"Lots of femmes pack! " (Maria)

It was a rhetorical question meant to open up the conversation! I find packing femmes hot!

Elle*

No interest in packing by butch or femme.

Now I said packing, not strapping, to be clear and all.

I do not pack, nor have I ever. I may be young, but I'm fully aware that I don't need to pack to know I am butch. I am just as much of one whether I pack or I don't. We all have things that make us who we are, and we are no more or less without said traits. So, does that make me less of a butch? no. not at all. We were made to be our own versions, not copies of another type. We're all still who we are. I'm still a young, dapper butch, without anything between my legs. I am me, and that's what counts.

If a butch I am seeing wants to soft pack, I say go for it. It's none of my business really. If she wants me to groove on it, it's going to be disappointing for her because I just don't. It doesn't do a thing for me.

I hear about femmes who scrape it with their nails and share that MOMENT, that acknowledgement of difference, and I think, wow, we are so not the same. Seriously.

I love those moments of acknowledgement with butches or femmes. That frisson of recognition of who we are. That delicious exchange. But the softpack as a signifier of gender is not erotic for me. It is not a manifestation of masculinity that I find hot or even interesting. If someone were to wear it and not need me to interact with it in that way, then we'd be good.

It wouldn't mean I didn't see them for who they are or that I wouldn't groove on their masculine presentation.

I pack
 

When I think about it, that moment, reaching for someone -- it's a fun thing. All consensual, of course. Whether doing it slyly in public or not, it's a pleasure.

Just rubbing that high inner thigh in the car or anywhere. Yum.

A soft pack, for me, means I won't be going there. There are things we do for the pleasure of our partners that don't do all that much for us. But to fake that I want to reach for her stuff when I don't, no, that would not work.

Yet, I'd have to be busy or in a pretty pissy mood not to want to touch a partner between the legs if she wanted it.

The softpack is, ironically, a cock block to me. I do not have any interest in it. If it's there, I am not likely to fondle her.

My Butch does not pack, and until coming to the Butch-Femme site I had no idea that packing was something some Butches did. I don't judge a Butch by what's in their pants.

I only pack when I'm going to use it needless to say, it's not a soft pack.

Packing vs. non-packing is about personal preferences of the butch and has nothing to do with being butch enough or this or that kind of butch or whatever the hell people want to come up with.

Yes, I've met femmes that pack and butches that do and do not pack all the time, some of the time, only on a Sunday <g>....

Rope--

Getting educated here.
I thought all Butches had to pack or strap on to be in "The Bois Club".
Hummm,maybe not.

When I first came out to the big world other than a fue friends I was told by nearly everyone that if I didnt pack or strap it on I would never really be any kind of a butch.With that in mind I bought whatever it took to fill the toy bag...I spent mucho deniro....wow that good stuff aint cheep.That's been a long time ago,and to tell the truth untill I became a bfp planiteer I never felt I could ever not have or need to strap or pack to intrest anyone in the community.It dosent bother me to do either one way or the other..there is another thing I got from being hear that is being called her isnt a black ball word,I can stull be a big old butch jaust the same.I learn something reading these post that its ok to relax and be me without haveing to fix in a box that i'm expexted to be in.

I have had the pleasure of spending time (in real life) with quite a few butches and only a few of them packed. It certainly wasn't an issue to them whether I packed or not, but the ones who did pack explained their rationale. I imagine more info is available from the packing thread.

I did pack for a few b-f gatherings, but never mainstream. I don't think I would pack again unless it was a turn-on for the femme. I don't mind packing, but it isn't something I need to do currently.

I've never actually been with anyone who packs. My ex in San Diego used to think about it but never went shopping. And when I came out 20 years ago, I don't know that we knew much about it in New Zealand. Although, I'm sure there were plenty of butches who did think about it and tried doing it with socks etc.

Definately NOT.

Thank you bunches June:bunchflowers: Finaly beleaveing this came late but better late than never.