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laruss 07-26-2012 12:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ~ocean (Post 621167)
There's not enough crushing going on in here . ** Lets try a new way.** DESCRIBE what u would like your CRUSH to :
1, Be like.
2. Look like ..
3. Treat u like.

YOUR TURN ~~

My ideal crush...
1. Kind, considerate, self aware, calls me on my shit, adventurous, full of life, must have a love of learning, and be a woman who loves me and all my quirks.
2. A Butch who is very comfortable in their own skin.
3. Depending on the moment... a princess, a lady, a whore, a queen, a partner, an equal, and like someone they cannot live without, while knowing they could they just choose not too.

bkisbutchenuff 07-26-2012 03:24 PM

This is simple yet hard...



1, Be like.
2. Look like ..
3. Treat u like.

1) She must be goal oriented, true and honest from the beginning
2) She should be herself at all times... - but must have femme qualities (yum)
3) She should treat me as I treat her - with the utmost respect and support!

Mr Nice Guy 07-26-2012 03:42 PM

Ocean, another great idea and another way to crush or meet true love. Who knows?

Ginger 07-26-2012 04:10 PM

My ideal crush...

I can't follow in step with the posts I'm seeing here, as heartfelt and thoughtful as they seem.

That's because I think people are talking about crushes as if having a crush is synonymous with falling in love, or an indicator of someone they could care about.

But falling in love is not what I'm talking about, when I talk about a crush. I'm not saying one definition is better than the other, I'm just saying mine is different.

To crush on someone, all they have to do is answer a need, fill a gap that exists at that particular time in my life.

For example, if I am feeling invisible, and someone makes me feel visible, I might very well crush on that person. If I am feeling unappreciated sexually, and they appreciate me sexually, even in a cyber way, I might crush on that person.

On the Internet it's easy for me to crush in this way, because there are no distractions, like what the person looks, sounds and feels like in person. It can just be about that one pure need-being-met phenomenon.

It has happened to me every time I've entered a new social website community. I'm just as vulnerable to it now as I've always been.

And I don't think it's a bad thing at all, this experience that I'm identifying as a crush.

But it isn't the same as falling in love.

If I am going to fall in love with you, you have to do more than answer some un-met need in me. If I am going to love you, I have to admire, adore and be fascinated by your inner and outer self. I have to see how you interact with others, how you treat people who have less power than you, how consistent you are, in your behavior; how reflective and honest you are.

The turn this Thread has taken has made me realize I'm not working with the same core of expectations about what it means to have a crush.

But it is good to see what the Thread has done, which is to have encouraged people to reflect on what will trigger their initial attraction to a person they might consider dating, and could maybe love. Or at least that's what I think I'm hearing. And what it's done for me is make me think a lot about how love starts and what makes it go away. That's what I got out of the crush thread. I feel glad for that.

Mr Nice Guy 07-26-2012 04:14 PM

Your words are beautiful and heartfelt. I just want to say thank you. :)

rockstar lover 07-26-2012 05:17 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ~ocean (Post 621167)
Theres not enough crushing going on in here . ** Lets try a new way.** DESCRIBE what u would like your CRUSH to :
1, Be like.
2. Look like ..
3. Treat u like.


YOUR TURN ~~

1. grounded, sexy, sweet, romantic, someone willing to take a chance on love, witty, quirky, spiritual, giving
2. the femme goddess she was destined to be
3. her partner, lover, best friend, equal; she would treat me with the love, respect and adoration that I show to her.


Am I asking for too much?!

ferret 07-26-2012 05:46 PM

I'll play.

Be like: Witty, intelligent, genuine, affectionate.
Look like: Femme, but don't freak out if you break a nail or get dirty.
Treat me like: You would like to be treated and like an equal. Nothing more, nothing less.

LoyalWolfsBlade 07-26-2012 06:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ~ocean (Post 621167)
Theres not enough crushing going on in here . ** Lets try a new way.** DESCRIBE what u would like your CRUSH to :
1, Be like.
2. Look like ..
3. Treat u like.


My turn I think.

My crush must be a unique woman in some way...stand out from the "clicks"a strong woman yet can be vulnerable and turn to me, self aware, comfortable with who she is, has a thirst for learning not just academically but in life, funny, open to new experience, and must be okay with the simple fact that I am male ID that hates labels.....to begin with

How she looks is not important because I have a wide range of taste for a physical appearance....yet she must have inner beauty....that is what will keep me interested

Treat me like a friend always, with respect, as the knight I am in my heart, as, as I treat her, flirt with me even after she catches my attention, most important like she really wants to get to know me....

Those are but a few qualities for someone to have that will cause me to crush on her....now if your talking about developing a relationship and falling in love she should have all of the above but also should be open to a LDR with the knowledge that while I do NOT own a U-Haul I am also the type to change the LDR into something more tangible....she should love music, animals, and be love staying at home alone with me and much as going out

grenade 07-26-2012 07:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ferret (Post 621532)
I'll play.

Be like: Witty, intelligent, genuine, affectionate.
Look like: Femme, but don't freak out if you break a nail or get dirty.
Treat me like: You would like to be treated and like an equal. Nothing more, nothing less.

Breaking an acrylic or gel nail, hurts like hell. It would take a high pain tolerance not to freak out. I bent one back today and almost cried. Almost.

tazz 07-26-2012 07:52 PM

i think, i do, i dunno, i desire...

A Crush!!!

a very unique and special Crush... and be it i dont Crush on just anybody... plus i dont Crush for the sake of having a Crush in order to fill loneliness.

i am Ready and Willing for my next Crush ;)

Nomad 07-26-2012 07:58 PM

<partial quote.
Quote:

Originally Posted by IslandScout (Post 621486)

If I am going to fall in love with you, you have to do more than answer some un-met need in me. If I am going to love you, I have to admire, adore and be fascinated by your inner and outer self. I have to see how you interact with others, how you treat people who have less power than you, how consistent you are, in your behavior; how reflective and honest you are.

The turn this Thread has taken has made me realize I'm not working with the same core of expectations about what it means to have a crush.

But it is good to see what the Thread has done, which is to have encouraged people to reflect on what will trigger their initial attraction to a person they might consider dating, and could maybe love. Or at least that's what I think I'm hearing. And what it's done for me is make me think a lot about how love starts and what makes it go away. That's what I got out of the crush thread. I feel glad for that.

this. just this.

ferret 07-26-2012 08:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by grenade (Post 621594)
Breaking an acrylic or gel nail, hurts like hell. It would take a high pain tolerance not to freak out. I bent one back today and almost cried. Almost.


Aw, Gren. God love you :) I think what I'm trying to say is more along the lines of low-maintenance. And I'm sure breaking an acrylic or gel nail hurts like a mofo.

Sue

Mr Nice Guy 07-27-2012 03:31 AM

Breaking a nail sucks. I know this from dating women with nails. Ow!! Bending back or breaking at the quick hurts like hell. I'm good at mending boo boos. :)

Nomad 07-27-2012 05:43 AM

twisting the idea
 
i dont have a clue what my crush would be like. but it got me to thinkin what i want to be like, look like and treat me like the next time i crush, or even if i never crush again.

the next time i crush i want to be someone who takes up more room in a relationship rather than the person who backs up from rather than steps up to who she is. my biggest mistake in life is embracing worry instead of letting go. when i do this i forget to be exactly who i am and i begin to be someone who will do anything to make everything right which is not a possible thing to begin with.

the next time i crush i want to look like a truer version of myself, not the self i think i should be or think someone else is hoping i'll become. this is a lie that i trick myself with and the only thing it leads to is a sense of unworthiness which is also a lie because i am completely worthy of love.

the next time i crush i want to treat myself the way i would treat someone i love. i know that everyone has bad moments or bad days or even bad weeks but underlying all that crazy is love. love is a whole that is so much larger than the sum of its parts but we focus on the feeling it creates in our bodies and minds rather than on the things that love is supposed to mean. love, the verb, is made up of respect, compassion, honesty, trust, faith, loyalty, healthy expectation, accountability, endurance and humor. i am guilty of treating myself to none of these things and so i am also guilty of depriving my partner of them. this makes the circumstance of love into a noun which deprives it of its texture and and suppleness, rendering it into something that is 2 dimensional. when love becomes a noun its easier to take things for granted and to let yourself slip into non-recognizing behavior. i consistently fail to recognize myself as someone i should love; love with all the active components that make it a 3D experience. when i treat myself 2 dimensionally i teach other people to treat me that way also. and worse, i do the same to them.

i think we need to spend more time sincerely learning to crush on ourselves for a change. if we loved ourselves that much how could anyone else fail to see how worthy we are of the effort? maybe even more importantly we might be able to convince others that they should love themselves just as fiercely because they are worth the effort too.

~ocean 07-27-2012 06:11 AM

((((nomad )))) seems u have gone threw alot .. for this i am sry .. u need to heal b4 u can even entertain the thought of crushing anyone .. keep talking it helps :) ~~

Mr Nice Guy 07-27-2012 05:12 PM

Nomad, we are here for you like Ocean said. I healed from a heartache by posting til I let it all out. It really helped a lot. Now I'm just hanging and waiting for whatever or whomever comes next. I'm ready for love! There I said it. :). I must admit that I read this and think I sound like a goofball. :)

~ocean 07-27-2012 05:40 PM

BTW its a drive in kinda night :)) ~~ just saying

The_Lady_Snow 07-27-2012 05:43 PM

Friday Night Crushes
 
My crushes on people are in no way tied to romantic feelings, nor are they set with an expectation of a hook up or relationship, they're like flirtatious non boundary crossing admirations:)

That's why they are great to have because they're light like mojitos!

WolfyOne 07-27-2012 05:48 PM

I'd like to know my crush accepts me as I am...flawed
Does not want to change me into someone they want me to be

I lost part of me in my last relationship and getting it back has taken a few years, so with that said, I want an independent person who likes to co pilot every now and again, but won't put a strangle hold on me and will hold me loosely. It's great to have the same friends and also great to have friends that we don't have to share, but are friendly towards us when we're all together. I want someone that will work with me instead of against me. If I make a mistake, I'll eat it and say I'm sorry, but I don't want to be reminded of it for years. I am not perfect and would like for my crush to be flawed, too...I may have missed something in this post, so I reserve the right to come back and answer any questions one may toss out at me.

So, anyone interested in crushing on me after reading that?

WolfyOne 07-27-2012 05:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow (Post 622091)
My crushes on people are in no way tied to romantic feelings, nor are they set with an expectation of a hook up or relationship, they're like flirtatious non boundary crossing admirations:)

That's why they are great to have because they're light like mojitos!


I never had a mojito, but I do admire you as a person :)

The_Lady_Snow 07-27-2012 05:50 PM

Mmmm
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by WolfyOne (Post 622095)
I never had a mojito, but I do admire you as a person :)


They're delicious, mojitos!

Mr Nice Guy 07-28-2012 02:38 AM

Ok peeps, today is tell your crush day. Don't you love these special Holidays. So stand up and shout it out to the world!!:)

Today I am crushing on..... _________.


*** Hey I can't help myself. ;)

Breezy 07-28-2012 08:33 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IslandScout (Post 621486)
My ideal crush...

I can't follow in step with the posts I'm seeing here, as heartfelt and thoughtful as they seem.

That's because I think people are talking about crushes as if having a crush is synonymous with falling in love, or an indicator of someone they could care about.

But falling in love is not what I'm talking about, when I talk about a crush. I'm not saying one definition is better than the other, I'm just saying mine is different.

To crush on someone, all they have to do is answer a need, fill a gap that exists at that particular time in my life.

For example, if I am feeling invisible, and someone makes me feel visible, I might very well crush on that person. If I am feeling unappreciated sexually, and they appreciate me sexually, even in a cyber way, I might crush on that person.

On the Internet it's easy for me to crush in this way, because there are no distractions, like what the person looks, sounds and feels like in person. It can just be about that one pure need-being-met phenomenon.

It has happened to me every time I've entered a new social website community. I'm just as vulnerable to it now as I've always been.

And I don't think it's a bad thing at all, this experience that I'm identifying as a crush.

But it isn't the same as falling in love.

If I am going to fall in love with you, you have to do more than answer some un-met need in me. If I am going to love you, I have to admire, adore and be fascinated by your inner and outer self. I have to see how you interact with others, how you treat people who have less power than you, how consistent you are, in your behavior; how reflective and honest you are.

The turn this Thread has taken has made me realize I'm not working with the same core of expectations about what it means to have a crush.

But it is good to see what the Thread has done, which is to have encouraged people to reflect on what will trigger their initial attraction to a person they might consider dating, and could maybe love. Or at least that's what I think I'm hearing. And what it's done for me is make me think a lot about how love starts and what makes it go away. That's what I got out of the crush thread. I feel glad for that.

I hear you, darlin. Crushing for me is very similar. I do leave myself open for interpretation by others here. Please do not think you have incompatible views. Some view crushes one way and others of us view them another. :rrose: It's all good.

I am glad to know I am not the only one who views a crush as not being in love or necessarily leading to being in love. I have to know a person well, in person, through at least a year or two.

clay 07-28-2012 08:38 AM

pssst.....my crush is a secret....<wink>

ruffryder 07-28-2012 08:54 AM

ALL MY CRUSHES IN THE PAST HAVE JUST HAPPENED! THEY WERE ALL DIFFERENT. I THINK FOR ME MY CRUSHES WERE PEOPLE THAT WERE IN MY LIFE AND I SAW ALMOST ON A DAILY BASE, TEACHER, FRIEND, A SCHOOL MATE. I'VE HAD SOME ON THE INTERNET ALSO, FRIENDS THAT I'VE WONDERED WHAT IF.. BUT I THINK THE ONE THING IN COMMON IS THAT THEY ARE SOMEHOW IN MY LIFE. NEVER REALLY CRUSHED ON A CELEBRITY. NOT SO SURE I'VE ALWAYS TOLD THEM OR ANYONE! LOL MAYBE SOME ONLINE IF IT WENT BEYOND A FRIENDSHIP.

MY QUESTION IS WHO HAS TOLD THEIR CRUSH THAT THEY WERE CRUSHING? WAS IT GOOD FEEDBACK OR DID IT CRUSH YOUR HEART?

MY CRUSH RIGHT NOW IS MY ONE AND ONLY BABY. :)

Breezy 07-28-2012 09:58 AM

In my opinion, a crush does not need to be returned to me. Sure it is fun when a crush is returned, however, it is not about being the love of my life. I have nothing to lose or feel "crushed" about as a result.


Ginger 07-28-2012 10:01 AM

Nomad wrote:

"...the next time i crush i want to look like a truer version of myself, not the self i think i should be or think someone else is hoping i'll become."


Ouch. You got me.

Hollylane 07-28-2012 10:14 AM

Psssst....I'm thinking about you. :stillheart:



Mr Nice Guy 07-28-2012 05:13 PM

I would like to have a crush turn to love. Thats just me. :)

Nomad 07-28-2012 05:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mr Nice Guy (Post 622315)
Ok peeps, today is tell your crush day. Don't you love these special Holidays. So stand up and shout it out to the world!!:)

Today I am crushing on..... _________.


*** Hey I can't help myself. ;)


no fair leaving that line blank!!!!!

Mr Nice Guy 07-28-2012 05:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nomad (Post 622583)
no fair leaving that line blank!!!!!

Ha ha ha. So who are you crushing on, Nomad? ______?

shiagirl 07-28-2012 05:58 PM

Good Evening all you crushers our lurkers;
I haven't been around for awhile. I have missed reading this thread.

I still have a few crushes that will now just have to remain only crushes and not go anywhere but a crush.

I am very interested in one and one only and partly why I haven't been seen in these parts lately lol.

I hope all my peeps are doing well on here and crushing away and having fun.

I went to post my new pic since I read back a few and saw that many of you said the gallery is now updated but it still won't let me in :(

rockstar lover 07-28-2012 06:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mr Nice Guy (Post 622576)
I would like to have a crush turn to love. Thats just me. :)


No it's not just you :) When it's the right person, time, place, & when the stars are all aligned properly...it will happen! That's what I believe:flowers:

Nomad 07-28-2012 07:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mr Nice Guy (Post 622585)
Ha ha ha. So who are you crushing on, Nomad? ______?

it's not my line mensch. i dont have to fill it. :p

tazz 07-28-2012 07:52 PM

i'm missing my Crush... :rrose:

Mr Nice Guy 07-28-2012 07:55 PM

Hey Rockstar, I feel the same. Time will tell.

Hey Nomad, my iPhone won't let me fill out that line so I'll put them here.
1.Laruss- because she has my back.
2. Nomad- because your real and I like what you say.
3. LeftWriteFemme- because she's from Jersey.
There's more.... Some I would like to be real friends with and a few I would like to date.
Didn't expect that now did you. ;)

puddin' 07-29-2012 06:48 AM

today i'm crushin' on da kitteh thread...

~ocean 07-29-2012 07:18 AM

good morning crushers and crushees ~~

Breezy 07-29-2012 07:24 AM

Good morning, ~ocean! How are you today? :rrose:

~ocean 07-29-2012 07:26 AM

(((((breezy )))))) gm sexyyyyyy ~~~~ I'm alive ! u ?


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