((((((( oceanlady )))))))). Lol you

That I hope M does not find out about these...

https://www.google.com/amp/s/nypost....idiculous/amp/

how to get back at bullies i can't let all the work at karma

akiza, I don't like bullies either
I wouldn't worry about them, they will get their "reward", I assure you
Vengeance is not right action.
Verbal confrontation with a bully will only feed the beast.
On the other hand, when it is work-related, you may have to document incidents (it's nice that cell phones have record options), and consult a professional (i.e. lawyer) to start building a case. That or find another place to work.
Best regards

Several things
 

I wanna make a mad dash to get an egg mcmuffin and iced vanilla coffee...but it's raining hard and the neighbors might fuss about my bare nekkid legs as I dash for the truck. (No one at the drive up window minds if I'm wearing pj shorts that aren't long enough to show from under my Tshirt...it's only my neighbors that think I run around half nekkid.)

Cob houses....have become my obsession lately. I've made up my mind I will have one!

Damn rain is turning driveway into a lake!

What kinda trouble can I get into this weekend? Go to the Chinese Lantern Festival or Warm Springs VA? Or Hot Springs NC?

the ebb and flow of life...

A new job (by choice)
Upcoming school semester and how my degree is almost finished
Expanding the guest list to invite some near and dear folks
Budgeting and all the number crunching that comes along with it

Insomnia. I've had it for a week. Due to a combination of high high crisis week at work- being on call and lots of late night emergencies/middle of the night calls- and general chaos around me. I need to take some time off.

I'm really stressing about Survival Cat. Getting her into the no kill shelter isn't as easy as I thought it was going to be, and I just can't stand the thought of her stuffed in one of those little cages at the pound.

A lot...too much... :seeingstars:

I have been reading about gaslighting. Pretty interesting!

Gaslighting is when someone screws with your sense of reality to manipulate you, causing you to distrust yourself and trust them instead.

Gaslight was a great movie too. I've seen the 1944 version with Ingrid Bergman, Charles Boyer and Joseph Cotton. (yes, I had to look it up!)

gaslighting
 

To discover reality requires a certain sense of skepticism with regards to what others consider to be written in stone, so to speak. Once a person accepts an idea by anyone as how things should be, they block themselves. So whatever you do, don't block yourself! Anything the mind puts together can be undone. So whatever you believe can be put aside.
Best wishes, :byebye:

To persue another job. I need something different, not 7 days a week.

To pay off some debt, soon, before it ruins my credit.

Gaslighting
 

This sounds intensely interesting and requiring quite a bit of responsibility on the part "the manipulator." Who is actually the Top.

My good friend, who happens to be a psychiatrist, enjoys Topping psych scenes. We have often team Topped a bottom with the express consent that she will experience a period of time she will be uncertain what is and is not reality. She must enter the scene with a full understanding of what may occur.

The point of my post is to make those unknowing aware of the fact that, if gaslighting is done, all participants will be in a scene that requires a good deal of skill to successfully accomplish all elements of this type of scene including reorientation and aftercare. An intense psych scene is no less mind-altering than an equivalent physical one. You may not see any physical marks, trust that there are emotional marks which need to be dealt with.

A camper, I can't find exactly what I want and am not sure they make what I want.

Alot is circling My mind the past 2 days... many things to consider moving forward...

The reason I have been interested in reading about gas lighting is because years ago at work, I had a guy try and practice his gas lighting talents on me.

I did not have a name for this guy's "condition" until I recently stumbled into the gas lighting topic online. There he was. There he is today.

I shut his noise down.

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With all that shifting one word comes to mind "EARTHQUAKE " lololol kotc

Leo

JUL 23 - AUG 22










You are just as impatient as the other fire signs, but your fixed nature can turn a frustrating situation in your favor now. Once you set your mind to accomplishing a goal, you are relentless in your pursuit until you reach your destination. Although you may run into one stop sign after another today, youre not likely to become discouraged. Youre a pro at taking it all in stride because you understand that setbacks are not permanent; they are merely resting points on your way to success. Persistence is your ally when times are tough.

My daily horoscope.....I LOVE the part about my seeing "setbacks are NOT permanent, they are merely resting points on the way to success"....YES! I do see things this way...:)

Also about once I set my mind on something I am relentless in my pursuit! Stubborn, much? lol

We've been looking at real estate down near Asheville...i know it's where my soul belongs and my honey is willing to make the move...but I'm trying to finish school first...

But....

A house that we particularly love just had a significant price reduction... I say I can always finish my degree there...my honey is sensible and says we need to plan and prepare. But this house...it calls to me. As do the mountains. I miss them....we shall see

Or that all Daddies like that sort of thing. :eyebrow:

becoming
 

all "becoming" is an illusion, because it is an escape from who you are;
and the word 'illusion' comes from the Latin, il- + ludere, to play falsely, to play with things that aren't real
:byebye:

that in one week, i’ll be waking up in paradise with the butch of my dreams

:love1::theisland:

I like to color but as someone who is always drawing, that's no surprise :) Okay and I really do love glitter eyeshadow... :blush:

Taxes :blink: :doh:

i feel a little alone "_" i'll want to bring down all my walls but ^^ hn whatever nothing just the blues

Well that is what makes you, you. :waitinggirl:

A coworker who is being bullied by a manager.

On my mind:

I've been at my job for almost 9 years and there is another round of shit going down today with mergers and realignments. That translates to layoffs and frazzled nerves for my team.
I'm doing what I can to calm people's concerns but hell, *I* don't even know where this is all going to go.
I've been thinking of getting out of the tech industry for a while and maybe teaching or developing my consulting business into more of a full-time thing. We shall see.

I don't know why people launch into political tirades at me.
Maybe it's because my demeanor is gentle and understanding, and people think I will tacitly accept their bullshit...

This woman has been ranting to me about how no one deserves anything and how "someone who doesn't even speak English at McDonald's shouldn't be making the same as someone making a Mercedes." She's upset about minimum wage being raised to $15 here in California. I pointed out that even $15 is a barely livable wage. She said she doesn't care if someone can live on that or not. That not everyone has a right to food and shelter.

Not everyone has a right to basic necessities?!

I don't feel like arguing, but I feel like that meme going around that says I DON'T KNOW HOW TO EXPLAIN TO YOU THAT YOU SHOULD CARE ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE.

Interacting with people like this woman really puts a damper on my mood. Moreover, when people talk like this I get really offended because I understand that the struggles of working class folks, people of color, and the LGBT community are all intrinsically linked and I know that my existence is intimately tied to these supposed "ingrates" she's bashing. These systems of oppression are necessarily intertwined.

Overall, I wish we as a society had more empathy.

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this woman doesn't seem she has all her faculties, obviously compassion is missing ~ sorry u had to deal and comprehend her words.:sushi: here lunch lol