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I haven't watched the documentary, but I can certainly see what he means. I will say honestly the last thing I ever thought about prior to transitioning and even when I started hormones, was dating someone and trying to find someone I could marry. Sure there are days I feel lonely, but for the time being I am happy where I am at. Regardless of that though I still am looking to meet someone, but I don't expect to get married tomorrow.

Hey TD,

Nice post. I watched the Doc as well as the After Doc with Rosie. Considering some of the other stuff out there on Transmen, I have to say this was well done. I can relate to so much of what Chaz is going through, because I have already been there, done that and don't even want the shirt.

I believe that anytime a person chooses for their life that one thing they must have or be...willing to risk losing everything else, they very possibly could be put into a situation where they do indeed live their life without a partner -OR- they could open up their lives in such a way that there is only room for that right person to enter into. That is simply one of those things that we as humans have absolutely no control over regardless of whether we transition or not.

When I transitioned 13 years ago, I knew there was a strong possibility that I would forever remain single. What was more important to me at that time, was that I was choosing to save my own life. Yes, today I am single, but that's okay with me for now and I have zero regrets about transitioning. ;) - Jesse

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Originally Posted by T D (Post 336783)

Watched the documentary about Chaz earlier and I keep hearing those words "who will love me? Who's going to love a man without a penis?" I think this is something that a lot of transmen ask themselves. It's certainly a legitimate question too. I was especially relieved to hear Chaz say that being a man isn't about what's between your legs, which I also believe. It's about the person as a whole being, who they are, how they treat others, the whole shebang.

Yet another topic that Chaz brought up was about not getting to be a young man. I can so relate to that, hell I didn't even get to be a middle aged man. One of the things that was very difficult for me when deciding whether or not to proceed with my transition was whether or not it would make it more difficult for me to date or find a partner, and especially at my age. I have pretty much resolved to spend the rest of my life as a single person if it comes to that, but honestly, it's a sad thing when you think about it.... that one even has to consider whether or not they're willing to be unattached for the rest of their life in order to live in the body of and be the person they believe themself to be. Very thought provoking for sure.

I don't know, just seemed like an interesting topic for a single FTMs and Femmes thread.

Anyone else have thoughts about this?

good afternoon!

i am totally fine with being single. the pigs get me all to themselves ;)

seriously, right now, with a recent move back home to florida, i am busy/romancing the land-ocean-skyscapes at the moment! friendship comes first anyway. :byebye:

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Originally Posted by diamondrose (Post 336824)

I watched the Documentary about Chaz last night as well. I was very taken by the rawness of the material. Everything about it was well put together and well produced. I certainly agree with Chaz when he says that being a man is not about having a penis. I certainly will never know first hand the struggles and challenges a man, such as yourself (T D), goes through. I do know that as a stone femme, gender and my attraction to trans and stone butch doesn't begin with what is in their pants. Its about His personality, the man He IS, the mutual understanding and acceptance of two people, and the understanding of lives we live to feel whole.

........... omg.. im sorry .. i think im having brain farts... im in 2 different single threads.... and well cuddlyfemme. use's same fonts.. and well .. sorry for the mixx up.. :( ...

Hi.

My name is Julie.

I am single.

Agreeing with the others about being OK about being single right now, but still looking. :)
I didn't give a lot of thought about dating after going on T. There were a fair amount of single Femmes out there a half dozen years ago, where dating wasn't an issue as much as, even say, what I was packing in my wallet to afford the social opportunities which seemed to abound. :danceparty:

Generally speaking, I think the Butch-Femme Community has 'setteled down', if you will, as many have found their life-partners and don't circulate as much as in years gone by.
The crying shame of it for me is that I truely feel I am at my most sexually and athletically virile, but at the same time, I'm feeling a kind of aloofness that I attribute to the T.

Although I hate to 'waste' anything, the 'I'd really like to be dating, but it's truely OK not to be for now' feeling others have expressed seems to hit the mark for me.

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Originally Posted by Joe Mario (Post 337202)

The crying shame of it for me is that I truely feel I am at my most sexually and athletically virile.....

Although I hate to 'waste' anything....

Me too!!!!

speaking of dating ...

Are there good sites out there?

:cherry:

mawning single thread dwellers nd peekers
:tea:

what is everyone up to for the weekend?

i am dog and bird sitting. the macaw can be heard for miles [naturally], and so i have to cover my ears around her and/or use ear plugs! the dogs are sweet- great dane and she sleeps with me; dobie; and rottie-mix.

hope you all enjoy yourselves and get into such much trouble! ;)

belle

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Originally Posted by LotusFlower (Post 337225)

speaking of dating ...

Are there good sites out there?

:cherry:

I would also love to know if anyone knows any good dating sites out there. The only one I have found is Plenty Of Fish, but there do not seem to be many butches in my area. Frown. I hate that.

Tonight I am hanging with my best girl, Heather.

Saturday I am going to lunch and to the movies with my mom.

Saturday night I am going to see women's football. A good friend of mine is playing.

Sunday I am spending the day at home getting ready for the upcoming week.

Should be a fun weekend!!!

mawning singles
hope you all have a awsome day :)
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Hey everyone

I have been watching the thread a bit and decided to post.

I have been single going on three years now. I have not even gone on a date. I have loved the time I have spent on me (and mom, I care for her) but I have to admit, it gets a little lonely sometimes.

I think it is really hard being FTM and a caregiver, even fewer options out there. I am in Jacksonville FL and I have to say I think I am the only transmale around and all the girls are invisible LOL

Mick,

Welcome! I can only imagine how hard it is for you, but its a great thing you are doing for your mom! It shows alot of great things about you! Stay positive and one day that right femme will be there!

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Originally Posted by MickMan (Post 341214)

I totally feel what you're saying, Mick, I'm in a similar situation.

I hope you find the Planet to be of some assistance and fun for you in connecting with others.

Welcome!

Good Morning and Happy Friday Singles!!

So ... Any big plans for the weekend?

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Originally Posted by diamondrose (Post 341364)

Thanks Diamond,

I do what I do for mom and I am rewarded everyday for it.

I am sure one day I will meet someone, I would just like it to be before I am on Social Security LOL

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Originally Posted by T D (Post 341769)

I totally feel what you're saying, Mick, I'm in a similar situation.

I hope you find the Planet to be of some assistance and fun for you in connecting with others.

Welcome!

Hey TD

I am still learning my way around here, but so far everyone has been great.

I hope your situation gets better for you or should I say, I hope that you find solace while in your situation.

Thanks for the welcome!

Mick

Good morning all! I'm having a very lazy Saturday!

I'm trying to stay motivated to finish a story I started writing last night - but I'm sort of "eh" about it.

The weather is absolutely gorgeous this morning 74 degrees, but gonna ramp up to 92 later! eeek!