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Dear Aisha, I first read your post on my phone, and froze while I carefully scrolled down to the end. Each piece on the little screen carried so much impact, I couldn't believe there was more like it, just further down, and then more again and again. Your sense of self and conviction and honesty lift right up off the page and quietly take their rightful place in any world they enter. So now they're in mine. I'd love to hear more about any of the things you mention; your family history, your sex work and your work in social justice, your polyamorous relationship, your community work, your strategies to deal with your struggles, anything you want to talk about. There are places all over the threads for you, and I will keep an eye out for you now. Take care of yourself (I know you do!), With affection and respect, Scout |
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[QUOTE=aishah;610930]i am deeply moved by this thread and also terrified to post in here.
QUOTE] Dear Aisha, Like you I am moved by this thread and I too am terified to post here. Also, we have the inability to bear children in common and that, plus so much else you revealed endeared me to you. I am greateful for your strength and I harness it now to find courage. I will stand by your side and make my femmeness known. Here goes... Femme I Am I will begin by stating that I am a femme who loves butches, all kinds of butches from one end of the butch spectrum to the other. I admire them all from ultra-soft butches who live on the parenthetic smudge of the eye-liner lined femme realm to FtM trans guys who have punched their fists though societal confines and gone under blades to transform into who they are. I am wholly and completely a lover of all things butch. I am unashamed to walk in public, arm-in-arm with a butch. I am unashamed of my pure delight in their strength and wide-lensed, earthy wisdom. I love the tales their eyes tell. I love their pheromone-filled smell. I love their broad, solid presence. But, when I consider the femme I am, I am not just considering myself in relation to my butch counterparts. I am not just considering my desires, I am not just thinking about sexuality, I am not just pondering play, romance, sex, fucking or even love. Certainly physicality is a part of it and the social aspects of who I am are an integral part of what makes me…me. That thick layer, while creamy, rich and exciting, is just that: a layer. It is not the whole of the femme I am. When I consider the femme I am, I take into account the many threads of me that have woven the fabric of my being with a tensile strength beyond my wildest dreams. To weave that fabric for you here, I would have to include my spirituality, my sense of right and wrong, my belief in freedom and rights, my ethics, my fiercely protective maternal instinct, my pride, my trepidations and the pieced-together heart that beats strongly in my chest, despite many years of crazing. I was completely unable to bear children, yet there is an immense maternal instinct that forever burns within me and has molded a framework that houses all the parts of me. That framework is what I reflect my whole person through. The person who I strongly believe God intended me to be, who placed me on this earth to work through me. I am not a perfect person, but I cannot help but be exactly who I am. I am that which is perfect for my place in this world. And, I would pose: who is anyone to question that perfect authority that placed me here? Or that placed any one of us here…and whether or not you agree with my beliefs - that is not my point. My point is what I find helps me be exactly the femme I am is that I must take time to examine, to grow, to seek, to trust, and find community that can only help me in those endeavors of examining, growing seeking and trusting. I hesitated for a moment in sharing this next story, but I felt it was a clear example of the wisdom BfP community has to offer me in so short a time. And, I hope, I it. I was recently in a conversation where I laughed at something someone said. This person is of our culture. I laughed out of joy as he revealed an intimacy to me that was tender in nature. As you may imagine my laughter hurt his feelings. I was mortified. I immediately apologized and explained that my laughter and lightness about that which he had said were due to the brilliance of what he said. And, my joy was not just so much about what he’d said but how he revealed it to me. I viewed what he had confided as a beautiful and sweet detail of his soul and psyche that I felt would make not only a wonderful piece to write about but a wonderful piece to share with others as a tool of cultural commonality. But, even if he never wanted to share what he had shared with me, with anyone else, I could not help my joy and laughter as my heart rejoiced in how similar his comments had, in my eyes, revealed us to be. I was elated that I found someone with whom I could relate on such a complex and deeply-felt topic. I tell this story, not because I am proud of what happened, but that I learned a little more about compassion through him. I was pure in intention but intention is not always what necessarily matters. In this culture of ours, I learn a great deal each and every day with each and every interaction I have. I cannot begin to describe how much I rejoice in reading this Planet’s inhabitants’ stories and experiences, especially when something similar has happened to me. Even when the precise situation or experience was not exact to something I have experienced, I often find it easy to relate to because of our common culture, circumstance or the worldly reaction so many of us have to cope with. Because I am continually growing and learning, with each passing moment of each day, I may not be able to wrestle down the kind of femme I am. Certainly not as eloquently as the glowing souls on this thread have, but there are a few things I do know: I am here. I am femme. And, all the messy details that led me to be the femme I am today are simply experiences and circumstances that are most likely not wholly unlike yours, you…who are reading this. To all my beautiful, strong, sweet femme sisters, I read about you, your souls shine though your experiences. I find your tales delicious with an unmistakable kindred flavor. I am happy to taste and devour them every day. Through this connection, albeit via an enormous intangible technology, I rejoice in it and therefore you live in me. And I hope that somehow I too live in you. If I know nothing else, I know that I am femme. Femme I am. |
I am a femme who is independent.. I handle a very stressful job and many people… I travel a lot for it and do a lot of multi-tasking.
I handle most things in my life and deal with things as they come because that is expected of me.… That being said… At home in the bedroom…. I am a femme who wants to curl up with my lover and be held caressed and loved…. I want all the power given to hym and want to feel the way I can’t outside of that room… The rest of the world is to go away and this is the only place I want to be in… I love to listen to the voice feeling the breath on my neck, strong arms holding me close and feel myself falling in love all over again… I guess I want what I can’t have outside for all of the hard work and stress that goes with the day to day tasks…. |
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I am so many things. Femme is just one of them. I am loyal as hell until you violate my trust and then I cut you off. I am honest and down to earth but at the same time complex. Some may find me aloof even flippant but i always know what I want and what I need.
I am very family oriented. I put my family first. I need lots of space. I am a true alpha female. I love and need control but I also take care of those who take care of me. I am capable, independent and very strong. I am at my best when pursing my goals and wild horse can't keep me from what I want. I am stubborn and determined. Sometimes I get those confused. lol I don't give up but know when i am defeated. I am strong enough emotionally to know when I am defeated. I am deeply committed to the things I believe in. Food safety, animal rights, conservation and more. I donate my time and money to these things and I believe its my calling. I am passionate about these things. I am open-minded. Not just sexually but all aspects of life. I don't like rules. |
I'm the invisible femme lost in the crowd......I'll lock eyes with my sisters and smile, but mostly I'm invisible....
Today, my strong self is silent, I need to be cared FOR today, I need that strong shoulder to catch my tears, those beautiful, strong hands that I love to smooth my hair, I need my butch today |
i love this thread, i was just reading back and even though my last post was a couple of years ago.. alllll the way back on page 6, i still feel the same way, only i feel i am an even stronger femme now.
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I have read a few posts in this forum, and, finally decided to try to share my story..
I have always had a very hard time feeling or thinking of myself as a Femme.. even tho that is what i truly wanted to be.. I was born 10 lbs 7 oz. and was the baby and only girl out of 3 kids. My brothers are 2 and 3 yrs older than me. I was not one of the spoiled lil girls that a lot of people know about, i did without a lot of things that my brothers were privileged to get.. My oldest brother always did Karate, my other brother was in Football, but when it got time for me to join dance or gymnastics, there never was enough money. I grew up watching my mom get a new dress every week, while us kids got new school clothes from K-Mart, once a year. Due to my size,( i was skinny from ages 1-5 and then again between 15 and 16) but the majority of my life i was heavy set), i never got to have the pretty lil dresses or skirts like my mom did.. most of the time i had to wear my brothers hand me downs. I would see the other girls at school wearing the latest fashions and trend setters, while i was inwardly drooling over them, i was outwardly shunned and cast away, never made to feel "pretty". I had a few dresses for church, but i was told that if i wore them i could not go out and play or wrestle with my brothers, but sit like a lady, and that got boring. I was raised in a strict Pentecostal home, where they honestly believe that homosexuals are demon possessed and need to be delivered.. thus the reason why i stayed in the closet most of my life. I went thru the motions of getting married.. more than once.. having my kids, trying to live "right" all the while never feeling comfortable and knowing there was another way for me. I never really had many friends that were girls growing up, so i never did the makeup and hair thing.. i didn't know how and my mom was too much into herself to see that she had a daughter who needed her. In my last marriage, i gained a heck of a lot of weight.. mainly due to my ex not wanting me to be flirted with and also having a sit down job for almost 6 yrs.. but i had pretty clothes.. a few dresses, feminine blouses, etc.. When i finally had the nerve to leave that very abusive marriage, and got a job at Walmart as a cashier and got active.. i kid you not.. i dropped 8 pant sizes in less than 6 months. That was wonderful!! None of my clothes fit anymore! Only problem was, i had no clothes to replace all the too big for me clothes, and definitely did not have the same income i did before.. so i had to settle with what i could find. I finally came out of the closet in May of 2009. Moved away from Illinois and moved to Oklahoma/Arkansas area. Met some gay people and started going to the first and only gay bar i have ever been to. i was still trying to figure myself out, so i started dressing like a soft butch.. but not really feeling comfortable. I still had/have this stigma about myself that i am not feminine enough.. i don't look sexy enough, i don't know how to even begin to be sexy.. Ethan will say otherwise.. and i thank Him for that. but.. i have never ever been really accepted by women and never had close women friends who could show me how to do my makeup, or what to or not to wear.. sighs.. I first found the other BF site back in late May 2009, and thought it was awesome being able to be a part of so many awesome people.. when it.. well.. i felt lost.. then i discovered the Planet.. and for quite a while i would just observe.. cause i was worried i would not be accepted for whatever reason... like most things in my life.. and i just hid. Today, i don't hide so much anymore.. i am starting to branch out more.. I know that i am a Femme.. i am not always in dresses and heels and do not always wear makeup.. but i am Femme.. i just wish i knew what it felt like to be sexy.. Never have i thought that i could be sexy and be heavy at the same time.. and since i do not think i will ever see skinny again.. maybe there is hope for me to be the other? shrugs.. I know i have went way left field and back again a few times in my story.. and for that i apologize.. sometimes i get alittle carried away. i am still searching inside to find the true and real Debbie.. and.. maybe someday i will find her. But i do know one thing about her.. she is Femme |
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[I am what they call a"Stem". I CAN BE EITHER STUD OR FEMME. I LIKE BEING VERY PLAYFUL AND SENSUAL AND SEXUAL AND BEING SUBMISSIVE. IN THE BEDROOM WHEN NEEDED. I CAN BE THE WIFEY TYPE AND TAKE CARE OF HOME AND THE KIDS AND RUB YOU DOWN AFTER A LONG DAY AT WORK. THEN AGAN I CAN WEAR THE PANTS AND TAKE CARE OF WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE FOR THE WOMAN IN MY LIFE. NO QUESTIONS ASKED
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I'm an old fashioned, old school femme who loves OFOS Butches. I love having doors opened for me, being helped with my coat, etc.
More Suzy Homemaker than June Cleaver, I am a nurturer. Fixing and serving a nice meal and watching people enjoy it makes me a happy femme. While the outward appearance doesn't define femme, I love all girly things. Pretty clothes, make up, manicured nails, my curls, light perfume, jewelry...I am no less femme in jeans, a t-shirt and sneakers. I've got a bit of a tomboy streak - the result of being the only girl of 4 kids. There's also a babygrrl component to me. Still, I am independent and can take care of myself. Someone recently called me resilient and that made me smile. I'd never thought of myself that way but it's true. There's more but now it's time to get ready for work. So I'll finish this later... |
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just wanted to thank everyone for their acceptance. I never in my life have found a place that felt more like home than the Planet. Y'all are showing me that it does not matter my size, I can ..still be pretty.. Still not at the sexy thing yet.. But maybe one day lol
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To all my femme sisters: I love you, you ROCK & I'm proud to be counted among you, thank you for sharing all that you are!
To me my femme self is mulit-faceted, mulit-dimensional, fascinating, ever evolving, quite simply rockin' awesome & unique to me. I've been victimized but I am not a fucking victim, I am not only a survivor I am a WARRIOR. My heart has been broken into a thousand pieces, multiple times yet here I stand before you, naked & bruised, ready & willingly to offer it up once again. I am FIERCE, flawed, sensitive, have trust issues, can & will love you with amazing consequences, not sure I believe in a "soul mate", easily bored, must be challenged & stimulated (intellectually & otherwise). I am the voice of others who have none, I will stand up & fight, I have your back, accept you unconditionally in all your beautiful imperfection. I am a leader, not a follower. I have anxiety issues. I am a work-aholic, I adore lazy days in bed. I desire, I love the old, the vintage, the antique, the story of it all. I have a restless spirit. I'm a beautiful soul, your parents will love me, your friends will like me, you will crave me. I can talk to anybody, fit in anywhere, but am extremely selective in who I allow in my life. I'm competitive, ambitious, kind, supportive & genuine. I'm shy, bold & unafraid to speak my mind but will do so with all the gentleness you deserve. Defintely in need of being "handled" at times. Often underestimated. Bring the sunshine, make me laugh every day & I'm yours. I am soft, territorial, selfish, warm, giving, hot sex-kitten, Betty Crocker, Suzy Homemaker, cheerleader, craver & worshiper of all your butchness, lover, loving, nurturing, whore, adventurous, homebody, tattooed, submissive bottom, strong minded/willed, extremely independent, but I need & crave stability/security. I want to be taken care of yet I will fight it kicking & screaming but I will "let" you, you can't tell me what to do but I want/need to please you. I am a one woman type of girl, I give as good as I get or better. I hate shoe shopping. I have a purse to go with every imaginable outfit. I wear make-up, every day. I prefer action flicks over chick flicks, I cry easily. I am wicked smart with an equally wicked sense of humor. I will give my all, until I can't. Keep up. I am not only a woman, I am FEMME & oh so much more than that. |
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I am a new femme and an old-soul femme. What I mean by this is that, a mere few months ago, I finally embraced the only gender identity that has ever felt true to me: Femme.
I recently came out to myself. Right now I'm calling myself a 'bisexual femme,' but my primary emotional and physical attraction has always been to women, though I have not yet had a sexual experience with a woman. I was too frightened by the notion that I could be bi or lesbian (I first admitted this possibility to myself over 10 years ago, while in college, after many, many unrequited crushes). Instead, I stuffed those feelings down and figured I just hadn't met the right man. Finally, I did meet a man, and was swept off of my feet in a whirlwind courtship. Yet, the entire time, a part of me felt like I was acting a role. I have been married, mostly unhappily, going on seven years. We are in counseling; we are struggling; I am both in mourning for my lost (seemingly straight) self, for not being able to fulfill his needs, and also scared and elated at finally finding out what feels gloriously 'right', at last. By 'old-soul femme,' I mean to say that I have always known this about myself, instinctively, but was in extreme denial for most of my life. My battles have been internal: Warring with myself for what is expected of me as a feminine-acting-and-appearing woman and all the while feeling horribly deficient in that reality in some deep way that I couldn't (or wouldn't) define. I just joined this forum tonight. I am staying up late, obsessively reading and learning. You are all incredibly interesting and I really hope to make some friends on this forum. Even though I have only recently accepted my feelings for women generally and my identity as 'femme' specifically, I hope to keep engaging and learning on from all of you. |
Today, I'm the princess, I need to be served :princess: But, I have to go have the oil changed in my truck. Yep, this princess drives a truck :D
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I am a true southern femme...im a big girl (i find alot of bois dont like us big girls)I love being outside but i love my makeup,lip gloss and my toes painted,i am easy going wear my heart on my sleeve.I cry over sappy movies and love strays of all kinds .Im fiercely loyal to my family and friends...and when i fall ...i fall hard and fast...(that gets me in in trouble)love amimals and my 3year old grand daughter is the love of my life...she call me moi-me and is the closest thing to heaven there is...Im a simple gal i enjoy giving more than receiving and I am the best southern cook since Paula Dean i am above all else ...just a girl
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I am a Virgo Femme,
I like Pink I like Fairies I wear make-up I am proud I like high heels I can change a flat Tyre without breaking a nail I may be all Femme but I also wear the pants I am my own electrician, plumber, and hell I'm not afraid to get my hands dirty I am independent, bossy and a little miss-know-it all ( that must be Virgo trait) AND I want doors opened for me, I demand respect and I want all the attention a Femme can get. :4femme: Thank you |
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I'm the kind of femme who cultivates a certain style... Because I want to be seen a certain way...
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Thought I'd try to finish this...LOL
I'm a homebody...a happy home that is a sanctuary from the storms of life is what I need.
Expensive or elaborate gifts are nice but not required...the greatest gifts are those that come from the heart and can be as simple as a twisted paperclip. Always a lady, only revealing that "other" side of me to my partner in the privacy of our home. A Libra, I desire balance in my life...much like water seeking its own level. My partner will be the yang to my yin. There are only a few things I expect (in no particular order)...honesty, fidelity/loyalty, mutual respect... Some things I cannot tolerate...infidelity, dishonesty, cruelty to animals, children or the elderly, domestic violence, yelling/screaming... Arguments happen...they are an essential part of all healthy relationships. But I do not believe in screaming matches because it impedes listening. Discussion is my "style" if you will. I would never hit anyone below the belt...attack their core. Treating others as I want to be treated...loving my neighbor as myself...recognizing that I am my sister/brother's keeper...accepting that the people in my life the way they are not the way I wish they were. I am a believer in forgiveness, second chances and giving people the benefit of the doubt. A work in progress, I'm human and hopelessly flawed. When I'm wrong, I say that I am wrong and will make amends. It's taken me a lifetime to get there and sometimes the words taste like vinegar but I own my "stuff". I am guilty of being generous to a fault but my heart is always in the right place. My only agenda is to be kind to others hoping that in some small way I can make this world a better place. I am a submissive but not a doormat. I am a babygrrl but not a child or childish. I am a woman and enthusiastically embrace all facets of my femininity but I am not a Stepford Wife. Don't be fooled...this femme is also a momma Grizzly and will protect and defend with my very life, if necessary, those whom I love. While the majority of the time my disposition is sunny, I do have my dark, brooding moments. At those rare times I will withdraw into myself and plunge myself into writing or drawing...using the inherent tunnel vision to channel my creative energies into drawing beauty from darkness and bringing it into the light. I'm spiritual not religious...life and everything around us is a beautiful gift from the Universe to be recognized as such, appreciated and learned from. I am resilient...a Phoenix...a Steel Magnolia. Quote:
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This is one of the most honest,down to earth,frightening,loving and caring threads I have read as of yet on here.
I am bumping it for those who have not posted to see and possibly post in. Also for those who want to update. And simply to read and re read the posts within. What wonderful, raw, honesty with the femmes. Bump! |
I am a woman of many moods, faces, and personalities. I am a daughter, a sister, a mother, lover and friend. I am a bitch, and an angel, a saint and a whore. I am whole in all that I think and feel and yet incomplete in everything that I am. I am a mistress of nothing. I own everything I do. I am modern and old school all at the same, I believe in miracles, magick, and most of all, I believe in love. I am an artist. I am an Aquarian. I am obsessive and compulsive - I am nurturing and loving. I am an oxymoron and everyday, I am born again with the sun rising. I am the kind of femme that you can't always rely on but you can always trust in. I am the kind of femme that may let you down but I'll fall down alongside of you. I am utterly girlie and hopelessly dreamy. I live in the clouds and die in the sun. I am a contradiction, a complication and an open book. I am the kind of femme who hates to be loved yet needs it more than air.
Ev'rybody knows That Baby's got new clothes But lately I see her ribbons and her bows Have fallen from her curls She takes just like a woman, yes she does She makes love just like a woman, yes she does And she aches just like a woman But she breaks just like a little girl. -Bob Dylan |
What a wonderful, affirming thread!!
I am a nurturing femme: A parent to other people's children and my grandchildren not of my bloodline, kisser of booboos, fixer of meals for friends, family and strangers, maker of chicken soup when you have a cold, hugs fierce enough to break through many insecurities, shoulders strong enough to stay unbowed when someone I love needs to lean on them or cry on them. I am now planning to nurture some more foster kids in my life, perhaps even adopt a child who needs a nurturing parent. I am an easy-going femme: It took exiting a high-drama marriage to really affirm (much to my delight) that I'm actually a very low-drama easy-going optimistic adaptable person. I am a geek femme: Engineering degree, teacher of geek topics, and very excited about trying to move towards teaching math. I love math. How to entertain a geek femme? Give her some colored bucky balls (tiny magnetic balls) and let her make jewelry from them. I am a capable femme: I am the ultimate pragmatic, practical Taurus. I have supported myself since I was 17. I have a power tool collection that many butches would envy, and my dream is to find a butch who could work beside me on doing things around my house, and who would be turned on by the sight of my deep-slut-red nails wrapped around a circular saw instead of being put off that a femme would rather receive a sliding compound miter saw for her birthday than an expensive bit of jewelry. I am an intelligent femme: I crave conversation that requires me to think, that calls on the things that I know or teaches me new things, that challenges me and opens my mind. I am a "low" femme: I wear makeup when I go out, but not for work or everyday. A 2.5" heel is a "high heel" for me these days. I live in sun dresses in the summer and occasionally wear skirts, tights and boots in the winter but you'll find me most often in jeans -- or, if it's around the house, in sweatpants and no bra. I am a strong femme: Strong enough to weather a lot of crap in my life. Strong enough to pick myself up and figure out how to walk away from that crap once and for all, and never go back to it. Strong enough to take care of myself. Strong enough to let others take care of me when I need or deserve it. Strong enough to face my fears. Strong enough to work through the rough times when fear or sadness have me by the throat. Strong enough to actively and deliberately seek out the good thing in life, and build myself a life bolstered by love. I am a femme who loves to dance. I heard this quote the other day: "I wonder, where do we find home, that absolute soul satisfying comfort without question? In the name of what do you do what you do, what drives you, what are you passionate about, what makes you happy - not just what makes you smile, but what transports you and makes you take a deep breath and dissolves your brain, courses through your body, an absolute merger of body and mind and spirit, leaving thoughts behind, emotion just coursing through you, where do you find that?" I find that level of passionate happiness in two things: In dancing, even if by myself in the living room, and in the butch/femme dance. I am an old school femme who craves the butch-femme dance, not because I'm incapable of doing things for myself but because in every dance there is a lead and a follow, doing different but complementary things; both take equal skill, and the dance is all the more beautiful if both love their part of the dance. I love the dance, that yin to my yang, that energy that complements my own in every way. I am a single femme who would love to find the butch of my dreams, someone to treasure me and talk to me about everything under the sun, someone to dance with me even just swaying in a circle around the living room, someone who appreciates all I am and wants to be the best she can be for me, someone who trusts me and takes care of me and lets me take care of her right back, someone who believes that lesbian bed death is a disease that must be eradicated from our community and is willing to aggressively do her part to ensure that it never infests our home, someone who means what she promises, knows that relationships take at last as much time and maintenance as a home or a care and is willing to do that work, in sickness and in health, for better or worse, for richer for poorer, as long as we both shall live. Applications are being accepted. ;) (oh, and I'm obviously a very verbose femme who is incapable of brevity!!) |
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The slow evolution from then to now.
I am timeless, warrantless, and even a bit effortless. I am no damsel-in-distress. I am eager, and often submit to my fancies. I am opinionated, and sometimes, overbearing and crass. I am not thoughtless, but thought full. I am heavy with concern, and lighted by my spirit. I am educated, and perhaps that lends to many people in my life who say I am intimidating. I am solid in my sex, and do not wince too easily. I profess that I am not a fan of horror, it makes me cringe. I am often dissatisfied with my body, and will bitch about it, but I do not see myself as you do. I see the crow’s feet and am reminded of the laughter. I see the stretch marks and look at my son who created them, and am forced to smile. I see my overly large tattoos and I am reminded of who I am inside; what caused me to get them in the first place. I have triumphed over many fears and have given in to them, as well. I am messy and sometimes, a pain in the ass. But I promise, I pick my fights fairly, and will admit when I am wrong. I am soft little girl who cares too much, and I am loving mother who stands by her child. Yes, I own dresses, and make-up, and high heels, but I am also a devote wearer of jeans and t-shirts. I can sway my hips and mesmerize. I can touch a face with a gentle caress, but it is not only a face I want to touch; it is the heart and soul. I am a caretaker, a nurturer, and someone who just wants to see a smile. |
Who am I as a woman, a person and a femme:
I am a guttersnipe, who grew into a happy and productive human being. It took me a long time to get here and I will fight for my right to be who I am today. I ride in the front seat in my life and refuse to ride in the back. I have control issues and can come across as intimating at times. I am giving and tenderhearted, but don’t mistake it for weakness. I won’t listen to you whine for long, without expecting to see you take some action and ownership. Yes, I expect the same of myself. I will call you on your shit and please do it in return. I will have your back and you must have mine. If I love you, I get rose colored glasses. I will overlook things, if the good is great. I will not give up my friends, work or life for you. If you think I belong on my back, you have the wrong woman. Art makes me feel alive. I need color and light in my life. If you want to make a back porch from car parts I won’t question it, but help you. I love the imaginative and creative. I pinch pennies, because of my past and using credit will stress me out. I live well below my means. I live simple and clutter makes me feel anxious and boxed in. I am no longer defined by my job or my family or you anymore. This is growth for me. I no longer live in the past (why) or future (what ifs), I live in today and am grateful for today. I am not only a survivor, but I have also managed to thrive. |
A bit like walking a panther on a leash. Or so I've been told....
Katniss~~(if you don't have confidence, creativity and intelligence this could all end very badly...) |
i am a Dyke. i am a Diva. i am Jedi Femme. Flirting my way through the galaxy: Fuck me red lipstick and seamed stockings. Light sabers and lip liners, an intergalactic queer. I am a self identified queer high femme inamorata mother Portuguese princess bottom sometimes good girl activist femme-inist ridiculous Pollyanna libertine kinky loving caffeinated intelligent A glittering disco ball, no wall flower. I blend into the scenery like a full blown super nova. Bashful is a cheap cologne. I love to laugh. I fucking love to swear. I love language. I am a visual creature. I am an advocate and defender of women and children. I'm unapologetic and in your face about it. I am female centric. I've been a change agent and witness to incredible healing; that includes my own. The strength and grace inherent in women humbles and feeds me at the same time. I am fiercely loyal and loving, my parenting style is full Grizzly Bear. I am a Settler sister and ally to Anishninabekwe I often make men feel uncomfortable and I like that. I don't dim, dull, or duck down. Messy and haunted by the ghosts of long-dead cookies. I partner most naturally and organically with Stone and old school Butch Tops. I am a femme in a sisterhood of femmes We are rainbows and sparkles and fragrance feathers and fur leather and lace hope and grief power and grace Femme. Fag. me . We. |
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I am everything but always one thing, me. I am hot black leather heels and worn out dirty cowgirl boots. I am a red camaro and a muddy chevy truck. I am a femme that likes doors held open for me but dont dare tell me you will move the hay bales. I am sweet but bitchy. I am soft but hard. I am a contrast femme.
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I am Femme, Woman and Straight-Lesbian.
My politics: seeking world change by bettering one corner at a time. My religion: first do no harm. Classy but not superficial. Elegant but not pretentious. Homey...earthy... Fine dining and dirt digging. Operas and coffehouses. Make-up not needed, lipstick lesbian if I want to leave a mark. Smokey gypsy eyes - matron trait. The world is my backyard. Foreign, exotic...most of all... Brains... My story...Femme r-evolution. Full acceptance...My body...My power...My right. Femme...Cunt...Lady...Ms.... Femme...Bitch... Femme... Yep, that would be Me. |
Here I am world
I am femme - I don't pretend to be anything but.
I don't wear make up very often - It's too hot in Florida and it ends up being all over my phone by noon time. The last time I wore make up was my wedding day. :bunchflowers: :wine: I am a bitch at times. I can hold a grudge. If I don't like you, don't expect me to hang out with you in my spare time. :sunglass: I cannot tolerate ignorance AT ALL. :byebye: That has to be one of my biggest pet peeves. I LOVE my flipflops, tank tops and shorts....I don't wear dresses much. I am a wine snob - I think Florida has the worst tasting wines. I prefer foreign wines over domestic. |
I am
I am in a crowd, perfect in red, heels six inches, lipstick set like cement, powder without a blemish, hair in curls, hands on purse, talking theatre, talking news, cross-legged, fingers on the wine glass.
I am alone, on the couch, cotton undies, knee-high socks, glasses, Supernatural DVDs, no makeup, hair a mess, covered in oreo crumbs, counting the calories, wishing my jeans still fit, ordering pizza. Glamorous as fuck. |
i am femme in all things. i identify in the traditional feminine role totally
i wear dresses or skirts full makeup and five of six inch heels all the time i am submissive, caring, kind and good listener who is prone to empathic tears. i am a baby grrl or doll. i can become a gothic grrl or leather grrl at any time. my role is always bottom in the bedroom my life is to be pleasing sexually in every way. i am relaxed and friendly. i am intelligent in the areas i need to be. i can be political but tend not to be. i am very liberal in all ways when i do play political games. i work to improve my skill set. i am learning to sew, quilt and knit. i tend the home by cleaning cooking and so on. there is a spirituality about me which is non religious i can be silly, giggly, humorous and serious if needed. MISTRESS and Mistress are the heads of the house i do serve their needs in every way possible. i have always seen the femme role as being able to adapt and be all things to all people and this is my goal to be able top transform who i am to fit the needs of the Dominant personalities. femme to me is giving up self for the betterment of family, home, and society. Femininity is part of my being. i am one with it and happy being the queer woman i am. When a person is content you know it is right and good for that person. i am content in this role it fits very well. |
I am a femme who...
Likes my beaches deserted My wineglass full My kayak right side up The only thing "hello kitty' about my household is the morning greeting to my cat. Katniss~~ |
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