Originally Posted by *Anya*
(Post 608300)
I have wrestled with whether or not I should say something about this. I try to not be confrontational or to ever hurt anyone's feelings but in this case, I feel compelled.
I have been on the Planet for over a year now. I have watched some folks on their second and third loves in this past year.
We are such a minority within a minority with our butch-femme dynamic. When we meet someone that we connect with emotionally and sexually, it is such a rush of joy-it feels like it will last forever!
Particularly in the beginning, that meshing of souls, values, interests and sexual attraction, is intense!
Even if all of those factors remain in the long-term, who and what makes you as a person comes out, as time goes on. None of us were raised in exactly the same way! None of us handle joy, happiness, frustration, anger or life stressors in exactly the same way. Only in time do all of these sides of a person manifest. Whether or not one can deal with all of those sides of us as people, can only be learned in time.
I thought that the butch I am in love with and I started corresponding in October 2011 but I went back through old pm's and emails and it was last August, 2011. We have seen each other for up to a couple of weeks at a time each month since December, 2011. I am still learning about what makes her tick and she is still learning about me!
I was ready for the U-Haul a couple of months after we met but sanity prevailed. I am still ready but do have a job, house and family here and must make wise decisions, as does my butch. I am in this for the long-haul and since I waited 10 years to fall in love again, I can wait until all the ducks are in a row for us.
There are whirlwind romances that last forever. We all know this and know people that have done and are doing it successfully.
Just be sure.
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