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Sachita 02-12-2010 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow (Post 48489)
I was young when I had my first, so when I first layed eyes and we connected, eye to eye, for me the bond came with the last moment of pain I felt when they decided to breathe in this life.. I knew.. Each day I wake up in a state of awareness that reminds me my heart is literally out there exposed, roaming this realm with each step they take.. One small incident, event and my heart can be torn to shreds by any harm coming to any of my pack..

how fucking profound these words and you can read it so many ways.

I have been in love 3 times. I am 51 and my first love was in my 20s. It was crazy and out of control. My second broke my heart. I learned from both of these and even the ships passing in the night but this is so very different. There is love fueled by passion and we learn more about ourselves. Then there is a point where youre all grown up and love becomes a totality of your being. Could it be another lesson? Of course but the journey is always one that brings you deeper into loving yourself through the expression of another.

I have waited all my life to feel like this. Its not just a ship passing or a flight of fancy but my very best friend coming to sweep me off my feet. None of my lovers were really friends until now. No matter the transition, the destiny or final result, I know it was meant to be.

luciddreamer 02-12-2010 06:22 PM

yes...I have known...
 
Do I believe in love at first sight...soul mates..Yes I do...
I can honestly say ..this has happened more then once with past partners..not that I have had many...lol. The first meeting of each other...the first touch ...the first kiss...the amazing chemistry....the longing of your next seeing of each other...then....the ultimate...the utter explosion of passion..animal lust..if you may..the uniting of two souls..and never feeling and being able to explain what you both have felt...
Will you ever feel this way again..yes....but on entirely different levels...
Enjoy each and every moment of love and passion...it is never ending...

apretty 03-21-2010 05:34 PM

did u ever just know?
 
yes, i know a lot, and often.

:smladybug: <3's :tiger:

Lynn 03-21-2010 06:23 PM

I've "just known" a few times. Most of the time, it turned out I was wrong. I think we can connect with people on many levels, and it can be exhilarating. If there's such a thing as knowing someone from a prior life, that would be really intoxicating, too. But, who says that this means that the person would make a good partner? I think it's easy to confuse attraction, lust, or chemistry with true love. In my opinion, none of those is necessarily an indicator of a good long-term relationship.

I was very attracted to someone at our first contact, which was on line. We both expressed that it felt like we were "soulmates." I was over the moon. It turned out to be the darkest, most toxic relationship I ever had. I'm willing to believe that we are connected in some psychological or maybe even some psychic way. But, "psychotic" would more aptly describe it.

In my present relationship, we "just knew." But then, we lived the ups and downs of the relationship. It's great to connect with someone from the outset, and really feel that deep connection. But, in my opinon, you have to keep creating the love, romance, and respect in the relationship for it to continue to be the one you envisioned.

Julien 03-21-2010 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Sachita (Post 46882)
Have you ever just met someone and just knew they were the one?


Has you heart ever physically moved in your chest when you talked to them, felt them inside of you?


Have you ever fell madly, deeply in love at first sight or even more profound before you ever met.. just knowing it was everything you ever wanted?

1. Yes, although we'd been talking for a while without first meeting each other in person. I'd never felt so confident and content in all my life.


2. Yes I have. It is a incredible experience. What's better is she felt it too.

3. Again this is a yes. And what's cool it is all for the same person.

leatherfaery 03-22-2010 12:01 AM

uhhhh
 
yes yes yes yes yes ! :cheer:

Sachita 03-22-2010 05:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Graphiteta2s (Post 71163)
1. Yes, although we'd been talking for a while without first meeting each other in person. I'd never felt so confident and content in all my life.


2. Yes I have. It is a incredible experience. What's better is she felt it too.

3. Again this is a yes. And what's cool it is all for the same person.

read lynn's post.

sometimes its dead on and then sometimes its another one of life's lessons. its all a journey- the good and the bad

Luckydwg07 03-24-2010 01:12 PM

I knew it well :)
 
Those butterflies in the pit of my stomach were great! I miss that feeling... I want it again!
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Originally Posted by Sachita (Post 46882)
Have you ever just met someone and just knew they were the one?

Has you heart ever physically moved in your chest when you talked to them, felt them inside of you?

Have you ever fell madly, deeply in love at first sight or even more profound before you ever met.. just knowing it was everything you ever wanted?


Slave to the Buffet 03-26-2010 01:59 AM

oh yes and still do

julieisafemme 03-26-2010 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow (Post 48489)
I was young when I had my first, so when I first layed eyes and we connected, eye to eye, for me the bond came with the last moment of pain I felt when they decided to breathe in this life.. I knew.. Each day I wake up in a state of awareness that reminds me my heart is literally out there exposed, roaming this realm with each step they take.. One small incident, event and my heart can be torn to shreds by any harm coming to any of my pack..


Oh! Thank you. This so resonates with my Mama heart. It was the same with me when my girl was born. She lay on my chest and looked right at me with these huge eyes. Skin to skin and eyes to eyes. It is one of my most cherished internal snapshots. We knew each other!!! Right there.

Thank you for sharing that.

Greyson 03-26-2010 01:35 PM

Did I ever just know? No. I know, call me Mister Romantic. When I think I may even be close to the "know" I pause, think about it, see how things go.

Yes, I have fallen in love and even though things do not always unfold as I had hoped, this does not take away from the fact that "Yes" I can, I did and do love. I have found it is possible to love again.

AtLast 03-26-2010 01:43 PM

I know I believe in what is possible... and that I know the real thing when it has happened. And that taking one's time is how to nourish what is possible.... Rushing in... well, that is for fools! Best to choose well and grow...

WickedFemme 03-26-2010 02:31 PM

I have been in love twice before this current one...

When we met the first time I felt an instant attraction, we chatted a little socially but the timing was not appropriate and I remember thinking that hys energy was just amazing and calming, but I let it go instantly and went on with myself. We met again a couple of months later and felt acquainted enough to hug each other in 'hello'...the energy that passed between us in that instant was the most amazing sensation I have ever felt... the evening went on but once again not an appropriate time for flirting or showing of any kind of interest (it just wasn't the right place). Not long after that, I felt an urge to contact hym to express my gratitude for hys kindness towards me under some unusual circumstances and let it go. Surprisingly, hy responded back and we began e-mailing back and forth, etc.. met again in much better circumstances and have been seeing each other ever since.

I just knew from the first moment and it was further reinforced by the 'hug' and it has continued to grow since then. I am in love and believe this is the 'one' and am grateful that everything is 'mutual'... 'everything'.
I cherish each moment we have together as if it is our last. It is truly the most selfless love I have ever experienced in my life. I don't feel any negative feelings, I don't have any negative thoughts. I let go spiritually in every moment we share and the more I let go the closer we become. I don't know how to articulate the experience at all... it just 'is'

Mrs. Strutt 03-26-2010 02:34 PM

Another vote for yes, yes and yes.

19 days after our first date, I said, "Yes" to another question. 12-1/2 years later, I still feel like the luckiest woman in the world :love1:

julieisafemme 03-26-2010 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Greyson (Post 73641)
Did I ever just know? No. I know, call me Mister Romantic. When I think I may even be close to the "know" I pause, think about it, see how things go.

Yes, I have fallen in love and even though things do not always unfold as I had hoped, this does not take away from the fact that "Yes" I can, I did and do love. I have found it is possible to love again.

Ah well i am romantic. i knew when i asked You what You wanted to do when You retire and You said "Save the world". :sparklyheart:

Jet 03-26-2010 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Sachita (Post 46882)
Have you ever just met someone and just knew they were the one?

Has you heart ever physically moved in your chest when you talked to them, felt them inside of you?

Have you ever fell madly, deeply in love at first sight or even more profound before you ever met.. just knowing it was everything you ever wanted?

I was 16 and then it happened again later in life when someone took me by storm. I really believed that person was my life mate—the one who would kiss me goodbye for the last time. It wasn't the case which is something I never got over—as such I'm not sure I will ever open up to anyone again. As much as I would like to, I just can't muster trust.

GentleAndro 03-27-2010 03:34 PM

Thud and a Dud
 
Yup. And I told her (2 years later) but bad timing, lack of mutual feeling or just plain old fear of her feelings on her part ... it didn't work out. Course, never say never ... but move move movin on. At least I recognized it and went for it. :)

Venus007 03-27-2010 05:15 PM

Oh momma, yes I did, feels like about a hundred years ago.
 
For me, personally, when I get that leaping toward feeling in my chest, that whacked upside the head by cupid's cute little ass feeling, I have learned to RUN not walk away, it is a sure sign that their broken parts will line up with my broken parts and our gears and cogs of dysfunction will make a machine of mass destruction called a bad relationship.

The kinda love that works for me, that bodes well for a relationship and healthy loving long term interaction is a peacefulness, an ease of relating, a spark of desire and a bit of admiration tossed in for good measure.

For those who have unblemished hearts or souls (or whatever you want to call it), my congratulations to your swept away feelings, I am a little envious.





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Originally Posted by Sachita (Post 46882)
Have you ever just met someone and just knew they were the one?

Has you heart ever physically moved in your chest when you talked to them, felt them inside of you?

Have you ever fell madly, deeply in love at first sight or even more profound before you ever met.. just knowing it was everything you ever wanted?


Queerasfck 03-27-2010 05:37 PM

Usually I can tell when I pick one up. If I tap it just right it has a distinct sound and is ready. Sometimes you can't tell by looks alone, but sometimes there is that special sheen as well.
Also the smell. Pleasant, sweet. I am an excellent produce shopper.

nowandthen 05-18-2010 10:28 AM

Yes
 
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Originally Posted by Sachita (Post 46882)
Have you ever just met someone and just knew they were the one?

I have had this experience, it was wonderful to swim around in.

Has you heart ever physically moved in your chest when you talked to them, felt them inside of you?

Yes, both my Heart and breath were taken at our first real time meeting. My mind had been taken in conversation online and phone calls prior to our first meeting.

Have you ever fell madly, deeply in love at first sight or even more profound before you ever met.. just knowing it was everything you ever wanted?

Yes, and then followed it up by action and reassurance. Timing is the unknown factor that can change the outcome, but a life not lived or a love not risked is no life I want....

Starbuck 01-15-2011 11:22 PM

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Originally Posted by WickedFemme (Post 73678)
I have been in love twice before this current one...

I just knew from the first moment and it was further reinforced by the 'hug' and it has continued to grow since then. I am in love and believe this is the 'one' and am grateful that everything is 'mutual'... 'everything'.
I cherish each moment we have together as if it is our last. It is truly the most selfless love I have ever experienced in my life. I don't feel any negative feelings, I don't have any negative thoughts. I let go spiritually in every moment we share and the more I let go the closer we become. I don't know how to articulate the experience at all... it just 'is'

Talk about reading my journal! I too cherish each moment I have with D. as if it is my last, thus making all my acts of love toward her my absolute pleasure.

StrongButch 11-21-2012 06:15 PM

Did you just know
 
We have been talking for years. I enjoyed all of our conversations. I have not been in love in years. I can honestly say ive only been in love once. I have loved but it wasnt deeply. I walked away from them. I am ready now to take her hand and give her my heart. I knew and know now shes the grl for me.

Breezy 11-21-2012 06:44 PM

I've been there, yes. I've been there on my end and been told no from the other they aren't ready. It's all good. I believe in putting it out there and seeing what lands and what sticks.

~ocean 11-21-2012 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by StrongButch (Post 704814)
We have been talking for years. I enjoyed all of our conversations. I have not been in love in years. I can honestly say ive only been in love once. I have loved but it wasnt deeply. I walked away from them. I am ready now to take her hand and give her my heart. I knew and know now shes the grl for me.

I've known u since u were Harley to me , funny sarcastic humor , a deff. bad boi *winks ** ,full of adventure stories , wich always left me shaking my head ~~ now I intend to take your hand forever more. ~~
Yours Only,
~ ocean

RockOn 11-21-2012 08:11 PM

Yes.
Only once.


Happy Thanksgiving 2012 to all you BF-ers!

cinnamongrrl 01-06-2013 07:57 PM

There were times when I THOUGHT I knew...and a time when I REALLY knew... :)

Teddybear 01-06-2013 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by cinnamongrrl563 (Post 729930)
There were times when I THOUGHT I knew...and a time when I REALLY knew... :)

I knew once before but it was short lived cuz if disease. I spent years thinking I would never find that again. Settled for what I THOUGHT was it and tried like hell for it to be.

From our first chat that lasted what 5 whole minutes to me driving up to meet her a week early I KNEW she was different.

The moment she got out of her car I was blown away but the moment we wrapped our arms around each other I KNEW that what I had had years early was something special but THIS exceeded it by ten fold atleast.

My heart finally found its home full of happiness and joy. Things I had never really known till her.

I thank God daily for her and that he keeps the wool over her eyes

TheMerryFairy 01-06-2013 08:34 PM

Yes! I have had those "instant" spark connections several times in my life, but only a few did I ever think more would come to be. Occasionally I find myself half hoping I am overthinking it so I don't fall further and the other half is wonder if the feeling is mututal. Most of my relationships have developed through long conversations and lots of opportunities to interact through shared interests.

~ocean 01-26-2013 09:06 AM

I know what I know ~ the rest is a mystery ~:)

oksoftbutch 01-26-2013 10:01 AM

I felt that one time in my life....I was at a night club that had two stories to it. I was about to climb the steps to leave at the end of the night. I looked up and saw her just as she saw me. our eyes locked. My heart was captured. We had a wonderful month together. Unfortunately she had life to deal with as I did....Our paths crossed one more time but I had just sobered up and was trying to live an honest life. I was with someone and had to tell her. We parted that day and never met again. Sigh.....

Soft*Silver 01-26-2013 12:02 PM

Knowing doesnt make it happen. There are matters that keep people apart, even tho they Know.

in saying that, there have been several moments/people in my life when I KNEW we would become or were already connected.

My Samarai was the strongest. Before she stepped out of the car, before I even laid eyes on her, my face was literally turned to face her coming, made to open my third eye, felt my heart chakra break open its stitches, and when she came close up to me, the air between us waved, the significance of our meeting was palpable and generations of lives tilt awhirled around us making THIS life so significant/insignificant in the score of where we had already trodden...

dixie 01-26-2013 12:39 PM

I too have had those instant sparks, but it's very, very rare. In all honesty, I have had that happen three times in my life. Two of which were years ago and one was more recently. It's very rare for me to feel any kind of instant connection to a person on so many levels, right from the beginning. That doesn't mean I believe or call it love at first sight. I also don't think of it as love. It is just an uber deep connection that I feel in my soul. My heart may flutter but it is my soul that speaks. Sadly, it's even more rare when this is a shared connection. Personally, I believe that missed connections are because some people do not "feel" or "see" with their whole being (whether they realize it or not). One way or another, it is a powerful feeling....which can also cause immense pain.

Rivkeh 01-26-2013 09:07 PM

...yes, that feeling has only happened once for me.

JinxieB 02-01-2013 01:22 PM

yes... we never so much as kissed or even held hands, but just her hand brushing up against my arm while reaching for the same thing or vice versa was enough to make us both stop in our tracks.......it was unspoken between both of us, but was just known...if that makes sense...oh how I wished I would have just kissed her, just grabbed her and kissed her and whispered to her how I really felt...just so that she would Know without question......

Gosh...Regrets have a way of trying to eat you alive

KCBUTCH 02-01-2013 01:26 PM

I can say YES, although it must have been knowing for whatever the time we were meant to be- because we aren't anymore.
But I would still say YES

Bella~Vita 02-01-2013 02:46 PM

Yes, very much so... only once... and we are not together anymore.... but I will never forget what we once had ...amazing .... but ' bitter sweet' .

~ocean 02-01-2013 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Kat_Fl (Post 741554)
Yes, very much so... only once... and we are not together anymore.... but I will never forget what we once had ...amazing .... but ' bitter sweet' .

ohhhhhh ~bella, @bitter sweet ~ always lingers ~ lol

Sweet Bliss 04-18-2013 09:25 AM

Oh ........ for about 4 years now. Never met in person. Just a photograph. Long talks on the phone. After all this time, now I'm having dreams about him and I together. Totally ridiculous. I have no idea what my problem is regarding this person. Must be a joke from the Universe.

I was jack lighted like a deer in headlights when I first saw his photo. He was jack lighted like a bull in rut when he saw mine.... and yet... nothing, nada, zilch, nunca, zero.

I cut my ties to him. Now the dreams have started. fuckmebuffy. It's worse than ever now.

The heart wants what the heart wants.

i'm so screwed :seeingstars:

Glenn 04-18-2013 09:45 AM

Yes. Once Upon A Time over thirty-five years ago, when my gaze first fell upon my wife-to-be of thirty-five years, at the local lesbian community center. We were the only two in there when the director introduced us. I can't explain it othen then, it was like we were in star filter, that was surrounding us, alone, and I can still see the starry look in her eyes. There was an instant connection.Then, she asked me if I'd like to go for a walk...

JustBeingMe 04-18-2013 11:44 AM

Yes I did know once upon a time about 11yrs ago. She is still heavy in my heart. She probably always will be. For some reason, the timing just wasn't right. We're still close friends, we still talk almost daily just to keep in touch. Does her gf like it, nope, she feels threatened by me and I've never once asked her to step outside her relationship. I respect her enough not to. Would old sparks fly again if she did? I'm lalmost positive they would.
But as I said earlier, I won't ask her to be tempted to do that and be dishonest in her relationship, I won't ask her to cheat with me, it's just plain not right to do. I wouldn't disrespect her like that , or her partner.
We're just friends now and that's how it's going to be.


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