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clay 01-18-2013 06:21 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn (Post 732851)
What is on my mind today is why people become the kinds of friends they are in my life. I have those friends that are so close, they can be counted on for anything, at any time. They don't need to talk to me all the time but I know I can count on them for anything if its needed, whether that is company for a coffee date, last minute babysitting, a much needed extra $20 to fill in a gap, or simply a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on. I also know I would do the same for them. These friends really do BECOME family to me. But other friends who I have had and kept over the years did not become that for one reason or another.

Recently I am realizing that much of this is because they do not reflect the qualities I hold closest in my heart. I look for many things in my tightest circle, and the lack of one of those qualities inevitably leads to a much more distant friendship. As I have thought about that this past week or so I have started to think about what those qualities are. I really do look for qualities like generosity, understanding, open-mindedness, honesty, and good communication skills. I have always valued these qualities.

What I am realizing is included in these that I did not see before is thriftiness and economy of life. Not that they have very little, or that they want very little, but that they can make so much FROM very little. I do not have to have the best and most expensive of things to have a happy and full life. I personally have a house full of things that make me very happy. But I spend my money wisely and I meet both my needs and my desires without overextending myself. I choose to make a picnic, instead of eat out. I choose to go to the beach instead of a theme park. I choose to buy a used couch or car, instead of spending more on a new one. I have made a lot of choices to put my family ahead of money. I choose to live on less and to have more.

I guess today I am thinking about how important this quality is to me... and how some people still don't get it.
This.right.here!
Precisely.
I, too, live within my means....and I may not always get what I want, but I am able to get what I need...and it builds one's self values.... To do so, and with dignity and humbleness, makes one appreciate so much more...just what IS exactly important in life.
Those simplest of things...basic necessities we have to have....the smallest of things are important...and where there is a will..there is a way. I know I am branching off in another direction..but still..makes us so much more humble..so much more appreciative...because we actually DO know what is important in life.
Thank YOU, Jenn....I DO get it, too......:)

TheMerryFairy 01-18-2013 06:54 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by clay (Post 732856)
This.right.here!
Precisely.
I, too, live within my means....and I may not always get what I want, but I am able to get what I need...and it builds one's self values.... To do so, and with dignity and humbleness, makes one appreciate so much more...just what IS exactly important in life.
Those simplest of things...basic necessities we have to have....the smallest of things are important...and where there is a will..there is a way. I know I am branching off in another direction..but still..makes us so much more humble..so much more appreciative...because we actually DO know what is important in life.
Thank YOU, Jenn....I DO get it, too......:)
Clay, I am with you! I live within my means and I love to browse for a nice bargain gem find. Something to add personality to my space and to allow me to pick up on the sentimental value of what is important in my life.

The small things do matter, and some of the bigger things that have nothing to do with material goods.

I am forever appreciative of what I have been given and the tools I have to change my direction when it is time.

~ocean 01-18-2013 07:13 PM
i was brought up from very materialistic parents .. i am the opposite of them .. when my friends and i would go out ,, we took care of those who couldnt afford what were doing .. thats what REAL friends do .. when money takes presidence over friendship ,, thats not friends,,,,

StrongButch 01-19-2013 06:35 AM
On your mind
 
Jenn I loved your post. You are a very wise woman.It brings this song to mind. You find out who your friends are- Tim McGraw. Have a great day darlin.

jac 01-19-2013 07:06 AM
What is on my mind... this morning.

I got a call while at work yesterday but was totally unable to answer it. I just listened to the voicemail this morning. The test results from the ultrasound must be in at my gyno's office.

I guess I should have tried to take the call. Now I have to wait till Monday... ugh! :sigh:

TheDreadPirateRoberts 01-19-2013 01:46 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by JustLovelyJenn (Post 732851)
What is on my mind today is why people become the kinds of friends they are in my life. I have those friends that are so close, they can be counted on for anything, at any time. They don't need to talk to me all the time but I know I can count on them for anything if its needed, whether that is company for a coffee date, last minute babysitting, a much needed extra $20 to fill in a gap, or simply a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on. I also know I would do the same for them. These friends really do BECOME family to me. But other friends who I have had and kept over the years did not become that for one reason or another.

Recently I am realizing that much of this is because they do not reflect the qualities I hold closest in my heart. I look for many things in my tightest circle, and the lack of one of those qualities inevitably leads to a much more distant friendship. As I have thought about that this past week or so I have started to think about what those qualities are. I really do look for qualities like generosity, understanding, open-mindedness, honesty, and good communication skills. I have always valued these qualities.

What I am realizing is included in these that I did not see before is thriftiness and economy of life. Not that they have very little, or that they want very little, but that they can make so much FROM very little. I do not have to have the best and most expensive of things to have a happy and full life. I personally have a house full of things that make me very happy. But I spend my money wisely and I meet both my needs and my desires without overextending myself. I choose to make a picnic, instead of eat out. I choose to go to the beach instead of a theme park. I choose to buy a used couch or car, instead of spending more on a new one. I have made a lot of choices to put my family ahead of money. I choose to live on less and to have more.

I guess today I am thinking about how important this quality is to me... and how some people still don't get it.


.....love this post darlin!......i def get it ...but i think u already knew that ;) .....youll always have our love support n friendship ......couldnt have wished for a better fam

BoiJen 01-19-2013 11:46 PM
things i've realized about the girl in my life that is like deja vu :|

TheMerryFairy 01-19-2013 11:49 PM
A beachhouse, some wine, a little music and those who I'd like to share the experience with.

DamonK 01-20-2013 03:02 AM
Breaking down bricks together

Random 01-20-2013 04:11 AM
This flipping back over to day living is harder than it looks...

I'm stuck in a fall asleep around 7pm and wake up around 3 loop...

My bio-rhythm is all screwed up and when you factor in the cold...

Well my life is do something, lay on the sofa for a couple hours, do something, lay on the sofa for a couple hours...

I'm sick of tv, sick of the computer...

whine, whine, whine...

DamonK 01-20-2013 04:51 AM
Intense eyes that seem to see through me, as they always have

And now I'm going to bed before I get in trouble.

StrongButch 01-20-2013 06:21 AM
On my mind
 
Sex for breakfast-Christina Aguilera asking myself why you sitting here eating a bowl of cereal. (lol) I might need to reconsider this behaving after this song. (lol)

Sun 01-20-2013 11:54 AM
Call to Action
 
Next week I attend a conference of roughly, 3,500 LGBT activists, allies, advocates, lobbyists, justice workers and those who represent faith communities that are welcoming to all of us.

As I prepare for the work that I am to do at this conference, I am opening up memories of the past year, and the pain that others have shared with me, in the struggle for equality. The struggle, by the way, is getting old. The very fist time that I exchanged information with an LGBT civil rights advocate so that we could work on marriage equality, was 21 years ago. I was so much younger and full of fire for the fight.

Now I see how much the fight has cost us. Sometimes I want to wake up and have this all be over and done with. I do not want to read about another family torn apart, another same sex couple denied rights, benefits, services. And in the worst of the worst case scenario's, I do not want to read about the death of one more partner who trusted that the military, or her company, would do the right thing and release benefits to her partner.

My soul...literally every fiber of my being, is aching for change to come, to see my people treated as equal in the eyes of the law. Will I allow this to define me or my purpose on this earth?

Hell no...because in my world the ultimate source is my higher power. Love. By all of the names that we call our higher power, God, Goddess, Earth Mother, Buddha, Allah, Spirit of Life, The Divine, Maker, the great unknown...I call this love. I have never believed in a punishing God. If there is a source that is greater and all loving then so be it, and let it love each of us equally.

Ahead of me lies a huge and life changing responsibility. I have to deliver the right words to my people, who come to this convention open, vulnerable, hungry for knowledge and community, seeking, teaching, working, and often, hurting. Finding the words that are going to help them on their journey has not been the easiest thing for me, so I step back, and I witness. What I see is pain all around me. What I see is a community of civil rights advocates who are not going to allow a second class citizenship be a reality for any of us.

What I see is hope.

What I see is a pathway of justice burning brightly leading us into the future.

So as the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force convene's next week, in Atlanta, the home town of Dr King, let us remember the messages that he wanted all of us to take with us:

"We can not walk alone" & "Do not sleep through the revolution"

Each one of us can be a contributor to this revolution that is ongoing and being carried out by the few to benefit the many. If you have not written or called a Senator or Representative regarding a piece of legislation or a concern, now is the time.

As the new legislative sessions begin, log on to your state website and get updates, we need all of you to be all in. If you need training to learn how to do this, we can teach you.

We need one another, because we can not walk alone. There will be no marriage equality, or stronger hate crimes legislation, access to adoption for all people, fairness ..if we do not do this work together.

Please, waste no time. Use tomorrow to join the movement.

Thank you

Sun

Scuba 01-20-2013 12:12 PM
What's for lunch...

DamonK 01-20-2013 12:20 PM
I'm awake.... I think that's what we consider this.

Currently, I consider it semi conscious and in serious need of coffee.

I have homework to do.

This week is a big one academic wise.

And last night is on my mind.

Angeltoes 01-20-2013 02:25 PM
Brilliant, Sun!
 
Thank you for sharing that piece with us. I feel fortunate to have you as an advocate! I'm so excited about this opportunity you have at the NGLTF to get your message out. You ARE going to be an inspiration. :congrats:

TheMerryFairy 01-20-2013 03:39 PM
Friends are on my mind. I am worried about how they are doing. I am sure they are well. I am thinking about getting to know some of them better, long conversations and shared moments.

KCBUTCH 01-20-2013 04:22 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Sun (Post 734002)
Next week I attend a conference of roughly, 3,500 LGBT activists, allies, advocates, lobbyists, justice workers and those who represent faith communities that are welcoming to all of us.

As I prepare for the work that I am to do at this conference, I am opening up memories of the past year, and the pain that others have shared with me, in the struggle for equality. The struggle, by the way, is getting old. The very fist time that I exchanged information with an LGBT civil rights advocate so that we could work on marriage equality, was 21 years ago. I was so much younger and full of fire for the fight.

Now I see how much the fight has cost us. Sometimes I want to wake up and have this all be over and done with. I do not want to read about another family torn apart, another same sex couple denied rights, benefits, services. And in the worst of the worst case scenario's, I do not want to read about the death of one more partner who trusted that the military, or her company, would do the right thing and release benefits to her partner.

My soul...literally every fiber of my being, is aching for change to come, to see my people treated as equal in the eyes of the law. Will I allow this to define me or my purpose on this earth?

Hell no...because in my world the ultimate source is my higher power. Love. By all of the names that we call our higher power, God, Goddess, Earth Mother, Buddha, Allah, Spirit of Life, The Divine, Maker, the great unknown...I call this love. I have never believed in a punishing God. If there is a source that is greater and all loving then so be it, and let it love each of us equally.

Ahead of me lies a huge and life changing responsibility. I have to deliver the right words to my people, who come to this convention open, vulnerable, hungry for knowledge and community, seeking, teaching, working, and often, hurting. Finding the words that are going to help them on their journey has not been the easiest thing for me, so I step back, and I witness. What I see is pain all around me. What I see is a community of civil rights advocates who are not going to allow a second class citizenship be a reality for any of us.

What I see is hope.

What I see is a pathway of justice burning brightly leading us into the future.

So as the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force convene's next week, in Atlanta, the home town of Dr King, let us remember the messages that he wanted all of us to take with us:

"We can not walk alone" & "Do not sleep through the revolution"

Each one of us can be a contributor to this revolution that is ongoing and being carried out by the few to benefit the many. If you have not written or called a Senator or Representative regarding a piece of legislation or a concern, now is the time.

As the new legislative sessions begin, log on to your state website and get updates, we need all of you to be all in. If you need training to learn how to do this, we can teach you.

We need one another, because we can not walk alone. There will be no marriage equality, or stronger hate crimes legislation, access to adoption for all people, fairness ..if we do not do this work together.

Please, waste no time. Use tomorrow to join the movement.

Thank you

Sun
Thats awesome buddy-I've known you a while now and you are always doing such noble things- thank you for all your great volunteer efforts see ya on the down low

TheMerryFairy 01-20-2013 04:31 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Sun (Post 734002)
Next week I attend a conference of roughly, 3,500 LGBT activists, allies, advocates, lobbyists, justice workers and those who represent faith communities that are welcoming to all of us.

As I prepare for the work that I am to do at this conference, I am opening up memories of the past year, and the pain that others have shared with me, in the struggle for equality. The struggle, by the way, is getting old. The very fist time that I exchanged information with an LGBT civil rights advocate so that we could work on marriage equality, was 21 years ago. I was so much younger and full of fire for the fight.

Now I see how much the fight has cost us. Sometimes I want to wake up and have this all be over and done with. I do not want to read about another family torn apart, another same sex couple denied rights, benefits, services. And in the worst of the worst case scenario's, I do not want to read about the death of one more partner who trusted that the military, or her company, would do the right thing and release benefits to her partner.

My soul...literally every fiber of my being, is aching for change to come, to see my people treated as equal in the eyes of the law. Will I allow this to define me or my purpose on this earth?

Hell no...because in my world the ultimate source is my higher power. Love. By all of the names that we call our higher power, God, Goddess, Earth Mother, Buddha, Allah, Spirit of Life, The Divine, Maker, the great unknown...I call this love. I have never believed in a punishing God. If there is a source that is greater and all loving then so be it, and let it love each of us equally.

Ahead of me lies a huge and life changing responsibility. I have to deliver the right words to my people, who come to this convention open, vulnerable, hungry for knowledge and community, seeking, teaching, working, and often, hurting. Finding the words that are going to help them on their journey has not been the easiest thing for me, so I step back, and I witness. What I see is pain all around me. What I see is a community of civil rights advocates who are not going to allow a second class citizenship be a reality for any of us.

What I see is hope.

What I see is a pathway of justice burning brightly leading us into the future.

So as the National Gay & Lesbian Task Force convene's next week, in Atlanta, the home town of Dr King, let us remember the messages that he wanted all of us to take with us:

"We can not walk alone" & "Do not sleep through the revolution"

Each one of us can be a contributor to this revolution that is ongoing and being carried out by the few to benefit the many. If you have not written or called a Senator or Representative regarding a piece of legislation or a concern, now is the time.

As the new legislative sessions begin, log on to your state website and get updates, we need all of you to be all in. If you need training to learn how to do this, we can teach you.

We need one another, because we can not walk alone. There will be no marriage equality, or stronger hate crimes legislation, access to adoption for all people, fairness ..if we do not do this work together.

Please, waste no time. Use tomorrow to join the movement.

Thank you

Sun


You are such a powerful speaker. That post moved me - I have actual goosebumps. I agree with you. The struggle has cost us far too much but I refuse to give up on hope or love.

The world around is IS changing and although there is a lot of work to be done, we can each contribute to making the world a better and safer place for the LGTBQ community, our allies, all of those who have struggled before and those we stand together with in their time of struggle.

I am in solidarity with you, Sun. Have a wonderful trip and may the memories of your experience lead you further on your path to continue spreading the word of light and love.

Namaste!

TheMerryFairy 01-21-2013 10:10 AM
Patriarchal customs, rituals and overall oppressive nature. I know that's a heavy thought for a beautiful monday morning, it's there none the less. Work is on my mind. It seems as though I may have knocked on the window of opportunity today. Hopefully I will be able to set my own schedule or find a way to make the next month or two less exhausting. I love what I do - I would just like some time to actually rest before the next week starts.

Work itself should be a good pace until spring break - then it will no doubt pick up.

I am still learning that a good barber is hard to find and even harder to hang onto? I didn't realize this so much until a conversation last night. It seems as though my travelling shop idea may actually be sustainable!

What else is on my mind? Breakfast or brunch, a friend, dreams, a few songs still floating around & all of these projects that I still have on the huge platter I have set out for myself.


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