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this made me really sad, as well.. if i have ever been that person to casually walk by and assume..(and i soo hope i never have) but, if i have..i surely never will again... thanks for posting this Jesse.. i'm in tears.. and i could only hope to be as goodhearted as Linda was for someone in the future...she really touched me.. |
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It looks like Lady Gaga is helping Target to be more gay-friendly. Gaga says that her deal with Target was contingent on the corporate giant giving to LGBT groups after they supported anti-gay politicians in the 2010 election. On Billboard.com she admitted that this business deal was one of the most intense conversations she’s ever endured in a meeting. |
I'm considering some options to pay down my mortgage. Once I pay off my credit cards, I'm trying to figure out how much I can throw at my principle to get completely out of debt.
Has anyone done this? I'm nervous about giving up ALL my income for 2-3 years, but I have to imagine it's worth it to save the $200K-$300K in interest... YIKES. |
just plain smart
for us seasoned folks... copied from epochalips.com
There is a significant lack of information designed for older lesbians about sex. The sex manuals, videotape series, and Cosmopolitan-type magazine articles for heterosexual women do not contain lesbian-specific tips and may be misleading, and the lesbian-specific sex books and videos are geared to a much younger audience. So what is the older lesbian to do? Fear not, here are some guidelines. Keep in mind, however, that “elder” is a relative term. Some lesbians in their 80′s may be able to perform acrobatic sexual maneuvers, so judge for yourself whether you fit the category of lez-elder-bian. Simplify the Sex Toys As we get older, we need to replace the complicated technology with simpler devices. On a recent trip to the local woman-centered sex toy shop, I was surprised to see how complex some vibrators have become. One model in particular had a hand-held remote control that resembled the instrument panel of a jet plane. It had 16 buttons, three dials, a complicated on/off switch, and four separate motors, each with 21 settings. This is definitely a young dyke’s toy, and even then, is not made for the easily distracted or confused. We older lesbians should seek out models with foolproof, large buttons to avoid an accidental frenetic pulsing when what we want is a gentle buzz. We can use as a model the telephones designed and marketed to older adults; the ones with large lighted numbers, amplified speakers, and that only make phone calls and do not surf the net, shoot motion pictures, or sext girlfriends. Likewise, avoid harnesses with 17 page instruction manuals about how to put them on, and vibrators that simultaneously stimulate four different parts. Perhaps one sensation at a time is enough for our hearts. Practice the Kama Sutra Arthritica We need instruction for appropriate positions and postures to successfully maneuver intricate sexual acts while accommodating our bad backs, creaky knees, and arthritic fingers. That young version of the kama sutra with 64 sexual positions just won’t do for older lesbians, particularly those with memory problems who can realistically remember only six sex moves. Positions in the Kama Sutra Arthritica manual include the GIRD maneuver, the post-knee replacement kneel, and the vertigo avoidance move. Lesbian sex-ercise classes are useful venues for learning these maneuvers. Pelvic floor activities are particularly helpful, as they serve double-duty for strengthening the vaginal muscle and preventing incontinence. Sex-ercise classes can also teach chair sex (much like chair yoga is useful for older adults who have difficulty getting off the floor) for those with disabilities, and for those who are just plain lazy. Full DisclosureThis is an important tip for lesbians of all ages, but becomes even more critical for the menopausal or post-menopausal dyke with less than perfect control over flatulence and other bodily functions. In addition, disclose the bad backs, indigestion from the chocolates she brings you, lactose intolerance, pet dander allergies, unusual vaginal noises during sex, Tourette-like utterances during orgasm, embarrassing tattoos of former girlfriends names (some of us have many of these), and any sensory disability you may have when it comes to operating sex toys so that there are no surprises at inopportune moments. Seek Accommodations for Visual and Hearing Impairments As our vision fails, we may need to make accommodations. One useful product would be stick-on targets in florescent colors to mark critical areas. Similarly, as our hearing begins to decline, we may not accurately hear our lover’s instructions. Amplification may be needed to catch the requests, “Faster,” “A little to the left.” Practice DailyThe older we get, the greater chance that we will experience actual lesbian bed death. The best course of action to avoid both actual and sexual lesbian bed death is to develop a sacred daily practice. Pace yourself, take your time, monitor your health and that of your partner, but keep at it! The body may be changing, but sex is 99% in the brain, so heed these tips and keep on practicing. Mickey Eliason is an aspiring lesbian novelist who is currently on faculty at San Francisco State University. After twenty years of academic publishing, she is trying her hand at lesbian humor, and finding so much inspiration in our glorious, dysfunctional lesbian nation. |
Today,,,
My mom. Today would have been her 81st birthday. So, Happy Birthday Mom! Still miss you and love you. Life is good here.
Glynn |
my PCP appt tomorrow. I am afraid she is going to slap me in the hospital....
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How anyone complaining of nausea, etc. could possibly entertain the notion of having a sub for dinner much less actually eating it...:seeingstars:
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Gaga rocked my world last night...
I have spent today thinking about last nights sold out Lady Gaga concert in DC. It was our best concert yet. We managed to get an arms length away from the gate surrounding the stage. She was right in front of us, so so close. I think she is totally badass and beautiful. Laerkin and I love our Mother Monster! |
What is on my mind....hmmmmmmmmmm. OMG so very much.
Pardon me if i ramble on and on and please feel free to skip this post entirely because at the moment i have a LOT on my mind and it's been a very long day at 4:30 in the afternoon. So, this morning I took off for work as normal. I do homehealth, am a nurse, and drive to homes to take care of patients. I went by quick stop store, picked up a coffee and was off on my way to my first patient. This next part is partly a blurr, what seems like a dream and sorta hasn't sunk in yet. I was sitting at a redlight, sipping on my coffee. I looked up at the redlight and saw it turn from red to green. BEFORE i could even take my foot off the brake and move it to the gas pedal, I heard the loudest bang i've ever heard, felt myself being propelled forward and I remember looking at my hand where my coffee cup was and thinking...."where did my coffee go". Now this all happened in a nanosecond. There was no time to think, react, defend myself or understand at all what had happened. I was hit in the rear by a woman who was just driving down the street and evidently did not notice there was a red light and i was stopped there. Not sure what she thought but it is what it is. The next think i knew I noticed coffee dripping out of my hair and all over my windshield. I thought "OMG someone just hit me". Almost immediately there was a woman standing by my cardoor. I rolled down my window and she was talking so fast i couldn't even focus on her words. I heard pieces of "My insurance company is gonna drop me" "Please don't turn this in". I had received my new phone yesterday, i'm still trying to learn how to use it. I was trying to focus and dial 911. I was crying, shaking and dripping with coffee. I handed it to the lady and said "can you call 911?" She again said something like..." i don't want to turn this in." It sorta hit me then that she was trying to get me to just keep going and not call 911. Well, i had no CLUE how bad i was hurt, I did have my seatbelt on but my neck was hurting and she hit me so hard that i was now out in the middle of the intersection and cars were having to go way around me to make their turn. I noticed at this point my foot was still on the brake. Not one single person stopped. Not one. Finally she called 911. Within a few minutes the police came...then the ambulance.....then the tow truck. The EMT said i probably had whiplash and to go see a doc. I went to ER but there was a five hour wait, so I opted for Employee Health and besides whiplash I think i'm ok...well and the fact i'm in a daze or feel just sorta freaking out. The police then had me pull into a parking lot nearby. I called SnackTime and my office. While i was on the phone with my boss, i looked in the rear view and saw the woman was standing with the police and they were having her "walk a straight line". Immediately after that, they cuffed her, stuck her in the back of the police car and wisked her away. What? She was freaking drunk or whatever at 10 in the morning? She had told me too that she was a nurse. Her car is totalled. It was a van and there is no front of her car left, the windshield was broken and her air bags were out. I cannot believe she wasn't hurt, and maybe she is because if she was drunk she probably don't even know how she feels. My car: besides the fact that it is totally covered inside with a huge amount of coffee; the rear end is in a V on the bumper and underneath all the way to my spare tire. My thoughts: well i wanted to type this as some sort of therapy i suppose and this thought: I know you've heard it and I know it ain't new..... Just a reminder..... YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN YOUR NEXT BREATH MAY BE YOUR LAST. It freaking happens so fast, there is no time to think, plan, know a thing. Be well all...be safe out there.....WEAR YOUR SEATBELTS and NEVER forget to tell EVERYONE you love how much you do EVERY DAY. *hugs. |
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what a scary experience, i'm so glad a/that you are okay and b/that .. well just that you are okay... all too often things like this happen and it's sad, horrible and so wrong... thank you for the reminders, about seatbelts and telling people we love them everyday.. something many people forget often, and something i need to remember myself, often.. ♥ i better not get started on drinking & driving - i'm sure we think alike...grrrr really, truly am happy you are okay, and postin here has always felt like a therapy to myself, in various ways.. i was in a similar situation, once.. i had my son with me in the car, and the person hit straight on in the door where my son was sitting.. WITH our seatbelts on, i managed to somehow pull him onto me which saved him .. the things we do in our moment of shock...make sure you do something relaxing for yourself, & (((hugggggggz))) - be well hunny! again, glad you are okay. |
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Thanks to both of you and to those that sent me reps and messages. I had a shower and omg it took three hair washes to get all the coffee, with creamer, out of my hair lol. Snack went and got us Mexican, my fav, and i'm just gonna chill out. I did go to get a cup of coffee a few minutes ago and my right bicept is already sore. I'm sure it will get worse before it gets better lol. I am so, so fortunate i wasn't hurt worse. Thank God i wasn't in a car, or small car. I have always loved my xterra. Now i love it even more. :praying: |
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I am glad you were not severely injured. I know you said you opted for Employee Health but you didn't say if you actually went. :) If you didn't, go tomorrow. If you did and they suggested PT, don't put it off. I did about three weeks and it wasn't fun but I know it helped. Take care of yourself. Hot shower, warm blankets. Oh, and chocolate really helps. |
Hey Belle did you have a boat hitch on the back of your Xtera? If you don't I highly recommend that you do. Most of the time when you're rearended, your car gets pushed and their car is totalled because you have welded steel reenforcement in the undercarriage of your vehicle. It costs about $100 and you can get it done at any UHaul place.
What's been on my mind lately is one of my close friends. We've been friends for very close to 30 years. Before he and his wife were married we all lived together. Good times. Well he has brain cancer... melinoma something or something melinoma. However it's called no one survives this. Upon his diagnosis they gave him 90 days - we're going on about 110 now. They tried radiation with chemo and not only did it not work but his brain tumors (4) grew and he got a new one(5). So now they're on plan B which as he put it is the Best plan... cause it's the only plan. They're using that cyber knife which is very concentrated radiation. The docs said they'd check his progress in 30 days which we both thought was rather interesting in that the cyber knife is the latest and greatest new technology but they can't check his tumors sooner than 30 days to see if they're growing or not!!!! Crazy shit man. He posts a little video almost everyday on facebook. Nothing like a little brain cancer to clear the vision of all the petty shit in life. His messages are so simple, powerful, positive and exuding of pure love it is truly humbling. Humbling to the core. I think of my troubles and they are plenty but here's a guy fighting with every ounce of his being to just see tomorrow. Damn the hospital bills, damn the prognosis, damn the mortgage and every other issue... he just wants to see tomorrow. He's a good man, former Marine veteran, husband and father. It's not fair man. It just isn't. It makes me so sad, angry, humbled and hopeful. I say hopeful because everyday he's alive I'm inspired in a number of ways. But one day there will be no tomorrow for my friend and that will be a sad sorry day for this planet. ~~~shark~~~~~~~ |
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TY so much for this post. I was "seeing" in my mind your accident. Being hit from behind is bad enough but omg you were rammed into another? YOU are lucky and I know you know that. I am glad to hear you weren't hurt any worse. I did go to employee health, they wanted me to go back to ER and get an xray cause they don't do those. But, five hours? at the earliest? I don't think so. Snack was not happy with my decision not to get xrayed. But, i just can't sit there that long. I do promise though that i will go back if anything like tingling or numbness starts to happen. I really think i'm gonna be sore and that the wreck hurt my feelings more than anything.Thank God. |
Awww, Snickles!
I don't think I've ever really heard anyone talk about the emotional aspects of it, outside of the PTSD kinda thing, but I saw it as a huge violation in some ways. It was a similar feeling to when someone broke into my house and trashed the place because they couldn't unlock the front door and my TV wouldn't fit out the window they came in. I freely admit to being a big, giant control freak in a lot of ways and this was so far out of my control that I just didn't know how to handle it. There was also the piece about the fact that they totaled my van. I loved that van. And suddenly, it was just a crumpled piece blue metal. (Insurance paid for a bigger, better van in the end though. With headed seats!) So I totally get the hurt feeling thing. Yes, you will be sore. It feels very funny to tell you this but, yeah, Ibuprofen, lots of water tonight. I felt like I was getting the flu for a couple of days, it was that kind of achey. And, umm, go get the xrays. At least in the next few days. Go in the middle of the night when they aren't busy or go to urgent care or something but get them done. You know better. <3 |
Gayla,
Thank you so much for your comments. You are so RIGHT. It's weird, i feel violated. I can so relate to the fact that someone hurt your vehicle. It's just not right. Which may explain why i'm still crying on and off. It's like......"how dare you hurt my car, throw my coffee all over the place and hit me, what did i ever do to you?" I keep going over and over it. Like people do. It's normal, and it helps so much to talk about it. I had told my boss i would work tomorrow. She said no...take tomorrow off and Sunday too if you need it. I love my boss. Yes i will most likely go get checked out more tomorrow. The humor to it is after the immediate hit all i could do is look at my hand still in the position of holding a cup without the cup there and i thought..."well hell, where did my coffee go". This was BEFORE my brain caught up to the fact someone hit me. LOL. Just really funny to me that that is the first thing i thought of. And ty for the medical advice. You know nurses are THE worst patients...for sure. Thanks for the convo everyone...truly. |
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I don't think my cup left the cup holder but the lid came off and coffee flew out and up and all over the windshield. That would have been a really cool slow mo video! And then I couldn't figure out what the horrible hissing noise was until I realized there were a dozen cans of soda exploding all over the back seats! Keep talking about it. It helps. :) |
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Like i said before Mr. SnackTime is still not happy about that whole thing and will probably haul my southern booty to doc tomorrow. I cannot IMAGINE being hit so hard that the soda cans exploded. Now that is HARD. wow you are lucky. I'm gonna lay down for a bit (thanks to employee health giving me at least a couple of Flexeril). Or...i may cry some more....lol. It will take Snack all day tomorrow i'm thinking to get that coffee off the inside of my car. (TY for volunteering for that job) I had to *lick* a napkin of sorts to wipe the windshield just to see to get home. It was nuts. I never imagined how far one cup of coffee could go ....lol. |
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