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I came into work today. I used my cell phone to reply. Since I am at work, I was only able to read a couple of posts above mine.

I do want to come back when home and read all the other posts.

thanks ...

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Originally Posted by Brock (Post 584233)

I do not have children but think breast feeding is a normal thing some moms choose to do.

feel free to correct me:
By age three, aren't children well into eating on their own? If this is true, I am not understanding the purpose of this photo.

My curiosity made me wonder. What if this child on the cover were female ... Would it bring out gay-haters in the U.S. to rant this could create lesbians? I do believe the child's gender in photo was selected with tremendous care.

I think and feel people would be just as ugly, how anyone can sexualize a child is ridiculous to me since children up to the age of puberty are pretty genderless unless we as parents are enforcing the binary of what boys and girls are "supposed to do"

Anything we do as parents don't "make our kids gay/bi/trans they are either born this way and if they don't know right away they should be given the chance to express or experiment with their sexuality without shaming from a parent.

Anyways that's what I think I could be wrong.. She was selected because she is a parent with 2 sons who practices attachment parenting, it's savy the way the war on women continues in the tiniest of ways especially in the media....

Want to clarify ...

LadySnow, I agree that most certainly parents do not make their children gay/lesbian/bi/trans.

I was born gay.

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow (Post 584235)

So after watching a few interviews, learning more about the intent I can now really voice what I strongly feel about this particular way of marketing, because it's what it is marketing.

The magazine stirred up tons of controversy the way the child is posed, it's put Moms against Moms regarding who's the better parent or not. The picture is misleading since I thought it would be about when or when not to breastfeed a child and how Mom's that choose to are literally being bullied in society and shamed for doing what feels right to them.

It's a OLD MAN telling women how to *parent*, how to be *better* Mom's. What the hell does this old guy know and most importantly WHY are we as women listening to this MAN telling us or giving us advice on how to better parent.

I'd rather seek advice from a Mom before some old guy who they could not put on the cover because let's be honest, Mom on the cover is the sexist ideal of a *hot mom*

Thin, blonde, pretty he's not gonna sell covers like she is, throw in a stool and an almost 4 year old child posed into the mix and you have controversy and this magazine sells a bit more, women are dogging out one another on Mother's Day.

It's disgusting sometimes how we allow *men* to display images of us (women) in ways that can be, are demeaning especially to something as important as.

Motherhood.

THANK YOU! This is kinda the point I was trying to make in one of my previous posts..but you said it WAY better than me! :)

I found the photo disturbing...and then I did some soul searching as to WHY I found it so disturbing. And the reason was that is was a staged photo designed to provoke controversy. Hell, I don't care how women breastfeed, or when, or how long...that is entirely up to each individual. And I could care less if they choose to do it while hanging upside down from a tree! However, I DO have a problem with someone posing a woman the way THEY want to and staging a photograph. And then to block in a title that somehow implies that a certain type of "mothering" is better than another. Yeah...I have a BIG problem with that.

A link to one of the interviews

Takes two in a decision in a relationship

What is ironic to me (not really) is that Dad gets no criticism at all, nor is he being shamed for making this decision as well..

Mysoginy and sexism are a curious thing.... The women and children are the ones always shit on...

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2012/...85_634x424.jpg

I haven't read through the entire thread, so I am apologizing if this has already been covered.....

Is it really the the act of breast-feeding that is the nurturing part, or is it the act of holding the child close to you in a loving way for periods of time? I believe that it can be both, but one does not negate the other.

I breast-fed for about 2 months, but bottles were used at the same time when I was back at work. Does this mean that my relationship and closeness with my son is any different from others who breast-fed their children for longer than I did with no bottle? Nope.

I also don't appreciate that this idea promotes only the closeness of mothers to their children. What about fathers... what about adoptive parents... what about other family members who end up taking care of someone elses child?

I believe that we all do what we find best for our kids...but as others have stated, why do we have to start an us and them controvery again?

I abhor the fact that they chose to stage the cover with the child standing up, when the mother states that she breast feeds-him in a cradling, cuddling fashion.

It's a shame that TIME appears to have taken sides.

This article is for those who don't believe there is a benefit for breast feeding after babies get teeth. That is such a misconception.

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/...tes/54909940/1