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An acrimonious divorce between my brother and sister-in-law. Worry over how my niece and nephews (6, 7 and 9 y/o) are being affected. My brother saying things to them about their mom; the emotional abuse he heaps upon her. He is unreachable, unreasonable, unrepentant. My nephew throwing up after witnessing a horrific argument. Mental picture of the three of them huddled in the car, watching. Wondering what I can do, if I can do more. Regret at having moved - though only a state away - so far away. If I had only known.
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A horrible day at the internship site. All they make me do is paperwork. I'm a medical assistant for God's Sake let me do patients that's what they trained me to do. I'm bleary eyed from looking at a computer screen all day and the scans of patients charts from the nursing home. OMG what should I do?? go to the school and complain I guess that's what I am going to do!!
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Stressful day. Okay now. Had a huge bowl of CoCo Pebbles for dinner. I deserved to blow it out with the CoCoPebs. I have eaten steamed veggies for the past three days. Don't want to get too healthy. LOL!
This woman at work who sits near me is either singing Christian music or talking all day long. Her talking is not work related noise, it is socialization ... either on the phone with her friends or with her friends that come and hang out. She and her friends get really loud. Management won't do anything about it. She and I had it out about three months ago. I told her she is rude and loud. Now I am the bad guy. I simply tire of hearing her voice all f***ing day long. Yack, yack, yack. :blink: I need to look for stronger earplugs. These I bought a while back are not getting the job done. If I were the type person to sue, I'd investigate my options ... but I am not. Oh well, I won't let it spoil my weekend. :) |
Someone asked, "can't I be moved away from sitting so close to her?" That would be such a blessing but management won't do it - I already asked. I think they are afraid if they move me, there will be a great many others who will request to be moved away from someone they do not like or who they find loud. It is a common problem when you work in the cubie dweller environment.
Most days, I do okay with it. Once in a while, it gets to me. Yesterday afternoon was like that. Chances are, I will not let the situation get the best of me again for awhile. That seems to be the pattern. I tell you, I really do not like this woman. She seemingly only cares about herself and what she wants to do. My best friend at work sat by her for a couple of years a while back. He confided to me he experienced the exact difficulties. He told me it was hard for him to concentrate (we code software) with all her noise and her constant visitors. I feel somewhat validated in that at least I know it is not just me overreacting. I love my job so I just have to deal with it. The world does not revolve around my needs/wants. I am simply not that important. LOL! Off subject ... Trying to get some coffee in me. Kelly is starting her Saturday morning routine of wanting to go for a walk as soon as we get up - which is not possible. I have to have a little time to wake up, brush my teeth, shower and dress. My dog does not wait well. :) Think I will take her over to this new place I fouind for her walk. Lots of trees, hence, lots of shade. I am wishing my life away but I am wanting November and the cool Fall air to arrive. Hope everyone has a great Saturday! Brock |
Ok, I am not stressed at all. Went fishing and feeling relaxed as the ocean I just came from.
But... I am going to practice because I know that starting Monday this will be my most favorite thread to turn to because come Monday, I start my new position. So I have to practice lmao :seeingstars: :byebye: Shhhh I'm just getting my feet wet! |
Today was a flashback day. It's been a while since we've been so busy and today made me remember just how damn hard it was. The day went by HELLA fast, but there were fires and issues that continuously cropped up.
I admit, I kind of like that, though. There's a certain satisfaction in fixing problems, big or small. I lost my cool once....okay more than that, but no one saw or heard me lose it the rest of the time. I think I smoothed it over, though. *sigh* I'm going to start having to put more than one person on mid-shifts during high check in days and we're going to have to get that breakfast attendant my bosses have been dragging their feet about. Welcome to summer in the PNW, folks. |
Stressed? OH YES< YES I AM STRESSSED.:vigil:
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Yes. Yes, I am. :blink:
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In every way possible.. Hell yeah.
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Stressed out for sure got the shingles to prove it I guess it comes from stress?? Don't know all I know is that I'm in pain big time....:blink:
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Why yes, I know I am.:seeingstars:
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Uh huh, still stressed out. UGH.
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Lots of stress over here...tomorrow Shelia's mom has thyroid surgery. Earlier this year they diagnosed her with breast cancer but little has been done since the chemo shrunk the lumps. But she has had several other problems crop up.
Have had to go to 2 funerals within a month - Shelia lost 2 family members. Money is tight as always. Today is my early day at work. Have to be there at 8 instead of 8:30. Traffic is so crazy here lately that my Monday drive is a always a bit more stressful than the rest of the week. Been in counseling to work on why my weight ballooned to nearly 350 before losing over 130. Working through a lot of stuff there and it's not pretty. Having to confront what I have pushed away and chose to ignore or what I genuinely repressed is painful and stressful. Based on the journal writings I left with my counselor 2 weeks ago I am not looking forward to our session this week. It is going to be difficult because I am pretty sure we will be dealing with something I never told anyone until I gave her my journals to read. I will survive - it won't be pretty at times but I will survive. |
Oh yeah...I am totally stressed out.
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Have to admit I am very stressed presently. Usually, I handle stress pretty effectively, but right now, I do feel overwhelmed.
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Stress???????????YEAAAAAAAHhhhhh.
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I am a little stressed out , maybe a lot, I am in the process of finding a new job with hours i need. Trying to go back to college. With a new partner moving in, the count down is 4 days. Feeling the stress of that really got me wondering is this a good thing or bad. The communication is bad this last week. Have not decided if i need to yell or cry.
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Since yesterday, when mom told me she needed to have an angiogram done again, because her heart is NOT getting Enough Oxygen to it, I have been stressed beyond measure. I am already so stressed over my own stuff and now this. OMG I think I am just going to lose my friggin mind.
I just pray that if mom has to have major surgery after finding out what's causing this, that it's done quickly and NOT during the time I have to leave and be elsewhere of which I have NO OPTION but to leave to attend to personal matters which I will not speak of here. I don't think I can add another crumb to my plate, it's so overflowing right now it's unbelievable. OMG it's a damn good thing I don't drink. |
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Umm I work with elementary kids who go through this a lot. Of course there r web sites u can go to but a really good way to open things up just ask them. A good book is dinosaurs divorcE. Help them identify maybe if their tummy hurts after an argument it means this....or ask them what they think it means. Happy, sad,mad,scared? Then go from there. QUOTE=Stearns;148911]An acrimonious divorce between my brother and sister-in-law. Worry over how my niece and nephews (6, 7 and 9 y/o) are being affected. My brother saying things to them about their mom; the emotional abuse he heaps upon her. He is unreachable, unreasonable, unrepentant. My nephew throwing up after witnessing a horrific argument. Mental picture of the three of them huddled in the car, watching. Wondering what I can do, if I can do more. Regret at having moved - though only a state away - so far away. If I had only known.[/QUOTE] |
Just when I think the stress levels are dropping...
I work in family law. Sometimes we have a person call for an appointment and when I do the conflict check it pops up immediately. Sometimes it doesn't. It all hinges on the information provided by the client or prospective client and I don't read minds. When I have to tell someone there is a conflict and we cannot meet with them I walk a very fine line because what I say cannot reveal confidential client information. I cannot tell someone "I'm sorry but Ms Attorney cannot meet with you. We have a conflict of interest because we have already met with your spouse." Being able to say that certainly would make my job easier. But no can do. When I do find a conflict I have to tell the prospective client "I'm sorry Ms. Attorney is unable to meet with you" and leave it at that. They ask me for more information and all I can tell them is that my attorney cannot meet with them. Yesterday I discovered a conflict before a potential client came into the office. After discussing it with my attorney the appointment was cancelled giving the usual cryptic explanation. The stress came to roost when a family member called demanding an explanation then called back screaming and I do mean SCREAMING at me about the situation and demanding an explanation. I gave the message to my boss and she will deal with it. I dread the phone and my office email today. Not looking forward to another tirade. Taking this personally is not something I do, but it is still an extremely unpleasant experience. I keep repeating to myself something my Mom said when I worked for her: "An attorney is not a bus. She doesn't have to stop and pick up every stray on the street." Looking forward to 9/12 when this retrograde ends. |
Wow, I am at this moment unbelievable stressed and angry. I feel like my partner lectures me on a lot of things. I lost my job two years ago when the company closed. Since then I have turned into a full time student and am working on two degrees. My partner is pissed because I am not working part time as well. It is not that I haven't tried, maybe I haven't tried hard enough. I get unemployment, so its not like I don't have money. Part of me thinks that she feels that it is unfair that I just come home and sit around all day while she has to work. Sure I come home, but I clean the house, prepare dinner, take care of the animals and I do school work. I am tired a lot because I have sleep apnea that is not under control (waiting for a doctor), so I have barely any energy. Gawd, I just feel this rage inside me, but I have learned to turn it into a cry, so I will just sit here and whimper.
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Suprisingly, this has me more stressed than I thought. Been fighting an anxiety attack for about an hour. Haven't had one of those since I was the one behaving badly. Now I find myself in a situation that I'm trying real hard not to influence, that may mean I loose someone very special.
Just trying to get by with these shallow breaths, because an elephant's been on my chest for a while. LOL This too shall pass. A |
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Stressed is not even a word that describes the meaning of what I truly feel lately. Mom has to have another angiogram due to her heart not getting enough oxygen and failing her stress test. My mom has had so many damn surgeries already it's not even funny. She has P.A.D. and high cholesterol, she's been on meds since her first surgery 22 years ago, when she was my age, 47...my bday is this month, so same age as mom on her first surgery. My mom died during her first open heart triple bypass, of which they had to revert to only doing a double, then the following year doing the other bypass surgery. She has plastic aorta in her stomach to both legs, and just had surgery in Dec for the 5th time to save her left leg, she now has plastic artery in that too. She has had both carotid arteries done, her right leg has had 2 surgeries already, and her right brachial artery has been done as well. I just worry that this may be the surgery that takes my mom from me. She's all I have and I love her with all my heart. My stepfather died Jan. 13th, and it just makes it even harder emotionally. I'm going through so much since Feb, that it's just taking it's toll on me. Hopefully if mom has to have her surgery, I can be here with her. I have to attend to personal matters I wish not to discuss, on Sept, 21st and I don't know how long it will take me to be able to get back here and be here for my mom. Man, I just wish I could get a break, just once. I wish my mom wasn't in the condition she is in, but it's hereditary, and I have the same problems,....luckily I haven't had to have any surgeries yet, Thank The Lord. I want to move back to Austin, but I am torn because of my mom and her condition. I know I can't fix it, but I wonder if I should just remain here so I am here for her always. I miss my friends badly, and have no support system here really. No queer friends here that I know of, this town is so small you could call it Hee Haw Land.
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Well this dogs are up early and making noise so no sleep for me. I'm stressed out due to illness and the dogs just make it worse!! Gonna try to lay back down and see if sleep willl help!!
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Got a huge weight lifted off my shoulders today. My moms angiogram came out really well. No blockages to her heart at all.
Doctor said her heart bypass from 22 years ago is still doing well and much better than expected. No surgery needed. This has lifted a huge amount of stress off me on top of my own personal issues going on. I feel somewhat relieved and grateful and thankful. Now...........to deal with my own stuff beginning this month, and hopefully I can put that particular issue to rest and be done with it so I can move on to taking care of business in my own life. |
Got another HUGE weight lifted off my shoulders Yesterday. I am finally no longer stressed over this particular issue. WOOOOHOOOoooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!
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I feel stressed out because I feel I want to be in two, three places at one time.
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Stressed due to new internship coming up tomorrow all day too. 9-5 pm I hope I can do it going to bed early too.
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My son's wedding is in two days!!!!
However, i did FINALLY buy a dress today. The rehersal dinner is tomorrow night and omg i hope i didn't forget anything. Two days....hurry up so i can breath again. And please let me remember what this is all about......my son, his wife and a beautiful new beginning....please let me remember to bring tissue..the tears are already forming. |
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k long story short: the library building has been closed for HVAC upgrade. We have been running limited services out of the foyer and only needed about half of our usual staff. To make up payroll, each staff member was given 1 day of administrative leave and one day to work from home.
The work was finished Wednesday, but the decision was made to remain on limited service until our original planned reopening (today) I did my work at home day this past Friday. My supervisor and i discussed this in detail, as my junior assistant came down with an ear infection on thursday and had to miss 2 days of work. I said "I am supposed to work at home tomorrow, but i can come in if i need to," "No, no, no," she said, "we have it covered" This morning my boss came and told me- as a "heads up"- that i should have come in. The director told her that work at home days were only approved while the building was in transition, and that once the work was done i should have known that all previous arrangements were off. "Butbutbut" i said, "the work was finished on Wednesday- i confirmed with you on Thursday! Why am i finding out on Monday that i am in trouble for an assumption i never thought to make on Wednesday- esp when you we talked about it on Thursday???!!!" Her (exasperated) "You're not in trouble Jenny. I am just letting you know how the director's thought process works so you'll know better than to do this again. "Do what??? Work at home because you specifically told me i could???" "Just forget it, Jenny" :bomb: |
Mom had her first stress-related stroke at the age of 40. .... I'm nearly 40 and, so far, have followed her footsteps with the Lupus.... wonder, given the situation, what the chances are for other similarities? It's something that's always on my mind.
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