I have a few faults which have evolved over time. Some of my faults actually help me and other faults leave me in a state of emotional distress or impair my ability to act in immediate ways.

One “Fault” that can be helpful: I seem to have an ability to identify difficult-to-name behaviors. I have been told by others that I seem to have a ‘gift’ for identifying things of this nature, but what others may not realize is that it is not a gift: My ability to do this finds its roots in having suffered on-going issues of abuse in my own family (growing up) and also in a small handful of romantic relationships. I would say that the downside to this ‘gift’ or ‘fault’ is that it slows my ability to develop close relationships. In some cases of particular clusters of difficult-to-identify behaviors, I create an extremely wide berth of distance between myself and these particular individuals; because while their sets of behaviors can be very scary, I take great care to make sure that my personal sense of safety and well-being is least likely to be violated. But really, I see it as an upside to building safe and healthy relationships.

Faults of mine that are not so helpful: I can be rather quiet. I enjoy quietness within my own life at home, but I tend to temper the quiet side of life with random occasions of spur of the moment, over the top, loud and proud. But as I age, I seem to have to give more serious planning to the unquiet side of life. I tend to want it in small doses, repeatedly at times and I’ve been told that it’s annoying when I want to be quiet, rather than the opposite of quiet. I can be rather moody. Moody as in, I come across as rather a spoiled brat at times and if grapes are not peeled the right way with me, more than likely my spoiled side might get a bit out of control. My son’s have seen me this way before and usually call out my spoiled side; but also, depending on my mood, I have been known to make a mountain out of a mole hill and make it incredibly difficult to scale the precipice of my desires. If I experience fear, I will shut down immediately. And once this happens, it takes tremendous effort on my part to dislodge myself from what ever has caused me to become fearful. Sometimes I am able to help myself over come fear in a relatively fast way. Other times, it can be weeks to months – one time it was ten years; but time and distance helped in that particular case of fear.

problems with authority figures for $500 , please
 

when pulled over
I growl at :police:

just this week
<enter motorcycle cop with lights-a-blazing>

I said to myself " please , control your face "
and for the very first time evah
I got a warning without an enormous ticket

it's not an attitude problem
it's a face problem? ;]

Not being able to get out of my own head sometimes. Or the opposite, getting hung up that I can't figure out my own thoughts.

Impulsive
THINKS THINKS THINKS
can be too compromising
rationalizes others faults away

*Sometimes I expect too much from people.

*I lack a filter and find it hard to not say what I feel.

*Stubborn.

*Impulsive.

7) I'm a shopaholic. Pretty things that catch my eyes and products seducing me with promise of a younger appearance get me every time.

I'm an extremist and then I'm not

Hmmmm....

• I'm very literal
• I get confused easily
• I'm clumsy as all get out
• I'm extremely emotionally sensitive
• I either don't notice you or I imprint on you like a baby duck :blink: (I'm working on this)
• I shut down and "disappear" when frightened or overwhelmed
• I'm easy to agitate
• I don't heal, I scar (physically and emotionally)

I understand some of these are just sort of character traits but they can sometimes cause conflict with others and be perceived as faults.

~ I do know exactly what my fault is ~ gets me in trouble alot ~

Pondering
 

When I'm upset I lose all control and swear like a navvy. I get very foul mouthed and unladylike and launch into a tirade of insults, but it's just a front so no one will see what a soft little kitten wrapped around your finger I will be with the right word or a smile from you.

Basically if you get me swearing at you it means I REALLY like you lol

I realized in my counseling appointment today that given a situation in which I need to act, I'll get all convinced I'm right, have great insight into situations and what I should be doing, have determination...then start second-guessing, doubting, and wibbly. I started doing this a lot in my marriage, and it just became a bad habit.

It's probably first cousins with my dumbing myself down and clarifying every statement or action I take.

Sometimes I just can't say the things my heart wants to. My heart is more compassionate and forgiving but my head is stubborn and makes me put up a wall. I withdraw then. I could sit there and wrestle with my thoughts for what feels like hours. In the end, outcome is the same.I become temporarily mute and thus appearing as if though I am an ice princess. I really wish that was not the case.

1. Impatient
2. Capricious
3. Domineering (the boy says I'm dominant, not domineering. I say connotations aside I'm both)
4. I tend to want to reward myself with food. I'm not a dog, and that's a terrible habit. (almost done with this flaw, worked hard on it for 2 years now)
5. Vulgar
6. I expect too much of myself, and am then too hard on myself when I fail.

I tend to set pretty high standards for myself, and I am apt to let them slosh over on to other people. It's easy for me to lose sight of the fact that not everyone can or even should be expected to meet them.

In my excitement to share new ideas and knowledge it is quite possible that I sometimes come across as pedantic. What can I say? I was a Humanities major as an undergrad.

As someone else mentioned, there's my whole bouquet of issues with authority. No doubt they play a large role in my being self employed.

If I am at work and we are busy, I cannot turn the other way to go on lunch or my break until we have taken care of most of the customers. While this may be a good thing in most cases, it can sometimes result in my internal clock being thrown off.

I get hyper-focused as well. Made me hell-on-wheels when I was supervising in call centers because I was so dedicated, and it showed. BUT... I also learned that you'll get better results, perform better, feel better, etc. if you also tend to your own needs... oh, like EATING and take a moment to get some fresh air.

Just a thought. ;)