What makes me feel loved and or secure
 

To have faith in my abilities

To believe in who I am

To Trust me

THAT look...the one that says no matter what, no matter who, she thinks I hung the moon.

A good start
 

Fidelity! Really,how hard is it???

OMG, I am the same, but I also need for someone to give me unconditional love and to love me for me, not a mold.

That along with 'normality'.

To feel loved
 

We are not together in the way most are... For me to feel love is in the voice... It makes my heart race and I can't help but smile and sometimes even giggle...
It is in the texts.. When I hear my phone go off at work or anywhere I look down and again my heart is racing and I am excited before I even read what hy says ....
It is in the actions... I can have bad days and still feel loved... the support the caring ... the quick words of " I love you so so much" it melts me right there... I wake up and am thinking of hym I go to sleep and the same...
To me that is real love... More then I have ever had... I am respected... cared about... supported.. and most of all I have it all unconditionally .. I love you Dallas so much!

Oh sweetheart I love you so so much :bunchflowers:

Feeling loved
 

I feel most loved with a combination of physical touch, cuddling as well as romantic / sexual and listening.

To me feeling most loved is to be supported and encouraged to what makes me the happiest, and allows me to care for someone in the same way.

I read an interesting book a few years ago about how each of us shows and feels love in different ways - how to help identify what makes you and your Sig Other feel most loved - called "The Five Love Languages":. While not all parts of the book were in sync with my beliefs I felt the message was a good one.

So many things, but these will suffice for a start...
 

I agree I should have put that as well.

Also someone who values relationships as I do. Someone who doesn't move from relationship to relationship. :)

This book is amazing! I wish I'd read it long ago

I don't remember.

Who am I?

High love for myself-without that, no one else is getting through my walls.

Acceptance for all I am, faults and all, BUT also someone who will push me in the ample behind when I make up my mind to better myself. Challenge me, dare me.

I don't need gifts, but if you want to give me one, make it something personal-like you know who I am. The best are made, or planned. Something simple like my favorite dinner on the "good" dishes, followed by slow dancing in the living room...etc.

For example, it would rock my world if she would massage me; better still if she snuck out and took massage classes just to learn how to pleasure me ;). I was married to a man who gave me a gift certificate for the cheapest massage at a spa, and I had to drive myself there and back. No more.

I must have laughter, enough to make my sides hurt and so I can't breathe, tears rolling down my face. I won't ever be with someone who can't make me laugh. I hope I make my future girlfriend laugh the same way.

I must have someone who listens to me and who doesn't talk to me while walking out of the room.

Be reliable and authentic.

Tolerate me when I'm a big kid and love cool things, whether you think they are or not; better yet, sometimes be a big kid yourself. This does not mean being childish or un-adult when seriousness is needed.

I like the physical part of a relationship often. Very often. This is my primary "love language", from that book. It does not always mean sex; I love contact, period. Don't expect me to warm all over you in bed if you've not touched me at all during the rest of the day.

That's a long list, all to say I can't define it but I know when I feel it :)

Love
 

I always feel loved. I need nothing to have that feeling. Others can add to it but no one, and nothing can take away from it.

I believe in the 5 love languages for basically what everyone does to express love, and basically how they feel most loved. There's a lot of other stuff mixed in, we can never make it easy lol, but the 5 love languages are: Words of affirmation, acts of service, giving/recieving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. I'm definitely physical touch and my wife is words of affirmation, which simply means that she sometimes has to bat me off her with a stick when I'm feeling too sentimental and I have to shut her up when she's that way. lol, but we balance each other out. She loves my touchy feely ways, how I constantly need hugging and kissing and rubbing and holding and lots of cuddling, if she didn't like that then it would be a disaster for both of us lol, and I like hearing her mooshy wooshy lovy dovy 5-minute long explanations and 3-page letters of her love for me, if I didn't I'd me much too easily annoyed with her. It's the click that we have with each other, even though sometimes she thinks I'm hanging off her too much and I think she talks too much. :P

So that's what makes me feel loved, lots of touching. I'm horrible at expressing my deep feelings through words, I'm the clumsiest person there is with words, but I'm great with touch. So that's how I feel the love, but I also love hearing the words, which I guess would be my second love language in a sense. Just don't expect me to make a speech of love, I feel like a rambling fool when I get started.

cider vinegar and...
 

Honesty and respect and some beer.

nada
 

I am a simple girl with simple needs. All I really require to feel loved, cared for and protected is someone who will, without question or comment, come into the bathroom while I'm showering to dispose of the large, unidentifiable bug lurking in the corner.

I'm new here, and after having my heart broken recently by a careless butch, I've been thinking about this quite a lot.

I need attention. Yes, I'm needy. Not psycho stalker needy, but I like it when you reply to my texts/emails, send me texts/emails throughout the day just to say hi (or to share a joke).

I like to be touched. Not full-on making out in public (though that's OK), but just hold my hand when we're out and about. Touch my shoulder when you walk by.

I need you to let me touch you. I can live with not touching you that way if you're stone, but let me hold you sometime. You can't always be the strong one.

I need open communication. I need honesty. I need respect and a willingness to remember that we love each other, even when we're angry with one another.

I need someone who is present and lives in the moment. Don't worry about what will happen tomorrow, or next week, or next year. Just focus on how we feel in that moment and let those feelings guide how we act toward one another.

That sounds like a lot, doesn't it? It may be why I'm still alone. :(

Not a lot.

This, however, is a must.

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Not much to ask for
 

I need to be able to:

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whenever I want....

To feel loved, I need to feel seen clearly and listened to. I need to feel trusted. I also need to know that I am a priority in that person's life, and that my safety, comfort and well being are a factor in her and our decisions. I need to be part of a long-term plan, that we make together. I want to feel that she is happy to see me when I walk in the door, and is sad to see me leave for little trips or whatever. I need to feel confided in, and I need her to be a confidante for me.

Not so outrageous, these expectations, but not so easy to find, either.

- self respect makes it possible for me to feel loved. that's a definite need. maybe we concentrate too little on that sometimes. losing it certainly brings things into focus.

- healthy, well balanced Dominance makes me to feel loved. so much so that i cant engage without it. not a popular answer maybe. dont know. dont care. Dominance from someone who is made up of equal parts respect for themselves and for me, consistency between words and actions, decisiveness, trustworthiness, honesty without fail, compassion, a healthy dose of humility, self-awareness, open mindedness, and the ability to be a mentor and friend, all with a vein of humor running through the mix makes me feel loved.

*might as well add that if someone cant show me those qualities outside the bedroom there's no point in making an effort to get inside the bedroom. i stopped defining sex as love a long time ago.

all i need is to be taken for who I am not who they may wish I could be to be respected and cared for .. I found all of this in my Desd all I really need is her .. her arms around me make me feel like I am home .. she makes my heart smile

Hmmm...
I need my partner to let me know that I exist and am special to her. It would make my day to get replies to my texts or even send an occasional text to let me know you are thinking of me.

Have open communication. Talk to me when something is bothering you or you are having a bad day and hear me out when I have to talk to you about something or I have a bad day.

Hold my hand, hug me, kiss me, look into my eyes and tell me you love me..show me your love as I will show you how much I love you. Even when we are angry with each other, we still need to hug and kiss our goodbyes for the day.

Treat me with respect as I will treat you like you are the center of my universe.

I know..too much...maybe that is why I have noone special in my life right now.

“Becoming real happens when someone loves you for a long, long time...generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby.

But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

~The Velveteen Rabbit~

To feel loved, I just need to be able to be Real.

Let's see;
 

Honestly, I think I am pretty simple but most have said too high maintainence! I want to be protected, respected, honored and cherished. (and spoiled sometimes) *s I want someone to stand up to me when I need that and to just listen when I don't and someone that knows the difference. Don't say you like me one way and change your mind later. Be secure in yourself and with me. Be confident, not cocky. Finish my sentence, when I can't. Hold me when I don't know what I need. Be strong for me when I feel weak. Don't tell me what I can't do, help me to do them. Look at me like I am the only woman in the room. Touch me softly, just to let me know your there. Don't grope me.... Don't try to buy me, share life with me. You don't need to put me above you.... just walk beside me. I am old fashioned in some ways, I will take the best care of you... always let me know how valued I am.

Gonna take a different approach here...

I need someone who doesn't buy into the Jerry McGuire "you complete me" bullsh*t. You don't complete me. I am complete by myself. You complement me. You help me see things in myself that I didn't see. You bring out great things in me, and I do that for you too.

I need someone really, really, close... who will occasionally leave me alone. We don't have to do every single thing together. We don't have to have 100% of the same hobbies, friends and interests. I hate it when couples morph into this "one" thing and the individuals lose their identity. I expect to have individual activities with or without other friends involved. That's not to say that if your idea of a hobby is robbing liquor stores or blowing the family fortune at the casino that it's okay.. obvious issues there. But if you love to knit and I want to poke my eye out, or I like to do races and you wouldn't run if a lion was chasing you, I don't expect you to take up a hobby I have or go to an event I like if you have no interest. I need alone time and buddy bonding time.

And I need chocolate. Just sayin.