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Tommi 12-02-2010 08:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Miss Scarlett (Post 239771)
Am completely stressed out this morning - likely a product of my own imagination.

Why am I stressed? Next week I will be on vacation. This is my first actual vacation from work in about 5 years. My last 2 vacations were tied in with losing my job either immediately before or shortly after my return. Both times my job was being eliminated - because one firm was closing and the other decided to move away from my area of expertise.

My current boss has gone through many assistants over the last few years. I have been there for 1 1/2 years and can do far more than past assistants. But I am far from perfect. No major screw ups but minor errors and mistakes - some from ignorance or lack of clairvoyant abilities, and others from my lack of diligence. But my work is not behind and I have been double and triple checking everything to make sure nothing that she needs next week is left undone.

My boss is not much of a communicator and I am not much of a mind reader. I hope to talk with her today, confirm my time off next week and see if there is anything else she needs me to do before the end of this week.

I'm fighting this stress and trying to keep it from having a negative effect on my job performance, but it is very distracting.

I wish I could talk with my Mom about it - this is adding to my stress too.

Jeez!:seeingstars:

Good morning Miss S
Glad you were at least able to write about it here.

Is it that fear of the unknown grabbing you by the throat due to being shot at in the past? Is a zinger going to hit me when I am not looking, if I don't have my radar on?

Being a past survivor of many wars, battles, and just misunderstandings I say two things to myself.

1. I am only in control of Myself, and my thinking. I cannot control what others think or do (They). What can I do is be the best I can and undo this garbage thinking.

2. This is the moment of a new day. It is not the day and time that something horrible happened in the past. I can breathe in and out on my own, and stop thinking about what THEY may be or do. :bunchflowers:

I miss my Mom too, so come here to chat with ya'll.

RIP Mickey Mom

katsarecool 12-02-2010 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Miss Scarlett (Post 239771)
Am completely stressed out this morning - likely a product of my own imagination.

Why am I stressed? Next week I will be on vacation. This is my first actual vacation from work in about 5 years. My last 2 vacations were tied in with losing my job either immediately before or shortly after my return. Both times my job was being eliminated - because one firm was closing and the other decided to move away from my area of expertise.

My current boss has gone through many assistants over the last few years. I have been there for 1 1/2 years and can do far more than past assistants. But I am far from perfect. No major screw ups but minor errors and mistakes - some from ignorance or lack of clairvoyant abilities, and others from my lack of diligence. But my work is not behind and I have been double and triple checking everything to make sure nothing that she needs next week is left undone.

My boss is not much of a communicator and I am not much of a mind reader. I hope to talk with her today, confirm my time off next week and see if there is anything else she needs me to do before the end of this week.

I'm fighting this stress and trying to keep it from having a negative effect on my job performance, but it is very distracting.

I wish I could talk with my Mom about it - this is adding to my stress too.

Jeez!:seeingstars:

Sorry that you are still having to deal with this Boss From Hell!!! I bolded a part of your note here and it is very telling. It tells me something about a person I do not even know. It tells me she can't keep employees. Probably has trouble keeping friends too.

No one is perfect!!!! Everyone makes mistakes from time to time. I strongly feel the problem is not your or your performance. I feel she is the one with the major problem. I hand it to you for sticking around this long.

I think if she was thinking about firing you she would have done it a long time ago. So don't worry!!!!! And Tommi is so right!!! Have a great vacation. You deserve it. Most certainly you EARNED it working with her!!! Hang in there sweetie!!!

WolfyOne 12-02-2010 01:36 PM

No matter what kind of day I have....I always know, life is good :)

Find that happy place and sink right into it

bright_arrow 12-02-2010 05:34 PM

My sister telling me she is going to move to TX to be with a boy. A boy who has been in jail once already. She's looking at going to a college down there that isn't near enough to walk to (she has no vehicle and it's 22 miles away), and she has no job or money right now.

I don't like this idea, but it's her life, and if she's like me, she's stubborn and won't let anyone change her mind.

katsarecool 12-02-2010 05:41 PM

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Originally Posted by desdansmoncoeur (Post 240053)
My sister telling me she is going to move to TX to be with a boy. A boy who has been in jail once already. She's looking at going to a college down there that isn't near enough to walk to (she has no bike and it's 22 miles away), and she has no job or money right now.

I don't like this idea, but it's her life, and if she's like me, she's stubborn and won't let anyone change her mind.

Ah oh!!!! Not a good move on her part!!!! Perhaps you could sit her down and get her to make a Pro Con List and discuss it? How will she live with no job and no money? And the guy doesn't sound too reliable. I hope she changes her mind.

My sister did the same thing; moved from NC to Chicago with a man she had not actually met face to face and took her twelve year old daughter with her. I begged her not to do this. I even offered to pay for a plane ticket back for them both when it started going south. She stayed there with him for two years until he was caught peeking in her then 14 yr old daughter's bedroom window. That did it.

Good luck to her!

bright_arrow 12-02-2010 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by katsarecool (Post 240055)
Ah oh!!!! Not a good move on her part!!!! Perhaps you could sit her down and get her to make a Pro Con List and discuss it? How will she live with no job and no money? And the guy doesn't sound too reliable. I hope she changes her mind.

My sister did the same thing; moved from NC to Chicago with a man she had not actually met face to face and took her twelve year old daughter with her. I begged her not to do this. I even offered to pay for a plane ticket back for them both when it started going south. She stayed there with him for two years until he was caught peeking in her then 14 yr old daughter's bedroom window. That did it.

Good luck to her!

My sister has met him - he lived here for awhile. When they were 15 he stole a gun from his grandparents and pulled it out on some guys that had teased him, while my sister was with him! He was in jail beginning of this year for stealing and she told him no more.

I think she intends to move in with him and work down there and get her dental assistant diploma via financial aid. I know she wants out of our parents house and that's part of the reason why she doesn't want to stay living with them (aside from the fact that they are moving into the country and about an hour North of where they live already). I moved out when I was 18 with the person I was dating to get away from my family as well. I'd hoped it'd changed, but I guess not.

I can try and get her to think about this more but we'll see. She's only 17 :( If nothing else, she should of learned from my multiple mistakes when I was that age.

katsarecool 12-02-2010 06:18 PM

Wow 17 is so young. If she only knew that living with your parents isn't so bad especially when living away from home under doubtful circumstances. I left home too at the age of 17; marrying to get away from home. I ended up jumping from the frying pan into the fire. I survived but it took years to make up for lost time. Time I could have used living at home and getting an education. I hope she makes the right decision! And she is lucky to have a older sister who cares so much!

Cirrus 12-02-2010 06:41 PM

Today wasn't the greatest of days. I hope tomorrow is better.

JustLovelyJenn 12-02-2010 08:10 PM

I don't think she thinks I'm serious.

Blade 12-02-2010 08:21 PM

If I'm not mistaken tomorrow is Friday, and I'm glad about that. I'm not going to be very happy if I am mistaken though.

Ebon 12-03-2010 01:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Blade (Post 240164)
If I'm not mistaken tomorrow is Friday, and I'm glad about that. I'm not going to be very happy if I am mistaken though.

Yep today is Friday!

Pixie 12-03-2010 01:50 PM

How much I really despise the holidays....I can't even reference the grinch or mr.scrooge because well....they ended up turning into christmas lovers anyways. Lol.

Ready for the cheery music, inflated prices, and red/green/white to go away...

bah hum bug
:blink:
:seeingstars:

katsarecool 12-03-2010 01:54 PM

Pixie, I do not care for the holidays either! I got burned out many years ago; worrying about making sure my kids had enough presents that they loved under the tree. I drove myself nuts from Sept. to Dec. 25th!!! Now I am watching my kids do the same thing. It is crazy I tell ya!!!

If it were me I would like to have a holiday mean once a month for the family with a present or two for the little kids. And birthdays of course. I think that is why I love Thanksgiving so much family dinners and quiet time after. Time to play games with the little ones while some of the grown ups watch football...

Just_G 12-03-2010 02:07 PM

Have you ever just let shit build up in your head for like a week or two at a time....and you just want to grab someone by the arms, look them dead in the eye and telling them exactly how you feel....no holds barred?!

Yeah, I am in THAT kind of mood today! I am in a fantastic mood....but a fightin' mood because someone makes me feel like crap! Shit might just hit the fan tonight! :blink:


Pixie 12-03-2010 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by katsarecool (Post 240646)
Pixie, I do not care for the holidays either! I got burned out many years ago; worrying about making sure my kids had enough presents that they loved under the tree. I drove myself nuts from Sept. to Dec. 25th!!! Now I am watching my kids do the same thing. It is crazy I tell ya!!!

If it were me I would like to have a holiday mean once a month for the family with a present or two for the little kids. And birthdays of course. I think that is why I love Thanksgiving so much family dinners and quiet time after. Time to play games with the little ones while some of the grown ups watch football...

Right!
That is my goal when I have a family of my own. To make once a month events so appreciated that thanksgiving/christmas are just any other time, and our time together doing what we can, when we can is more sought out and desired.


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Originally Posted by Just_G (Post 240656)
Have you ever just let shit build up in your head for like a week or two at a time....and you just want to grab someone by the arms, look them dead in the eye and telling them exactly how you feel....no holds barred?!

Yeah, I am in THAT kind of mood today! I am in a fantastic mood....but a fightin' mood because someone makes me feel like crap! Shit might just hit the fan tonight! :blink:


Oh ya been there! Good luck!:rrose:

WolfyOne 12-03-2010 02:46 PM

Believe it or not the mix up with my online application in this corporate world actually turned into a phone call yesterday with the store I was at the other day. I went for an interview today, but the process is more than just one interview. So, if they liked me today, they will call me in another week for a second interview. Once again, staying ever so hopeful. This job is for a lead position in an area of sales I know nothing about, but willing to learn.

LipstickLola 12-03-2010 02:55 PM

I'm still sick, don't wanna really do the holiday thing this evening, BUT my kidlets are counting on me (their dad with his other family) and so I'll fake it.......again. At least there are cupcakes :)
I feel guilty saying this, but hurry on January 2.

"Big deep breath Lola....you can do it!!"
:praying:

moonfemme 12-03-2010 03:05 PM

Sending Healing Vibes
 
Feel better soon LipstickLola :~)

moonfemme 12-03-2010 03:06 PM

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WolfyOne 12-03-2010 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by moonfemme (Post 240689)
I want to start a thread... can someone help me out ???

Yes, it's easy ... go to the forum you want to start the thread. At the top left of that forum, you'll see new thread, just click and go.


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