My butch <3 Makes me feel so many amazing things. Sexy is definitely near the top of the list.

It's important for me to be with someone who makes me feel sexy. I never would have thought this, but after being with someone who didn't make me feel that way, I am highly appreciative of someone who does.

Thank you xo

That look. You know the look. It can be a stranger that watches from afar, or a lover that gazes at you during dinner. You can see the lust in their eyes, that need to lay their hands on you. This is what makes me feel sexy.

Yes! Yes!! YES!!!

If that's the case, I think I've made hundreds of women (and men) feel sexy...sometimes two at a time ... who knew that a herding impulse could be sexy lol

Lol. I'm sure you have, Collette. But seriously, it's about keeping the physical connection while making your way through a crowd. The raw physical need of your butch to keep some thread of connection. VERY sexy! (f)

Competency. Mastering a sport or acitivity that was at the start physically or mentally challenging. I've been learning chess for the past year and if the game is well-matched and well played I can feel very hot to trot!

Having and maintaining a strong, healthy body to the best of my ability. Feeding my brain and spiritual side with good books, art and music.


Sailing. The physical demands, sunshine, wind, current, and blue sky all combine to an amazing endorphine rush. (I'll show you a 3 hour tour....):sunglass:

It's interesting to me what makes me feel sexy has nothing to do with having any input or even interaction with another. I guess it really is true that "self-love is never so great a sin as self-neglect."


Katniss~~

*~meow~*
 

Dancing, the girating, vibrating, sweat, sex, salt, scents that mix during the right song in a smoke, drink filled dance floor right after morning bids a farewell to night...:::::

:moonstars:

may sound strange but.....

wearing a men's button down dress shirt.. (and just the shirt).....with hys scent lingering on it....and then mingling with my own...

in my experience.....

they tend to like it a lot too..... :sunglass:

Wearing my corset, with thigh high black hose, my (almost knee high) black leather boots, lace undies under my long dark purple silk robe... and the mental space this puts me in.

Mostly this "space" is very rare for me to feel or show...so when I do, I like to make it a very special treat and I relish in the experience of how silk and corset makes me FEEL ...

VERY nice. For myself I would add wearing a pair of lace French-cut panties. I love the contrast of masculine clothing with the ultra feminine. ;)

When I am feeling nervous about a meeting if I, under my suit, wear truly decadent well fitting under bits it replaces the nervous with sexy

Coming home from work and immediately diving into an entertaining story about my day. Overwhelmed by my adorableness (what? I can be adorable), hy pushes me up against the wall and kisses me hard. Okay, okay, hy was probably just trying to shut me up. But still...very sexy.

Dance classes make a big difference for me. I think it's partly that they help me let go of a lot of stress, plus endorphins, but I also think that it helps a lot in reconnecting me with my body. After a dance class I feel whole, engaged, and like my whole body is alive. I actually feel alive instead of just knowing it.

Ironically the same thing that made me feel ugly in the past: swimming (and wearing a bikini). Once I'm in the pool I feel so light and smooth and while gliding through the water I'm aware of my whole body. :stillheart:

Oh and skirts with over knee socks as well!

Exercise and enough sleep.

i feel the most sexy when I am doing something considered masculine...chopping wood, working outside, fixing something (uber simple) on my truck. Just a touch of dirt and sweat...

Breathing....

Things I do for me:

-Smooth legs with a skirt and high quality heels to show them off
-New makeup, and the good stuff, too! Stila mascara does wonders!
-Freshly cut and straightened hair (after growing up with ringlets all of my life, being introduced to my first flat iron was magical! Being able to easily run my own fingers through my hair is such a luxury)
-Hearing the clinking sound of my own jewelry as I move
-Really nice and, er, supportive undergarments...
-Putting my giant sunglasses on, windows down in my Jeep, feeling the wind in my hair, and catching a glimpse of myself in the rear view mirror and truthfully liking what I see.
-Crossing my legs in a skirt. Sometimes it's the simple things.
-Going to an art gallery/theatre/highbrow university event and feeling like I both look the part and belong there. Growing up working class, this is something that is important to me and boosts my self-image in a really powerful way. It's hard to explain to those who haven't been there, but it's huge.
-Giving myself the perfect French manicure. What a feat! :-p


Things they can do for me:

-Hand on the small of my back or on my thigh while driving
-Gently moving my hair to the side before kissing my neck
-Nuzzling my neck to better enjoy my perfume
-Small, tasteful public displays of affection (back rub, quick peck, holding out my coat [yes, this counts], etc.). I think it's important to acknowledge your partner on a regular basis when appropriate and safe to do so.
-Spontaneous romantic gestures "just because."
-Cupping my face before/during a slow kiss. So sexy.
-The infamous butch smirk (or butch blush, depending on said butch). And to know that I caused that. Or the amused/devilish butch eyebrow-cocking. GAWD. How do you do that?
-Burying their face in my---WHAT? :-p

The acknowledgement of my own self worth. Seeing/hearing others confirm what I already know about myself can help self esteem and personal growth.

And reactions. Seeing someone affected by me gives me a natural high.

Heels, stockings, flirty dresses, eyebrow waxing, pedicures, Big Sexy Hair hairspray, feeling protected, feeling loved.

-That "fresh-out-of-the-shower" feeling
-The resounding, firm "click" of a really nice pair of heels in a relatively empty/quiet public place with hard floors. Makes me super aware of my own presence and feminine presentation
-Really close, intimate, long (30 seconds or more) hugs
-Those days you go shopping and everything fits! :-o
-Silk sheets, smooth legs, a window cracked open, and someone to warm me up...
-That heady, heavy-lidded expression on their face as you pull away from a kiss
-Leaning back into a deliciously hot bath while they sit on the edge of the tub...

Exercising power in its many forms

Getting noticed..... not for my house cleaning, not for my brain but just for me. Don't get mad at me if I spend a couple of hours per week on my appearance, it is who I am. I am also a professional so if I don't come home until 7, don't be mad --- let's go to dinner. After work, I am yours but.... if I am late coming home, know that I need that for me... and, while you are one of the most important people in my life, I am not less important. I am not jealous, I am not vindictive.... just let me be me and I'll let you be you but please, notice me.

I love my sundresses. I feel so sexy and girly in them. My Butch gives me that special look when I have on one of my favorite sundress. Every year we have a carnival that sells bohemian sundresses and I get two. My Butch goes with me and and she helps me choose which ones I want. I have 6 now.

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-jeans that hug my ass so tight they feel like a second skin.
-perfume. My 2 current faves are Jimmy Choo and Gucci- Guilty Black. Scents are intoxicating.
-when I let my hair down at the end of the day and strip down to almost nothing...the almost makes it sexy.
-slow, smooth hands, running over my curves.
-pantyhose, stockings, heels, boots.
-anything leather.
-dresses. That's why I own a few.
-showing skin. I'm a bit of an exhibitionist at times.
-freshly done nails. The way my feet and legs feel after a pedi.
-music you can slow dance to.
-a drink or three. lol

Sexy not as in ready to fuck but sexy as in still sorta bad-ass for an old lady --

• Figuring out a thorny problem at work and seeing the positive outcome
• Taking off and driving somewhere just because I've never been there before
• Seeing my not insubstantial check show up in my bank account every month
• Applying for some jobs just to gauge the market and having every single one call me for an interview.
• Righteous acts of rebellion -- like supporting my union
• Hard work outside
• Getting whatever done without a lot of striving and fretting because I am old and have done it before -- many times.
• Catching myself doing something that reminds me of my great aunts and the long line of strong women who came before me.

I've found getting my legs waxed gives me that so sexy feeling. The warm wax, the snap and sting, and then the smoothness. Makes me walk around with a sexy inner smile for awhile.

Looking good in general gives me confidence, but there's nothing like a red lipstick. My lips are small and being able to slightly enlarge them with make up just makes me look so much more feminine, looking feminine is confidence for me... because that's who I am inside.

It's interesting that since i became so ill, i have a really hard time feeling sexy. My fighting with social security, the lack of energy, loss of focus toward a goal, my rapidly decreasing memory and just life in general are working together to make me feel worthless.

So for ME, sexy seems to be tied into how i feel, and how i feel about myself. My wife still thinks I'm sexy and shows it in many ways (thank God), but I'm hoping that i can get my "sexy" back soon.

Certain outfits.

From time to time I like to wear skirts.
Most of the times tho I'm much more of a jeans type. I love tight jeans that fit perfectly. I also like shirts that show a little cleavage but not with them falling out or over doing it. Tank tops of course. Shorts and bathing suit top. Hair being down. Having my nails done. Oh yeah I also love my boots.

Those are some of the things.

i adore red lipstick. don't see others wearing it much. i'm always on a quest for the best brand and shade of red. i feel instantly better once i'm wearing it.

mornings
 

Those mornings when my hair is just the right kind of messy and it looks like a hot mess.

Right after a workout at the gym

My little black dress with my highest heels.

When I get that "look"

A couple things I do
 

To feel like I'm sexy? I'll give myself a full body scrub, scrub my face and everywhere else. Get myself nicely smooth shaven, and rub oil in my skin. Maybe if I am feeling particularly in the mood I put on my little negligee. I know I have no one to look at it, but I feel sexy with all that blue lace on me :).

These days it's very hard to feel sexy outside of the house. Student life of no time or money to look pretty - I have to cut my own hair (and I can't cut hair), massage oil stained gender neutral worn school clothes to do practical labs and study group in, Wearing just hand me downs from my moms friends in the praries (over sized potato sack shapeless clothing in very unflattering shades of brown and grey), no time for make up, wieght gain as the study intensity picks up, working in the clinic till 10pm then getting up at 6:45 and running to school to be there at 8:15 to start all over again, study groups all weekend long...

I feel the most worn out, ugly, unsexy, unattractive I have in four years (when my exwife and I were too poor to eat properly or have any money to even take the bus to socialise). I even had a group of people make fun of the way I look on the train coming home late from clinic the other night.

So it's hard to keep any kind of bodily self esteem up. Instead I am focusing on how much good I am doing for my career, how often I help people stop being in physical pain, how incredibly competent I feel about myself that in NO WAY has ANYTHING to do with what I look like. For the first time in my life as a feminine woman, my value is finally not associated with how I look. But my skills, intelligence and capability.

And I suddenly realise just how suffocating that cage can be - being valued for sex appeal - since I'm no longer in it. Yes, I feel a loss because it's what our value is intrinsically based on: first be pretty and sexy. THEN you can be smart, capable and skilled. But when you arent pretty/sexy *first*?

You have very little social value as a feminine gal. And I FEEL that lack of social value, quite hard.

At least, this is my epiphany. And one I've been told over and over and didn't emotionally understand it till now.

So I'm trying to just be here. And absorb this lesson.

When a person expresses how much pleasure they experience when involved in an intelligent conversation with me. This makes me feel entirely sexy, to be appreciated for my intelligence.