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my cat resting her head on my hand. *purr*
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understanding, most certainly.
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The touch of Dino's paw, or a lick from him. Or it can be love from one of the cats laying on my lap or stomach while I am on the soffa watching sports or sleeping. :rollcat: :ballcat: :cat: :doghead: :awww: |
This one is very hard for me to think about. I try not to think about love or being loved ... it might cause me to let my walls down or to give someone a key to a very deep part of my inner-self. I'm not a "needy" person. But there are a few things I would like to experience in this life...before going to the next one and having to search all over again. I need to feel protected... to eventually share my worst fears with someone, and have them NOT use it against me. To feel protected when I have had a nasty day being a Tough-Ass-Boss at work, but the "little girl" in me needs comfort and a tender touch. I am far from weak... but have weak moments... if I can ever find someone to trust with that key to the very deep part of my inner-self, I need to feel protected and respected during my weak moments. I didn't feel protected as a child or young adult... I would NEVER take for granted the special person that could do this for me. And I would NEVER take for granted the special gift of protection they would bestow on me. I think if I could find the kind of special person who's willing to protect me in a way that I have always dreamed of... I may possibly be able to think about love and being loved without fear of being hurt. I think I would and could love them with all my heart and soul if they could do this for me. (that's all I wish to share at this time... maybe more later) |
I need tenderness, it is the key to my heart...... :rose: Pashi |
Understanding of my condition and patience when It is flaired up.
Honesty and full trust in me. "That I will do and act as I say" And that I will honor my relationships in whatever scene or circumstance. The freedom to be me without being degraded or accused of false actions. Even if I am silly at times. Acceptance that family and committment to those I care for are the most valuable thing in my life. And that I take an active role in every one. |
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What do I need to feel loved (inside myself): Safety, calm, quiet, introspective time. Days when I can put the dysfunctional chatter of my upbringing on the shelf and know that I am a superb human being, meaning that I do the absolute best I can and take steps to correct my mistakes when I fall short of my goals for myself. That stuff happened in the past..by folks who really needed help and had no capacity for parenting. What do I need to feel loved (by another human being): See above...I absolutely am unable to be in true partnership with another individual unless I'm cool with me. And once that's in place, interaction with another human being who is also committed to knowin that it takes two to tango and that half of the problem is on each side. And, that defending a heels dug in position doesn't advance the ball. |
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I think a terminal illness is perhaps the biggest test of love.
Plato is stil here, and loves me. Even when I can't get out of bed and have puke in my hair. Knowing that hy can love me thru even the worst days has given me a sense of security I've never had before. |
Lady Pamela, I just cried when I read your post. It was so beautiful. :gimmehug::cheer::goodscore::goodpost: Love, Andrew |
SuperFemme, You are right. A terminal illness is a test. I know from watching my sister and her husband. How he would gently hold her when she cried, or when they were told that there was no chance of survival. The tears. :praying: Or when one of our siblings would hold her head while she was having the after effects of chemo, experimental drugs, or stem cells and wiping off her face with a cool wet wash cloth. The love is just so obvious. It is tender, sweet, loving, and so bonding. Until you experience this love, you really never know what love is about or how deep it can be reached in your heart and soul. It isn't about bravery or courage. It is about love. That is what life is really about. Some haven't figured that out yet, and may never. Thank God it isn't our issue. Namaste my sweet, dear sister, Andrew |
What I Need To Feel Loved.....
Well, instead of posting what I need, I figured I would just let everyone know the kind of person I am.
We all know that while relationships can be incredibly fulfilling, they aren't always easy. They're hard work and require oodles of love, patience and, well, sometimes the ability to know when to keep your mouth shut! Those in relationships need to let their partner know some things about themselves. Here are a few things about me..... I would rather feel unloved than inadequate and disrespected. I enjoy romance. Pretty much of a hopeless romantic! But sometimes I doubt my skills to be romantic. I care about my woman's appearance. Everyone knows that I am very visual but women often forget just how helpless I am to what I see. The right visual stimulation can hypnotize me. And I am sure it has the same effect on others. I want my partner to know how much I care. A woman who smiles, makes it easier for me to approach her by conveying an attitude of confidence and playfulness. I rarely get listened to, at least not beyond a few minutes. Most of the time that is all I really need, but since I hate to be rejected, it is easier for me to keep conversations superficial. I am stubborn.....that's not much of a secret! I would like to have my partner be able to take my shit as well as give it right back to me! I sometimes need a reality check of how I am acting! Ok......these are just a few things about me! |
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communication touch laughter passion sensitivity going deep... love. :stillheart: |
good question...
Love is a mutual agreement between two hearts and souls...
I need a woman to BE HERSELF... To actually Trust that I genuinely love her for who she is... That even though I am cheezy/smooth, it is not an ACT, it is just me... One who can take all my honesty, good and bad, and return the favor... One who gets my humor, sometimes smartass/sarcstic... & one who can comfort me...even when she is wrapped up in my arms... |
Don't define me by what I'm not. Define me by what I am.
Don't look to complete me. Complement me. Know my devotion is unwavering. And allow me to expect the same from you. Treat me as you would want to be treated. Accept me with all my faults, and know I will do the same for you. I'm simply a human being. I'm frequently wrong. Don't remind me of every time I'm wrong. Support me as I support you. You can make suggestions concerning my conditions, and we can make a decision together, but don't ever make a decision about "me" without me. Luckily...MBE does all this. |
I need to be heard. You don't have to understand my motivations/reasons/etc, but HEAR me tell you what I need from you.
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Trust.
If you Trust me with your heart, then I feel Loved and once that happens...oooooh baby girl, 'Katie bar the door', I'm at your command(f) |
In order to feel loved...
I need to be able to trust before I can feel loved and in order for that trust to take form, I need to see that what you say and what you do match up as one and the same. I am a deep and constant thinker and need for you to reach those depths with me. I can't live well in shallow land. I need emotional intimacy as much as I need sexual intimacy, if not more. I need to know we are on the same team and that you have my back. I need honesty and truth I need for you to be doing your work as far as your health goes; emotional, mental, spiritual and physical health. And I need for you to gently kick my ass if I am not doing mine. I need shared laughter and a time to be like kids when appropriate to do so. Humor is important to me. |
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