Girls just wanna have fun. :) now it's stuck in my head.

Oh look, a category I fit into...hmmmmm,waiting, waiting, waiting to be crushed on

Are you waiting for a specific femme to crush on you, or are you just kind of waiting for the universe to surprise you?

If you're waiting for a specific femme; I don't know, maybe you could drop her a hint!

Or, for a small fee, I would be happy to perform the role of intermediary.

Sincerely,

Scout

I think I'm waiting for the Universe to surprise me
You've heard the old saying, good things come to those that wait...wait...and wait some more :)
Thank you for the offer of a small fee, but I'm a really poor butch at the moment with only PT work
So, someone will have to want me for the unique person I am :|

Actually the phrase, for technical accuracy, should probably be polycrushable rather than pancrushable as I have standards so cannot crush on everyone nor would I want all to crush on me either.

However, multiple crushes are good, both as a crusher and a crushee. Hope that clarifies.

Thank you, that makes sense.

I have waiting down to a science. Lol.

In need of the self-appointed Femme Flirtologist
 

So IslandScout,

I see you in here flitting about, perhaps you could enlighten a Butch or two in here.....

It's much easier (IMO) to know or suspect a femme might be interested, when in person, but help us out here Scout--how are we to know if she's crushing on us online??

Conversely, how might a Butch go about expressing our crush, to see if she's interested or not.

(Can you imagine us Butches in a classroom, sitting in too small desks? --all of us in jeans and cargo shorts, boots and sneakers, the floor around us a debris field of backpacks and gym bags-- rapt and earnest faces, looking at you in front of the class, waiting......no pressure.). <<<<<<< also, nice dress Scout, your shoes look amazing!

Dear Little Fish,

I see that you have your hand up (again, LOL!), and you pose some very interesting questions.

First of all, as you’ve undoubtedly noticed, the Planet provides a number of nice big shiny tools to assist you in your flirting.

There is absolutely nothing wrong, for example, with simply posting a lovely landscape shot on a Femme’s message wall, with no note attached—sort of like dropping a basket of puppies on her doorstep, ringing the bell and running.

If you're feeling a little more brave (and it is my impression that you, Little Fish, often feel a little more brave!), you can use your words—we have planted plenty of conversation starters in our profiles and our posts are quite endowed, if I may say so, with various degrees of winks, smiles, and harmless challenges.

As is often the case, you can also post photos of your car, boat, motorcycle, equipment of various types, dog in all his various poses and settings—all of which we regard with bemused fascination, and not a little patience.

When you finally do post a photo of yourself—each more serious and forbidding than the next—you actually endear yourself to us the most, because we know that quite often, the toughness you project is in direct proportion to the little bear in need of a cuddle you really are, beneath that stern task master facade you seem determined to project.

I guess what I'm saying—and I hope you are taking notes—is that you are at your most effective level of flirting, when you have no clue you are doing so.

And thank you for noticing my shoes.

:)

Scout

Little Fish I think you should have been a writer instead of a doctor. I could actually see that whole scenario and it made me laugh.

Can I just throw in my two cents, don't want to step on your toes IslandScout; but engaging in conversation with an interest, message or private messages just making reference to things they posted is a good start. If they pick up and continue the conversation and make references to things you have posted, it means they have paid attention also. Don't go into a conversation with the intention of 'I found her', just get to know them and see where it goes.

Little Fish you are funny and kind, and I think a great catch, so just put yourself out there and see what happens.

Laruss that's also such good advice for any femmes looking to connect with butches (or whatever configuration people are into) on the Planet.

And it's a great way to start a friendship of any type! We're not all looking to hook up; as you pointed out, common interests are such natural places to start any kind of connection.

:)

Scout

I will throw in my 2 cents:)

I agree with laruss. Respond to someone that interests you by pm and touch on posts that the femme wrote that you identified with or even had a different point of view.

Flirting pm's did not do it for me but serious, thoughtful, relatable ones sure did.

I appreciate sharp wit and a quick mind. Ability to be vulnerable is also very attractive.

Those qualities in those early pm's are how my initial attraction to my butch started.

Love grew later after meeting in person.

This femme's class dismissed:)

Will there be a Quiz??
 

Aaahhhhh ladies, you've been kind to offer up your welcome advice, thank you so very much. I appreciate your input and the specifics as some of us are more 2x4 than others--(bros, you know who you are, no worries ;-)

I'm grateful for BFP and the many wonderful people I've met to date--folks who have never met me but speak my butch-femme language--it's refreshing to not have to explain "the basics" let alone, nuance. And while I speak for myself (I'm sure some other butches might relate) it's just so validating for me to know (and "talk" with) butches who know that satisfied smile and "lit from within" feeling that comes from packing, and femmes who know us and desire us without apology--relentlessly celebrating our female masculinity in a world that does not.

Having said all that, this Butch still misses the in-person way a femme reaches out to touch me "harmlessly", that sparkle in her eye when I've said something cute or seeing her surprise when I've caught her off guard and made her laugh out loud--and god knows a good hair flip aimed at me can rock my world all day!!

I also miss Butch energy too--playful and puppy dog tails, knowing her story is hyr story and it's my story too. And we all have the same scars to bond us, plus our own specific ones to differentiate us--like battle ribbons on our chest, we know where we've been. And some butch always remembers how to set up the grill each summer season....

As in all matters of the heart, whether platonic friendship or soul-kissing romance, best to lead with that heart--always, and in all ways.

I wish you all could come over to my place for a giant-ass BBQ today.
Parking is a bitch in my neighborhood though, you should carpool, srsly.

Will the quiz be take-home or in-class?
(rockstar lover! dude--eyes on your own paper!)
Is there extra-credit?
Does kissing ass help?

I see what you did there laruss....
 

"Little Fish you are funny and kind, and I think a great catch"

Extra points for you, lol.

Give me a second to catch up and then I'll open mouth and insert foot. Lol:)

blah blah blah blah blahhhhhhh .. just come right out and say it .. do it... make ur point known .. then get romantic , flirtacious , sexy , and most of all honest ~~~

Ok my hand is up. Is there going to be a test on this?

Little Fish...you are hilarious, clever and witty....any femme would be lucky to have you :sunglass:

I thoroughly enjoy our new found bro-butch friendship!

Ok, where's the Ladies? Oh and what dress and what shoes? I want to see. ;)



*** note
Little Fish, I agree with Rockstar.