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I believe everyone has a soul mate. If I have come across mine yet, I was to stupid to know it. So I will continue to think positively that she is still out there waiting for me to find her, or maybe for her to find me.
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I suppose anything can exist..if you want it to.Many many years ago I believed in Soulmates..I truly believed he (yes He) was out there,somewhere.Do I believe he is still out there?,no..Do I believe she is out there?,no.
All I know is that I need love...and whoever offers me the kind of love i'm looking for,well,that's my soulmate. What is love?...You Are There for Me. Make sense? |
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My best friend growing up was a soul mate. We're not in touch anymore but she left an indelible mark on me and, during some really rough times, she supported and loved me without effort and thought. It just was. Without it and without her, I would have been lost. I haven't been able to duplicate that feeling with a romantic partner but that's okay. I'm lucky to have experienced it once. |
The way I see it... one has to be true to being the best friend possible to one's own soul...
there is no magical person who will need all my needs... crazy expectation... but there can be people who one can be forever connected with ... but please not in a needy way...nooooo lol |
I just don't particularly believe that someone was "meant" for me.
I'm a "hard" athiest, which means I don't believe in fate, lessons from the universe, pre-ordained meaning, souls or spirit. Yes, I know and have met - and married - someone who got me on such a core level it was amazing. I also have two best mates - one of 27 years and one of 32 years - who are people who deeply get and understand me. It's rarely an effort to interact with them and I trust them completely. My half brother was the deepest love I have ever had for anyone and the connection we had wont ever be repeated. We were like twins. We even looked like each other to a spooky level. Same laugh, same taste in music, same skills and interests, same haircut, same gayness, same filthy laugh and love of kink. Buti still wouldn't call that soul mates because I don't believe in souls, so I don't believe people have pre-ordained partners matched to their souls but some universal force. So I don't believe in soul mates. But I've had deeply meaningful, incredible depth of connection and love. I haven't missed out on that. I just don't think it has anything to do with souls or fate or pre-ordained meaning. So I don't believe in the concept of soul mates. I do know the depth of partnership exists. |
I found mine, and I hope to always be with her....but even when we are not together, I feel her deep inside of me. Death or distance cannot change something that just "is".
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I don't believe in the concept of a soulmate; I believe in Karma.
But soulmate, like everything else, is just a word and is therefore only as meaningful (or meaningless) as any of us make it. Personally, I find that term very limiting - I think interrelationships of all beings are far more complex and beautiful than that word encompasses. :) I firmly believe that if you move about in the world believing in whatever, then you are very likely to find all sorts of "proof" that whatever it is, is in fact, true. Confirmation bias, I believe they call it. |
Yes it does exits!.......................
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I don't believe in soulmates in the traditional romantic relationship Disney/pop American culture interpretation. Meaning "the one", someone who is destined for you and you for them who will always magically know what you need and who will never wax and wane over time, your other half, so in synch is must be supernatural.
I think that is an unfair, unhealthy fantasy that sets people up to only have short to medium term relationships that ultimately leave them disappointed because it sets an impossible standard not based in the reality of human animal nature. What I do believe in is that there are people who because of their life experiences, outlook, understanding, personality and desires match pretty closely with yours or even better beautifully compliment you and that gives rise to a connection and delicious frisson that together you tend, groom, and shape over time. To me ultimate love is more of an ongoing piece of performance art rather than a divine intervention. |
Its something I think about often, but as of right now, I dont think so. I think it is warm and fuzzy to think about someone on the planet already waiting for us to just "happen" about and skip merrily into the sunset together. Seems really need and packaged in a way life just isnt.
I'm a big believer in being able to choose our own destiny, therefore I sway on the "no" side of the existence of a soulmate. I am willing to have my mind changed about it though. |
I've spent so much time studying this topic. I believe that for some people having a soulmate is simply being with someone in a relationship that works out and lasts, which is fine. And for others (like me), a soulmate is more of a rare type you aren't sure that you will ever have the chance of meeting (until you do), a twin flame. Someone who is so unique that they have so many of the most uncommon things in common with you, along with weird coincidences and other signs that make you feel you would most likely never meet another who fits you so well.
The one who changes or adds to you and your life in the most positive ways because you value the same things and were already headed on the same path before you even met. They can be as different from you as they are the same, yet those differences turn out to be things that compliment each other naturally instead of distress you. For example, a writer and an artist who both always thought about doing picture books, but the writer doesn't draw and the artist doesn't like to write. They discover they can do amazing things together. The one who makes everything better simply with their presence. The one with whom you have healthy happiness in ways that remain consistent and stand the test of time. Things aren't perfect, but the two of you go together so perfectly that you're able to make it through anything life brings. In my experience, all these things make someone a soulmate, and I do believe the saying "you just know" when you meet them. But I think it goes beyond that ... to knowing that being without them would truly be too devastating to even imagine. True soulmate is the one you don't let go of and the one who never lets go of you. It's never one-sided. |
I might be a desperate optimist, a childish silly dreamer but I still believe that yes, soulmates do exists! Some find them and some don't but somewhere in there world there's a perfect match for everyone out there... Am I crazy?
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I never believed in one until I found her. Never had such a deep amazing connection with someone before... it's pretty special <3 :awww:
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do I believe? yes, probably..but that doesn't mean I believe it's smooth sailing...by my life experience, there is no such thing...but hopefully you can learn from your mistakes and at some point find that connection that will last well past a lifetime-:candle:
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Nope, no way no how, no way jose!
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Being Native I don't think so in a sense of tv or movie kinda soul mate. I believe the creator makes us in pairs. and that other half of your being your "soul" is out there living life just like you and when you least expect it they show up.. For Me it's more about u explained connections... there have been people in My life who I thought could be but really were sent to Me to help along the path to better and more enduring connections... Eceryones perfect pair is out there somewhere just living life as you are and hopefully everyone finds that OMG connection. Just My opinion take it as it is lol
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When in the moment it sure can feel like it. But no I don't believe it does.
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I do not believe in soulmates, fate, or destiny.
When I meet someone with the same morals, values, and ideals as mine I pause to get to know them. Sometimes I find a life long friend and sometimes I find a partner but it is a choice not destiny. |
Nope unless you consider my dog, who i think is my soulmate.
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yes they do :)
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Yes.
And that feeling of recognition when you look into their eyes or kiss them or just feel their presence. The thing where your soul sighs and says to itself, "Oh, I know you...and maybe I've known you in other lifetimes but I definitely know you". The feeling of all the gears sliding smoothly in time before the soft *click* where the intricate and sometimes jagged edges of one another find their perfect position. The most delicate and specific puzzle piece that has only one match. Yes, *that*. |
It might depend on the concept of soulmate, what you think or expect such kind of mate to be or feel like. I don't have a specific person in mind that I'd consider my soulmate but there are situations in everyday life where I feel connected to people and we understand each other without words or we can perfectly relate to each others toughts and feelings.
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I think so....the creator made us in pairs and your pair is out there..
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Still feel the same, NOPE, it's all mumbo jumbo junk in my opinion and it's how I feel.
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For me, a soulmate does indeed exist.
She is right next to me every morning. Wouldn't have believed it before I met Her. Usually, before believing something, it must meet scientific reason. I am so glad She's in my life. It's not that we always agree with one another, but our spark is still there after 23 years in August. Arguing about topics is just another part of our dynamic. I have not had anyone (including both parents) who has been with me this long. It's not that we merely love each other, we are still in love. |
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Myself, though??? I don't know that, generally speaking about, an soul mate, as some people have described above, exists. I mean, there are people in my life that have known me for years and we know each other soooo well, that we already know what the other is thinking. Does it mean they're a soul mate? I don't think so. I think it's a clear case of people knowing each other so well that it's highly unlikely that anything they say or do, will take us by surprise. It's just that we know each other really well. I loved reading the post by Smiling, which spoke to Confirmation Bias. Right on, I totally get that concept and how it works. But, I also loved Ginger's idea about the idea that another person can love you and accept your flaws without contempt. I totally get the idea Medusa talks about, when all those tangible and intangible elements experienced by both parties and how they *click* into place. I just loved reading Venus007's process of understanding -- that ultimately love on progress is more like an work of art in progress, rather than divine intervention. I don't know that I specifically buy into the idea of some person who turns out to be my "soul mate." Here's what I think is more realistic, because we all have our own reality, as we learn and grow: I think that a loving relationship involves commitment, the ability to accept another for who they are and to commit to nurturing their romantic relationship in terms that will allow each party to know they are the number 1 priority in the other person's life. Prioritizing for ourselves and giving the one we're in an romantic relationship with is not single handedly done on own own. Commitment toward preserving the relationship over time is probably the best investment in mutual happiness that any couple could do, and it takes lots of energy, lots of willingness to work cooperatively over the span of your romantic involvement/relationship. I'm sure I've not said everything I could say or expressed all that is on my mind. Here's to romance, love and dreams that come true. :rrose: |
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This is one of my favorite topics. One that I've spent years contemplating and listening to various perspectives about. I think the conclusion of my opinion is that a) no, there is not one for every person, but there are soulmates out there for people who yearn for one and believe they are meant to have one and b) there are different types of soulmates.
It's all varied. Some people are happy remaining alone and don't believe there is anyone they were meant to be with. Some have a soulmate, but can never be with them, so settle for a life partnership or just being alone. And some find who they believe is a soulmate, know it without doubt, and stay with them forever. I believe the two types of people out there that end up staying together are either life partners or soulmates. I believe there are friend & family soulmates, which obviously stay platonic, and then there are the twin flames, which are one of the deepest most unique romantic bond. I have 4 brothers, and there is one who is like my twin. We have scary things in common and are unique from society and others in ways that are ridiculously not common. We talk about it all the time. I spent hours with one of my sister-friend soulmates on the beach this weekend, talking, playing in the sand and tearing up as we shared things & related in ways that are unique to us. We know that we, as we identify and as our hearts & souls are designed so similarly, are a rare breed and were definitely brought together by the universe to be in each others lives. We aren't just two women who met and got to know each other well. We are each Woman Type ABCDEFG, while most other women are just type A or B or C, etc. I have another sister-friend who is my soulmate in the same exact way. I couldn't make it through life without these beautiful angels who fit at my side like a jigsaw puzzle piece. I have also dated people before who I knew could probably be a decent life partnership, but where I knew there were pieces missing that didn't match up the way they do with a twin flame soulmate. We get along fine, sure there are some pretty average things in common, and the relationship would probably be overall pretty good and healthy and steady. A good team. Secure. A safe bet. I think a lot of people either settle for or prefer this type of partnership instead of waiting for or believing in a soulmate. And then there are twin flames. I have felt this type of connection. Where there is a fire in the heart and an anchor in the core of the soul. There are major and even small eerie ways we are a mirror reflection of each other ... ways that never matched with others and that you know never will again either. Those details, that are so aligned or the same that it's scary. For me, this is the person where we know each other inside and out, not just because we told each other, but because we are from the same mold and understand the best and most difficult things about each other without words explaining. There are no parts of ourselves we can even hide from the other. We will expose things about each other that we didn't want to ever face. We read each other's minds, have way too many scary coincidences and a super glue bond that, even if we can't be together or can't make a relationship work, will never be broken at the heart & soul level where it exists. I don't think a soulmate is cultivated with time and getting to know each other and building up to it. I think it's those connections that are instant, inevitable, unspoken, unwavering, happen whether you like it or not or were ready/looking for it or not, and are unforgettable once the impact is made. It is my twin flame soulmate who would receive my last phone call before I take my last breath. I read a lot and hear so many different things. How the life partnerships are always the better way to go because they will last & are more like a security blanket. How the soulmate relationships can be too intense and have too many problems and aren't really meant to last forever. How some people stay with their life partner, all the while harboring a soulmate bond with someone else they can't be with, until they die. One of my favorite couples, Lucy & Desi, for example. So yes, I do believe they exist (sometimes more than once). But no, not for everyone. |
I think it could be when you meet someone and in less than 20 minutes they turn you upside down inside ... and you can't figure out why or make sense of it until later.
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I am still watching my DVR of VICE News from today.
I was also reading this thread at the same time. On comes a piece about the Loving Supreme Court decision. 50 years ago today, the Supreme Court ruled in the decision of Richard and Mildred Loving. They said that if two consenting adults chose to marry, race should not be a factor in the decision to marry. There were excerpts from The Loving Story. Their lawyer said: "Mr. Loving told me to tell the court that I love my wife and it is unfair that I can't live with her in Virginia". VICE asked several interracial couples today, to talk about what that decision meant to them. One couple said: "We are not naive. I am not color-blind. It is not that black folks are not black folks and white folks are not white folks but this particular white folk is my soulmate and my best friend." It really resonated with me. When I first posted in this thread, in 2014, I was with my recent ex. I left that relationship because it was not good for me. Most of us have had heartbreak related to loves that did not work out. It is a very painful part of life. I still believe in love. I still believe that one can meet the person that feels like recognition in the deepest part of your soul, that you are meant to be together. Of course, the other may not feel the same way! That is always a risk. Soulmates. Yes, I do believe it is possible (or pretty darn close to that ideal). :moonstars: |
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Thanks for the timely post, Anya. :rrose: |
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