Wanted to say hello to everyone. I havent posted here in a while. :)

Phew! I didn't want to lose another one of you because you were unappreciated!

And yes, we DO know it when we see it. But like you said, those manners aren't always welcomed.

My question is, is there anything about a Femme that tells you one would welcome that part of the dance?

Hello everybody! I consider my self an old fashioned kinda guy. I guess I was taught this growing up with my grandparents. It's a part of who I am and some girls appreciate that. I don't do it for show. I don't feel it makes me any better than anyone or is the best way to be. It's best for me and what I know. Some girls like when I hold the door open for them, take their hand in mine, walk hand in hand, walk on the outside closer to the road to assure her safety, put my arm around her or on the small of her back and guide her, message or call her just to make sure she got home safely, offer my jacket if she's cold. I do all this for my girl and I will do some of this for other women of all ages and hold open doors for anyone.

Now how to tell an OFOS femme.. I guess I can tell by the way she smiles and sighs and genuinely I can see in her reaction and face that she appreciates me the way I am. Sometimes I have to run ahead of her to get to the door as she's my lil energizer bunny rabbit and always on the go. Sometimes I just let her get to it first. *shrug* lol

I think all OFOS relationships are different but there is the main qualities and character of respect, admiration, adoration, and knowing someone has your back.

There are some OFOS relationships where the femmes want to do all the cooking or home chores while the butch / guy takes care of the auto duties and lawn. I was kinda in something like that in the past but I've always helped with cooking and cleaning. I for one like to be the one to take care of the lawn and outside. I enjoy stuff like that! I don't want her getting sweaty and dirty unless she really wants to. She loved her flowers and garden though. :)

Anyone can choose how they want their relationship to go. With mine I go with what works for both of us and still hold on to my OFOS values and beliefs that I was taught being a bit flexible and making sure she's happy too.

Thanks for the questions Firedance and I hope to see more interaction here!

There is a way she moves that with no effort, parts a sea of bodies to make way for her safe passage.
There is a way she breathes in the scent of a flower or a spice she is trying to identify.
There is a way her hand moves slowly over a favored fabric.
There is a way she will look once at me then take a second look holding her stare until I know she sees not only into me but through me.
There is a smile that radiates the room then upon realizing her own power will glance away with a soft knowing blush.
There is a way she will trace the line of her jaw with a rose petal.
There is a way she will begin to sing softly to her favorite song when she thinks I can't hear.

There are ways between us that have no language or need of it. There is a dance that while I may ask for, she has already chosen the music for.

Yes, there are things that let us know she is OFOS. These are a few of what I recognize.

Yes. I have met femmes that say " you don't have to do that" or " I can get the door myself ". Then there's the femme that flashes a slight smile, drops her gaze and eyes just a bit then stands aside while I hold the door. So, yes.

Just popping in to swoon.
Carry on.

Yes indeed.

Then again there are the butches who simply click the car door unlocked and walk to their side, walk through the door ahead of me and maybe just hold the door until I grab it, hand me my coat, etc. I'm perfectly capable of handling those things myself, and those are not deal breakers if, say, we're running errands to Lowes or something, but in a date? Most likely a deal breaker. And here's the thing: if it's done as a special, and it's clear that this is an act someone is putting on special for the date, that shows. It equally shows if it's as natural and automatic to the butch as breathing.

Just thought I'd give this thread a little bump in case any of the many new people here are also OFOS.

I love being an OFOS butch/FTM. I get great enjoyment out of doing things for my femme that seem to have been long forgotten in today's world. When she smiles, I smile. When she's happy, I'm happy.

Just wanted to say Hi to everyone. I am old school butch for sure, being 48, I have had my fair share of experience dating and being in relationships with wonderful femmes. I enjoy being the gentleman, opening doors and spoiling my partner in general with flowers and small gifts. I actually got my nick name of "Charming" from the wonderful femmes I have encountered in my life. Here's to keeping the traditions alive. :beerbros:

I absolutely love all the sweetness that comes with being OS. I am not always used to it, but when a kind butch offers to carry my bag, opens a door, offers me hys coat if it is cold...SWOOON! Gives me the butterflies in my tummy and my face burns pink! Must be the hopeless romantic in me...some days a girl just needs to be wooed (spelling?)

Anyhow, just thought I would stop by and share my appreciation :)

It doesn't get much better than what I've found.

A huge smile and even an occasional "thank you" every time I wait for a moment so that she can get the door or my car door for me, and yet with a deep and sincere enthusiasm for my strength and independence.

Gently pointing out that clearly no one before her knew how to help me on with my coat, as I always awkwardly reached up at shoulder height instead of holding my arms down and back so that she can easily slip my coat onto them.

So many little things - the touches on my back as we walk, the way she leads me while dancing (not just that she leads, but the little things that make it a true OF butch style and not just a set of practiced steps and gestures), putting her jacket around my shoulders even though she is from year-round warmth and hates the cold.

Buying me a bunch of little gifts for our first Valentine's day that reflected so very well just how much she'd been paying close attention to who I really am and not just her idea of what a femme should want - including a bucket tool caddy and a ultrasonic pest repellant. (and yes, those were GREAT gifts for me! But definitely not the only ones.)

And all these things and more are just as natural to her as breathing. I think I've met my match.

Hello Everyone;
I haven't been here in ages so thought I'd stop by and leave a little Hello for you a/ALL *S* Hope everyone is warm and safe. We are expecting more snow here tomorrow,, supposed to get around a foot!! on top of the foot we just got !! lol,, oh well,, spring and summer will be here soon enough.. Hope everyone has a great weekend..

:byebye:

OFOS butch's & femmes ~ we all know it's about "The Dance" ,as well as the seduction on both parts ~ the appreciation on the butch's part when hys ever sooooo gratefull for her efforts of seduction ~ she becomes complacent of hys desires , hys love ~ being gratefull of hys recognition as "hys" ~ she honors hys strength to lead her ~ hy melts by her comfort ~ her subtle way of making a home for them ~ unity ~

Just found this thread....subscribing now.

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Hey Bump! :)

So I just want to bump this thread and ask this question.

What is one of the most romantic things someone has done for you as part of the dance?

Once my wonderful Mr brought me home 8 dozen of roses, various colors so beautiful. One dozen was for my Mother who is passed over. One for Hys Mother also passed over. This was on Valentine's day this year. Hy does things like that all of the time. Brings me girly gifts constantly. Plus all of the little personal things each and every day! :)

The most romantic thing
 

I had only dated my butch for a couple of months this past year when Christmas arrived.

It is not a LDR and from the very beginning, I saw her several times a week.

She handed me a beautifully wrapped, red velvet pouch. I was afraid to open it.

She said: "From the moment that I saw you, I fell for you. You deserve these. I wanted to see yours ears sparkle, because you do".

The pouch contained diamond earrings. So beautiful.

I had never had any "real" jewelry before.

They are very meaningful to me because of her verbalized sentiment, not because they are real.

If she had said what she did to me and had given me cubic zirconia's; it would have meant just as much to me because of what she said.

Her gift was from her heart.

We will be together 8 months next week.

PS: She also sent two dozen red roses which were delivered at my job on Valentines Day. Kind of embarrassing to walk them back to my office but it gave me the opportunity to come out at work multiple times, with several people, very easily: "Oh, beautiful flowers, did your husband send them?"

"No, my girlfriend".

"Oh".

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waiting for a butch to get me enough to really take my breath away in that way way...

...don't get me wrong, the dance is always fun.

Hello!

I'm new, so I am still very much finding my way around the site but I thought I'd pop by here and say "hi" as you all seem very nice.

I have still to make my first 30 posts and cannot start a new thread yet, so I was looking for places where I could make relevant posts to build up my number without just posting for the sake of it....if that makes sense?? : )

Anyway, I found this thread and thought it might be relevant to me. I'm not really sure...

Ok...here goes! I'm straight. Or, at least I have been my entire life. However, in the last couple of weeks I have discovered that I am *very* attracted to Butch lesbians and now I'm wondering what that means...(I think particularly Stone Butches??)

I am not only straight, I am submissive and am fairly familiar with the BDSM community, so I was wondering if my submissiveness may be muddying the waters a little...? I honestly don't know, actually, and am finding all of this very confusing and would really like some help figuring it all out. If anyone is willing to discuss this with me further I'd really appreciate it : ) Oh, and I'm in the UK if that's relevant.

I see that someone in this thread identified themselves as an "innocent sub or femme" (or something similar?), and although I didn't think to use this to describe how I identify, I am going to appropriate it now (thanks to whomever it was!). I grew up with fairy tales and identified very strongly with the hyper-feminine innocence and beauty, grace and gentleness of the princesses in these stories, and have never shaken that off. I love chivalry and mourn it's loss in this busy, modern world. I am still awaiting my Knight in Shining Armour to come and rescue me, but, until now, I had never considered that their gender could be anything other than male...

Please could some kind person help me to figure out what's going on? Thank you! : )

Sorry if this post is in the wrong place, btw, and pls feel free to move it! : )

Lovely to meet you all and have a great evening!

Snow White x

Am I allowed to bump this?

Of course you may! I like to bump too! :hangloose:

Because bumping is fun...
 

and because I miss this discussion... bump...

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Im Old School Ultra Femme..I
Just Joined and I found this thread..I will Deff be back later...Wink...

One of the most romantic thing someone I was with surprised me with was as follows...She told me in advance that on a certain night we were going to Fly to a tropical Island so start packing and I packed my sexy heels and summer day and evening wear not knowing the reason for this I was so excited..A week later we flew into San Juan P.R, the sun was shining and the smell of all the wonderful tropical scents surrounded me..We checked in to a beautiful Suite that was filled with Roses every where, there was wine and champagne,we had a glass of wine and all of a sudden she tooky hand and walked me to the bedroom and the rest is history...several he's later before we showered she got down on one knee and proposed with the most beautiful ring....that was 15 yrs ago ...we broke up 5 yes later..anyway that was so romantic...

hi sultry ~ yes I agree that was very romantic :) ~ welcome to the planet ~ join us in chat sometime ~ and we usually have a coffee crowd in the mornings as well :)

Hello to all...I'm a new on here..I'm a stone femme..I love the Butch Femme Dynamics and wouldn't have it any other way!!

romance is often so subtle...
 

most often it is not in grand gestures but in small things...

like the way she remembered tiny details of things I thought only I would notice... things that were important to me became important to her and that, my friends, is not only romantic, but downright sexy...

yes, planned out "events" or "gifts" are romantic without a doubt, but at least for me, making the everyday special is what keeps romance alive for the long haul (f)

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