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cuddlyfemme 11-10-2010 07:25 AM

Good Morning Singles! Its a brisk morning in Columbia. I hope everyone is having a good start of their day. Last night my ex showed up, hy got in a fight with hys partner and was planning on going back North. I knew they'd make up and they did. Hy pulled out of here at 8am. There was a really strange awkwardness while hy was here. Oh well, back to normal life :)

asphaltcowboi 11-10-2010 08:50 AM

good morning everyone cold morning here 21deg.. not used to it after living in the phoenix area for 6 yrs but i love it love the change in seasons.
hope everyone has a great day!

MaggieBluIze 11-10-2010 08:51 AM

Good Morning and Happy Hump Day Everyone!!!!!!!

Just work, home and then a meeting planed for today/tonight.

Any big plans? Weekend plans? :)

cuddlyfemme 11-10-2010 08:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cody (Post 224708)
good morning everyone cold morning here 21deg.. not used to it after living in the phoenix area for 6 yrs but i love it love the change in seasons.
hope everyone has a great day!

I'm the opposite. Its not as cold as what I'm used to after living in the DC area

cuddlyfemme 11-10-2010 08:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MaggieBluIze (Post 224709)
Good Morning and Happy Hump Day Everyone!!!!!!!

Just work, home and then a meeting planed for today/tonight.

Any big plans? Weekend plans? :)

Hi Maggie!! No big plans here for this weekend, maybe the closer it gets to the weekend, I'll have some plans

MaggieBluIze 11-10-2010 09:41 AM

Austin is having a Pre-Thanksgiving thing at Diva's Saturday and I'm really looking forward to that time with everyone. Other than that, no other plans other than time with the kiddo. :)

cuddlyfemme 11-10-2010 09:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MaggieBluIze (Post 224740)
Austin is having a Pre-Thanksgiving thing at Diva's Saturday and I'm really looking forward to that time with everyone. Other than that, no other plans other than time with the kiddo. :)

Thats going to be so much fun! You'll have to tell us all about it!!

lipstixgal 11-10-2010 09:50 AM

I wish I could attend the pre-thanksgiving dinner at Diva's but definitely tell us about it Maggie. NO plans here oh well the Synagogue I attend is having a fundraiser so I will be attending that a Medieval Feast!! Should be fun....

MaggieBluIze 11-10-2010 10:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme (Post 224743)
Thats going to be so much fun! You'll have to tell us all about it!!

Quote:

Originally Posted by lipstixgal (Post 224750)
I wish I could attend the pre-thanksgiving dinner at Diva's but definitely tell us about it Maggie. NO plans here oh well the Synagogue I attend is having a fundraiser so I will be attending that a Medieval Feast!! Should be fun....

Of course I will Ladies!!!!!

Didn't someone at one time say we need to figure out a way to at least chat w/everyone from this thread ... Was that ever figured out? Would love to be a part of it. We have a great bunch here!!!!!

Lips, that sounds like you are going to have great fun! I've never attending anything like that, but my daughter has and loved it!!!!! Have fun!!!!

perfekly_flawed 11-10-2010 10:37 AM

Good morning Singles :gimmehug:

I've spent a few days pulled inside myself again. I feel like I'm playing a horrible game of hopscotch these days. I take 2 steps forward and then before I can celebrate, I FEEL like I've taken 3 steps backwards.

I'm going thru the motions of "moving on" and doing all the right things with my time and energy but when it's dark and I'm supposed to be resting for the next day - I find myself so incredibly sad and missing my ex that I'm tempted to call or reach out to her in some way. I haven't done that in MONTHS and I know if I told her I needed her for anything - she'd be here. But, I also know that she is the same person I left and that nothing would be different besides having missed each other these months.

We would have celebrated 10 years together this coming January. Instead I find myself dreading the upcoming holidays. I normally spend this time picking out the plethora of Christmas/holiday cards that we send out to our friends and family and instead I'm looking at the document used to create the mailing labels each year and trying to decide who *I* should send cards to which ones are more her friends... ugh. Maybe that is what has me down - dealing with all of the practical DETAILS of our breakup.

I'm sorry to be Debbie Downer this morning. I'm feeling very blue and needed to put it out there b/c it's overwhelming me right now.

...:seeingstars:

Tcountry 11-10-2010 10:48 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by perfekly_flawed (Post 224786)
I'm sorry to be Debbie Downer this morning. I'm feeling very blue and needed to put it out there b/c it's overwhelming me right now.

...:seeingstars:

One day at a time...one step at a time...you'll get there...you can share or vent any time you feel the need :)

paposeco 11-10-2010 11:02 AM

God Bless
 
[COLOR="Blue"][B]Dear singles,
this will be my last post. I do like this thread, however, I must be going now.
I will not give all the reason(s) why; I know from experience here on this site, of all places, what it's like to be jumped on by the "mob mentality" (not on this thread), it has happened to me and to quite a few other folks I know of.
I thought this was a "safe" place to come to, but no, not really.
There are certain folks that put stuff out there, that is most desturbing to say the least, not to mention sick as all hell, and that's their choise, but then get all high and mighty if anyone responds in any kind of way that they don't agree with.
Perhaps said folks need to start their own site and call it , "FUKKEDUP!".

Anyway, take care singles. Much Luck to you all.

One of the ones leaving,
Jess.

MaggieBluIze 11-10-2010 11:13 AM

(((((((((( perfekly_flawed ))))))))))

Honey you can come here in any mood and with any concern you want!!! We are here for you!!!! I'm with all of what T says, take it all one day at a time and you really will get through this. These really are hard times, please know you have friends here for whenever or whatever you need!!!!

Much support, love and understanding to you hun!!!!

(f)(f)(f)(f)(f)(f)(f)(f)(f)

paposeco 11-10-2010 11:17 AM

hang in there
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by perfekly_flawed (Post 224786)
Good morning Singles :gimmehug:

I've spent a few days pulled inside myself again. I feel like I'm playing a horrible game of hopscotch these days. I take 2 steps forward and then before I can celebrate, I FEEL like I've taken 3 steps backwards.

I'm going thru the motions of "moving on" and doing all the right things with my time and energy but when it's dark and I'm supposed to be resting for the next day - I find myself so incredibly sad and missing my ex that I'm tempted to call or reach out to her in some way. I haven't done that in MONTHS and I know if I told her I needed her for anything - she'd be here. But, I also know that she is the same person I left and that nothing would be different besides having missed each other these months.

We would have celebrated 10 years together this coming January. Instead I find myself dreading the upcoming holidays. I normally spend this time picking out the plethora of Christmas/holiday cards that we send out to our friends and family and instead I'm looking at the document used to create the mailing labels each year and trying to decide who *I* should send cards to which ones are more her friends... ugh. Maybe that is what has me down - dealing with all of the practical DETAILS of our breakup.

I'm sorry to be Debbie Downer this morning. I'm feeling very blue and needed to put it out there b/c it's overwhelming me right now.

...:seeingstars:

One more thing before I go, Hang in there pf, it gets better, I promise :bunchflowers:

lipstixgal 11-10-2010 11:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by perfekly_flawed (Post 224786)
Good morning Singles :gimmehug:

I've spent a few days pulled inside myself again. I feel like I'm playing a horrible game of hopscotch these days. I take 2 steps forward and then before I can celebrate, I FEEL like I've taken 3 steps backwards.

I'm going thru the motions of "moving on" and doing all the right things with my time and energy but when it's dark and I'm supposed to be resting for the next day - I find myself so incredibly sad and missing my ex that I'm tempted to call or reach out to her in some way. I haven't done that in MONTHS and I know if I told her I needed her for anything - she'd be here. But, I also know that she is the same person I left and that nothing would be different besides having missed each other these months.

We would have celebrated 10 years together this coming January. Instead I find myself dreading the upcoming holidays. I normally spend this time picking out the plethora of Christmas/holiday cards that we send out to our friends and family and instead I'm looking at the document used to create the mailing labels each year and trying to decide who *I* should send cards to which ones are more her friends... ugh. Maybe that is what has me down - dealing with all of the practical DETAILS of our breakup.

I'm sorry to be Debbie Downer this morning. I'm feeling very blue and needed to put it out there b/c it's overwhelming me right now.

...:seeingstars:

PF come in here anytime and vent that's what we are here for!! take care of your self...

perfekly_flawed 11-10-2010 12:01 PM

Thank you
 
I'm not sure why - but reading ya'lls messages of support have really touched me deeply... I am blessed in that I have a loving family and the support of offline friends.

I know that I'm not alone. But - to find a community that already proclaimed (by joining the site) that they "get me" on some level is so affirming and to know with certainty that at least SOME ONE will hear me and not be so quick to dismiss my pain by saying "pull up your garter belt and move on"... Plus my friends tend to judge my ex and remind me of the bad. Which, is what those that love you do - but in a way it is dismissing as well.

Yes, she has issues and her issues caused me pain, humiliation and a host of other unhealthy consequences. I woke up and saw that no longer working for me - but it does NOT negate how deeply I loved her or the depth in which our lives were intertwined. But, my friends seem to think by merely reminding myself of the bad - I won't miss her or ache for what was my LIFE just 3 months ago.

Thank you to everyone for welcoming me and helping me by being receptive to my need to vent - both on the forum and in PMs.

To Paposeco: I am too new here to be aware of anything really. I won't presume to understand how you are feeling in saying goodbye to us. But, I will encourage you to keep in mind that just ONE positive person or influence in your life can be enough to outweigh the bad karma of those that are less-than positive. And I hope you won't be gone for good.

Thanks again, all.

Kobi 11-10-2010 01:06 PM

Perfekly,

We've all been there. We feel your pain, and confusion. We know your journey to healing is a process with its ups and downs; forwards and backwards with a few upside downs just for laughs.

Sometimes just knowing people are there can help us over a hump or bump.
A word of encouragement, a word of understanding, a knowing nod, a smile of oh yeah, been there, done that.

Be gentle with yourself and with those who love you. I'm suspecting everyone has your best interests, health, and happiness at heart even if it is not always expressed in the most helpful way.

LipstickLola 11-10-2010 01:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by perfekly_flawed (Post 224786)
Good morning Singles :gimmehug:

I've spent a few days pulled inside myself again. I feel like I'm playing a horrible game of hopscotch these days. I take 2 steps forward and then before I can celebrate, I FEEL like I've taken 3 steps backwards.

I'm going thru the motions of "moving on" and doing all the right things with my time and energy but when it's dark and I'm supposed to be resting for the next day - I find myself so incredibly sad and missing my ex that I'm tempted to call or reach out to her in some way. I haven't done that in MONTHS and I know if I told her I needed her for anything - she'd be here. But, I also know that she is the same person I left and that nothing would be different besides having missed each other these months.

We would have celebrated 10 years together this coming January. Instead I find myself dreading the upcoming holidays. I normally spend this time picking out the plethora of Christmas/holiday cards that we send out to our friends and family and instead I'm looking at the document used to create the mailing labels each year and trying to decide who *I* should send cards to which ones are more her friends... ugh. Maybe that is what has me down - dealing with all of the practical DETAILS of our breakup.

I'm sorry to be Debbie Downer this morning. I'm feeling very blue and needed to put it out there b/c it's overwhelming me right now.

...:seeingstars:

I'm so sorry, (I somehow missed this). I so get you!! It's totally ok to say what you feel, (at least to me it is) and get it all out.

Hoping that somewhere, somehow, someone will make you smile today.
:lips:

cuddlyfemme 11-10-2010 02:27 PM

((((PF)))) I agree with what everyone else has said. Come in however you want, you're always welcome here no matter what your mood is. Like what has also been said, take things one day at a time, one hour at a time if you need to.

Gaige 11-10-2010 02:30 PM

Hello everyone. I'm fairly new to this site and finally starting to participate in the forums. I look forward to interacting with the members of this site. Now about those weekend plans...probably the usual. Cleaning and laundry. I bought a dresser last week from Ikea to match the other pieces in my bedroom. I had to make room for it so I moved my weight bench out of my bedroom and into the basement. It's sitting down there still in pieces. I planned to put it back together this morning but I was so tired and just crashed when I got home from work. So I'm adding that to my weekend plans as well as organizing my closet. Yeah I know, nothing exciting but its my life and it works for me. Oh and cuddling with my dog is a must this weekend.

lipstixgal 11-10-2010 02:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme (Post 224894)
((((PF)))) I agree with what everyone else has said. Come in however you want, you're always welcome here no matter what your mood is. Like what has also been said, take things one day at a time, one hour at a time if you need to.

I agree cuddly PF should come in whenever she wants and vent as much as she need to, that's what we are all here for each other!! making brownies yum and having a subway sandwich for dinner as a treat yeah for me, there's no one to cook for so what the hell??:byebye:

perfekly_flawed 11-10-2010 03:42 PM

I'm still cooking for 2... So, needless to say I have leftovers coming outta my umm eyeballs (lol) ...

I'm on a 30-day "better eating" program (not a diet, more of a learning healthier options with a group of folks on FB) so no sweets for me, but I am SO in the mood for one of those brownies!!!!!!!

Oh.. and ya'll ROCK! Truly...



Quote:

Originally Posted by lipstixgal (Post 224896)
I agree cuddly PF should come in whenever she wants and vent as much as she need to, that's what we are all here for each other!! making brownies yum and having a subway sandwich for dinner as a treat yeah for me, there's no one to cook for so what the hell??:byebye:


DomnNC 11-10-2010 07:34 PM

My response
 
What kind of woman/person/femme would interest you?

A woman who is confident in her womanhood, her femininity (not to be confused with dressing/acting as such). A submissive woman with a touch of class and also a touch of kink who can get down just as vile, nasty and dirty as I can yet is a lady in front of others.

A favorite type of date; one that sets the scene for repeated datings with the same person?

A casual date with no pressure, perhaps a ride to the mountains/coast on my Harley for a picnic or to visit a favorite restaurant there, taking lil breaks from the ride to sit and talk.

Would you cook a meal for your date and if so what would be on the menu?

Umm, I gave my dearly departed food poisoning the first time I cooked for her, any takers? If it's something on the grill otherwise we'll be eating out, lol.

Do you have trouble with your gaydar finding that feminine woman who is a lesbian? If so what would you suggest we feminne women do or wear to get your attention?

I'm oblivously blind at times, lol. I'm way out of practice after a 17 year marriage. Perhaps a tattoo on your forehead?

What age group to you prefer to date? Does body size/type matter to you? What other physical attributes to you find attractive?

7 years either way of my age which is 53. Body size isn't that big of a hangup with me, I see people from the inside out. Physical attributes that attract me are in order, 1) eyes 2)throat (yes, I like to imagine what my hand feels around it during umm certain times) 3) mouth.

Would you date a femme that made a considerably larger salary?

Of course, I have my own money. Now if she flaunted it that would be a deal breaker.

On the first date, would you prefer that you were the one to ask her? Or are you okay with being asked out on a date by a femme?

See the above note about oblivion and being out of practice, lol. It doesn't matter to me, I can ask or she can ask, all either one of us can do is say no or yes.

Sunny 11-10-2010 07:48 PM

Lipstixgal
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by lipstixgal (Post 224896)
I agree cuddly PF should come in whenever she wants and vent as much as she need to, that's what we are all here for each other!! making brownies yum and having a subway sandwich for dinner as a treat yeah for me, there's no one to cook for so what the hell??:byebye:

As you know I am in South Jersey and if you want to cook for someone just let me know. LOL I will bring the dessert. I hear you are a terrific cook.

Sunny 11-10-2010 07:50 PM

Weekend plans
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by MaggieBluIze (Post 224709)
Good Morning and Happy Hump Day Everyone!!!!!!!

Just work, home and then a meeting planed for today/tonight.

Any big plans? Weekend plans? :)

I have no plans for the weekend. I am off Friday and Saturday and will probally do laundry, clean the house and watch some movies. I know it is toooooo exciting.

Sunny 11-10-2010 08:05 PM

Perfekly flawed
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by perfekly_flawed (Post 224786)
Good morning Singles :gimmehug:

I've spent a few days pulled inside myself again. I feel like I'm playing a horrible game of hopscotch these days. I take 2 steps forward and then before I can celebrate, I FEEL like I've taken 3 steps backwards.

I'm going thru the motions of "moving on" and doing all the right things with my time and energy but when it's dark and I'm supposed to be resting for the next day - I find myself so incredibly sad and missing my ex that I'm tempted to call or reach out to her in some way. I haven't done that in MONTHS and I know if I told her I needed her for anything - she'd be here. But, I also know that she is the same person I left and that nothing would be different besides having missed each other these months.

We would have celebrated 10 years together this coming January. Instead I find myself dreading the upcoming holidays. I normally spend this time picking out the plethora of Christmas/holiday cards that we send out to our friends and family and instead I'm looking at the document used to create the mailing labels each year and trying to decide who *I* should send cards to which ones are more her friends... ugh. Maybe that is what has me down - dealing with all of the practical DETAILS of our breakup.

I'm sorry to be Debbie Downer this morning. I'm feeling very blue and needed to put it out there b/c it's overwhelming me right now.

...:seeingstars:

It is not easy to forget those you have loved. I believe a little piece of your heart always stays with them. I will tell you a little story that might make you feel better.
I had an 8 year relationship. It ended because she cheated on me. I was devastated. A few months later my Mother passed away. I went into a shell. A few months later I lost my job. This was too much for me to handle. I remember standing in a Kohls parking lot looking up to the sky and asking what else do you want to take from me. I think that was the lowest point in my life. I did not have any family or friends to help me go through this ugly part of my life. I was all alone. It took time and I healed. I really did not think I would make it.
I hope this might have helped you in some way. Like everyone has stated. We are here for each other. It is best to get it out then keep it in. One door closes and another one opens. I will keep you in my thoughts.

JustLovelyJenn 11-10-2010 08:46 PM

*sneaks in to say hi and sneaks back out again really quickly cause I dont have time to read everything*

cuddlyfemme 11-11-2010 04:20 AM

Good morning singles. I hope everoyne had a good night and has a wonderful day! I'm not doing much today except sending out job resumes. My younger sister is supposed to be coming over sometime this afternoon or evening.

Tcountry 11-11-2010 04:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by cuddlyfemme (Post 225332)
Good morning singles. I hope everoyne had a good night and has a wonderful day! I'm not doing much today except sending out job resumes. My younger sister is supposed to be coming over sometime this afternoon or evening.

Good luck with the job search! *tip hat*

cuddlyfemme 11-11-2010 04:44 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tcountry (Post 225336)
Good luck with the job search! *tip hat*

Thank you! Luckily I'm an admin assistant so I can work almost anywhere...its just finding a place that is hiring lol

nicetgurl_30 11-11-2010 06:35 AM

Ex Breakfast
 
Singles let us unite and find the person(s) we were meant to be with and break!!! And its probably time for me to get off here and go to work. Boo!

asphaltcowboi 11-11-2010 07:29 AM

good morning singles!! have a great day

Sunny 11-11-2010 09:35 AM

Good Morning
 
Just getting over a cold. I hate being sick. I had an alarm call last night for work about 11pm. Just as I was going into my deep sleep. They cannot seem to find the problem. It is in the wiring. This has been going on for two weeks now. Enough already. We get stuck there until the next shift comes in at 5am. We cannot set the alarm so we cannot leave the building.
Plus I thought today was Friday and it is not I thought I was off. Tooooo much medication for my cold I think. Anyway everyone have a great day.

bigbutchmistie 11-11-2010 09:46 AM

Good Morning and Happy Veteran's Day Everyone :) Enjoy your Thursday and here is a :rose: for all you beautiful single femmes

MaggieBluIze 11-11-2010 09:52 AM

Good Morning Singles and Happy Friday EVE and Veteran's Day!!!!
(f)(f)(f)(f)(f)(f)(f)(f)(f)(f)

Sorry to hear we have some that aren't feeling well ... Stay warm, eat soups, take warm baths, sleep as much as you can and make sure to take care of you ... *healing and well wishes coming your way*

Today for me ... Hmmmmm ... Stalk around on here LOL, finally answer some questions put to the femmes (figure I can't put it off anymore, I finally have the time) in this thread, maybe clean (or not), and maybe just relax w/movies and reading.

Have a blessed day Everyone!!!!!
Hopefully there will be some chatting going on in here! ;)

lipstixgal 11-11-2010 10:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sunny (Post 225070)
As you know I am in South Jersey and if you want to cook for someone just let me know. LOL I will bring the dessert. I hear you are a terrific cook.

Definitely would coook for ya I like to cook big stuff like lasagna,turkey, roast beef stuff that can be enjoyed as leftovers!! And I like a good hamburger too once in a while as well.


Hello singles how is everyone today?? Just home again with the dogs, they are napping as usual!! lol so its almost time for lunch how about tuna melts with mayo cheese and fresh ground black pepper yum on pita bread toasted up in a pan with butter sounds yummy and brownies for dessert!!

Gaige 11-11-2010 10:51 AM

Hey Maggie, sounds like you're off today. Enjoy! I'll be heading to bed as soon as my clothes dry. Thought I'd get a head start on laundry so I'll have more fun time this weekend. ...off to check the dryer...

MaggieBluIze 11-11-2010 11:09 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Human Devil (Post 225470)
Hey Maggie, sounds like you're off today. Enjoy! I'll be heading to bed as soon as my clothes dry. Thought I'd get a head start on laundry so I'll have more fun time this weekend. ...off to check the dryer...

Hey Sweetie!!!! Yes I am!!!! :)

Glad to hear you have fun plans for the weekend, be safe and have a blast!!!

Sweetest dreams to you when you finally head that way!!! :)

Gaige 11-11-2010 11:26 AM

oh yeah I'll be having tons of fun this weekend between cleaning and paying bills online. Actually, as long as I don't have to go to work, that makes for the best day. Not that I don't like my job... I just love having the option to sleep in.

morningstar55 11-11-2010 11:26 AM

.....good morning Singles......

http://i120.photobucket.com/albums/o...017100818a.jpg


who's ready for the holidays??? and what do some of you all do for the holidays??

how many of you have profiles on dating sights ??
I have on some that are mixed with str8 people dates.
and i have broken off from them sites.cuz ya know how they send you profiles of lets say the perfect match they found for you??
HA!!
right..... them sites will never have my matchs of any sort.
the profiles they always send me are profiles and pics of well .. Girls, ladies. femmes...
Remember Dom .. I sent you a example what they send me?? lol .. soo of course its up to me to do my own foot work in seeking single butchs.


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