No and by no means do I want a job like that...but I do like this thread.

I am not saying we shouldn't call out "isms" I just think another thread can be started to address that directly. We have a whole site for that. Why not use it. :)

All opinions are of value in my eyes. I have nothing against anyone here and I'm not here to argue. I would just like to see this area maintain it's purpose which is writing and poetry.

Cheers,

Scoobs

Indeed it is the Poetry Thread. Quotes, Snippets and Other Writing. However, that does not mean there is not room for dialogue and discussion about said writing.

Are you making an attempt to censor the feelings of others, when it comes to the prose/poem that was posted? When in fact, this poem can be searched and various renditions of it can be found.

I sure hope not scubadyke... That would be a clear act of censorship and not productive or indicative of any writing thread.

Julie

This is the femme thread.

Sometimes, topics start out in one place and wind up in another, depending on the thoughts, feelings and insights of those that it speaks to.

Obviously, the original post spoke to many of us and generated a lot of feelings.

I personally have no concerns about where it wound up-writing thread or not.

I would rather not censor anyone. I think everyone has a valid viewpoint-even when I do not agree with them.

I am not a moderator and this is my perspective and my opinion.

Writing inspires us one way or another for sure and censorship is not a good path to start down nor was it my intention to suggest that.

I may not always agree but I will always appreciate.

Scoobs

Here is my stereotypical list of what ALL Femmes need to know lol :-D All in fun!

Hugs!



Always get the gel top coat so your nails don't chip after a Manicure. Worth the extra money!

Cheap mascara doesn't always do the trick... Go for the more expensive!

If you are going to wear nothing else, wear eyeliner. You eyes will pop, girl!

The blister Bandaids are a lifesaver for a night out dancing when you are wearing non- dancing shoes.

If you lose a toenail cause you were out dancing all night in non-dancing shoes without the bandaid (tsk tsk) the nail ladies can hook you up with an acrylic and no one will ever know.. :)

Brown and black are opposites on the color wheel...

If you don't have enough time to get your nails done, Press-Ons do the trick and no one will know! ( this was hard for me, but they looked good!!) haha.

Spanx are awesome!

Lace stockings are sexy with anything!

Black heels are also sexy with lace stockings, all the time!! Especially with a little black dress! You betta werk!!

If I was the op
my lesson in this would be to be more careful.
Especially with the >every< word.
This person created a thread when they just meant to post?
Had it been one post in the swoon thread it would not have
gotten this kind of response.

Saying all of the post's in here are a waste of time to read
is probably not something I would have said but this is where AGAIN we all
get to be different.

I dont think people were dissing romantic gestures or thoughts
at all.
This particular (not original) poem? is not every femme's ideal romance and that's ok.

To me, it really is that simple.

When I read this, what comes to mind is, why do I need someone else to treat me that way? How can I be loving, kind and attentive to myself? Why do I need a best friend and soul mate to be happy? How can I be my own best friend and soul mate? How can I feel beautiful just as I am? What makes me not feel that way? Not that I am femme or that I would partner with someone who is masculine lol. But I guess my point here is, why would I need a partner to mirror for me what I can be for myself? Is depending on a partner for that a healthy expectation? I think that partners are wonderful to have if you want to share your life with someone and build a strong bond of love and mutuality. But expecting a partner to mirror for me what really I am not already to myself - i.e., compassionate and accepting, it is unrealistic and won't work. Because if I don't believe I am wonderful and beautiful just as I am, no partner or anyone else will ever really convince me that I am. It has to come from me.

This is not to say that we shouldn't look for love and compassion and acceptance in a partner. Who we choose to have in our lives reflects how we feel about ourselves. I just think it's a myth that we can only be happy and feel loved when we have a partner who loves us. Don't wait for someone to come along and make you happy. Be happy with yourself here and now!

I dunno... just posting stuff

"just in fun" disclaimer isn't really an excuse to be purposely stereotypical. You surely know this by reading most of the posts in this thread.


People of my heritage are often stereotyped into movies and *just in fun* makes fun of us.

They think it's ok because it's "just in fun". It's not funny to us.


The fact that you capitalized the word ALL , added a *lol* then a *just in fun* sounds to me like you knew you were about to piss off a bunch of people.

Nothing on your list applies to this femme, just so you know.

It was just in fun... can we lighten up? It too scary to post around here **runs away

Totally from *me* space again...
 

I think we should be careful about the your filters versus my filters and who has responsibility issue.

And I say that for one reason.


All the sexual harassment classes I've ever gone to.


The guy says sweetheart. He means nothing by it. But if the woman interprets it as harassment - then it is. If she's ok with it - then it's not.

It has nothing to do with his intention, and 100% with the way it is received.

And that is a very polarized example - and yes it could be argued rather easily that it's wrong and completely different.

So I'll pull up another point - dealing with difficult people in the work place. If someone has a problem with you and you're pulled to DEO - you better not say "it's his/her fault because of their filters, I didn't intend..." or "this is just the way I am, if he/she doesn't like it they are the problem..." It won't get you anywhere and may even see you lose your job.

Now we're in a casual laid back atmosphere here - but I have to say, maybe due to corporate / legal brainwashing, that anytime someone says 'it's your fault if you hear me wrong' - it makes me want to grab my documentation and get ready to head to a mediator.

Just a thought...


edited to add: oh shit I just realized this long thread is because of the way something was received instead of intended.

kinda makes you go hmmmm

This was not about you in any way shape or form. I don't even know you.

And your comment "And I am also sorry, but I am the kind of femme who would literally go insane if the most important worry in my life was the "right" hair, makeup, and nails"... where was this insinuated?

I am a Girly Femme to the T, but it is not the most important worry in my life... I guess you have some stereotypes yourself coming out. Maybe you need to look at that.

Have a nice day

That's awesome! I AM into my looks, clothes, make-up, hair, nails. whatever. But, I also am a warm, caring person, I am very successful in my career, I am a awesome friend, and know the people who have come and gone in my life have appreciated me and felt lucky also to be with me, and I was with them. Hair and Makeup do not dictate that. It also does not make you any less than other people.

Other people have posted funny little things in here... and I was doing the same.. and YES what I posted is important to me! Please don't take that away or make it about yourself. It is mine, and I love it.

Thank you :-)

So you know ,I meant absolutely nothing ugly towards you.
I could have chosen friendlier words . I own that and apologize.
Things happen where they happen is what I have noticed.
Ever start a thread about one thing and it turns into twenty other
topics? I have.

I was following the title of the thread.... sorry for the confusion.

I have to think hard to think of discussion threads that DON'T take a long and winding road - usually consisting of several 90 to 180 degree turns.

It's kinda what I find cool about the internet - it's like real conversation.

If I sit down with friends - we may start talking about something serious and pressing - then someone will have an ADD moment and we'll be off in that direction - then someone else will remember something about their trip to the grocery store and you just continue like that - playing off of each other.



So - what about softball?

exactly
 

I was a pitcher
aint played in years
hate to run
how bout you?

well, it was MY post... so of course there is an I.

First base / outfield but have skipped a couple of seasons due to nerve issues. Apparently if you can't feel part of you hand - it effects both offense and defense lol and I can't play if I'm mediocre. Can't do it.


Soooooooooooo


before my career ended I did manage to turn an unassisted double play :) that was on the "bucket list" and I got to strike it off.

And I'm very happy that ESPN shows a fair amount of college ball.. and I'm VERY Happy that the big players are still valued players in the sport.

Yay for power sluggers!!!

Everything in her list applies to me, just so you all know. I've decided to follow suit and talk about myself and because I'm certain you all care.

Right? You know you do!

I'm fully aware that it was not about me. That was the entire point of speaking from *my* space, in trying to clarify your ALL comment. That is where the perceived insinuation occurred, just as the case with the original OP. There were no stereotypes involved on my part, nor anything that I need to look at. I was communicating *my* thoughts. Not attempting to lump you or anyone else into a category. Unfortunately, I am not always the most eloquent communicator, especially when I'm trying to understand my own thought process...lol Like you said, I don't know you. It was nothing against *you* as a person. As a matter of fact, I've enjoyed reading some of your posts around the board in the past, and thought you seemed like a genuine and interesting individual. I apparently come off a lot more harsh and personal than I intend sometimes.

Yes! The *me*'s and *I*'s spaces, rather than the general inclusion. These are what I was trying to get at, but in such an obviously confusing and roundabout way. (Like I said, sucky at thought processes sometimes.)

uh oh... your nick is dixielady... and you like basketball..


*cringes in anticipation


Are you a Volunteer?

O.o


Signed,

Bulldawg fanatic