Ok so here is the current thought thing going on - how come people come and LQQK at my "profile page" but NONE of them ask to be friends? So you LQQK and then think "Nah, nope just wanted to glance around, check out the décor" and then flee?

blinks.

Note to the Ghost of Admin: from now on can we make it an auto thing that if someone visits your profile page they are auto-added as a friend?

;)

(p.s. I have had A LOT of Bustelo today)

Just think of it this way PatrickIver, you have to "win them over" just like you do in real life. Looking at your page is just the introduction. Give them time, they will come back once they get to know you better and ask to be your friend.

So.. originally i was thinking about life, the hopes of my nrw career and the prospects of actual sleep tonight..


But


Then i saw Patricks post, so now im curious about thd profile page. Imma go check it out :p

Things that did not make it into my boxes..

Jewelry that meant a lot to me, bits of clothing, a book series I had just started.

Hm. :|

I personally do not add people if I haven't interacted with them often first and established a relationship. Most of the folks on my friends list I've likely met at Reunion once or twice, and/or have seen them on forums and interacted with since I joined years ago. This also extends to my FB - I do not add people simply because we have mutual friends or they're in the same community as me.

I think I need to clear up what I meant in the post above. It was just a joke that is why I mentioned I had A LOT of Bustelo today.

I also do not add someone just to "add them". I am very selective and cautious, which I explained in my very first post here on the site.

I think there is some confusion as to my post above.

I have never heard of Bustelo.
And I've never read your first post.
My apologies, that went right over my head :)
Welcome to the planet!

Still a few things

Im up for a promotion and it's on my mind this morning. Have been waitng since November-ish, and should know something soon. I'm incredibly impatient, so I have some anxiety and nervous energy ... I know there will be some talk, or maybe even grumblings if I get it. My manager has my back on this, but she's a decision maker and I'm part of her team that executes her decisions. I have to work with the grumblers to execute her decisions and am now wondering if it's worth it.

For me, it almost doesn't matter what daily challenges I face in my work, but what is really important is if I can get people outside my department to work with me in solving problems. It's easier to get people to work with me if they aren't angry or annoyed.

This is in the context of me working in a department that doesn't generate revenue--all we do is spend money and we spend lots of it, so we're already getting cock-eyed looks.

I'll be glad when this is over and I don't have this concern flittering on the edges of my consciousness

I am thinking that without inflection and tone, words can be inferred however one "hears" them. So that makes me think of a good word for the day: clarification. I am also thinking about last night and convos that I had. Finally, about having a family dinner tomorrow and that I am really looking forward to it, and in the end that is what is truly important. In the words of a chat mate: Shake it off!

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On October 25th I made contact with you and asked you to "please please please do NOT post anything that an ex could even remotely think is about them." (my exact words)

And you have been around long enough to know that this is just not ok.

Breakup drama *in any form* does not belong on the Planet.

Because we have already issued a warning about this very type of posting, you are now on a 30-day time-out.

When you return, please keep in mind that referencing a break up, an ex, or any sideways-type of statements that invite ugliness need to be kept off-site.

Thanks,
M

Finding a way to get the hell out of this town and state AGAIN!

There was a coyote in my mom's back yard this morning and she has feral cats that she feeds. I am afraid for them. :(

As a side dish, I feel like a fool. But, I will get over it. Onward and upward.

I hope the cats are ok. Your mom, too!

99% of my life is feeling like a fool, so you've got company. I don't know if it's good company, though. :bow:

They will definitely eat the cats if they can, but it's cat or dog food left outside or open garbage that might have attracted them in the first place (I'm not saying in your mom's place, just in areas of human habitat in general), or the smell of fast food deep fat fryers, or the dumpsters behind restaurants, etc.

If you google coyote and fast food restaurant, tons of stuff will come up. They've been videoed going into fast food restaurants and snatching food from tables without the patrons even noticing. The "wily" coyote nickname is apt.

My friend in L.A. lost her cat to a coyote. They come down from Griffith Park and the canyons around Santa Monica.

They're hungry and their habitat is shrinking. They eat, then go back to their pups and regurgitate the food for the litter to eat.

The animals that survive our destruction of the earth the longest will be the ones who can adapt to eating our garbage—or eating our pets.

House cats are the safest of course, but I think indoor/outdoor cats have more interesting lives. The best of both worlds, and the worst. And feral cats really have it hard, I guess.

Toddlers left alone in backyards are also not so safe from coyotes, though they aren't the most aggressive canines out there.

what is on my mind?
 

llɐ ʇı ʞɔnɟ

I think you need a night out. No one "wants" to leave texas.. tsk tsk..... you just need a new city. nods. I wouldn't fare well over yonder either.

on my mind... so many things, but I'll keep it sweet


as in, I need to do something with all these apples. thinking apple crisps and send them off to my mom, grandma, and my clients wife that i'm going to go see.


also, I need to make my biscotti's nom nom

why is the cat ALWAYS on me.. always... eternally always.. I sit down, and she creeps up and BAM! she's on me within 2 minutes. she's a white cat. I wear dark clothes. this is not a good relationship.

I actually want to leave Texas. I am not a native Texan.

When I lived in MN on five acres, I had a coyote problem. Saw two at the most but usually just one. There was a pond with ducks, geese, and various little offspring out in the front of the house. I also had dogs and no fenced yard.

Two experiences come to mind.

The first was in the middle of the night. I got up to let the dogs out and it was pitch dark aside from the light on the house. I let the dogs out and they stayed close to the deck and I could see them. All of a sudden, a coyote howled. It was extremely close and very loud. Scared the hell out of me because of course, I couldn't see if there was more than one. So I got the dogs in quickly.

Another time, I was out on the riding mower and as I came around the side of the house, it was creeping down to the pond. Well, I turned off the blades and hit the gas and took off after it and chased it to the back woods. Went about my business and came back around and it was there again! I went and got a shovel out of the shed, got back on my lawn mower and chased it again, screaming at it to get. The lawn mower was really old and really loud so I doubt it could hear me but still. So it went into the brush of the property line where I couldn't go and turned around and looked at me. We had a staring contest and then it took off.

A few days later, I was working in my office and heard the geese squawking. I jumped up and went to the front door and saw the coyote had something in its mouth. I took off out the door towards it and as I got closer, it dropped it and went off a little ways. I stopped, looked to see if the animal was alive and it wasn't. I thought it was a rabbit. So I left because it shouldn't die in vain. The coyote needed to eat. Later I learned it was one of the goslings. I was upset already but that just upset me even more as the parents came back every year to have their young.

I know that animals of prey need to eat other animals to survive and I'm sure she was feeding young, but that didn't need to happen to my wildlife! Anyway, I asked the landlord for a BB gun to scare it away with the noise and he gave me this rifle that shot pellets. I had no idea how to use it, never shot a gun before so watched YouTube and learned how to load it. Went out side to load it and shoot a can and as I was loading it, the coyote came out of the woods right by me. It saw me with the rifle and took off. I never saw it again. I would have never shot it but it must have thought I was going to.

They are definitely smart and cunning animals and how stupid was I to chase after the damn thing? lol. Oh well.

The Grateful Dead are doing a final farewell show July 3, 4 and 5 in Chicago at Soldier Field. I am constantly thinking about getting tickets!!! Only a few more weeks until they go on sale!!!

Interesting SB! I think what you describe is the dance that a lot of people go through as they negotiate space with the creatures that were there first or were somewhere else and got pushed into our territory.

I saw coyotes now and then when I had a house upstate with my Ex. Coyotes look like smaller, more down-and-out versions of wolves. They have that crouching, furtive kind of trot, heads down, sidelong looks left and right, constantly on the watch.

I read that when wolves chase them, they go uphill, then race downhill. Apparently they can run downhill with a lot more skill and agility than the larger wolves or bears.

I also read that when wolf populations are low, they will mate with coyotes. But when wolf populations are high, they kill coyotes.

Sorry for going on so much. But coyotes kind of fascinate me.

Going Home
 

I have been thinking a lot of my "hometown", and sharing it with the people I love. I was born in Minnesota, but I miss the magic of being in the south. Being able to hear the trains as the last sound that I hear at night and the first sound that I hear in the morning. The Smell of peaches at the end of the summer. The cicadas and crickets while sitting on the drive port at dusk. What I miss MOST is being able to climb the tree in my Grandmother's front yard. Magnolias, are magnificent!
I can't even express how excited I get when I see Magnolia branches. Yes, I think a trip "home" is in order. I am HOMESICK:|

How quickly good can turn to bad....

My own personal black cloud

How the mouse plays when the cat is away

Why is it, shows about gay men (like Looking), they're all having sex all the time and dancing and partying

and shows about lesbians (the Fosters), every scene, one of the women is wiping down a kitchen counter and they are all exasperated, dealing with kids' drama

well I guess the L Word had its share of sex and partying

I take it all back

Why they cancelled the program for the class I was taking. No answers yet.

An old high school friend and softball teammate committed suicide today. She was a police officer, and just a very nice person in general.

What isn't on my mind tonight? Time passes so quickly. Life moves so slowly.

It has been a tough couple of days. A family friend (my Mom is friend's with her Dad) passed away day before yesterday. She was only a year older than me, in a committed relationship with her g/f, and had just been let go from her job that she had for 17 years, and it is speculated that she committed suicide. I am still in shock. And so incredibly sad. Why?

Calling hours are tomorrow and I intend to go, to pay my respects to a person who's life was ended far too soon.

Thinking of wedding bells and honeymoons and a big welcome home reception among friends and family. The Honeymoon is booked. And I just have too many ideas in my head on what to do about reception.
But I'm struggling with the ceremony - I have a hard time with the concept of small/simple ... I know! I'll make a new Pinterest board and eventually it'll all work out. ;)