an opportunity to meet someone that you would have otherwise not having had the chance of meeting and getting to know.

Not that the OP didn't raise an interesting question, but the very idea of "real life VERSUS online dating" suggests that they're mutually exclusive. I think they can compliment each other to give you a bigger overall pool of people to interact with.

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both) - Yes, I have and I still do.

*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers) - I have, but my friends are not very good at picking out my dates. They do try hard and I appreciate them.

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know? - Yes, unless it caused strife somehow.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life? - I think both have their qualities. I do like being in the same room with someone a lot, though. It helps to know if there is chemistry (the happy intermingling of pheromones).

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)

I have. Quite a few times. I've met people from three different forums, dating sites and chat rooms. I've had long term relationships with people I've met that way.


*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)

Well not blind dates, per say. But I have had friends organise a social eve and invite me and someone they think I would get on with. Or they've invited me and their single friend they'd like me to hook up with to the same event. It's pretty normal in my expereince for people to do this. I think it's rather generous and kind. I met one partner this way.

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?

Considering the small size of the entire community, this would be impossible if I didn't. One of my exes in San Fran wound up being a very close friend of someone I was dating in London. There are seven dykes on the planet and the rest is done with mirrors.

I've dated many people that are known to others, and my friends have set me up on dates with their exes if they think we'd get on. I personally have no issue with someone I know or a friend dating one of my exes - as long as there has been enough time for me to get over it.

It's not *really* my biz if someone dates one of my exes. As the saying goes "not my monkeys, not my circus" and if I am truly over my ex, I can leave them to their privacy about it.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?



I could say "it doesn't really matter" but to be totally honest, the relationships I've had with meeting people for romance the meat world has turned out better in that the relationships lasted much longer, they were local to where I was, we had friends in common and it was easy to upkeep the relationship.

From the net, it has usually been with some kind of distance which made easy physical contact difficult, no shared social spaces, and usually those things tended to give rise to dishonesty and more work to upkeep anything long term.

Other users milage may vary. My expereince is certainly not par for the course.

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)

Yes! I have had several relationships with people I have met online, both locally and long distance.


*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)

I have never been on a blind date, but I wouldn't mind. I might questions some of my friend's judgement as to the type I prefer to date, but I am open to meeting new people, regardless of it materializing into a relationship. Friendships are great too!

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?

Depends who. A close friend, absolutely not! I value my friendships too much, and it would bother me if a close friend was with an ex of mine. If it is an acquaintance, maybe. I guess it depends!! :-D

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?

I would love to meet someone in my local area, of course, but that isn't always possible. The Internet gives us such a broad spectrum of people to connect with, I think it's more likely to find someone compatible, especially in our community which is already small. As long as the person embodies the qualities I am looking for, I am ok with either. :)

Meat world - ;] a new dating site? Best typo maybe evah
 

Meat world has always worked the best for me too bwahhaha! Except for maybe that one time in a Seattle bar ,standing at the wall referred to as the meat rack. I was an out of towner and clueless why women were looking me over. Their come hither looks were completely lost on me. Finally, someone explained it all to me which was hysterical. I kept thinking, they wanted to rumble :| brilliantly dense - I still Have It like that ;]

Not meant to be alone
 

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)
Yes,did it,would do it again.

*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
Sure,why not.

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
Yes,did it...

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?
Both.


Well,that was fun..:blink:

*Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)
I've never gone out with someone I've met online, but if I trusted the person enough online, and we knew each other for a little while, I'd be open to meeting someone online, however I'm a huge introvert and kind of awkward when meeting people online, so my hopes of finding someone online feel pretty slim...

*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
I have never been on a blind date, but I would be open to it, if it was set up by someone I knew.

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
Depends on the circumstances. If the person I knew was ok with it, then I might.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?
I prefer meeting people irl rather than online, but I'll keep my options open, and it seems like meeting people online is a little easier.

Do you (or would you) go out with someone you met online, such as from a dating site, chat room, BFP, etc.? (this can be local or long distance or both)

Yes, why not. Important for me is, to have at least an idea about the personality of the other person, to have a feeling for what/ who to expect and which expectations the other person has.


*Do you go out on blind dates? (set up by friends, co-workers)
Nah, not really my thing. Never say never, though...

*Would you go out with someone who has dated someone you know?
Never was in a situation like this, I assume rather not, especially when that someone is a close friend of mine.

*Which do you think is better: meeting and dating people from an online source, or meeting and dating people you meet in real life?
People that I already met in real life, because I prefer to watch from a save distance before a "date-like situation" develops. Still, one of my projects for next year is to become a bit more courageous on respect thereof.