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Daktari 02-12-2012 06:32 AM
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Originally Posted by uniquetobeme (Post 524665)
*snip*
It has been 2 weeks since I quit smoking and I have been nicotine free for one day. I was worried last night because after a LONG week at work, I drank a couple glasses of sangria. I was worried that would trigger me to smoke. My son's boyfriend smokes...so I know I could easily get one, but I didn't and I didn't even have the craving. I know I have to be really careful...drinking is a huge trigger for me...luckily I don't drink often!
Fantastic! You're on the way. I personally don't believe we should avoid others that smoke whilst we quit; it's something we have to deal with if we have smokers in our lives...that sure is the case for me...giving up in a false microcosm of non-smokingness isn't real, ultimately we have to go out and about and deal with smokers, might as well do it from day one. Does that make sense? Sure seeing others smoke can be a trigger but that's when our self talk about positive choices kicks in.

You did real good!


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Originally Posted by Lady Pamela (Post 525200)
Just got back and thought I would say..Still going strong..on day 9 today and soon that will be doen.

I have had some hard moments but old habits die hard sometimes..smiles

Congrats to everyone for keeping on keeping one..smiles..tty all tomorrow. night
WooooHoooooo! Day 9, see how fast those days build up. There are many hard moments to come but as the days pass your coping strategies develop and become stronger until not having a cig becomes the norm rather than the exception.

May the force be with y'all :tinfoil:



ps. Day 13 :tea:

DapperButch 02-12-2012 10:03 AM
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Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 525242)


Fantastic! You're on the way. I personally don't believe we should avoid others that smoke whilst we quit; it's something we have to deal with if we have smokers in our lives...that sure is the case for me...giving up in a false microcosm of non-smokingness isn't real, ultimately we have to go out and about and deal with smokers, might as well do it from day one. Does that make sense? Sure seeing others smoke can be a trigger but that's when our self talk about positive choices kicks in.


I think it depends on the person. For me, a brief period of time around non smokers was helpful. I was in enough angst while quitting, why make it more difficult by having the sweet smell of a ciggie nearby? It is interesting how different things work for different people.

Daktari 02-12-2012 11:40 AM
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Originally Posted by DapperButch (Post 525363)
I think it depends on the person. For me, a brief period of time around non smokers was helpful. I was in enough angst while quitting, why make it more difficult by having the sweet smell of a ciggie nearby? It is interesting how different things work for different people.


Tis true different things work for us all Dapper and we all develop our own strategies. I was just saying what worked for me as I've seen the staying away from smokers suggestion more than once. I still kept the last of a pack of rolling tobacco and papers too. That worked for me. I knew I wasn't 'denying' myself as such but making a positive choice not to have that ciggie that I could easily have if I chose.

I've kept the last beer I bought too for exactly the above reason. It makes my resolve stronger somehow, knowing that I can have what I want if I really want to, except I choose not to. It's just the knowing that I can that gives me comfort somehow. Yeah, I know, I'm weird! :tinfoil:

Lady Pamela 02-12-2012 11:43 AM
smoke free day 10...smiles
 
Hangin in there..woke up and dang near forgot I wasn't a smoker anymore..sheeeesh..ha

But no, my brain kicked in and I didn't smoke. Today I have lots to do so that will help..check in later.

Have a great day everyone!

Keep on going on..and thank you all so very much for showing up for me as well.


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Lady Pamela 02-12-2012 11:45 AM
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Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 525432)

Tis true different things work for us all Dapper and we all develop our own strategies. I was just saying what worked for me as I've seen the staying away from smokers suggestion more than once. I still kept the last of a pack of rolling tobacco and papers too. That worked for me. I knew I wasn't 'denying' myself as such but making a positive choice not to have that ciggie that I could easily have if I chose.

I've kept the last beer I bought too for exactly the above reason. It makes my resolve stronger somehow, knowing that I can have what I want if I really want to, except I choose not to. It's just the knowing that I can that gives me comfort somehow. Yeah, I know, I'm weird! :tinfoil:
I have smokes that I have as well..how funny.
I thought that way at first, I will know I am not without incase. But it really has built me much stronger knowing I have turned them away by choice....way to go everyone!

Lady Pamela 02-12-2012 11:51 AM
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Originally Posted by DapperButch (Post 525363)
I think it depends on the person. For me, a brief period of time around non smokers was helpful. I was in enough angst while quitting, why make it more difficult by having the sweet smell of a ciggie nearby? It is interesting how different things work for different people.
I went for a bit without being around smokers. Smoking I thought would make it very hard. But it has actually made my mind much stronger being around them. I turn and say no thank you, or tell myself "your ok you don't need those or smile and say to myself You don't smoke anymore.
a COUPLE TIMES IT HAS BEEN HARD BUT FOR THE MOST PART HONESTLY, it has been empowering because I have to choose and be strong. Ya know?


I am so happy to have such honest people on here. It really helps.
Also to have people who truely do care and want to share. Thank you everyone.
May your days be full of confidence to achieve all you want to be!


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uniquetobeme 02-12-2012 11:52 AM
That is great that you all can be around smokers and not smoke. I am not strong enough yet. My dad used to always tell me 'if you stay in a barber shop long enough, you're going to get a hair cut'. If I'm around smoking, eventually I'm gonna smoke. I have some will power, but also moments of weakness...should the smoker and my moment of waekness meet...I'll be smoking again. LOL
So...like I said to a friend...I can't date a smoker, even of she's smoking' hot :-). LOL

Lady Pamela 02-12-2012 12:53 PM
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Originally Posted by uniquetobeme (Post 525442)
That is great that you all can be around smokers and not smoke. I am not strong enough yet. My dad used to always tell me 'if you stay in a barber shop long enough, you're going to get a hair cut'. If I'm around smoking, eventually I'm gonna smoke. I have some will power, but also moments of weakness...should the smoker and my moment of waekness meet...I'll be smoking again. LOL
So...like I said to a friend...I can't date a smoker, even of she's smoking' hot :-). LOL
Oh trust me..It isn't always easy..Or possible for that matter..I just realized that it isn't possible not to be..ya know what I mean?

I took a walk to get the urge to go away..I will be damned if every person I walked by that walk....was smoking...ha! Bout killed my butt..ha

It has only been the past few days it has been possible...But...Do I still have that voice that says..SMOKEEEEEE...hell yes I do...ha

Even a voice that tried to tell me ..ohhh that smells sooo good...lol ha

Now that I have a nose back, I can tell you..an ash tray truely smells horrid...ha

Keep on keepin on..smiles

Sachita 02-12-2012 01:16 PM
The biggest one for me is having a glass of wine. I did not smoke much, mostly at the end of the day, a few but i had developed a habit. I purposely did not drink because i knew I;d want to smoke. So after 2 weeks i had a glass and wine and had a smoke. :( but I only had one and the next day didn't have another.

Lady Pamela 02-12-2012 01:46 PM
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Originally Posted by Sachita (Post 525496)
The biggest one for me is having a glass of wine. I did not smoke much, mostly at the end of the day, a few but i had developed a habit. I purposely did not drink because i knew I;d want to smoke. So after 2 weeks i had a glass and wine and had a smoke. :( but I only had one and the next day didn't have another.
my deamon has been coffee..I have to drink it when I noramlly wouldn't,in lessss quantity and not associating it with a smoke..so I truely can relate in some way to that..smiles

Sachita 02-12-2012 02:00 PM
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Originally Posted by Lady Pamela (Post 525511)
my deamon has been coffee..I have to drink it when I noramlly wouldn't,in lessss quantity and not associating it with a smoke..so I truely can relate in some way to that..smiles
well I probably should have said I gave that up to at the same time. lol I was not a happy camper. I am back drinking coffee but a very small amount. I never smoked during the day so that wasn't my problem. I think there are several levels of stopping- ending the habit and the addiction.

Lady Pamela 02-13-2012 11:35 AM
day 11
 
Day 11 smoke free

All is well currently...but it comes and goes.
Will check back in in a few.


Keep it up everyone..it may be hard but ohhh so worth it..smiles

Lady Pamela 02-14-2012 01:44 PM
Day 12 smoke free


Having a very difficult day today..Having an extremely hard time not smoking.
My daughter left today which made me sad. And others I love have been challenging my emotions all day.
People need to stop!!! Sorry bitching!

I haven't smoked but I am telling you, today is truely testing my limits.

.

How is everyone else on this ride?

Daktari 02-14-2012 01:54 PM
Well done you Lady Pamela.

It's those sorta days that really test our mettle and prove that we're really on the course to success. You're doing it. You're dealing with a crap day without a ciggie. How amazing is that? Have you done that in the last few years?

May the force continue to be with you :tinfoil:




ps. Day 15

Lady Pamela 02-14-2012 08:56 PM
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Originally Posted by Incubus (Post 526985)
Well done you Lady Pamela.

It's those sorta days that really test our mettle and prove that we're really on the course to success. You're doing it. You're dealing with a crap day without a ciggie. How amazing is that? Have you done that in the last few years?

May the force continue to be with you :tinfoil:




ps. Day 15

No I haven't done that in many years...And thank you so much...smiles
Its rewarding when I look back but during it..it still doesn't feel to great..ha go figure...lol

Thanks for the encouragement..Here for you and everyone else as well.

Keep going strong. And if by chance you fall..Climb back on!

uniquetobeme 02-14-2012 10:11 PM
I don't know how I didn't do it today. I was near smoking and I actually stayed in my car for awhile because I knew if I got out of the car and passed my son's boyfriend smoking, I would have asked for one. I don't know what it is about today, but it was rough...probably stress and I may be coming down with a cold :(...anyway, I didn't smoke, but it was hard as hell not to! :)

Lady Pamela 02-15-2012 12:00 AM
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Originally Posted by uniquetobeme (Post 527313)
I don't know how I didn't do it today. I was near smoking and I actually stayed in my car for awhile because I knew if I got out of the car and passed my son's boyfriend smoking, I would have asked for one. I don't know what it is about today, but it was rough...probably stress and I may be coming down with a cold :(...anyway, I didn't smoke, but it was hard as hell not to! :)
It can be damn hard...way cool you kept on going on...it seems to re eforce it more when you do..ya know?

old habits die hard...keep it up for real...smiles

Daktari 02-15-2012 05:14 AM
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Originally Posted by uniquetobeme (Post 527313)
I don't know how I didn't do it today. I was near smoking and I actually stayed in my car for awhile because I knew if I got out of the car and passed my son's boyfriend smoking, I would have asked for one. I don't know what it is about today, but it was rough...probably stress and I may be coming down with a cold :(...anyway, I didn't smoke, but it was hard as hell not to! :)
It is rough as hell sometimes but you did it. That means you can do it again. :cheesy: Remember the nicotine is out of your body now, why put any more back in...it won't make the stress any less and will only make you feel worse because you fell off non-smoking magic carpet.

No-one said it was gonna be easy, they did say it would be worth it though.

Remember there are no reasons to smoke only excuses.

May the force be with y'all today :tinfoil:




ps. Day 16 sobriety

Scuba 02-15-2012 09:45 AM
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Originally Posted by Lady Pamela (Post 526978)
Day 12 smoke free


Having a very difficult day today..Having an extremely hard time not smoking.
My daughter left today which made me sad. And others I love have been challenging my emotions all day.
People need to stop!!! Sorry bitching!

I haven't smoked but I am telling you, today is truely testing my limits.

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How is everyone else on this ride?
WAY TO GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

Scuba 02-15-2012 09:46 AM
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Originally Posted by uniquetobeme (Post 527313)
I don't know how I didn't do it today. I was near smoking and I actually stayed in my car for awhile because I knew if I got out of the car and passed my son's boyfriend smoking, I would have asked for one. I don't know what it is about today, but it was rough...probably stress and I may be coming down with a cold :(...anyway, I didn't smoke, but it was hard as hell not to! :)
WAY TO GO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)


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