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BoiJen 12-31-2011 03:35 PM

I've learned that my son is the one person I share the most with emotionally, and his memory, on things even I forget, is excellent. He has
taught me to believe in "magic", especially the kind I tell him of, when my belief in it was not there at first.
I've also learned that people who push you away are the ones who need you the most, but they won't tell you until they hit a breaking point.
One last thing I learned is that people who say they will never leave, always do, and if they say they will be there, never are.... Until proven.

spritzerJ 12-31-2011 03:51 PM

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Originally Posted by BoiJen (Post 495829)
I've learned that my son is the one person I share the most with emotionally, and his memory, on things even I forget, is excellent. He has
taught me to believe in "magic", especially the kind I tell him of, when my belief in it was not there at first.
I've also learned that people who push you away are the ones who need you the most, but they won't tell you until they hit a breaking point.
One last thing I learned is that people who say they will never leave, always do, and if they say they will be there, never are.... Until proven.

I understand the emotional connection with your kiddo, it is amazing. As is there memory for what we forget. OMG, I never imagined how much brain power I've lost over the years but she reminds me daily. :seeingstars:

Julien 12-31-2011 03:53 PM

I've learned that I can withstand the difficult times in my life if I give myself a chance to experience the events without struggle or negativity.

Sassy 12-31-2011 04:11 PM

I've learned I just might not be ready to let go of those dreams I had when I was 20-something.

msW8ing 12-31-2011 04:31 PM

i have learned that sometimes..through no fault of either party..relationships just don't work out..there isn't always hatred or blame or cheating or lieing or mud slinging..sometimes it just doesn't work. And everyone who comes into our lives for no matter the length of time or reason why..have a purpose..have something to teach us if we are just willing to learn.

spritzerJ 12-31-2011 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by msW8ing (Post 495861)
i have learned that sometimes..through no fault of either party..relationships just don't work out..there isn't always hatred or blame or cheating or lieing or mud slinging..sometimes it just doesn't work. And everyone who comes into our lives for no matter the length of time or reason why..have a purpose..have something to teach us if we are just willing to learn.

Oh so learned that one this week. I really wanted to make 'em suffer but I was lucky that my sister reminded me to let go and let go fast so there was room for a peaceful resolution. Because it was what we really needed a peaceful resolution. And peace is being found.

1ladyface 01-11-2012 01:57 AM

I've learned (or am trying to learn) to be patient with my body. Recovering from this cold takes time, getting more flexible takes time, getting stronger takes time.

I was talking with a friend today about how I overdid it this weekend and exercised too much and re-aggravated that pesky cough I developed over Christmas. He's in a similar place so we each came up with a mantra to remind ourselves to slow down this week. Mine was initially "my body is still healing" but then I realized that made me angry and impatient so I changed it to "my magical body is healing itself" which feels good.

(though slow) :waitinggirl:

kittygrrl 03-15-2012 11:27 PM

I've learned..
 
true kindness is perhaps greater than love

genghisfawn 03-16-2012 12:52 AM

Some things are impossible.

mariamma 03-16-2012 01:23 AM

Patience is a virtue and I am not a virtuous woman.

Glenn 03-16-2012 05:21 AM

The most attractive packages contain the most artificial ingredients

Ginger 03-16-2012 01:38 PM

I've learned that things really do seem better in the morning—when my energy is at its best, and the sun is shining.

girl_dee 03-16-2012 01:51 PM

How wonderful life is when it is really happening, the challenges and learning is part of the big ole wonderful picture of reality. Talking about the hard stuff and being safe to do so without becoming the bad guy is an amazing thing.

That i am worthy of a nice home, safe place to live (Thank you Syr!) where i have freedoms, without landlords telling me what to do or not to do.

that sugar coating the truth is not a good idea, that only comes to bite you in the butt. i'm also learning to recognize saccharin when i see it.

Amber2010 03-16-2012 01:55 PM

I have learned that I make my own happiness and not the people in my life.

girl_dee 03-16-2012 01:58 PM

i've learned that i can't fix/save others, they have to figure it out on their own

scootebaby 03-16-2012 03:10 PM

I have learned...

Everything happens for a reason

Karma does exist,she is just quiet sometimes

Never assume...regardless what it is

Just_G 03-16-2012 03:29 PM

When people tell you who they really are; listen. When they tell you what they are looking for and you are NOT it; walk away.

I have a tendancy to think people change. They don't. If that is who they say they are; I need to start listening and walk away.

I once had a woman tell me, "I am going to do nothing but hurt you." (emotionally) Apparently I took that as a challenge to try to prove to her that she wouldn't. How STUPID of me to do that! I let her hurt me....I gave her that power when I didn't walk away....when I didn't listen to her TELLING me what she was going to do.

Ancora mi imparno!! (I am still learning!)

Just_G 03-16-2012 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee (Post 548032)
i've learned that i can't fix/save others, they have to figure it out on their own

Amen to that!! :clap:

Just_G 03-16-2012 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by msW8ing (Post 495861)
i have learned that sometimes..through no fault of either party..relationships just don't work out..there isn't always hatred or blame or cheating or lieing or mud slinging..sometimes it just doesn't work. And everyone who comes into our lives for no matter the length of time or reason why..have a purpose..have something to teach us if we are just willing to learn.

This is so absolutely true!! They are there for a reason, season, or a lifetime!

girl_dee 03-16-2012 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Just_G (Post 548078)
>snip<

I have a tendancy to think people change. They don't. </snip>

Amen to THIS.

Just_G 03-16-2012 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee (Post 548088)
Amen to THIS.

And I didn't mean that in a bad way....I have simply found that when people say they are "X", then they are always going to be "X"....they might change their ways for a while, but they always end up going back to "X". Does that make sense?

(and this is just MY personal experience I am speaking of)


girl_dee 03-16-2012 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Just_G (Post 548102)
And I didn't mean that in a bad way....I have simply found that when people say they are "X", then they are always going to be "X"....they might change their ways for a while, but they always end up going back to "X". Does that make sense?

(and this is just MY personal experience I am speaking of)



i knew exactly what you meant, and i agree and that is my experience too :)

firegal 03-17-2012 12:33 AM

No time like the present!
 
Well it time for me to learn about me AGAIN.

rediscover thine self! I have been so self absorbed in things that just were putting me in a place of emptyness and pain.

So its not so much about what ive learned but looking forward to the process of me LEARNING!


Terry :fireman:

Corkey 03-17-2012 01:26 AM

I have learned when the time comes and I stop learning I will be ashes.

Okiebug61 03-17-2012 07:31 AM

I've learned that loving someone is not only something in the opened eyed present but in the blind future. Thankfully she loves the same way.

kittygrrl 03-17-2012 11:44 AM

I've learned, I don't miss coffee, a healthy smoothie gives me tons more energy..coffee is a drug:|

Ginger 03-17-2012 06:58 PM

Today I learned how satisfying it is to sleep, what a beautiful place sleep can be.

kittygrrl 03-18-2012 12:50 PM

I've learned
 
... there is no such thing as forever..or should i amend that with forever can have very different contexts depending on who is using it..people will lie to you, and lie to themselves..make sure you are clear & honest if you decide to use that term in your relationships to avoid disappointment altogether don't use it at all (imo)here & now is where your focus should be, evaluate & make sure it's what you need not want you wish it to be

girl_dee 03-18-2012 07:28 PM

i've learned that you can become colder more jaded each time something hits you right in the face. Sometimes i wish i could learn never to let anything hurt me, ever again, then i could say i learned to shut off my hurt.

Martina 03-18-2012 07:46 PM

i've learned that people don't mean half the shit they say.

scootebaby 03-18-2012 07:51 PM

I have learned...


there has to be ugly in the world to help us appreciate the beauty more

some ppl need to try to run you down to make themselves look/feel better.

that people who really wanna know you will take the time to do so

i want to be a better person.

girl_dee 04-07-2012 06:34 AM

i've learned that life is just not all puffy clouds and rainbows. Those things are part of it, but living the reality of daily life, not a fantasy, is what i need in my life. i've learned i don't do well with not having a future laid out, goals, budgets, and a plan to meet those goals. i won't go through life coasting and not knowing, i need concrete plans and the action behind the plan. i've learned i need someone in my life who leads by example, not just empty words, i've learned i lose faith in people when they say one thing and do another, i've learned i need people in my life who make life happen for themselves, not let life happen to them. i have learned that i thrive with someone who gets all of this, wants to live a real life with me, and not play in a virtual bubble of playing house.


~ocean 04-07-2012 06:35 AM

i have learned always to trust my own instincts :))))

bkisbutchenuff 04-07-2012 07:04 AM

I have learned ... people do not present themsleves honestly - but as they want you to believe they are...
Also - I have learned that so many people are selfish and self centered...
I refuse to be that way or to give up hope!

ruffryder 04-16-2012 07:39 PM

Never make someone your priority, if you're only their option.

Okiebug61 04-17-2012 03:48 PM

I have learned that my patience is actually getting better as I get older. :-)

girl_dee 04-17-2012 05:45 PM

i am learning that i self impose stress and then don't handle it well :(

Metro 04-17-2012 06:38 PM

"Be weird. Be random. Be who you are. Because you never know who would love the person you hide."

@thecoolhunter on Twitter

sara-bera 04-17-2012 06:40 PM

Take nothing for granted. Ever.

MrSunshine 04-17-2012 07:05 PM

Life really is short. It's over in the blink of an eye.


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