Originally Posted by TheMerryFairy (Post 756210)

My friend, a crush actually, is the same way *smiles* I love it. Everything is a puzzle to her and in turn she is a puzzle. She had me fascinated because I could never tell how she was feeling or what she was thinking due to her own confusion about my own expressions and things. You aren't unapproachable hny!

You just need to be you and someone will take interest in you and maybe be the one to approach.

Originally Posted by Girl_On_Fire (Post 756229)

Ha ha! I'm more approachable online I think. I carry myself like I'm 10 feet tall and bullet-proof. I'm a little thing but I'm mighty.

Actually, online flirting isn't hard for me. It's easy for me to use plain language and little emoticons. I don't have to "read" the person's body language or facial expressions. There's no guesswork. It's cut and dry. I've also been told I flirt all the time but I don't. I'm just kind and friendly to everyone and I guess it gets taken out of context sometimes.

Honestly, at this stage in the game, I don't want to be with somebody who doesn't have the guts to approach me. I'll drop a hankie so-to-speak but you gotta do the rest guys. ;)

Originally Posted by Girl_On_Fire (Post 756198)

Ha ha! Oh my God, I'm so turned-on by cockiness and I know I shouldn't be. I don't know what's hot about some butch thinking hy's God's gift but if somebody did walk up to me and invite me to go home with hym that night, I wouldn't but I wouldn't be able to resist talking with hym for a bit. I like dominance but there's always that fine line. If you end up with somebody like that, do you end up having to deal with the massive ego for the duration of the relationship or is that just what hy leads with?

Oh, and I have no game. My problem is I can't read facial expressions and body language well so I'm never quite sure who I should be flirting with. A friend and I were just talking about this today. My problem is when I'm out at a club or something like that, I may see somebody I find attractive but I don't know how to subtly let them know that. I either look away because I can't deal with the uncomfortable eye contact or I smile in a kind of weird way because I'm nervous....I dunno. I've been told I'm unapproachable but I'm not sure how to be approachable without, I don't know, overdoing it. So yes, flirting is a big puzzle for me.

Originally Posted by Kent (Post 756250)

Girl_On_Fire:

A smile and eye contact works.. It lets the butch or guy you like know you are receptive and hy/he can approach you..

Kent

Originally Posted by Girl_On_Fire (Post 756251)

If I can relax my mouth enough to actually smile and not grimace this could work. lol! Thanks!

Originally Posted by Girl_On_Fire (Post 756251)

If I can relax my mouth enough to actually smile and not grimace this could work. lol! Thanks!

Originally Posted by Angeltoes (Post 756281)

I have flirted very openly with butches at work with my eyes and smile. Honestly, I have had some look at me like I'm crazy, but the interesting thing is when they start to hover around my desk and try to get the eye contact back after I give up. Part of me wonders if they just didn't believe I'm gay and another thinks their ego misses the attention. Either way, I often hear butches say 'I'm shy.' Well, hey, I'm a shy person too. It hurts a femme just as much as it hurts a butch to put herself out there and be rejected.

Originally Posted by Chad (Post 1035980)

This thread looks fun.
I will not give up all my secrets but I will start here.

When I see (or read) someone that I find interesting I introduce myself and just start talking to them.

:flowers:

Originally Posted by Nattih (Post 1036010)

My flirting style is trying to telepathically communicate that I like them and getting mad when they don't get the message. Hehe.