I'm completely out at work... though I'm butch enough to trigger even the faultest gardar... totally funny when my last manager would get flustered everytime he'd call me "sir".... I work in a very accepting environment though... my computer has a pic collage of my gal, her son, and my son proudly displayed... and we attend company events as a couple...

I don't come out at a new job until I have firm friends. Right now I'm contracted to another company, working full-time on their site. When someone asks me if I'm seeing anyone or married or something, I respond with a subtle, "Eventually!" and a smile.

However, I had lunch with another division's manager when I first started with my company and it came up that I'd been engaged. She said at one point after that, "Don't be offended, but are you a lesbian?"

I was FLOORED. Not because she asked, because I don't really care, but that she actually read me as gay! Could it have been the sweatervest and blouse combo over no-nonsense trousers and shoes? I just said, "Yes... why, do I, you know, look gay or something?"

She said, "No, not at all. I have a sixth sense for these things."

She and I are totally friends and we're totally going shopping this week. :)

Yes, as I'm asked about my personal life I always correct the inevitable presumed heterosexuality--I don't offer personal information generally because it doesn't pertain to the job (and as I have a supervisory position I like a little distance), but I will share bits of who I am, as appropriate.

Like, apretty, I am out at work (and everywhere) but I keep my personal life private as much as I can. At one point I had several coworkers as friends on facebook but I found it very awkward when they knew about my active social life outside of work and would comment on what I did over the weekend. I am a total contradiction when it comes to my privacy, lol. So, I "unfriended" them on facebook and keep my friend list to only those I know pretty darned well (and family).

I have pictures of Katy and I up in my office, as well as pics of my girls and other friends and family, and sometimes new people stop by my office and I catch them looking at the photos and then looking at me as the little light bulb goes off in their brains. ;)

Not really, but then I am married to a man. Generally I like to scope out the situation before I come out, but sometimes it still doesn't help. I've come out in the past and experienced harassment (always from other women). I've also chosen not to come out in other jobs and regretted it.

My husbands not out to anyone but his boss. Foolishly he added one of his workmates to his facebook, only to have to 'out' me as bisexual after we made a mistake with his privacy settings. He has since deleted that person.

I am totally out at work and have been in all the places that I have worked as an adult. It is not something that happens on the first day you walk in but after you have been able to gauge people's responses. I have been fortunate enough that my peers accept me and in fact have been educated to some degree because I am open to discussing most anything they may be wondering about.

I'm out at work. I just posted a pic of me at work- it's kind of obvious, I think...heh. But I've also addressed it with my coworkers at first indirectly, by not pretending to be single if I'm not and using the correct pronouns (and first name) when referring to my girlfriend... but also directly- once some see that I'm comfortable with it, they get comfortable enough to ask more.

The strangest example of this is the 60 year old coworker who said to me, "I heard a DJ using this word on the radio this morning, and I think it might be a gay thing. What's a 'carpet muncher'?"

After I spit my coffee out and got my laughter under control, I told her. :|

Out at work...
 

I sure hope so because I am f*cking my boss. Have been for nearly 7 years.
:thumbsup:

I not working yet, but I am out with my fellow grad students/lab colleagues. If I don't "ping" your gaydar, you have no gaydar.

I am out to my entire family, my friends, my employers and my neighbors...That said, I am NOT out to my residents of my nursing home. Some "get it" when they see Arc come in to work, but I did have one elderly man ask if Arc was my son, and another with expressive aphagia just gave me a knowing giggle...I have no expectation that my residents need to know, nor do I have an expectation that if they did they would condone.

At my job at the college, I don't tell my students per se, but they figure it out when they meet the family.

I've been OUT since I left my marriage to my ex-husband in late-1999, and thus far I've had not one scrap of negativity...even though I came "out" in a very predominantly Catholic community where I have lived for 33 years.

No.... I work for an uber christian....I try not to discuss religion and politics with clients anyhow...but it DOES give me a tickle being on BFP while I'm at work....I'm just naughty like that ;)

I am totally out at work and I love it!

Out
 

Yes, always.

Greco

To each their own, but...
 

Nope. And I do prefer it that way. My sexuality is no one's business and has nothing at all to do with what I do for a living. My performance is what matters.

i work for a small clinic in Little Rock. There are several of us that are gay and out that work here. It is a very relaxed, positive enviroment. Most of my co-workers are also accepting and tolerant so that is also a plus. I am lucky as I know many places are not as liberal as my place of employment is.

Jules

Yes, I am out....everywhere. Work is especially comfortable and tolerant...my company even offered partner benefits many years before marriage was legalized in NY. Nice place to be. :)

Yes.
I am self employed so it's a different kind of out. I keep a rainbow flag visible in my office for clients to see easily. I keep LGBTQ safe and open statements on my website along with the types of clients I specialize in. Lots of people don't pick up on it but those who do appreciate it.

out and about here on the job. this is a safe zone. diversity is an absolute in an adolescent homeless shelter. it helps to have openly gay staff, makes things wicked easy and comfortable for the kids that come in off the streets to have acceptance and staff to relate with. I could not have asked for a better place to do my internship and then get hired on in my field. blessed!

Well I'm not really at work, I'm at uni but I found it to be a bit of a crappy experience being out from day 1. Quite sad that some people of even of my age have homophobic tendencies and opinions...

I've been out at work at my various jobs since '84 but the most challenging was my current job - I'm in a very conservative county, and I was actually the first openly out gay person to work there. I have to admit that most folks didn't know because for much of my first two years there I was dating an FTM as he transitioned and so of course I referred to home as He and there was just no reason or appropriate time to explain the details.

We do finally have a lot more out faculty and staff, and even some straight staff are coming to the meetings for the newly formed GSA.

I am moms caregiver and i get a small Veterans pension which is enough to live a simple sustainable life here on the farm

so well said (((bestill )))

It's obvious what I am when people see me, in person. At all my jobs I have been out.I've come across alot of issues with co workers in the past but am finding certain other people are respectful and accepting due to my performance.

I am out to the staff and our director, and the other department heads in our directorate. I am actively closeted when it comes to the Board of Trustees or City Hall.

It's a rabidly conservative county, but at least they're rabid enough that you can look up all of their opinions in the Galveston Daily News "letters to the editor" section and know who isn't safe!

I'm out everywhere everyday, I only wear men's clothing so it's rather obvious

I'm out everywhere, everyday.

I'm out. The company, my manager, and teammates are supportive and respectful. We have a handful of lesbian, gay and queer people who are out. I have to come out a few times a year but "it is what it is."

Yes. As a femme, it is a continual process. You are always assumed to be straight.

At my current job, I am out to everyone in my department.

I just heard that another therapist was hired that is gay. I don't know if she actually told them this or if they are guessing.

I am waiting to see if she is femme or butch.

If she is butch, the blabby boss may have made an assumption about her that may, or may not be, correct.

She might turn out to be straight but likes flannel shirts (as an example).

I posted this back in 2011 and am still with the same company.

My experience here remains pretty much the same with the exception that several of the other folks who were out have left the company, either in retirement or through layoffs.

I am the only senior manager that I know of on this entire campus who is out. I've been lucky enough not to experience much in the way of homophobia or judgment but do hear ignorant comments regularly. This happens in the real world every day so I just view it as a product of living in the world with ignorant people in general.

I've had a good experience over all with this company and still have photos all over my office of me being very gay. I even have a Medusa head (replete with moving snakes!) draped in a huge gay pride necklace and have a sign on the outside of my door that says "FABULOUSNESS is spoken here" (done in rainbow lettering).

I know this is a privilege and I respect that.

yes it's too obvious.

My experience has been fine. I'm treated like the other guys. (Flirty women and the infamous guy nods and the "what up's")

I've not had any problems anywhere I've worked. I consider myself lucky since I know many have.

I'm out to God and everybody. I think for myself to do anything else would be to lie by omission. I understand people's reasons for choosing to remain closeted but I'm just simply not going to let any of that stuff rule me. I'd rather live only one day entirely free to be my true authentic self, than live a long life, in perfect health, surrounded by opulence and splendor in exchange for my silence - willingness to spend those years living closeted. Even if while closeted I could have the most attractive and sexually compatible woman on the planet to be my loyal, devoted, faithful friend and lover along with bags and bags and vaults full of money the answer is still no. Esse quam videri, this because to my way of thinking - It ain't worth a thing if it ain't got that zing.

I just need to point this out:

Sometimes, for some people, it is not to live in "opulence and splendor" to remain closeted; it is simply to survive.

You and I are very fortunate to be able to make that choice.

Not everyone gets to do that.

I'm lucky too, T1. And, things weren't like this 20 years ago where I work. No one was out, though there were whispers and probably campaigns to prevent lesbians and gay people from advancing.

The first person who came out where I'm employed was a manager in the technology department. He came out during a black-tie event. Employees were allowed to bring guests and he brought his partner. They did a slow dance that was very nice. Thank goodness no one applauded.

Yeah, I'm lucky too.