I've never strapped, and the thought has never been one to make its way into my mind. There is no "ew" factor in the least, but it is never something I thought about.

My first girlfriend and I never used any toys - honestly, I am not sure I even KNEW about them at that age. Same went for my second girlfriend. It actually wasn't until I dated my last boyfriend that I even OWNED any toys. So, I came out fully, met a girl, and she actually shamed me for liking penetration period. We're just talking basic, slim, not-cock-realistic $10 vibrator here. I was informed that I was NOT a lesbian if I liked penetration. Well, okie-dokie, toys went into the trash and we parted ways. After that, I have only been partnered with stone partners (I feel the need to comment that it's just happened that way, it's not like I told myself "Okay, no more giving sex, just taking it!")

So, I have only been on the receiving ends of strap-on's. Sometimes it's the last thing I want, sometimes it's the one thing I want (and a lot of dirty words and hair-pulling, but I regress..). If my partner ever requested it, it is something I would be more than willing to try. In the mean time, it will just be one of those area's I've not yet explored, but by no means would I ever shame or make anyone feel lesser.

I personally would not cross someone off my list for strapping/NOT strapping/wanting ME to strap.

Just my .02 :)

I have been scolded as a femme for liking my cock. Even to the tune of saying I am transitioning into a butch. The hell I am! I am a femme, no matter what I do or who I am with or how I look. For a brief second I actually considered this was true and then shook it off me like a cold rain.

I remember Kobi commenting on some of my posts about strapping and she was so encouraging. I have to thank you for that, Kobi. It made a huge difference in my psyche. I knew I was enjoying it and didnt really give a damn what others felt but it sure felt good when a butch said WOWSA! in a positive way.

The thing I battle, is that my mate is a male and no one and I mean no one wants to hear that hetero male (in their eyes..which is so fucking far from who he is) enjoys being fucked. Its even better that it would be between two men, than a woman fucking a man.

Actually, there are many hetero men that like, enjoy and desire anal sex.

There is even a word for it: pegging.

Per the Urban Dictionary:

"Pegging
When the tables are voluntarily turned on heterosexual anal intercourse and the female servicee becomes the servicer for the man. Because most women don't have penises, a strap-on dildo is necessary."

I think we need, in general, to stop policing how each of us has sex!

Why do we judge each other? Why are we not allowed to enjoy sex in the manner and in the way that best works for us?

I know that I have been guilty of it myself and reading everyone's posts has never made me more aware of it before.

If I am judging you; I am judging myself.

I am going to work on that.

Never...
 

Done it but would absolutely LOVE to try! :)

The uber confidence my ex got from strapping were the hottest experiences I've had.

For me sex is the ultimate platform for self expression and if it feels good who cares about whether or not it fits neatly into a particular ID "box".

I genuinely feel that people who judge others on how they live their (sex) lives may be better served by taking a look at their own.

.02 Worth
 

As a Butch I enjoy the female form...the tenderness...soft curves..perfumed skin..even more so during intimacy...
But I also enjoy the strength of a woman her intelligence...sense of humour and tenacity just to name a few...
That being said...if I was to be in another relationship again...and she suggested her interest in strapping...I would not head for the hills..as I want My partner to know that I support her...and that it is not all about Me

I have heard of the term Pegging...but like Fisting, not everyone has heard of it. And when I have even subtly indicated our preference to a few other friends and acquaintances, wide eyes happened. Man could we see the judgement. He frankly could give a shit what they think. LOL. He is pretty strong in his sense of Self. I am just stunned by it, because well, its new to me and I wasnt expecting judgement. I dunno, I expected a more congratulatory response..lol...so naive am I!

For me it has always been about the energy created with a lover. If I'm there and open to exploring with you than why not do what makes us both have an incredible experience. I enjoy it and have truly been very excited by it with a couple of partners but its not something I miss if its not there.

There was a point in my life where I would'nt have even considered it because I felt that it would make me seem less femme. I was young and inexperienced with a very small world of comparison. I am damn happy I did not remain so narrow in my views or was unwilling to explore, as I am much more confidant in me now.

Thank you to all for sharing!

I actually never heard it called pegging.
I was with quite a few men (and "straight girls") before I discovered butches, had a lot of casual sex. And only one out of X didn't like being fucked. I had my strap on Loooooooooong before I was a dyke.
Bend Over Boyfriend series came out a couple of years after I went nancy pants.

http://www.fatalemedia.com/images/co...friend_230.jpg

http://www.heyepiphora.com/wp-conten...to-pegging.jpg

I do recall getting irritated with the women's sex shops exploding into "how to fuck your man" kits when I was just getting into butches.

But my two favourite dils to use came from here:
Divine Interventions

I have used Jackhammer Jesus (<3 loved that one) and really enjoyed using that...
And if I did strap I would prefer to use the Diving Nun.

I am not one to label myself butch or femme. But as Lady Snow mentioned, I love sex, period. I read the poll on the site and thought to myself well I wish I could find femmes like that! I see no reason to restrict sex to certain acts. How boring. I want a partner that is comfortable enough to be everything and anything when it comes to sex.

I've never really wanted to do it. I do not say ew. I say, femmes strapping is hot! And I'm enjoying reading the posts. The femme spectrum is a wonderful and varied thing!

I'd like to try it out, but there is no one willing to volunteer. :simplelaugh:

A question or two.

Are we talking hard strap on for fucking or soft pack for going out or both?

I've known Femmes who do all three....although for some reason my experience trends toward hard packing for both going out and at home.

How many Femmes pack for going out? Back in the day when I would occasionally bottom to a High Femme Top/Domme it was an almost guaranteed Goddess help me please, weak in the knees, trying not to fall down, experience when I hugged her and leaned into that, oh so incongruous hard pack, under those garters and stockings and shoes............anyway...

Femmes: hard pack soft pack? going out or staying home?

(waving hi to all)

I soft pack and find it very hot. It is also good for exploring my gender feelings about what is butch and femme. Since I have just come "back into the world" after a very long relationship I was not aware of The Crash Pad Series where I am getting to enjoy my fantasies that were not explored in my youth. Lots of femmes who pack... butch cock..and ftm makes my desire to pack as a femme greater,

The wife and I have been together about 15 years so that's relevant to my response. ;)

Over the years we have gone through a variety of sexual phases and oh so so many toys y'all!!
There toward the beginning it was a struggle to even have a vibe! Poor wife was kinda shy in the feisty sex department. Once she starting opening up to toys it got interesting. I was the only one who would strap it on, my slightly butch wifey just felt like she .. idk.. wasn't supposed to even like it let alone put it on. Once she got over the feelings that liking it somehow made her less gay, she starting getting more into trying it both ways. Now, many years later, it's hard to get that thing away from her! If it's out of the drawer she's got a firm grip on it. lol! Stingy broad.

I have tried it... I hate it... and... I am TERRIBLE at it!!!!

Historically, strapping on has never been my thing. But I am an evolving creature and the idea is growing in me with more and more allure. Change is coming! ;)

Thanks for the thread, Nat!

I love a strap on either way it's pointing.... <sigh> LOL

Strapping
 

Fluid. Sexy. If I am
lucky to find a partner who wants to be loved up like this.

Y'all make me smile. :D

My ex asked me to so I'm down for whatever and of course I've thought about it over the years. So there we were...I'm familiar with the strap as it's the one she uses with me. Is this a favorite of hers?! I don't know. Did she use it well? Ye she did! I'm excited but at the same time thinking what have I agreed to I hope I can pull this off. First task, put it on... It doesn't look as sexy as I thought it would and certainly not the style I would like. She laughs, I laugh, but we're still excited. We go for it...I had no stride and the strap starts to ride. My hips grew tired, and I couldn't imagine doing this for a long period of time...mind you I'm no pillow princess but I commend those who strap I'm fully aware of it takes! I'm tired just thinking about it. It wasn't working for me or her so we quickly called it quits. I felt bad for her...she let me, it was horrible and I hope she'll let someone else do this with her in her future and I didn't completely scar her lol.

Will I do it again...I want to say no, but I can't. So, maybe, but let's hope I learn a thing or two by then.

I love my cock. I no longer think of it as butch or femme. It is just my cock. I hope others enjoy it as much as I do

I find I am missing my cock lately. I feel a tad bit like something is missing from sexuality. My partner finds it very sexy when I strap, and we have a cock that is specific to him/us. I'm not sure why I am having a difficult time getting over that hurdle lately, even though we've talked about both wanting it!

I think there are some things I need to explore within myself about how I feel in my body and headspace when I strap. I definitely still feel Femme, but there's also this genderqueer, boi-ish side in there that wants to come out. I feel both at the same time--fully powerful in my Femme identity but also feeling a little bit like a boi.

Does anyone else feel like this about their Femme cock?

My boy side and my strapping have converged on occasion though they haven't always. I've really relished when they have.

I admit I have tried it because I wanted to please the butch I was with but I was terrible at it. And all I could think was it's going in the wrong direction.

I went through a time when my packer was tucked away. For some reason, I am feeling the need to wear it as much as I can. Just saying that I am loving my cock and its strap.

I had a Butch ask me to strap it on for her and I got so giddy and excited.

I am still waiting to try it out. Someday, hopefully. I am pretty sure that I will suck at strapping someone down, but hey.. it takes practice and patience.

I have strapped as a femme and now the switch as butch, but however I id strapping and femme cock is wonderful

Bump bump bump ;)

I have quite a new found love for strapping, much to my pleasant surprise. It hasn't changed how I identify and I still feel femme to the core, albeit very powerful.

I second though how tired the hips can get! Clearly I need more practice to build up the stamina.

Grr! ;)

:) ran into this today

Here is the thing
 

I'm an old soul, don't I know it? The new things are a bit awkward for me at first. However, if I am paired with someone that has the patience and willingness to take on the challenge of my sexual naiveté, well I think we could have a ton of fun. It's about trust. I've never been strapped or given it... My first response to the initial question was "me? Strap? HELL NO" and not because it is in any way disgusting it is just, hmm, I think I would need to understand the body of my lover more to be comfortable enough to wield a device and offer pleasure.
There is a popular trend these days where women are looking for women who are experienced, and can 'throw down' so to speak. That is all good I am sure, but the reality is that not everyone is at that champion gold metal level yet. That doesn't mean that the sex can't be good or even fantastic. I think it's just seldom is anyone willing to take the time to 'become' the better lover...
Now I have ranted, my apologies!
All of that wording and I just wanted to say this. I am shy of trying the strap as a femme, but if she wanted it, and was willing to have some patience with me, I'd give it a try. :D