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What attracts me to FTM's? I like many others am drawn to that masculine energy. It's what makes my belly do flip-flops and draws me in.
I cannot speak for all, but there is also dignity, a pride and yes even a dash of chivalry to each FTM that has ever graced my life. To me this is hot, hot, hot! Not to downplay any of the struggles that we each have experienced and continue to go through as we move through life, becoming comfortable with who we are and seeking acceptance, but I think that we can all agree that FTM's and MTF individuals have to go many, many extra miles to find that acceptance, even from their own peers. This is a bravery that I am simply in awe of. There is confidence, incredible strength, perseverance and dignity to any person that is willing to stand up and say "This is who I am". I am proud of any person, of any gender, that has that kind of bravery and self confidence and is willing to risk so much to live their lives being true to themselves. So, what attracts me to FTM's? It is all of the above and so much more. They bring out the best in me, just as I hope that I do for them. |
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what attracts Me to FtMs ...
Strength - the fact a woman/man can transition into the masculine/feminine realm makes nature and nurturer incredible. We are acculturated to belittle each others potential as men and as women. Change is powerful, we all know a lava becomes a butterfly by an incredible journey, all transitioning FtM/MtF are metamorphic - mind, spirit and then body.
Sensuality - I can't help but to think of Hermaphroditus born to the gods of female and male sexuality - you are in touch with all that is intense and powerful when it comes to the carnal aspect of being human. Thus I bow my head to you, for you so gracefully walked between two lines. More so, I respect the integrity that comes from being both. It's exotic. Beauty - we are always changing. We are always evolving. FtMs are like mirrors. We often see ourselves with one face. FtMs have experienced and touched both of their faces. Relationships come from trust, love, respect, and integrity. Its not who, but how you love that matters. As long as we battle with issues of equality we will battle. When we no longer need to explain ourselves and defend our humanity, well, we will all be having a whole lot hot sex...Smiles... Thanks for being who you are. |
What attracts you to FtMs...
Bumpity bump... ;)
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I find it very easy to talk to ftms, as we often have similar experiences.
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I'm very attracted to courage.
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What attracts you to FtMs...
Just a little Bump....
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Its not so much an attraction, but I totally "get it" when it comes to ftm's and it drives me wild! Its the respect, the special bond, the pleasure that no other can provide! Oh, be still my heart!!! I wish there were more ftm's around here. Maybe I should look at the idea of relocating!!! Heck, I'm only looking for ONE!!!
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What attracts you to FtMs...
C'mon ladies, tell us how you really feel and what you find attractive in the trans guys you date... :heavyweight:
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Fuzzy Treasure trails down his stomach.....
Scars. For the all the life long battles he's fought. They are reminders of his strength and courage. Kisses First when the door opens. Then "Hi" Then more kissing. That impish smirk across his face, especially when you know he's thinking something evil. Stubble. Across your silky skin in contrast to his roughness. Yum. The smell of him on your skin when you're home in your own bed. Bliss. His voice. Rawr. His bookshelf. A book on his nightstand next to his glasses. *swoon* |
I haven't had any ask me out, lately. :(
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Strength. Strength of mind, heart, soul and conviction. It takes a lot of courage to be who you really are and in some instances, to even know who you really are. This is the trait I find most desirable in FTM's.
And then the list of how incredibly sexy they can be just continues on from there... Mhmmmm |
Up to this point I have only dated women but I am finding myself more and more attracted to energy, packaging is less and less important.
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Enjoyed reading through some of these posts. Haven't finished yet, but plan to..lol Very interested in seeing more of what the ladies are attracted to about us.....
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My guy
I have a notebook I am now convinced is magic. It's nothing special, just a plain college-ruled notebook from Target but several years ago I wrote down everything I was looking for in a dog, right down to the ridiculous little details, before I went to the animal shelter. (adult dog, blocky heady, floppy ears, short fur, 40-60 lbs, swimmer, snuggler, big smile, affectionate, house-trained, knows basic commands, will answer to "Annie Boots", etc) When I did go to the shelter my little girl was there! And her name was already Annie.
I used the same magic notebook to write down everything I was looking for in a partner, again, right down to the ridiculous little details. (taller/bigger than me, female born and masculine, chivalrous, tattooed, non-smoker, protective but not jealous, cowboy archetype, kinky, intelligent, dislikes children, loves dogs, pastry chef, etc.) Over time the list came to fill an entire page of the notebook. And it got left on a shelf and forgotten, until I met Oliver. Six months after moving to Oakland I met a wonderful FTM guy. Our first date was drinks and then a walk around Lake Merritt. Our second date he made an amazing dinner. Afterwards he showed me how to make truffles...and outed himself as a pastry chef. I was reminded of the notebook and checked it the next morning. He was ALL of the things, right down to the astrological sign. Now Oliver and I have been together four months. I recently showed him the magic notebook and we used it to write down a detailed description of our dream home. (a dog-friendly old converted industrial loft in Oakland with enough space for him to throw epic dinner parties and for me to have a sewing workspace. Natural light, exposed brick, gas stove, etc) So maybe the notebook isn’t *really* magic but it did show me just how powerful clarity, intention, ritual and instinct can be. And that might even be better than magic. :bouquet: |
What I love about him and us
My guy is the cowboy archetype and I'm the absent-minded professor archetype.
He is a: street smart action oriented stone and somewhat stoic fiercely loyal protective physically skilled risk taker I am a: book smart quiet quirky head-in-the-clouds, lost-in-thought creative empath who enjoys doing things slowly and deliberately We balance each other really well. He spurs me to action when I might otherwise overthink and become immobilized. And I remind him to slow down and breath. He's calm in a crisis and I have ALL the feelings. But on the rare occasion that he has feelings that he needs to deal with he knows I'm a safe, non-judgemental person to come to. We both work with our hands and love to make things but as a chef his creative process is loud, fast-paced, improvisational and often collaborative. As a seamstress my creative process is a quiet, slow, deliberate, cerebral and solitary. I wouldn’t be good at his life and he wouldn’t be good at mine but we have shared values that manifest in very different ways in accordance with our temperaments and I think that’s why we work so well. We understand each others values and motivations but since our shared values have very different outlets there’s an amount of space built-in to our relationship that allows for some breathing room and individuality. It also allows us to admire each other from a distance. His gorilla hands and my bunny heart make an excellent team. |
most admirable: the courage to be One's true self.
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Where are you , ladies.
Bumping this thread. Would love to hear from the ladies.
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