What is on your mind.
 

Skype impresses me. It allows for direct conversation rather than guessing at messages and making an ass of yourself by doing so.

My digestive system. There is a limit to how much roughage and raw foods I can eat. It's really not much at all. I can have one large salad as a meal and be okay, but any more in the same day and I will not be able to digest it. I can have small servings about 3-4 times, and then I will not be able to digest. What do I eat to get my system under control again? Pizza. Canned soup. PB & J. Ice cream. Cheeseburgers. Highly processed foods straighten out my system and keep it operating efficiently, against all conventional good advice. I'm sure I did this to myself by eating too many highly processed foods in the first place.

What is on your mind.
 

OMG what a heartfelt song. I lost my 3 fur babies after I moved out from my ex. 2 Schipperke dogs (mother and daughter) and one persian/bermese cross black cat. I use to sit in my arm chair with a dog on each arm and the cat on my lap. Ebony, Milo and Baby Cat. Can you believe that a philosopher said animals have no souls. Not much of a thinker I would say.

I once lost 4 fur babies when I broke up with an ex, too. Never again. When I think back on my exes, I always think of her as the one who tore my family apart.

Gosh, that song made me cry.

This is really interesting to me because that's what happens to me. I cannot eat too much raw vegetables even cooked has it's limits. I love broccoli especially raw broccoli, it's my fav with hummus, but raw is particularly problematic. I can get away with a little cooked but not like I used to eat it. I wouldn't blame yourself because processed food was not on my menu much for years. I was a vegetarian in my younger days and grazed all day long. I love almost every kind of vegetable, although I only like raw spinach and don't care for beets. I am a huge fan of beans, seeds and nuts. Now they are an issue if I eat too many. I can't have the huge salads I love with all kinds of veggies and chick peas and/or beans added with seeds and nuts sprinkled in for fun. I told my doctor my stomach likes processed food now and hates veggies and she just rolled her eyes. It sucks but I have to be very careful. Half the time I eat my hummus with pita or crackers and leave out any vegetable but raw carrots. They seem to work okay most of the time. It's frustrating not to be able to eat the foods you love in the quantities you are used to. I even have to be careful with peanut butter. But ice cream is not an issue at all, ever, and I suppose that's something.:blink: It's good to know it's not just me though.

Wondering how long we have until NY locks down again. At least we are better prepared now at work and I have backup staff so I won't have to go back to 10 hour shifts 7 days a week. Goal is for me to work from home 50% of the time. At first I resisted, thinking that no, I have to be there. Then I thought about the peace I need and working from home half time feels dreamy. I'm also thinking about how glad I am that I'm not one of the people who will be working from home with a toddler or baby needing my attention when daycares close again.

Why our Governor Inslee has said nothing about Casino's closing.

What is on your mind.
 

My future.

What's on my mind...
 

Formulating a clear question without being too wordy.

Going back to work after all this time off.

I'm sleeping a bit less these days, and I'm able to sit up and use the computer. My dressings don't require changing as often. So a reasonable person would probably think I could return to work, four hours a day, working from home. I'm not so sure. Towards the end of when I was working before, I spent about half my worktime napping. Hopefully I'm better now than I was then, but it's difficult for me to really tell. I will certainly give it a try.

Thank goodness my boss agreed to me working from home. She's in the office every day, so I had thought she might insist that I go in. But no, seems she's prepared to be reasonable.

How to organise myself to study 2 languages japanese and korean, it's on my list

Sleep, sweet sleep!!
 

Termites
 

I’ve got termites in the garage. I knew I had them but forgot all about them when the HOA did some exterior updates and when I followed up by adding drywall to the garage interior. Thank goodness I don’t have any in the condo.

The garage needs to be bombed with heat. I’m worried because I already have some packed boxes in the garage. The termite guy says it shouldn’t harm anything, but I don’t know.

I’ve always followed the rule of thumb that wherever your body touches down is where you spend money. Shoes, mattresses, sofas and chairs.

So, other than raise and lower functions, how do you like it? Have you found a combination of settings they give you the best sleep you’ve ever had? For that price tag it certainly should!

It sounds like your bed uses a motion sensor for sleep tracking and it probably is tracking how long it took the cat to go to sleep, LOL…

On your mind
 

I am tired of being alone and the virus is no help.

That I actually do not have to wake up at 6am for work. But I still have papers to write. it's going to be a long, but hopefully relaxing week.

Sorry you're having to go through this. It's a pain.

I don't know either, but I have had a heat treatment in my house before. There are certain things you can't have inside:
- alcohol - it will boil and explode - this includes anything with alcohol in it, like perfume
- aerosol cans - again with the exploding
- candles and anything with wax, like crayons - they will melt
- some types of fragile plastic items will melt

I would give some serious thought to what you have packed in the garage. Better safe than sorry. Good luck.

Thank you, GM. The pert guy did mention candles, but not the other things. Luckily, I labeled the boxes and have a good idea when the beeswax and shea butter is. I think that’s the only thing in the garage I need to worry about.

Health, moving, pillows
 

Health
Got an excellent report from the doctor yesterday. HDL, LDL, Triglycerides, Blood Pressure, Calcium, Iron, etc. ALL numbers were very good and I shouldn’t change anything. He even told me to stop taking the Zetia prescription. The weight loss and exercise is paying off.

The Move
Frustrated because I’m not close to closing a deal on selling or buying a place. I’ve placed offers on two condos. Was outbid on both and didn’t put an offer on another because my mortgage guy didn’t like the tax rate and HOA fee. If he doesn’t like it, then I don’t like it. Also, I’m looking for a place that’s less than 1000 sq ft. Most places I like in Michigan start at 1100 sq ft and that doesnt include the finished basements. You get a lot of bang for your buck in Michigan, but I don’t want all that.

Also frustrated because someone placed an offer on my condo and pulled out. What bothered me is when she placed her offer she wrote me a 6 paragraph letter, including photos of her and her doggone kitty cat, telling me why I should choose her over other offers (which I did) and why she wanted to live in my place. I just knew I had a deal. Then she pulled out right before inspection saying she was now thinking of moving out of state. I got another offer, but I didn’t like that roller coaster ride at all.

Really frustrated because e’rybody and their mama is moving right now and I didn’t expect that in November and December, but this is 2020 and I should expect no less, I guess.

I try not to get emotionally attached to a buyer or condo, but sometimes it’s hard.

Pillows
Finally found a pillow I like and no longer wake up with a stiff neck.
https://media.kohlsimg.com/is/image/...0&op_sharpen=1

:bow:

Orema- I learned a little about buyers letters when I bought this last house that I’m in now. When I was placing my offer my broker sent me a bullet list of about 10 topics and asked me to write two or three sentences on each. I did and she use that as the basis to construct my buyers letter, I didn’t write it but it was based on what I had written generically. Straight up marketing, kind of like the write up on the house this was a write up on the buyer intended to influence. Apparently it worked as intended since when I flew in for inspections and met the sellers they seemed predisposed to like me right off and mentioned the letter a couple of times. To this day I have never seen the letter and I don’t know exactly what it said.

I hope your agent is similarly marketing you to the sellers when you place your bids. It’s a bit tougher when doing this cross country because nobody’s had a chance to meet you and get a feel for who you are as opposed to the people who are standing right in front of them. The letter idea seems pretty silly to me but I guess it’s fairly standard nowadays. Best of luck to you.

I had no idea. Thank you, Kelt. I think the letter I received was a combination of a standard buyer’s letter (that she sends to everyone) combined with sentences specific to my place. Now it makes sense.

I wonder why my realtor seemed clueless and it’s nothing my Michigan realtor has mentioned, but things are flying off the shelf quickly in Michigan. My intent is to go there for the inspection but we’ve yet to get that far in any of my searches. I’ll speak with both realtors.

Thanks again, Kelt, for the information and good wishes.

Orema! Orema! Orema!
 

Thank you. (f) I understand. I "got it" as soon as I read Kelt's words. I'll work on a letter later today. Maybe.

This is a totally different market than anything I've ever bought or sold in. I will adapt. I know I need to, but damn. I just want to sell and buy. I'm not asking for anything out of the ordinary. I'm not looking for people to bid on my place and I certainly don't want to bid on others.

I know, I need to adapt. I will.

I need vent, too.

Thank you for the advice and encouragement. I'll use it.

On your mind
 

Getting time to step up for what I want.

Weed
 

Legal access to weed, along with a superstore delivery nearby and snow removal, is a moving requirement.

Currently, I get the good stuff out of Humboldt county and wonder what I’ll find in Michigan. I don’t think it will be as good as the stuff that floats in this neck of the woods, but my budtenders say I shouldn’t notice a difference. They say the good stuff is all over the country. I’ont know.

I have a smallish greenhouse waiting to be assembled. I’ll grow my first crop since it’s allowed. Guess I should look for something with a basement afterall.

:cannabis:

COVID – Several people I know are waiting for their results and my ex husband has tested positive. I didn't realize it would take so long to get the the results, especially at the drive up window place. LOL for some reason I guess I just had it in my mind it was like at McDonald's. Drive up, get what you came for and hopefully, ideally in under five minutes you drive away satisfied because you quickly got what you wanted.

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Oh just life in general.......

THE CONDO
Have pulled my place off the market. Don’t want people tramplin’ in and out the femme cave during the holidays or during this lock-down. Will probably connect with differemt realtor after the new year. Just want to chill for the next couple weeks.

CANNA-BUTTER/OIL
Haven’t loss much weight this month but havnen’t gained. Wanted to use up some canna-butter and have been baking more than usual. Should probably freeze some of these keto goods instead of munching on them. Hope they taste good when thawed. Will start making canna-oil with coconut oil. That’s more useful than the butter. I no longer use the butter to sleep and the oil can be used for things other than edibles.

THE VACCINE
I’m gonna take it but I’m leery as fuck. Don’t like being the first on the medicine front, but I want to be protected. I’ll get it after my doctor gets it.

A KITTY
Of course I want a kitty now, but I know I should wait till I move because it will be easier for everyone—especially the kitty. I’ve been without one for this long so I can wait a little longer.

Excited to see my family in a few days, but I'm nervous about traveling - more for their health and safety than mine.

WHO THE FUCK IS " Rubbervbk " from Russia ?

In fact, who are all those other many names that I am prevented from accessing whose nics i am blocked from checking out

Blast me if you will but when I am the only member in here with some 300 "guests" or Unidentified" persons in here, i get queasy abt my security.

Please understand me, Admin-Medusa , I appreciate the cost and responsibility you have faithfully undertaken here but also also please also accept that if you claim this to be a "community",even if it were to be entirely supported by you (both in cash and effort ), it is necessary to accept the diversities of opinion (even when they are rudely at odds with each other---otherwise it's just maudlin echoes , so why bother..... one statement and a "thank you " would be enough.).



I suspect the site loses a great many more members because of making increasing voices become "polite" and, sometimes, agreeably female, than for extreme diversity. For every person who comes here for a lovely calming foccacia recipe, I suspect there is a loss of 1.5 members who would rather have a meaty sexy or politically hot convo.

Maybe it's time to jack it up and let blood flow into member's brains or choose to just sit here and watch it fall asleep.

ooops I think I hear the faint strains of dying-swan-music off-stage.

As they say in Show Business: Just My Humble Opinion.

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A very intelligent post Collette ~ but as you know not all people can accept one's comments or "humble opinion's" as just that . Most people can't control the difference of "difference's ", with out over reacting ~ so they need to be monitored. I would not want to be that person who has to stand in judgement or what is right or wrong ~ I appreciate the differences. I learn from other's concepts. We all can learn or just accept. Keep thinking ~ it kicks out the dust lol :)

Want to differ, differ. Want to explode, explode. Can't stand the explosion, put it all on ignore.

You do actually have that option but the option you should not have is to tell other ppl to stfu or to not to explode in opinion just cause it "offends " you.

The Admin (Site Owner ) can do that but then it becomes a question of the degree of "community" a site becomes.

Surely there is a degree of accommodation that can be made to continue vitality, if that is in any way a desirable goal.

If one thread goes off the rails, you can always move to another but I'm not sure if it's a good idea to allow what happens in one thread to define everything else. As soon as people stop jumping in, that thread dies of lack of oxygen but ppl did get to vent out their thoughts and what's unhealthy about that.

Before you get kicked in the head I just want to say thank you. This needs to be said, stopping by four times a day just to be disappointed is pretty old. The old days were contentious but worth it for interesting conversation on a range of topics beyond “what’s for dinner”.

Last night I was on YouTube looking for anything on the topic of “Butch“ I posted that result in a different thread. Interestingly, I ran across a video from a few years ago made by an old member from this site. I remember how much I disliked her and in fact locked horns with her a couple of times both in the threads and in private message. It made me remember how aggravated I would get and how engaged I was with that community. I also learned a lot about things I never would’ve encountered anywhere else.

I don’t know that any of that is salvageable, just as it seems that the days of the butch/femme dynamic are gone. But having a place to post opinions on topics that are not part of main stream conversation away from the prying eyes of bosses and Auntie Pearl on Facebook would seem to still have some value. I may be wrong because I am not involved in other social media maybe it’s all just in private groups and that’s how it works now.

Musings of an old bulldagger…

I wonder why people have stopped talking. Maybe all the older folks are all talked out and the younger folks are not interested in interacting in this way. Maybe it's private groups but I haven't found any that are active like this place was at one time. I know the butch/femme dynamic is not celebrated like it once was but there has to be butches and femmes around somewhere. I mean where did they all go? No next generation? We have died out like dinosaurs? Extinct? I mean we don't even have conversations about our imminent extinction and what happened. Where have all the butches gone?

Even if we don't want to talk about the butch/femme dynamic anymore we must have something to discuss. I mean beyond what we had for dinner and such. Maybe group conversations have gone the way of butches and the b-f dynamic. I doubt it's because we have to treat each other with respect when we argue. I mean we always had to do that. There never was a free for all on this site and people still talked plenty and argued plenty. But maybe they have all joined an online fight club. We can't find it because the first rule of online fight club is you don't talk about online fight club.

One of my theory's in life I taught my daughters was that acceptance leaves room for forgiveness. It was what I practiced for strength to get through my childhood. I recognized acceptance from my education in private catholic schools . It wasn't from the bible or the teachers from nun's or priests. It was from quite the opposite ~ not wanting to be like they were. Non accepting , double standards . etc. School wasn't the only reason I felt the need to seek inner comfort and understanding. Integrity runs parallel with self confidence . With a closed mouth and open eyes you just know . Never to be confused with egotistical behavior. You can't see someone from the inside out when your focused on the outside. This is the time we have learned to hug one another , it being virtual let's everyone in :) , most are too shy or timid to make that gesture, I want to say ((((((( everyone ))))))))) I love people and I love all of you in OUR own community .

SNOW. We got like 2 feet of snow overnight and it's still coming down. It's over the top of my porch at this point.

My daughter- I like that we are both super early risers. She's in her own apartment now but we had fun texting about work/snow/wtf stuff at 5am.

COVID- we had another resident at work test positive yesterday but she hadn't been home in 10 days so I hope that means we avoid another quarantine. Quarantine when you live in a very small room and have to stage out sharing bathrooms and kitchen with 45 other women is a nightmare. For them to live and for me to manage.

Woodworking: I'm learning a lot and I LOVE IT. I'm becoming the woman who wakes before the sun to turn on NPR and start making sawdust. I have so many ideas and things I want to make.

Stay safe, everyone. Snow, COVID, the rest of the world. Stay safe please.