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I don't know whether Jackie is male or not. I've never met the person, nor had any sort of conversation with them. Therefore, I cannot say whether Jackie is male or not. Nor is it my right to say. Every person figures out what gender that they are, and far be it from me to say that they are not that gender.
However, I do not care for the idea of claiming to be transgender as a loophole, in order to get married. That, to my mind, is utterly wrong. We transfolk go thru so much, in order to even be able to transition, let alone transitioning, that it feels utterly wrong for someone to simply claim that they are transgender in order to take advantage of a law. To be utterly fair, though; I have to disclose that, being a preop transwoman, and primarily attracted to women (This is the state of what I know about my sexual orientation, at least at the present time, with my lack of data.), IF I happened to fall in love with a woman, and she asked me to marry her, I would do so. I would use my status as a preop transwoman (with my gender marker on my driver's licence as male), to obtain the marriage licence. |
I have only been aware of this story for about an hour and I have mixed feelings on it. I don't know these people at all. I did go watch the video link to the interview. I don't like tabloid tv so I stay away from this kind of thing normally, but this hits close to home.
My first impressions (subject to change if I learn more) is that this was for this couple first and foremost a financial decision. They found a loophole and exploited it to personal benefit. What is problematic for me is that "they" have presented this as a quick decision anyone can make that had all the impact of a nose job, and for them it seems true. When I say "they" I don't know what might be left on the editing floor, Oprah is known for sensationalism, etc.. Unfortunately, for the viewing public, this may be what they believe about trans* persons going forward without any more information. It effectively negates the torture most trans people live through in their efforts to find and define themselves as transgendered. I believe it would have been a much better representation of the "facts" to present the story as one about the lengths some gay couples have to gone to just to receive equal treatment on the marriage front, without tagging the term trans* onto it. In my opinion (for the moment) that is what the actual story was, and the Oprah machine found a way to cash in on the current headline creating term of "Trans". I will be interested to see what others have to say. |
Ya, I don't like the kind of precedent that this sends. The rest of the world would see this as the reason why people transition. It feeds into the "men in women's bathroom" fear as well because they'll view it as a way for rapists to attack women by getting a sex change. They're celebrating 1 year but what happens if they divorce? How will Jacki feel then?
To me, the decision to do a medical transition should be for one's own self-existence and not for the benefit or detriment of others. And why not fight for marriage in California? Or get married out of the state and have protection federally while waiting for the legal system to figure things out? Given that this was likely a recent interview, it couldn't have been that long before California's laws were changed, no? |
I'm with what Linus and Nadeest have said, above. I don't like the idea of this setting some sort of "precedent" and I certainly don't care for the way that the "Oprah machine" has taken this and turned it into a sort of "shock TV" sort of thing. It smacks of the Jerry Springer effect. We're not freaks and transitioning is about doing a helluva lot of work on a very basic aspect of a person's sense of self (gender identity). I think we can all agree here that gender identity and sexual orientation are two VERY separate, but equally important issues.
I do wonder, though, if there is another side of this story that the Oprah producers didn't shine the light on, too, for the sake of the "shock" factor and the ratings game. I would like to know if Jacki's decision was based on the issue of sexual orientation or gender identity. When the word "loophole" was used, it made us all think first that this is a same-sex (sexual orientation) issue. I think that, when we have, usually, seen transgender stories, the emphasis has (usually) always been on the issue of gender identity and all of the issues that one faces on the process of becoming who we truly are, inside. That's the way it SHOULD be, because that is what it is. In this case, however, the word "loophole" was (to me) "emphasized", quickly shifting our attention to the slant that some sort of "deception"/exploitation was involved. One does NOT change their gender in order to marry a same sex partner. That is clearly exploiting the gender identity issue to accommodate something far different.....sexual orientation. The fact that the Oprah producers presented it as such is a particularly insulting disservice to each and every person who struggles with gender identity issues. I detest that. Our society makes it difficult enough for transfolk, without powerful entities, such as the media, putting this sort of shit out there. I don't like it. I remember the "pregnant man" stories about Thomas Beatie, some years back. When that happened, I can't begin to tell you how I felt when some of the (more close minded) nurses at work would ask me, "So Theo, when are YOU going to have a baby??". Ugh. I still don't have the words to describe my anger and how flabbergasted I felt. Let me just say that it really, really cut me to the core. It was cruel, and although I fully supported Thomas's right to do what he wanted with his body and live the way he and his wife wanted, it DID have an effect on me. It wasn't his fault, though, unless HE sought the media attention and I cannot remember the details of that, whether he did or not. Thing is, the media can reinforce bad stereotypes and encourage idiots to hold idiotic views. THAT is what I fault. My point of view is that a person has the right to do what they want, as long as it doesn't hurt others. This hurt others. ~Theo~ :bouquet: |
Shaving products? What products do you feel, is best for your skin type?
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I simply use water, as given the fact that my facial hair removal is still not finished, I still need to shave each day. :(
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I remember when their wedding invitations were sent out and it was before same-sex marriage became legal in California. It was also before the Federal government decided to recognize same-sex marriage. I do know that Jackie has lived as a Butch for most of her/his life. I do not know if she/he identifies herself/himself as woman or male identified Butch or neither. Like Theo and Linus I can see how their story can set a negative precedent for FTMs. I felt the same way about Beatty, "The pregnant man." On the other hand, people are entitled to do with their bodies and lives whatever they choose to do. I am pretty sure Jackie and Christina are not the first couple to find this "loophole." They are just the first ones to get media coverage. (Similar to Beatty. He was not the first pregnant FTM.) In part, my own transition was political. I had lived my life as a Butch that expressed masculinity since a very young child. I never felt I was the same as a cisgender male. I also never felt that I was a woman. I did find it absurd that just because I could "transition" all of a sudden I could receive full legal status. Nothing had changed on the inside the person I was and am. I have had the privilege of discussing gender stuff in the forums with many of you for a few years now. I have learned so much. We all have our own stories, ideas and beliefs. I may not think, believe the exact same thing you do but I have respect and regard for many of you. Again, thanks for sharing so much of yourselves and knowledge here. |
Christie and Jacki Oprah Interview
I ran into Christie the other day and asked her if she was aware of some of the controversy their interview has stirred up. She told me yes and their are pieces of the interview that never got televised. Her and Jacki were contacted by Helen Boyd an author and Professor at a university in Wisconsin.
Jacki did send a written response to questions Professor Boyd asked Jacki via email. I went to Boyd's blog site, en|Gender to see if Jacki's response has been posted and it has not yet been posted. However, you can read Boyd's initial blog on July 15, 2014 regarding the interview. Here is the link: http://www.myhusbandbetty.com/?subsc...subscription-2 Finally, I did tell Christi about this site and thread and asked her if it would be okay if I posted here about our conversation, she replied "Yes." |
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I read somewhere, and I believe it was in a forum for transguys that hosted/sponsored by Chaz Bono, that shaving with multi-blade razors was not good for one's skin. At that time, I was relatively new to frequent shaving and didn't have the beard I now have. I now must shave every day, and sometimes twice a day, if I go out at night, due to an obvious "5 o'clock shadow" that I now get. Anyway, dear wife bought me an old fashioned double edged safety razor....the kind my dad shaved with when I was a kid. That gives me the best shave I've ever gotten, and though it's very easy to nick myself, if I'm careful, I get a good shave and very, very few ingrown hairs or "shaving bumps". Oh, and if you ever want a really nice treat, go get a shave from one of the barber shops of "The Art of Shaving". I did that down at the Venetian Hotel, here in Las Vegas, where they have one of their barber shops. It was quite a wonderful experience, which dear wife treated me to, and I got the whole 9 yard treatment, complete with a hot lather shave and the skin treatment, by a professional barber. I think it made my toes curl. :awww: ~Theo~ :bouquet: |
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Thanks for the tips as well, looks like some shopping for me, soon! |
Okay health insurance, anyone have any tips for insurance for transfolks? Or some links that I can read over.
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Health Insurance here in the states has gotten a lot trickier since 2014 and you are required to carry something, the fines are going up for those who skip and the window of opportunity for signing up is a lot shorter this year. I've learned a lot this last year but I wouldn't consider any of it to be trans specific. :thinking: |
Right now trans friendly providers. And then for surgical procedures.
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1) information on the insurance system/how to navigate your insurance 2) State laws and where to find them regarding your insurance 2) how to find a gender therapist in your area/online 3) how to find a testosterone provider and what you need to do so that they will prescribe T to you. 4) how to find a surgeon and how to find out their criteria for surgery. 5) the barriers to each of the above. I can talk all day about the above, but I don't want to ramble on forever and give you (or fill up the thread with), needless information. :hamactor: If you have specific questions and are willing to tell me what state you live in, and what insurance you have, I can save you hours of research. For a small fee. :cigar: It is impossible to discuss these things in generalities. |
Thank you Dapper, I will pm you when I am fully awake and can truly comprehend all of it. I just got back home from being out.
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Don't know if anyone that can answer this comes on here but not really the question I want to put on my Facebook page.
I've talked to one person but would like to others experience on this. Has anyone stopped or lowered their testosterone after chest surgery and having a complete hysterectomy? I'm going to make an appointment in February to talk with my dr when I'm back in his area. Meanwhile I haven't take one since I think Oct. My hysterectomy was done at the end of November. I really haven't felt it necessary and am thinking of holding off till then just to see what it does to my hormone levels and blood counts. At this point I just not sure what the advantages to continuing it would be. My energy level has been pretty damn good, frame of mind, etc. I don't really care what happens to my facial hair and I got a pretty low voice. I actually think part of my feeling well might be because my red blood count is leveling out. That its being high was helping me feel sluggish. In fact surgery probably helped that also since I have donated for a while and they didn't have to give me any I probably lost enough to lower the count also. any experience? |
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I have heard around 4 guys talk about this. All 4 said they needed the same amount of T in order to keep the same T levels after removal of their ovaries. I find that interesting because I would think that your body no longer fighting estrogen would mean less testosterone needed for the same amount of T in the body. I have read that orchidectomy does result in MTFs being able to take much less, or no T blockers. My understanding is that our bodies need to have one hormone or the other, so it isn't wise to not take any hormones. It negatively impacts things like bone strength. Please consider calling your physician. Maybe you only need to take a small amount to stay healthy. |
I do not know the answer to your question, sorry. With that being said, I do know that transwomen who have had an orchi or SRS no longer need the anti-androgens that they had been taking. They also generally cut their estrogen dosage by about 1/2, from what I have learned, over the years.
I can also say that I am definitely looking forwards to when I no longer have to take that danged anti-androgen. I love the blocking testosterone effect, but............ it is also a diuretic, and that part, I do not enjoy at all. :( |
I appreciate the responses however I really am looking for peoples personal experience.
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