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Library_girl 01-03-2012 10:29 PM

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Originally Posted by lettertodaddy (Post 497244)
How do you decide to make an initial flirty remark via text message? What's your favourite opening line?

I have an astonishing lack of game when it comes to dating, so unfortunately I don't have a favourite flirt to share, but I'm happy to hear yours!

Leave to one of my favorite girls to start an awesome thread and get everyone all stirred up! Woo hoo!

I'm a much better flirt "in the moment" than any other time, but text flirts are fun! I'm not sure if I have a favorite to share. Although I will say that comedy and flirting go really well together. :) You could send a text that says "Wow! You look really hot today!" which I think is really funny. But then they might think you're a stalker. Ummmm use your own humor, not mine. Please!

Wryly 01-03-2012 10:41 PM

I cannot flirt at all - by text, online or in person.
When I do try to flirt either the femme doesn't "get" that I'm flirting or I sound really strange.

Once I spent quite a bit of time with someone - apparenlty she started dating and broke up with someone during that time. *sigh* No luck at all!


Everyone who says to be a good flirter you should be yourself obviously aren't me! :jester:

kittygrrl 01-03-2012 10:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Library_girl (Post 497598)
Leave to one of my favorite girls to start an awesome thread and get everyone all stirred up! Woo hoo!

I'm a much better flirt "in the moment" than any other time, but text flirts are fun! I'm not sure if I have a favorite to share. Although I will say that comedy and flirting go really well together. :) You could send a text that says "Wow! You look really hot today!" which I think is really funny. But then they might think you're a stalker. Ummmm use your own humor, not mine. Please!

texting can now be considered stalking? geez:phonegab:

SweetJane 01-03-2012 11:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Hack (Post 497494)
I like that someone described it as a game of wits and clever. I recently shared this experience with someone, and it was a beautiful thing. I have 3300 saved text messages from this exchange (it went on for months), and I am too sentimental to delete them. It is a rather modern log of an ongoing conversation that never got tired or boring for me.

I'm a writer by trade, and I sometimes find text messages a little claustrophobic, and opt for the "larger canvas" of an email. However, texting is handy, convenient and can be done almost anywhere. And I appreciate the instant outbreak of wordplay that texting can accommodate.

Jake

Jake, I'm a professional writer, too. I never really learned to flirt well, but I have done a bit of written flirting. And it can be a very clever game of words. It shows the intelligence of the two flirting and can become a beautiful collection of sentiments. So I'm not surprised you saved those text messages......But there is a caveat. Sometimes you can get caught up in the word oneupmanship that you lose sight of the friendship or relationship that could be built.
Janie

SweetJane 01-03-2012 11:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh (Post 497543)
All this about flirting is very intresting cause somehow I missed the ablity to flirt very well,my son said mamy years ago that I need to stop working so much and learn to smell the roses,unfourntunatly bill had to be paid.Now hat I have the time I still for some reason havent managed to learn to flirt with out hopeing I didnt stick my foot in my mouth or sound off the wall.

Rockinonahigh, just relax and be yourself, hun.

Hack 01-03-2012 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by SweetJane (Post 497611)
Jake, I'm a professional writer, too. I never really learned to flirt well, but I have done a bit of written flirting. And it can be a very clever game of words. It shows the intelligence of the two flirting and can become a beautiful collection of sentiments. So I'm not surprised you saved those text messages......But there is a caveat. Sometimes you can get caught up in the word oneupmanship that you lose sight of the friendship or relationship that could be built.
Janie

It was never really a game of one upping. It was more like a script for an Irene Dunne-Cary Grant or Hepburn-Tracy film. Frankly, I am tempted to turn the whole premise into a screenplay, but I don't think it would translate well.

SugarFemme 01-03-2012 11:25 PM

I PROMISE I am not trying to derail.....I was sending flirty text messages to the woman I was dating at the time and they got a little racy. Well, I accidently forwarded one of the more racier ones to my ex-hubby :|. Good thing he has a great sense of humor. I got a text back asking me, " Can I watch"?? LMAO

nicetgurl_30 01-03-2012 11:39 PM

Is that ur text or mine?
 
O my gosh I know what u mean! I'm soo corny and nerdy I always get a huh? Or one these 0_o faces! So I always go with the worst lines ever and that way they know I'm at least showing interest and hey if they keep textin back they must enjoy whatever it is ur doing or saying!!

If that doesn't work text from Bennett always makes
Me laugh! Good luck!!

Fav line ever: okay first text and be like omg! Are u okay and then she say yeah y? Then BAM "“You must be tired because you’ve been running through my head all night."

Pretty bad right! There are hundreds of bad lines and some good ones!

BullDog 01-04-2012 08:49 AM

LOL, I never knew there were rules to flirting. Something thought out ahead of time that then ends up in a text could be quite nice indeed, as well as spontaneity. It's all in the delivery and the dance for me.

Jett 01-04-2012 09:05 AM

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Originally Posted by BullDog (Post 497758)
LOL, I never knew there were rules to flirting. Something thought out ahead of time that then ends up in a text could be quite nice indeed, as well as spontaneity. It's all in the delivery and the dance for me.

FRESH! *slap*

... oh... I'm sorry buddy I thought you were flirting with me. I'll get some ice for that...


;)

BullDog 01-04-2012 09:07 AM

Will flirt for cupcakes. ;)

smouldering 01-04-2012 09:16 AM

I am a natural flirt, I like to make people feel good and even smile sometimes.. heck i even enjoy making people blush :D If i flirt it probably means i like ya, but don't worry it doesn't mean i want to marry you :P.

I think the one problem that i have from time to time, especially when it comes to online or via texting is my just being nice or supportive being confused with flirting.. :S

LaneyDoll 01-04-2012 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by SweetJane (Post 497422)
A butch once told me that the femme should know instinctively when the flirt turns serious. I said, "How in the world would she know that if you didn't tell her?"

So how do we know, hmmm?

This is sooooooo me! A friend once referenced my flirting and I looked at him in absolute confusion because to me, I was just being me. So he asked, "Laney is there anytime that you do not flirt?" And I replied, "Yes, there is; I have to sleep don't I?"

:sparklyheart:

JustJo 01-04-2012 09:29 AM

I am severely flirting impaired....can't do it, rarely "get it" when it happens to me.

I can joke, be witty, be serious....but flirt? :blink:

Think I need to take a workshop or something.

musicman 01-04-2012 09:32 AM

Thinking of starting a flirting course just for Jo ;) I have been known on occasion to flirt. I have been told I am charming and I love women. So flirting comes natural for me.

Not sure if that is a good thing or bad.
Musicman

1QuirkyKiwi 01-04-2012 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by smouldering (Post 497775)


I think the one problem that i have from time to time, especially when it comes to online or via texting is my just being nice or supportive being confused with flirting.. :S

This ALWAYS happens to me online…. I’m naturally supportive and caring of everyone in my life and that includes all the forums I’m a regular member off, too. It gets frustrating sometimes when rumours fly around by people who have never met me in person or even taken the time to get to know me online, yet, I’m pre-judged by my posts or the odd PM/Email.

If people really want to get to know the real me, then they will take the time too do so and not assume that I’m flirting with all and sundry just because I’m naturally chatty and friendly.


HoustonHuny 01-04-2012 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by apretty (Post 497565)
I hope this isn't your flirting.

HAHAHA...

Well apretty, it sure wasn't conscious flirting, however, subconscious is a whole nother matter, something we have no control over and are not even aware of. Obviously I got some reaction because "U" is posting sweet notes on my profile. LOL

HoustonHuny 01-04-2012 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by UofMfan (Post 497575)
Besides the fact that my name is not UFO, and I find that to be a little dismissive, I have three things that stick out from your post.

1. Boys and bois, perhaps there lies the difference.

2. If I ever have to Google a flirt I would officially ask Bete to shoot me first.

3. I am too much of a gentleman to engage in childless competitions. Ms. Belle is a dear friend of mine and I would not disrespect our friendship by saying anything more than that.

These are all personal preferences and opinions and we are all entitled to express them respectfully.

I will respect yours and kindly ask you to respect mine.




*hands on hips* Well! If this is your idea of flirting, then I would rather flirt with PrincessBelle. (sorry PrincessBelle, didn't mean to bring you into this, I just think you are too cute for words)

My UFOMAN joke was not meant to be dismissive, I am truly sorry you took it that way. I learned long ago that people love to hear the sound of their name, so I make it a point of using people's names when I interact with them (even if it is only a screen name). It's just that it was stuck in my mind, because I read it that way. I will work very hard to fix the mental thingy so that if we ever interact again together, you will not feel "dismissed."

I will respect your opinion as long as you state it as your opinion. But when you use the word "should" it raises my hackles. You are not the "keeper of the shoulds" and neither am I.

I would still love to match your flirting trophies against mine. :cheesy:

girl_dee 01-04-2012 05:36 PM

I get Hello Kitty pics by text when I am stressing about something.

Now that's love!

Quintease 01-04-2012 06:20 PM

I always plan my flirts, or not-flirts. By 'plan' I don't mean I write them down for days and analyse them, but I put some thought into what I say (by not-flirts I mean the flirts you're not doing because someone inappropriate is trying to flirt with you). I've flirted with everything from boys to girls and I don't feel the need to change my flirting style for identity, rather for the person.


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